Previously, we discussed our iconic pop queens and how their songs typically fit into distinct categories that hit an emotional button that appeals to gay men.

In this episode, we kick off the inaugural Gay Icons deep dive with none other than…Kylie Minogue. The highest-selling female Australian artist of all time, Kylie’s career has spanned five decades and taught us how to be vulnerable and resilient.

Full Episode:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/25-gay-icons-my-name-is-kylie/id1619338054?i=1000581518746

Additional Resources:
Episode 04. Pop Icons and Their Gay Emotional Appeal
https://open.spotify.com/episode/0rXK9eY1X1ATtIwnAZ1gsa?si=DVmZN2B2QTe19Cl3_Kg6oA

Gay Icons: My Name is Kylie Playlist
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6utpxYWSbGrf2gW4UhjE1N?si=fca344f180ee47df

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25. Gay Icons: My Name is Kylie

In America, there has been a decrease in the number of teenagers who’ve received formalized sex education over the years. And for LGBTQ+ youth, inclusive sex education is practically nonexistent.

In this episode, we’re taking a look at the current state of sex education in America, the lack of inclusive education for LGTQ+ youth, and how we can be advocates for inclusive, formalized sex education.

Full Episode:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/30-gay-sex-education-or-the-lack-thereof/id1619338054?i=1000585469254

Additional Resources:
The State of Sex Education in America in 2022
https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/2022/1/31/the-state-of-sex-education-in-america-in-2022/

The 2019 National School Climate Survey
https://www.glsen.org/sites/default/files/2021-04/NSCS19-FullReport-032421-Web_0.pdf

Let's Talk About (Queer) Sex: The Importance of LGBTQ-inclusive Sex Education in Schools
https://www.usatoday.com/story/life/health-wellness/2021/08/05/sex-education-importance-lgbtq-inclusivity-schools/8046137002/

Including LGBT-Content in Sex Education: Four Wrong Ways (and One Right One)
https://www.glsen.org/blog/including-lgbt-content-sex-education-four-wrong-ways-and-one-right-one

A Call to Action: LGBTQ Youth Need Inclusive Sex Education
https://www.hrc.org/resources/a-call-to-action-lgbtq-youth-need-inclusive-sex-education

Planned Parenthood
https://www.plannedparenthood.org/

Advocates for Youth
https://www.advocatesforyouth.org/

SIECUS
https://siecus.org/

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30. Gay Sex Education (or the Lack Thereof)

From social media to cover models, society has an obsession with body image, which we all struggle with. But for gay men, our bodies tend to be objectified and labeled to define our worth.

In this episode, we’re discussing why gay men tend to obsess over their bodies, the negative impacts this has had on our physical and mental health, and how we can treat ourselves and our bodies with kindness.

Full Episode:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/32-gay-men-and-body-obsession/id1619338054?i=1000587100192

Additional Resources:
What are Eating Disorders?
https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/eating-disorders/what-are-eating-disorders

Eating Disorder Statistics
https://anad.org/eating-disorders-statistics/

Gay Men and Body Image: What You Need to Know
https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/body-image-amp-the-gay-experience-what-you-need-to-know/

The Mental Health Issues Gay Men Deal With
https://www.talkspace.com/blog/the-mental-health-issues-gay-men-deal-with/

Why Do So Many Gay and Bisexual Men Struggle With Body Image?
https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a29482920/gay-bisexual-men-struggle-body-image/

The Adonis Complex: The Secret Crisis of Male Body Obsession
https://ps.psychiatryonline.org/doi/10.1176/appi.ps.54.2.255

Body Image Satisfaction in Heterosexual, Gay, and Lesbian Adults
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/18712469/

Body Dysmorphic Disorder
https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/body-dysmorphic-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20353938

Body Dysmorphia in Gay Men
https://www.eatingrecoverycenter.com/blog/body-dysmorphia-gay-men

Higher Rates of Body Dissatisfaction in Gay Men Leading to a Rise in Cosmetic Surgery
https://journals.lww.com/prsgo/Fulltext/2021/10000/Higher_Rates_of_Body_Dissatisfaction_in_Gay_Men.18.aspx

The Gay Men Risking Their Health for the Perfect Body
https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-51270317

It Gets Better, Unless You're Fat
https://www.buzzfeed.com/louispeitzman/it-gets-better-unless-youre-fat

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32. Gay Men and Body Obsession

For gay men, humor has played a central role in their resiliency and helped get them through tough times. However, one form of humor, self-deprecating, can become a problem and may actually signify deeper issues.

In this episode, we’re discussing the role self-esteem and humor play as a coping mechanism for stressful emotions, signs that our self-deprecating jokes may be negatively impacting how we view ourselves, and how we can break this cycle.

