In this episode of Living African, we discuss the need for communication in a household. In our case, an African household and my guests today are my lovely family to give you a perspective on the dynamics in an African home. As we know, communication within the family is important so that we can enable everyone to express their thoughts, needs, wants, and concerns. Open and honest communication creates an environment where the family members can be vulnerable—giving each other the chance to understand one another and embrace their differences. &nbsp; [00:01 – 06:22] Opening Segment  My family introduces themselves The purpose of this episode  [06:23 – 24:47] Communication in the African Home  We talk about what it’s like growing up in our home The importance of communication in the family   Discussing the struggles of life – teaching the kids the necessary skills to survive and preparing them for the future.   Instilling discipline the right way  [24:48 – 32:59] Discipline by Beating&nbsp;  Our parents share their thoughts on disciplining children by beating We share funny stories from our childhood  &nbsp; Tweetable Quotes: “We believe that we have to make our kids be part of us. We have to make our kids know who we are.” – Grace Fombad &nbsp; LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out great content just for you! You can connect with us on , , , , or send us an email at . Check out our website  for more resources and to learn more. &nbsp; You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

Communication in the African Home – My Family (Part 1)

In this episode, we continue our conversations from part one of “Communication in the African Home.”&nbsp; As we continue discussing our lives living and growing up in an African household, we dive into our experiences and talk about the lessons and values that our parents instilled in us. Be sure to check out part one of this series. &nbsp; [00:01 – 20:21] Prepare Your Children for the Future  Training the kids to become well-rounded individuals and preparing them for whatever challenge life throws at them   Teach them life skills that would be necessary where ever they are   Values that you should instill in your children We talk about the lessons we learned from our parents that prepared us for the outside world  [20:22 – 28:09] Be There for Your Children&nbsp;  Always be there for your children – we share why. We talk about how our parents were always there to support us through any situation. Annoying things that our parents do. Did your parents do the same?  [28:10 – 35:29] Closing Segment  We play the “who’s most likely to?” game. Final words of wisdom from our parents  &nbsp; LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out great content just for you! You can connect with us on , , , , or send us an email at . Check out our website  for more resources and to learn more. &nbsp; You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

Communication in the African Home – My Family (Part 2)

One of many challenges that women face in society is the existence of Rape Culture, an environment where sexual violence is normalized and minimizes the seriousness of such acts. Some people even say that it’s the victim’s fault for getting raped. It’s time to take action against these social norms.Rape Culture is prevalent and must be stopped. Let’s end victim blaming and hold people accountable for their actions. And for the survivors, always remember that it’s never your fault. In this episode, Manyi Anabor joins us to share her experiences with child sexual and physical abuse. This is part one of a two-part episode. Tune in and look forward to part two. [00:01 – 06:04] Opening Segment  I introduce our guest, Manyi Anabor  [06:05 – 27:40] Sexual Abuse Victim  Manyi talks about her experiences with child sexual and physical abuse   Grew up in an extended household They hired a house helper that was actually a sexual predator   Manyi shares how that experience has affected her day-to-day life   She struggled to express herself freely and to speak up   Study shows that sexual abuse victims are more likely to become victims again later in their life.   She got abused again by her uncle, and later, a close friend after she moved to the UK   She became distrustful of people – both men and women   Relationships with men became a nightmare for her   We talk about the need for Sex Education in the African community  [27:41 – 32:32] PTSD  With all the trauma from her experiences, Manyi shares how it has affected her outlook in life before and now Please look forward to part two. Thank you for listening!  &nbsp; Tweetable Quotes: “As a teenager growing up, even to my early 20s, I would never speak up for myself at all. Even if I was in a situation in which something happened openly, and it was obvious, it was clear that it wasn’t my fault. It had nothing to do with me, and someone jumped up and said it was my fault. I would literally say nothing, and it was a very scary place to be in.” – Manyi Anabor &nbsp; &nbsp; Resources Mentioned:   by Manyi Anabor  by Manyi Anabor    You can connect with Manyi on , , or . To learn more about her, you can visit her website at    LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out great content just for you! You can connect with us on , , , , or send us an email at . Check out our website  for more resources and to learn more. &nbsp; You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

