Dating is a relatively recent phenomenon in human history. Given that, it shouldn't come as a surprise that many people aren't sure of the best way to go about it, especially since the rise of modern technology and dating apps has made an already murky landscape even more confusing.

If you feel like you could use some expert, research-backed guidance to navigating this world, enter today's guest, Logan Ury. Logan is a behavioral scientist turned dating coach, the Director of Relationship Science for the Hinge dating app, and the author of How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love. Today on the show, Logan explains the three dating tendencies and the three types of attachment styles that can influence, and potentially sabotage, your ability to get into a healthy relationship. She shares the easiest thing you can do to be more successful in making connections on the dating apps, and the criteria to use for figuring out how to best meet people in person. Logan then gets into how to design a good first date, and what to tell the other person if the date doesn't go well, rather than ghosting them. She also makes the case for why you shouldn't be over reliant on feeling the proverbial spark when deciding whether to see someone again. We end our conversation with tips on breaking up with someone you've been dating for awhile.

#778: A Playbook for Modern Dating

Two women, Bates and Stokes, were LPCs at Pontiac Correctional Center outside Chicago. They were popular with their clients. They always had each other’s back. And that… was just the start of their problems. Plus, the story of two men who come face to face one night in the canyonlands of southern Utah.

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Bates & Stokes

Two women, Bates and Stokes, were LPCs at Pontiac Correctional Center outside Chicago. They were popular with their clients. They always had each other’s back. And that… was just the start of their problems.

This story contains graphic elements and mentions suicide and racism. Please take care while listening. 

This story comes to us from WBEZ’s new season of the Motive podcast. This season investigates the hidden world of big prisons in small towns. Places where everyone knows each other and difficult truths get buried. Listen and subscribe to Motive now!

Reported by Shannon Heffernan

Produced by Jesse Dukes, Marie Mendoza, and Joe Deceault with story editing from John Fecile, Annie Nguyen, and Nancy Lopez

Original Score by Cue Shop and Renzo Gorrio

Artwork by Teo Ducot

The Incident At Poison Spider Mesa

The story of two men who come face to face one night in the canyonlands of southern Utah.

Brody Young is a Utah State Park Ranger and motivational speaker, helping other people figure out how to survive the unsurvivable. To find out more about his story, be sure to check out his website.

Produced by Joe Rosenberg, original score by Leon Morimoto

Season 13 – Episode 17

Bates & Stokes

The OODA Loop — the OODA stands for Observe, Orient, Decide, Act — is a strategic tool designed to help people make better decisions when facing any kind of competitor or opponent.

My guest today says that when that opponent is a seasoned criminal, the Orient component of OODA — a person's mindset — is the most underestimated and critical part of the model to understand.

His name is Varg Freeborn and he's the author of Violence of Mind: Training and Preparation for Extreme Violence, and Beyond OODA: Developing the Orientation for Deception, Conflict, and Violence. We begin with how Varg's life story has uniquely positioned him to understand the dynamics of violence from the perspectives of both the perpetrators of crime, and the would-be preventers of that crime. Varg shares how he went from being a convicted felon to a self-defense and firearms instructor who's worked with both civilians and law enforcement.

We then turn to why it's so important to understand the difference between the orientation of an average person and the orientation of a violent criminal, and why, when the two collide, the latter has a real advantage over the former. We end our conversation with what you can do in terms of mindset and training to close that gap, and be better prepared to handle a violent encounter.

Resources Related to the Podcast

AoM article on the OODA Loop
AoM Podcast #198: Turning Yourself Into a Human Weapon
AoM Podcast #334: When Violence Is the Answer
AoM Podcast #688: Protection for and From Humanity
AoM Podcast #513: Be Your Own Bodyguard

#781: Beyond OODA — Developing the Orientation for Conflict and Violence

How did one of history's greatest writers — Ernest Hemingway — get going with his craft, develop his indelible style, and infuse his narratives with memorable life and compelling tension?

Today we delve into the answers to those questions with Hemingway scholar Mark Cirino, who is a professor of English, the editor and author of half a dozen books on Hemingway — including Ernest Hemingway: Thought in Action — and the host of the One True Podcast which covers all things related to Papa. Mark and I our begin our conversation with how Hemingway cut his teeth with writing as a journalist, how the "iceberg theory" underlay his approach to writing as a novelist, and how his years in Paris — and the books, people, and art he encountered there — influenced his work and the trajectory of his career. We then discuss how his travel and recreational pastimes allowed him to write with a vivid firsthand understanding of certain places and pursuits, what his writing routine was like, and how the characters in his novels explore the tension between thought and action. We end our conversation with Mark's recommendation for where to start reading Hemingway if you've never read him or haven't read him in a long time, and what Mark thinks was Hemingway's "one true sentence."