Full Episode:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/33-self-deprecating-humor-am-i-crying-or-laughing/id1619338054?i=1000587908998

Additional Resources:
Self-Deprecating Definition
https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/self-deprecating

Self-Deprecating Humor
https://sova.pitt.edu/educate-yourself-self-deprecating-humor

Self-Depreciation: Why Do We Do It?
https://www.arcadia.edu/student-life/meet-our-students/cmcmullin/self-depreciation-why-do-we-do-it/

Making Sense of Self-Esteem
https://www2.psych.ubc.ca/~schaller/Psyc591Readings/Leary1999.pdf

Humor as a Coping Mechanism
https://psychcentral.com/lib/humor-as-weapon-shield-and-psychological-salve

How Camp and Gallows Humor Keep Us Alive and Resilient
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/stonewall-strong/201907/how-camp-and-gallows-humor-keep-us-alive-and-resilient

The Gay Humorist as Public Man
https://www.washingtonpost.com/archive/lifestyle/1986/11/05/the-gay-humorist-as-public-man/a34f55d3-3fbe-49cd-9da4-d77d4a75f806/

Being Humorous & Seeking Diversion: Promoting Healthy Coping Skills Among LGBTQ+ Youth
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/320222449_Being_Humorous_Seeking_Diversion_Promoting_Healthy_Coping_Skills_among_LGBTQ_Youth

Is the Use of Humor Associated with Anger Management? The Assessment of Individual Differences in Humor Styles in Spain
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0191886917305457

When Does Self-Deprecating Humor Become Detrimental?
https://www.talkspace.com/blog/self-deprecation-unhealthy/

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33. Self-Deprecating Humor: Am I Crying or Laughing?

In previous episodes, we discussed the importance of LGBTQ+ characters in TV and film and how being our authentic selves can manifest true representation in the media. As part of this increase in LGBTQ+ portrayals, Christmas movies have begun featuring gay characters and storylines.

In this episode, we’re taking a look at some of my favorite gay Christmas movies, which include furry handcuffs, awkward family dynamics, and holiday setups.

Full Episode:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/36-make-the-yuletide-movies-gay/id1619338054?i=1000590705853

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36. Make the Yuletide (Movies) Gay

In past episodes, we've talked about how it can be difficult for gay men to find a network of like-minded peers and the importance of finding your community and chosen family.

In this episode, my friend, Jonathan Steele, joins us to discuss how gayming provides a sense of escapism and queer representation, allowing you to be whoever you want to be, and how gaymers are building an inclusive, online community.

Full Episode:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/52-gayming-level-up-your-sense-of-community-with/id1619338054?i=1000608347570

Additional Resources:

UK Games Industry Census - Understanding Diversity in the UK Games Industry Workforce
https://ukie.org.uk/UK-games-industry-census-2020

Meet the Gaymers: Why Queer Representation is Exploding in Video Games
https://www.theguardian.com/games/2022/jul/27/meet-the-gaymers-why-queer-representation-is-exploding-in-video-games

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52. Gayming: Level Up Your Sense of Community (with Jonathan Steele)

We’ve come a long way regarding LGBTQ+ media representation, with 92 LGBTQ+ characters appearing on scripted broadcast primetime programming for the 2021-2022 season. However, that representation falls flat when you consider the number of straight actors appearing as LGBTQ+ characters.

In this episode, we’re taking a look at roadblocks LGBTQ+ actors encounter in Hollywood as we discuss the debate on if straight actors should play gay characters.

Full Episode:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/55-gay-for-pay-should-straight-actors-play-queer-characters/id1619338054?i=1000611420198

Additional Resources:
GLAAD's Where We Are on TV Report – 2021-2022
https://www.glaad.org/whereweareontv21

Is It Ever Okay for Straight Actors to Play Queer Roles?
https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2022/08/10696850/straight-actors-in-queer-roles

IMDB List: Straight Actors Who Have Played Gay Characters
https://www.imdb.com/list/ls066617975/?sort=list_order,asc&mode=detail&page=1

13 Straight Actors Who Won Awards for Playing Queer Roles
https://www.out.com/film/straight-actors-playing-gay-characters-2659594773#media-gallery-media-1

Here Are the 10 Most Financially Successful LGBTQ Films in History
https://www.gaytimes.co.uk/culture/here-are-the-10-most-financially-successful-lgbtq-films-in-history/

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55. Gay for Pay: Should Straight Actors Play Queer Characters?

As gay men, we may experience complexities surrounding modern dating and societal pressures that often place unrealistic expectations of romantic and personal fulfillment. So when we think we’ve found “The One,” what do we do when they break up with us, telling us that we’re only seventy percent of what they need…while having sex?

In this episode, author Jonathan Lee joins us to discuss his memoir, 40 Single Gay, which explores his personal journey of navigating love, relationships, and self-discovery as a gay man entering his forties.

Full Episode:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/64-40-single-gay-with-jonathan-lee/id1619338054?i=1000620748822

Additional Resources:
40 Single Gay (Book)
https://www.amazon.com/40-Single-Gay-Jonathan-Lee/dp/1399949632

40 Single Gay (Instagram)
https://www.instagram.com/40_single_gay/

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64. 40 Single Gay (with Jonathan Lee)

While most gay dating apps aim to connect LGBTQ+ people with their community, it can still be challenging to make genuine connections which can lead to feelings of loneliness and rejection. The reality is most gay dating apps are outdated with limited features, lacking inclusivity, and they haven’t adapted to evolving user needs and preferences–until now.

In this episode, Michael Kaye, Director of Brand Marketing & Communications at Archer, joins us to discuss a new, innovative dating app, which offers a unique and inclusive space for queer men to connect, explore their identities, and build meaningful relationships.