005: Rape Culture – It Wasn’t Your Fault – Manyi Anabor (Part 1)

Join us for today’s episode, where we continue our discussions with Manyi Anabor.&nbsp; In part two of this series, we had further conversations about the impact of her experiences with child sexual and physical abuse in her life. We also talk about how she sought help through the form of therapy. Although there are still misconceptions about therapy, such as people thinking that it’s fake, it doesn’t work, or it just shows weakness. For people who have undergone therapy, it was their way out of the dark place that has been haunting them. [00:01 – 21:03] Overcoming PTSD  Manyi discusses the value of seeking professional help and undergoing therapy   How therapy helped her through overcoming her trauma   Therapy isn’t just for the crazy, mad, or troubled people. Manyi talks about the other resources that helped her overcome her trauma   Having a good support system   Manyi’s advice on how to approach the topic around rape and how to support rape victims.  [21:04 – 29:40] Dismantle Rape Culture  It’s time to abolish rape culture Actionable steps on how to educate other people about the realities of rape culture Give victims a safe space to share and talk about their stories  [29:41 – 35:18] The System has to be Changed  We talk about how the African Law Enforcement System needs to be improved Men can be rape victims too! Parents, you must be the first line of defense for your children.  [35:19 – 38:08] Closing Segment &nbsp;  Connect with Manyi. Links available below.  &nbsp;  Final thoughts and call to action  &nbsp; Tweetable Quotes: “I’m always searching for information and learning and reading self-help books and trying to figure things out. That’s naturally how I am. So that really, really helped me.” – Manyi Anabor &nbsp; Resources Mentioned:   by Manyi Anabor  by Manyi Anabor  &nbsp; You can connect with Manyi on , , or . To learn more about her story, you can visit her website at &nbsp; &nbsp; LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out great content just for you! You can connect with us on , , , , or send us an email at . Check out our website  for more resources and to learn more. &nbsp; You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

006: Rape Culture – It Wasn’t Your Fault – Manyi Anabor (Part 2)

Today’s guest is Anyi Atabong. She joins us today to talk about anxiety, depression, and mental health.&nbsp; Anyi is one of the most knowledgeable psychiatric nurses that I’ve met, and she is a huge advocate for mental health. She has worked for over 15 years in the healthcare industry. She is currently a practitioner for  and the Co-Founder &amp; CEO of the . &nbsp; [00:01 – 06:27] Opening Segment  What is mental health? I give a brief background about our guest Anyi Atabong.  [06:28 – 17:40] Mental Health  We discuss a story about a Cameroonian lady based in Dubai that committed suicide after she caught her husband being unfaithful. Mental health issues Debunking the myths and misconceptions about mental health  [17:41 – 28:28] Dealing with Mental Health  Anyi talks about the situations of some of the patients   The biggest challenge when dealing with her patients     Differences between different generations Anyi discusses “grieving” – it’s not just about a death of a loved one.  [28:29 – 39:02] Journey to Healing  Anyi explains her “holistic approach” to mental health Different forms of therapy and its value. Anyi’s advice on how to spot the red flags and how to manage your mental health. Final words of advice and call to action  &nbsp; Tweetable Quotes: “We definitely need to, as a community, as a sisterhood…to be able to open up and talk to people about our feelings.” – Anyi Atabong “Your brain is your powerhouse. It is your absolute powerhouse. It is what controls your thinking. It controls your behaviors, your emotions.” – Anyi Atabong &nbsp; Resources Mentioned:     – National Alliance on Mental Illness Mental Health Crisis (including suicidal ideation) - TEXT Home or Brave to 741741. Available 24/7 for free Domestic Abuse Hotline: 800 799 7233. Available 24/7 for free  &nbsp; You can reach out to Anyi by sending her an email at aatabong@capitalmhg.com. Get in touch with . Give them a call at 667 307 4173 or follow them on  (@capitalmhg). &nbsp; LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out great content just for you! You can connect with us on , , , , or send us an email at . Check out our website  for more resources and to learn more. &nbsp; You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

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