Name: What is the most important phase in pickup? by alpharivelino
Duration: 29 s
Description: “Qualification is the difference between getting the girl and not getting the girl.” -Sinn

1:18 Just by acting picky about women, by having that abundance attitude, it shows that you must be a high value man. If you don't act picky, if you don't act judgemental, you tell her that you're a low value guy and are desperate and will take whatever you can get. You have to act judgemental, otherwise the women will be less attracted to you.

You are a picky guy

From the Mystery Method Interview Series 06 on Identity, with Tenmagnet, Sinn and Future

Ambition

SHE IS LOOKING FOR A PICKY GUY
by Lovedrop

She's not used to being judged. She's used to guys, without judgement, just being grateful for whatever they can get. And instead, looks like this guy is judging her, he's sort of sizing her up and down. Not that he's done with her -– "alright you're out" –– but more like –– "alright, I'm checking you out, let's see what you got. You better be up to snuff. You better be up to my standards."

Now, why is this important?

Because when she closes her eyes and fantasizes about Prince Charming, when she fantasizes about that high value guy –– trust me, she's picturing a picky guy. She's not picturing the guy who is like, "Sure baby, whatever you want. Where do you want to go eat? What movie do you want to go watch?"

That's not her fantasy. Her fantasy is the guy who is picky, who has a lot of different options, a lot of diferent women –– but he chooses her because there's something special about her.

[It’s the Prince Charming effect]

The important point is, remember, negs indicate value. It's important to understand that if you're discriminating, if you're picky, it indicates higher value. That's attractive. Brad Pitt is picky, Matt Damon is picky, George Clooney is picky. You should be picky.  Just by acting picky about women and saying, "I'm not too impressed by that, she's gotta work for it to impress me" –– by having that sort of high value, abundance attitude, it shows that you must be a high value guy. It conveys value. So she sees a guy acting like that and she thinks, "Oh, a high value guy! He's not one of these desperate guys that I'm used to."

Much in the same way, if you don't act picky, if you don't act a little judgemental, then what you're telling her is that you're a low value guy who is desperate, who will take whatever he can get. So you actually have to act a little judgemental and act like you have standards because otherwise the women are going to be less attracted to you. It's part of attraction.

So a lot of times we'll frame it like maybe she's a little creepy or she's a little perverted or she's being a little weird or she's being a little too clingy or a little needy, or whatever –– just because, again, you're setting that frame that you're the prize, you're the one with standards, you want to make sure she's up to snuff –– and that makes her feel good, because that means if you choose her, it's not just because you're desperate, it's not just because you're glad to fuck anything you can, but rather because you do have options and she has high value and she can feel high value because "this guy is picky and he chose me."

So it's good all around. Have standards.

So a lot of negs are like this. They sort of set up this playful frame between her and you, where she can tell that you're sizing her up. You're interested but you haven't decided yet. You're judging her. You're keeping her swinging between validation and de-validation.

She is looking for a picky guy

"They want guys that are almost going to talk down to them. They don’t want guys that are kissing their ass."

Jon Matrix on Teasing & Challenging

“Qualification is the difference between getting the girl and not getting the girl.” -Sinn

What is the most important phase in pickup?

Trent PUA talks to a student about the importance of being honest with women and not hiding his sexual intent.

What women respect is honesty

"Now look, when you go up to talk to her man, I don't want you to be the guy in the PG-13 movie everyone is really hoping makes it happen.

I want you to be like the guy in the rated R movie, you know? The guy you're not sure whether or not you like yet, you're not sure where he's coming from, okay?

You're a bad man, you're a bad man, you're a bad man."

-TrentPUA

Don't be the PG-13 guy

Behavior that indicates that you’re a guy who gets laid:
-eye contact
-body language
-vocal tonality
-personal boundaries
-your mood
-the energy you give off
-social calibration
-knowing how to be aggressive yet tender

Tyler on alpha traits

“I may not hook up with this girl. Who knows? Maybe I’m gonna meet her boyfriend, and his sister is the girl I end up hooking up with. You don’t know. Why cut yourself off? Why not just have good experiences, give other people good experiences, and trust me, all kinds of amazing things will happen in your life — randomly, naturally, you don’t have to force it, it’s gonna happen anyway, as long as you put out the right energy.” -Lovedrop

Lovedrop 2

Lovedrop on abundance mentality and putting out the right energy

One easy trick, I push my girls towards him. I look good. He looks weak. He plays into my frame. Immediately the girls will crawl back to you.

“Take these girls off my hands, I can’t handle their bullshit anymore.”

He feels so deflated because it looks like the girls are in on it.

What is the most important phase in pickup?

alpharivelino

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