Full Episode:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/66-shoot-your-shot-on-archer-with-michael-kaye/id1619338054?i=1000622249409

Additional Resources:
Sign up for Archer!
https://www.archerapp.com/

Archer (Instagram)
https://www.instagram.com/archerdating/

Archer (TikTok)
https://www.tiktok.com/@archerdating?lang=en

Michael Kaye (Instagram)
https://www.instagram.com/michaelkayepr/

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66. Shoot Your Shot on Archer (with Michael Kaye)

Many gay men find solace and empowerment in spiritual practices like tarot, crystals, astrology, and witchcraft, as they offer a means of self-discovery and affirmation. Unlike modern organized religion, these ancient traditions provide a safe space for personal exploration, allowing individuals to connect with their inner selves and find strength in their unique identities.

In this episode, we’re exploring the trend of embracing more spiritual beliefs and the parallels between queerness and various practices, including astrology, tarot, and witchcraft.

Full Episode:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/79-queer-mysticism-gay-men-spirituality/id1619338054?i=1000632418455

Additional Resources:
48. Plant Gays and Mindfulness Lessons
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/48-plant-gays-and-mindfulness-lessons/id1619338054?i=1000604089438

LGBT Identification in U.S. Ticks Up to 7.1%
https://news.gallup.com/poll/389792/lgbt-identification-ticks-up.aspx

Must Reads: How Millennials Replaced Religion with Astrology and Crystals
https://www.latimes.com/health/la-he-millennials-religion-zodiac-tarot-crystals-astrology-20190710-story.html

Chani Nicholas Explains Why Queer People Love Astrology
https://www.advocate.com/women/2020/1/07/chani-nicholas-explains-why-queer-people-love-astrology

24. Gay Villages: Won't You Be My Gaybor?
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/24-gay-villages-wont-you-be-my-gaybor/id1619338054?i=1000580773743

So, Why Are Queer People So Interested in Astrology?
https://dailycal.org/2021/06/17/so-why-are-queer-people-so-interested-in-astrology

19. The Queer History of Disco
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/19-the-queer-history-of-disco/id1619338054?i=1000577073123

The Rise of Queer Astrology
https://www.sohohouse.com/en-us/house-notes/issue-006/soho-health-club/the-rise-of-queer-astrology

Queer Tarot: A Brief Story of Meaning and Healing
https://www.sfaf.org/collections/status/queer-tarot/

Why Do Gay Men Love Witches?
https://www.pride.com/halloween/2020/10/29/why-do-gay-men-love-witches

Exploring the Links Between Queer Culture and Witchcraft
https://gcn.ie/queer-culture-witchcraft/

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79. Queer Mysticism: Gay Men & Spirituality

Gay men tend to grapple with complex feelings about body image, influenced by societal ideals that often emphasize a lean and muscular physique. As a result, gay gym culture is often marked by a complex interplay of such body standards, which can both motivate and challenge individuals within the community to base their self-perception on chasing an idealized appearance.

In this episode, we're exploring the intersection of gay culture and gym culture, along with how societal conceptions of masculinity on gay men's self-image and relationships can lead to feelings of insecurity, inadequacy, and the pursuit of often unrealistic physical ideals.

Full Episode:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/82-gay-gym-culture/id1619338054?i=1000634753158

Additional Resources:
32. Gay Men and Body Obsession
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/32-gay-men-and-body-obsession/id1619338054?i=1000587100192

Fitness Culture
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fitness_culture

The History of How the Modern Day Gym Came to Be
https://barbend.com/history-of-the-gym/

Wrestling and Weightlifting: The WWF and Fitness in the 1980s
https://physicalculturestudy.com/2019/09/13/wrestling-and-weightlifting-the-wwf-and-fitness-in-the-1980s/

The Evolution of San Francisco’s Gay Gym Culture
https://sfbaytimes.com/frontgym/

YMCA
http://www.glbtqarchive.com/ssh/ymca_S.pdf

Working, Out
https://www.bunkhistory.org/resources/working-out

19. The Queer History of Disco
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/19-the-queer-history-of-disco/id1619338054?i=1000577073123

24. Gay Villages: Won't You Be My Gaybor?
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/24-gay-villages-wont-you-be-my-gaybor/id1619338054?i=1000580773743

Reported Effects of Masculine Ideals on Gay Men
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2902177/

Eating Disorder Statistics
https://anad.org/eating-disorders-statistics/

Gay Men and Body Image: What You Need to Know
https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/body-image-amp-the-gay-experience-what-you-need-to-know/

It’s Complicated: Exploring Why Gay Men Have Such a Unique Relationship with the Gym
https://www.gaytimes.co.uk/originals/its-complicated-exploring-why-gay-men-have-such-a-unique-relationship-with-the-gym/

The Sweaty Homophobia of the Gym
https://www.gq.com/story/the-sweaty-homophobia-of-the-gym

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82. Gay Gym Culture

Daddy issues is a colloquial term often used to stigmatize psychological or emotional challenges that may arise in an individual's life due to a perceived absence, neglect, or strained relationship with their father. Some gay men may experience their fathers subtly distancing themselves as a form of rejection of their sexuality, which has the potential to negatively influence the way they learn to navigate and sustain lasting relationships between men.

In this episode, we’re discussing the nuances of daddy issues, exploring their definition and manifestations, the distinct effects on gay men, featuring insightful perspectives from The Velvet Rage by Dr. Alan Downes, and exploring pathways to healing and navigating the complex terrain of daddy issues in the LGBTQ+ community.