#786: The Writing Life of Ernest Hemingway

Donte DiVincenzo - 95.7 The GAME (7/13/22)

https://www.biggerpockets.com/blog/real-estate-644

The BRRRR method (buy, rehab, rent, refinance, repeat) is commonly known among real estate investors as one of the fastest ways to build a portfolio of rental properties. The beauty of the BRRRR strategy is that it takes less time and money to get properties to cash flow with baked-in appreciation. But what if you were to ramp up the BRRRR method, so instead of doing a BRRRR every year, you did it 125 times a year. Sounds a little insane, right?

Meet the man behind the madness, Chad Beeman, who has (and this is not an exaggeration) bought and BRRRRed fifty rental properties in the past six months. This is a staggering amount of properties to buy in such a short amount of time. The craziest part? Chad is planning on purchasing another seventy properties over the next six months! So how is he able to buy so many properties, scale so quickly, and do so without losing his balance?

Chad walks through his small team, system, and thought process that helps him stay so successful. He’s had some blunders in the past (like spending $30K rehabbing the wrong house) but has thought of them as “tuition” when investing in real estate. Thanks to these mistakes, he’s been able to grow faster, build more than a million dollars worth of appreciation, and shoot well past financial freedom in his real estate investing journey.

50 Properties in 6 Months Using the Supercharged BRRRR Strategy

#3190, Sep. 8, 2022: Street venders set up stalls in shrine grounds (this title is from " A guidebook to Japan and its Cuspoms") 
Today's pure primal piano music here. Happy if this music makes you feel peaceful.. : )
Looking for absolute natural beauty every day for Piano Ten Thousand Leaves. Target number is 4536 and 3190(70.3%) achieved today. Find my project.. : )
This piece may might have good 1/f fluctuation characteristic although I stopped investigating it each piece.


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Street Venders Set Up Stalls In Shrine Grounds - #3190 By Chair House 09082022

<p>In this episode we sit down with NYU psychologist Jay Van Bavel who is very good at Twitter. His feed is always overflowing with the absolute latest and greatest research from psychology with links to papers as they come out – on many of the topics we so often explore on this podcast – and in this episode we discuss ten of those tweets and the research he’s shared.</p><ul><li>Annie Duke Live Event: <a href="https://www.eventbrite.com/e/quit-a-conversation-and-qa-with-annie-duke-and-david-mcraney-tickets-406421235857">https://www.eventbrite.com/e/quit-a-conversation-and-qa-with-annie-duke-and-david-mcraney-tickets-406421235857</a></li><li>How Minds Change: <a href="https://www.davidmcraney.com/howmindschangehome">www.davidmcraney.com/howmindschangehome</a></li><li>Show Notes: <a href="http://www.youarenotsosmart.com/">www.youarenotsosmart.com</a></li><li>Newsletter: <a href="https://davidmcraney.substack.com/">https://davidmcraney.substack.com</a></li><li>Jay Van Bavel’s Twitter: <a href="https://twitter.com/jayvanbavel">https://twitter.com/jayvanbavel</a></li></ul>

243 - Psychological Tweetathon with Jay Van Bavel

In today's episode I talk to writer Steven Pressfield. Steven has written over a dozen books ranging from fiction and non-fiction. His book Gates of Fire, a fictional account of the Battle of Thermopylae, is used by the Marine Corps Basic School and his non-fiction books have become go-to guides for writers, entrepreneurs, and other creative types. Steve and I talk about why war plays a central theme in all his work and how to apply the Warrior Ethos to creative work.

Episode #55: The Warrior Ethos With Steven Pressfield

Nature. Even if you're an avid outdoorsman, you likely take it for granted. When you’ve seen one tree or one blue sky, you’ve seen them all, right?

Well, to those with well-trained senses, natural surroundings can actually tell you a whole lot. The leaves on a tree can tell you what direction you're headed and the smell in the air can tell you about the weather. There are bits of knowledge and fascinating signposts all around you. My guest today has spent his life observing and cataloging these small details in nature and uses them to deftly navigate the wild without a map and compass. His name is Tristan Gooley and he’s the author of several books, including "How to Read Nature."

Today on the show, Tristan tells us how he got started with natural navigation and how he’s having to rediscover what was once common knowledge to our ancestors. We then dig into specific ways you can use nature to navigate or even know if there’s a storm coming soon. After listening to this show, you’ll never look at trees the same way again. I guarantee it.

#343: How to Read Nature — Awakening Your Senses to the Outdoors

Learn from Allyse Sedivy the Importance of finding and placing the right kind of leaders in the right places in your organization.

#781: Beyond OODA — Developing the Orientation for Conflict and Violence

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