Full Episode:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/88-reparent-your-daddy-issues/id1619338054?i=1000644333193

Related Episodes:
Listen to Episode 13. Perfectly Imperfect: Conquer Your Perfectionism
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/13-perfectly-imperfect-conquer-your-perfectionism/id1619338054?i=1000569642304

Listen to Episode 15. Understanding Attachment Styles
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/15-understanding-attachment-styles/id1619338054?i=1000571202112

Listen to Episode 47. Say Goodbye to Abandonment Issues
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/47-say-goodbye-to-abandonment-issues/id1619338054?i=1000603125958

Listen to Episode 70. Good Grief: How to Cope with Loss
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/70-good-grief-how-to-cope-with-loss/id1619338054?i=1000625241768

Listen to Episode 71. Queer Grief
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/71-queer-grief/id1619338054?i=1000626059584

Listen to Episode 74. Unmask Your Trust Issues
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/74-unmask-your-trust-issues/id1619338054?i=1000628415065

Additional Resources:
Daddy Issues Definition (Dictionary.com)
https://www.dictionary.com/e/slang/daddy-issues/

‘Daddy Issues’ and Their Impact on Adult Relationships
https://psychcentral.com/health/what-are-daddy-issues-exactly

What Are “Daddy Issues”?
https://www.psycom.net/relationships-daddy-issues

“Do I Have Daddy Issues?” Ask a Therapist
https://www.talkspace.com/blog/daddy-issues/

Read The Velvet Rage by Dr. Alan Downs
https://www.amazon.com/Velvet-Rage-Overcoming-Growing-Straight/dp/0738215678/ref=monarch_sidesheet

Why is it so Difficult for Some Gay Men to Find a Partner?
https://drrichardtravis.com/2015/08/16/why-is-it-so-difficult-for-some-gay-men-to-find-a-partner/

What Are 'Daddy Issues'?
https://www.verywellmind.com/what-are-daddy-issues-5190911

Yes, ‘Daddy Issues’ Are a Real Thing — Here’s How to Deal
https://www.healthline.com/health/what-are-daddy-issues

Daddy Issues: The Age-Old Stigma Around Intergenerational Relationships
https://www.out.com/lifestyle/2016/6/20/daddy-issues-age-old-stigma-around-intergenerational-relationships

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88. Reparent Your Daddy Issues

Societal perceptions of masculinity are often rooted in traditional and restrictive norms, which can pressure gay men to conform to stereotypical ideals, leading to internalized homophobia, feelings of inadequacy, and a diminished sense of self-worth. Even within the queer community, ideals of masculinity and femininity can be at odds, creating a complex dynamic for gay men who are navigating their identity.

In this episode, Erick DuPree, a literary anthropologist specializing in the intersection of literature and culture, joins us to explore societal concepts of masculinity, how it impacts gay men's sense of self, the importance of mindfulness in navigating our identity, and their anthology, Men & The Goddess, which explores male relationships with the divine feminine.

Full Episode:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/89-beyond-the-brawn-redefining-queer-masculinity/id1619338054?i=1000645152692

Related Episodes:
Listen to Episode 04. Pop Icons and Their Gay Emotional Appeal
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/04-pop-icons-and-their-gay-emotional-appeal/id1619338054?i=1000560251413

Listen to Episode 11. Overcoming Internalized Homophobia
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/11-overcoming-internalized-homophobia/id1619338054?i=1000567963397

Listen to Episode 82. Gay Gym Culture
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/82-gay-gym-culture/id1619338054?i=1000634753158

Additional Resources:
Learn More About Erick DuPree
https://www.erickdupree.net/

Follow Erick DuPree on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/likeatolstoynovel/

Read Men And The Goddess: An Anthology Revisited
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0BT5XRK24/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1

Read Awaken To Mindfulness: Cultivating Daily Practice & Wellbeing
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0CM1LDDSQ/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1

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89. Beyond The Brawn: Redefining Queer Masculinity (with Erick DuPree)

For years, society’s sense of body image has been negatively affected by standards that often perpetuate unrealistic ideals and contribute to the prevalence of negative body image perceptions. Some gay men grapple with an additional layer of body image issues, navigating societal expectations and stereotypes that can lead to feelings of inadequacy and self-consciousness about their physical appearance.

In this episode, Matthew Simko, a style & lifestyle expert, joins us to dish on the importance of positivity within gay culture, plus-sized fashion tips, and how we can all learn to love our bodies at any size.

Full Episode:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/91-fat-and-fabulous-embrace-body-positivity-with/id1619338054?i=1000647209423

Related Episodes:
Listen to Episode 32. Gay Men and Body Image Obsession
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/32-gay-men-and-body-obsession/id1619338054?i=1000587100192

Listen to Episode 82. Gay Gym Culture
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/82-gay-gym-culture/id1619338054?i=1000634753158

Additional Resources:
Visit Matthew's Website
https://www.matthew-simko.com/

Follow Matthew on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/simkosays/

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91. Fat And Fabulous: Embrace Body Positivity (with Matthew Simko)

The term "metrosexual" emerged in the mid-1990s, coined to describe a new wave of urban, fashion-forward men who embraced grooming, fashion, and a heightened sense of personal style, challenging traditional masculinity. However, critics argue the trend appropriates “the gay aesthetic,” reinforcing stereotypes and implying that an interest in fashion and grooming is inherently linked to one's sexual orientation.

In this episode, we’re exploring the origins of “metrosexuality,” and the complex intersection between fashion, grooming, and associated stereotypes, while examining how this trend has negatively influenced the perception and societal expectations surrounding gay men and masculinity.

Full Episode:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/92-metrosexual-madness/id1619338054?i=1000648056196

Related Episodes:
Listen to Bonus 06. Loveless in Paris
https://www.patreon.com/posts/bonus-06-in-99387091?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link

Listen to Episode 81. Are Mustaches Gay?
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/81-are-mustaches-gay/id1619338054?i=1000633980771

Listen to Episode 89. Beyond the Brawn: Redefining Queer Masculinity (with Erick DuPree)
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/89-beyond-the-brawn-redefining-queer-masculinity/id1619338054?i=1000645152692

Additional Resources:
Metrosexual (Merriam-Webster)
https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/metrosexual

Metrosexual (Urban Dictionary)
https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Metrosexual

Metrosexuals (Encyclopedia.com)
https://www.encyclopedia.com/social-sciences/encyclopedias-almanacs-transcripts-and-maps/metrosexuals#:~:text=According%20to%20British%20journalist%20Mark,short%2C%20the%20term%20metro%2Dsexual

Mark Simpson (Wikipedia)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mark_Simpson_(journalist)

Here Come the Mirror Men: Why the Future is Metrosexual
https://marksimpson.com/here-come-the-mirror-men/

‘Metrosexuals’ Were Just Straight Men Who Loved Self-Care. Right?
https://www.nytimes.com/2018/06/15/style/metrosexuals.html

Meet the Metrosexual
https://marksimpson.com/meet-the-metrosexual/

What Makes Someone a Metrosexual?
https://www.medicinenet.com/what_makes_someone_a_metrosexual/article.htm

10 Benefits of Being in a Relationship With a Metrosexual Man
https://www.marriage.com/advice/relationship/metrosexual-man/

Metrosexuals Come Out
https://myweb.scu.edu.tw/~jmklassen/scu101/101b-wrtng/metrosexuals.pdf

Metrosexuality: Effeminacy, Aesthetics and Toxic Masculinity
https://archermagazine.com.au/2017/12/metrosexuality-effeminacy-aesthetics-masculinity/

What Does the LGBTQIA+ Community Think of the Term "Metrosexual"?
https://www.quora.com/What-does-the-LGBTQIA+-community-think-of-the-term-metrosexual

Tommy Pengelly
https://www.quora.com/profile/Tommy-Pengelly

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92. Metrosexual Madness

In today's complex and rapidly changing landscape of economic uncertainty and unexpected global events, comprehensive financial planning is more crucial yet intricate than ever. But for gay men, navigating resilient financial strategies has been historically challenging due to the economic burden of increased healthcare costs during the AIDS pandemic, prevalent job discrimination, and the LGBTQ+ wage gap.

In this episode, John and David of the Queer Money podcast join us to discuss the current financial landscape of the LGBTQ+ community, financial strategies tailored to empower and support the fiscal wellbeing of the LGBTQ+ community, and the transformative impact of open financial discussions in our relationships…which can even improve your sex life!

Full Episode:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/93-unlock-financial-freedom-with-david-john-auten/id1619338054?i=1000648882091

Related Episodes:
Listen to Episode 49. Let's Shatter the LGBTQ+ Wage Gap
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/49-lets-shatter-the-lgbtq-wage-gap/id1619338054?i=1000605136560

Additional Resources:
Join the Queer Money Community
https://queermoneypodcast.com/

Listen to Queer Money on Apple Podcasts
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/queer-money-how-gay-people-do-money/id1121488268

Listen to Queer Money on Spotify
https://open.spotify.com/show/46ntaTcL0LTLmaRz9mJVGU?si=a1098d99499348b4

Subscribe to Queer Money on YouTube
https://www.youtube.com/@queermoney

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https://www.instagram.com/queermoneypodcast/

Follow Queer Money on TikTok
https://www.tiktok.com/@queermoneypod

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https://www.facebook.com/QueerMoneyPodcast/

The Wage Gap Among LGBTQ+ Workers in the United States
https://www.hrc.org/resources/the-wage-gap-among-lgbtq-workers-in-the-united-states

The State of LGBTQ Finance: A Survey of 2,000 Americans
https://www.fool.com/research/lgbtq-money-study/

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93. Unlock Financial Freedom (with David & John Auten - Schneider)

The fine line between genuine kindness and people-pleasing can pose a challenge, as the latter may lead to sacrificing one's own needs, compromising authenticity, and fostering unhealthy dependencies in relationships. But gay men, in particular, tend to be influenced by societal expectations and the desire to counter stereotypes, resulting in a higher likelihood to engage in excessive people-pleasing behaviors as they navigate social dynamics and seek acceptance.

In this episode, we’re diving into the nuanced correlation between the childhood fear of rejection from growing up gay and the emergence of people-pleasing behaviors in adulthood among gay men while discussing strategies to cultivate self-compassion, set clear boundaries, and prioritize individual needs for a more authentic and personal empowered life as gay men.

Full Episode:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/94-girl-please-say-no-to-people-pleasing/id1619338054?i=1000649684367

Related Episodes:
Listen to Episode 13. Perfectly Imperfect: Conquer Your Perfectionism
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/13-perfectly-imperfect-conquer-your-perfectionism/id1619338054?i=1000569642304

Listen to Episode 34. GBF: Gay Best Friend
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/34-gbf-gay-best-friend/id1619338054?i=1000589013081

Listen to Episode 85. Boundaries: How to Understand and Set Them
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/85-boundaries-how-to-understand-and-set-them/id1619338054?i=1000641820212

Additional Resources:
People Pleaser (Merriam-Webster)
https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/people%20pleaser

What Is People-Pleasing?
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-finesse/202003/what-is-people-pleasing#:~:text=Our%20friends%20at%20Merriam%2DWebster,positively%20regarded%20is%20quite%20natural

People-Pleasing
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/people-pleasing

People Pleaser: What It Means and How to Stop
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/people-pleaser

How to Stop People-Pleasing
https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-stop-being-a-people-pleaser-5184412

What is a People Pleaser?
https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/what-is-a-people-pleaser

How to Stop People-Pleasing (and Still Be Nice)
https://www.healthline.com/health/people-pleaser

How Does Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn Show Up for Gay Men?
https://www.centreforgaycounselling.com/2020/10/29/fight-flight-freeze-fawn-and-gay-men/

Gay People Have Been Taught to Be People-Pleasing Push-Overs
https://www.advocate.com/love-and-sex/2019/3/02/gay-people-have-been-taught-be-people-pleasing-push-overs

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94. Girl, Please: Say No To People-Pleasing

Inclusive representation in literature offers LGBTQ+ people a sense of visibility, validation, and connection as they see their experiences authentically mirrored, which fosters a more inclusive narrative for readers. While it was historically challenging to engage with LGBTQ+ literature, today’s social media communities actively promote and amplify inclusive representation, providing a space for queer voices to be celebrated, shared, and discovered, creating a sense of community and expanding the visibility of these narratives in the literary landscape.

In this episode, Rod Lujano (@rodlujano), a gay bookstagrammer, joins us to discuss social media’s impact in amplifying queer voices, fostering inclusive LGBTQ+ representation in literature, and navigating the challenges posed by recent attempts at book bans.

Full Episode:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/95-take-a-page-from-gaybookstagram-with-rod-lujano/id1619338054?i=1000650468569

Additional Resources:
Follow Rod on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/rodlujano/

Connect with Rod on Goodreads
https://www.goodreads.com/user/show/129461839-rod-lujano

Follow Rod on Threads
https://www.threads.net/@rodlujano

Connect with Rod on Facebook
https://www.facebook.com/rodolfo.valenzuela2?mibextid=LQQJ4d

Check Out Rod’s Book Wishlist
https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/2PE8OKD1FNR7T?ref_=wl_share

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95. Take A Page From #GayBookstagram (with Rod Lujano)

From early chatrooms of the 90s to geolocation apps in the 2010s, gay men have been considered to be early adopters of online dating. While today's gay dating apps offer unprecedented convenience for gay men to connect within their community, their widespread use has brought about some negative impacts, including issues related to sexual racism, body image, and the changing dynamics of social spaces for gay men.

In this episode, we’re exploring the historical trajectory from gay dating sites to the emergence of today's gay dating apps, the potentially harmful effects they can have on mental health, and how we can adopt healthier habits to navigate gay dating in the digital age.

Full Episode:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/96-should-you-swipe-left-on-gay-dating-apps/id1619338054?i=1000651167791

Related Episodes:
Listen to Episode 24. Gay Villages: Won't You Be My Gaybor?
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/24-gay-villages-wont-you-be-my-gaybor/id1619338054?i=1000580773743

Listen to Episode 53. Stop Comparing Yourself to Other Gays
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/53-stop-comparing-yourself-to-other-gays/id1619338054?i=1000609451597

Listen to Bonus 07. Ranking Gay Dating Apps
https://www.patreon.com/posts/bonus-07-ranking-101255184?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link

Additional Resources:
Online Dating in the U.S.
https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2023/02/02/from-looking-for-love-to-swiping-the-field-online-dating-in-the-u-s/

The History of Online Dating
https://www.datingadvice.com/online-dating/history-of-online-dating

The History of Online Dating: A Timeline From Paper Ads to Websites
https://www.datingadvice.com/online-dating/history-of-online-dating

Gay History Month: The Evolution of LGBTQ+ Online Dating
https://www.windycitytimes.com/lgbt/GAY-HISTORY-MONTH-The-evolution-of-LGBTQ-online-dating/75656.html

What is Gaydar?
https://www.thepinknews.com/2018/03/09/gaydar-gay-dating-app/

How Grindr Took Over the Gay Scene and Changed Dating for Everyone
https://www.verdict.co.uk/grindr-app-interview/

Grindr - Statistics & Facts
https://www.statista.com/topics/11467/grindr/#topicOverview

The Founders of This Gay Dating App Won't Stop You Searching by Race
https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/patrickstrudwick/this-is-how-gay-dating-app-bosses-defend-racial-filtering

What is Jack’d?
https://www.thepinknews.com/2018/03/12/jackd-gay-dating-app-what-is-it-how-do-i-use-it/

What is Hornet?
https://www.thepinknews.com/2018/04/06/what-is-hornet-the-gay-dating-app-that-lets-you-sting-men/

GROWLr Sold for $11.8 Million to Straight Social App Company
https://bearworldmag.com/growlr-sold-for-11-8-million-to-straight-social-app-company/

Why Dating Apps Are Racist AF — With or Without Ethnicity Filters
https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-features/dating-apps-grindr-ethnicity-filters-1047047/

The Influence of Grindr: An Exploratory Study
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1740144519300269

Orthorexia Nervosa in Gay Men
https://bmcpublichealth.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12889-022-14943-7

Grindr Was the First Big Dating App for Gay Men. Now It’s Falling Out of Favor.
https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/2018/12/06/grindr-was-first-big-dating-app-gay-men-now-its-falling-out-favor/

Grindr Security Flaw Exposes Users' Location Data
https://www.nbcnews.com/feature/nbc-out/security-flaws-gay-dating-app-grindr-expose-users-location-data-n858446

Grindr Sets Off Privacy Firestorm After Sharing Users’ H.I.V.-Status Data
https://www.nytimes.com/2018/04/03/technology/grindr-sets-off-privacy-firestorm-after-sharing-users-hiv-status-data.html

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96. Should You Swipe Left On Gay Dating Apps?

In previous episodes, we discussed the history of gay representation in TV and film and roadblocks LGBTQ+ actors encounter in Hollywood, with gay characters continuing to be portrayed by straight actors. While representation is important, authentic LGBTQ+ portrayals in the media fosters inclusivity and visibility, helping to break down stereotypes and promote understanding among audiences.

In this episode, actor, writer, and screenwriter Jose Nateras joins us to discuss his new LGBTQ+ horror movie, Departing Seniors, and how he leveraged his own personal experiences and identity to create an authentic film.

Full Episode:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/97-diversifying-queer-horror-cinema-with-jose-nateras/id1619338054?i=1000651872311

Relevant Episodes:
Listen to Episode 07. The History of Gay Representation in TV & Film
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/07-the-history-of-gay-representation-in-tv-film/id1619338054?i=1000564654328

Listen to Episode 28. Gay Horror
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/28-gay-horror/id1619338054?i=1000583797410

Additional Resources:
Watch Departing Seniors
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CH9BVRG1

Learn More About Jose Nateras
https://www.josenateras.com/

Follow Jose Nateras on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/jlorca13/

Follow Jose Nateras on Twitter
https://twitter.com/josenateras

Buy Testament by Jose Nateras
https://bookshop.org/p/books/testament-jose-nateras/13831806?ean=9781951880156

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97. Diversifying Queer Horror Cinema (with Jose Nateras)

Today, authentic LGBTQ+ representation in TV is more important than ever since it reflects the community's diverse experiences, fosters a sense of inclusivity, challenges stereotypes, and provides meaningful representation that resonates with audiences to promote understanding and acceptance. However, in recent years, we’ve seen a trend where LGBTQ+ shows have been increasingly canceled, some after just one season, with Netflix being the biggest culprit.

In this episode, we’re examining Netflix’s recent cancellations of LGBTQ+ shows, comparing their approach to queer content with other media companies, and exploring the streaming giant's controversies surrounding decisions in the realm of LGBTQ+ storytelling.

Full Episode:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/98-dear-netflix-stop-cancelling-our-queer-shows/id1619338054?i=1000652594140

Related Episodes:
Listen to Episode 07. The History of Gay Representation in TV & Film
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/07-the-history-of-gay-representation-in-tv-film/id1619338054?i=1000564654328

Listen to Episode 09. Corporate Greed & Rainbow Capitalism
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/09-corporate-greed-rainbow-capitalism/id1619338054?i=1000566351156

Listen to Episode 55. Gay for Pay: Should Straight Actors Play Queer Characters? 
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/07-the-history-of-gay-representation-in-tv-film/id1619338054?i=1000564654328

Additional Resources:
Every LGBTQ+ Show Cancelled Over the Past Year
https://www.gaytimes.co.uk/originals/recent-lgbtq-shows-cancelled/

30 LGBTQ+ Shows That Got Canceled in 2023
https://www.out.com/gay-tv-shows/lgbtq-shows-canceled-2023#rebelltitem1

Netflix Employees Walk Out Over Dave Chappelle Special
https://www.usatoday.com/story/entertainment/tv/2021/10/20/netflix-ted-sarandos-talks-dave-chappelle-backlash-trans-employee-walkout/8524557002/

Netflix Reportedly Gave Exec Second Chance After Investigating His Use Of Anti-LGBTQ Language
https://www.forbes.com/sites/dereksaul/2021/10/18/netflix-reportedly-gave-exec-second-chance-after-investigating-his-use-of-anti-lgbtq-language/?sh=15ddd41d704b

Netflix Cut from LGBTQ Corporate Equality Report over Dave Chappelle’s ‘The Closer’
https://www.nbcnews.com/nbc-out/out-news/netflix-cut-lgbtq-corporate-equality-report-dave-chappelles-closer-rcna13827

Ricky Gervais Netflix Special Condemned by LGBTQ Groups for ‘Anti-Trans Rants Masquerading as Jokes’
https://www.theguardian.com/culture/2022/may/25/ricky-gervais-netflix-special-condemned-by-lgbtq-groups-for-anti-trans-rants-masquerading-as-jokes

Ricky Gervais Condemned for Crude, Tired and Lazy AIDS Jokes in Controversial Netflix Special
https://www.thepinknews.com/2022/05/25/ricky-gervais-aids-jokes-supernature-glaad/

Netflix CEO Faces Backlash for Wild Comments on Cancelled Shows: ‘They are NOT Allies’
https://www.thepinknews.com/2023/01/24/netflix-ceo-ted-sarandos-cancelled-shows-lgbtq-fans-reactions/

Shane Gillis was Fired from SNL for Anti-Gay Slurs. He Now Has a New Special on Netflix
https://www.them.us/story/shane-gillis-netflix-comedy-special-lgbtq-comedians-to-watch-instead

Dave Chappelle Goes After Disabled Community in 'The Dreamer'
https://www.usatoday.com/story/entertainment/tv/2023/12/31/dave-chappelle-netflix-special-the-dreamer/72072148007/

Why Are So Many TV Shows About Queer Women Getting the Axe?
https://www.them.us/story/lesbian-sapphic-tv-cancellations-show-endings

GLAAD's 2022-2023 Where We Are on TV Report
https://assets.glaad.org/m/114d72edf8a779a6/original/GLAAD-2022-23-Where-We-Are-on-TV.pdf

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98. Dear Netflix: Stop Cancelling Our Queer Shows

In previous episodes, we discussed the importance of coming out, which is a deeply personal and pivotal moment for LGBTQ+ individuals. And while living openly can empower us to be our authentic selves, a number of complex factors can keep us in the closet.

In this episode, author, public speaker, and former teacher Kevin O’Connor joins us to discuss his personal journey out of marriage to embrace his sexuality at 55 and live authentically as a gay man.

Full Episode:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/99-coming-out-later-in-life-with-kevin-o-connor/id1619338054?i=1000653311227

Related Episodes:
Listen to Episode 77. Coming Out
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/77-coming-out/id1619338054?i=1000630804727

Additional Resources:
Learn More About Kevin
http://kevinoconnorauthor.com/

Follow Kevin on Instagram
https://instagram.com/kevmaster62

Follow Kevin on Facebook
https://www.facebook.com/kevin.oconnor2

Read Two Floors Above Grief
https://www.amazon.com/Two-Floors-Above-Grief-Families/dp/B0BMZ5P3RF

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99. Coming Out Later In Life (with Kevin O Connor)

Gay men often grapple with perfectionism, navigating societal expectations and internalized standards that can intensify the pursuit of an idealized self-image. Known as the Best Little Boy in the World archetype, some gay men overcompensate in certain aspects of their lives, such as their career, appearance, and other achievements, to deflect negative attention away from their sexuality.

In this episode, we’re diving into the origins of the Best Little Boy in the World persona, examining research on how sexual minority men link self-worth more closely to achievement-related domains compared to their straight counterparts, and discussing how we can grow up beyond this archetype by overcoming our internalized homophobia.

Full Episode:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/100-best-little-boys-in-the-world-its-time-to-grow-up/id1619338054?i=1000654028208

Related Episodes:
Listen to Episode 01. Hello, Trauma. It's Me, Rob‪.‬
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/01-hello-trauma-its-me-rob/id1619338054?i=1000558015683

Listen to Episode 13. Perfectly Imperfect: Conquer Your Perfectionism
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/13-perfectly-imperfect-conquer-your-perfectionism/id1619338054?i=1000569642304

Listen to Episode 85. Boundaries: How to Understand and Set Them
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/85-boundaries-how-to-understand-and-set-them/id1619338054?i=1000641820212

Listen to Episode 94. Girl, Please: Say No to People-Pleasing
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/94-girl-please-say-no-to-people-pleasing/id1619338054?i=1000649684367

Additional Resources:
The Best Little Boy in the World by Andrew Tobias
https://www.amazon.com/Best-Little-Boy-World-Anniversary/dp/0345381769/ref=sr_1_1?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.wNXsFal1fdsVXyEHg3Z0WQ.uzy7G9S7upcshTbEpx8zql7KWrMyMMqY8Sh0B_-BJTw&dib_tag=se&qid=1708361946&refinements=p_27%3A+John+%5BTobias%5CcAndrew%5D+Reid&s=books&sr=1-1&text=Andrew%5D+Reid%2C+John+%5BTobias

The Best Little Boy in the World Grows Up
https://www.publishersweekly.com/9780375501111

The Social Development of Contingent Self-Worth in Sexual Minority Young Men: An Empirical Investigation of the “Best Little Boy in the World” Hypothesis
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/271750098_The_Social_Development_of_Contingent_Self-Worth_in_Sexual_Minority_Young_Men_An_Empirical_Investigation_of_the_Best_Little_Boy_in_the_World_Hypothesis

Study: Being in the Closet Drives You to Be More Successful, More Awful
https://www.queerty.com/best-little-boy-in-the-world-20130510

The Best Little Boy in the World — That's Me
https://www.nytimes.com/2013/05/07/opinion/the-best-little-boy-in-the-world-thats-me.html

Queer Like Pete
https://slate.com/human-interest/2019/11/pete-buttigieg-gay-archetype-best-little-boy.html

Why Do Young Gay Men Try to Be the Best?
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-sexual-continuum/201304/why-do-young-gay-men-try-be-the-best

Good Little Boy Syndrome
https://queerjoe.com/2019/10/30/good-little-boy-syndrome/

The Best Little Boy in the World
https://lifebeyondtherapy.com/the-best-little-boy-in-the-world/#:~:text=It's%20the%20idea%20that%20young,us%20LGBT%20men%20and%20women%3F

Superego
https://www.britannica.com/science/superego

Best Little Boy In The World
https://www.lukeallenphd.com/blog/best-little-kid

30 Ways to Deal with Internalized Homophobia for LGBTQ People
https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/30-ways-to-combat-internalized-homophobia/

Be Kind to Yourself
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/between-cultures/201802/be-kind-yourself

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100. Best Little Boys In The World: It's Time To Grow Up

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