Ben had a relapse, which is a drag. But what did he learn from it? And what can you learn from his mistakes?

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Brick House Podcast on Reframing Porn Addiction

070 Learning From Relapse

Major events can show us that life is short, and precious. Do we want to spend it pursuing compulsive behavior, or in finding love and compassion with those we are close to?

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071 Love and Compassion

Ben muses on what it takes to change your habits permanently. What is sustainable and what’s not? 

Darya Rose Foodist Podcast - ideas about sustainability - 
https://soundcloud.com/darya-pino-rose/dr-yoni-freedhoff-why-you-must-like-your-life-if-you-want-to-keep-weight-off

Darya Rose interview with James Clear - systems are more important than goals. https://soundcloud.com/darya-pino-rose/james-clear-the-4-laws-of-behavior-change

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072 Sustainability

Every decision you make in your daily life is a vote for the kind of person you want to be - whether it’s an athlete, a musician, or a person with a healthy sexuality.

Inspired by James Clear’s book Atomic Habits.https://jamesclear.com/ 

Matt Dobschuetz Porn Free Radio Podcast: https://recoveredman.com/category/pfr/

Meditation app: Headspace:https://www.headspace.com/

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073 VOTE! (for the person you want to be)

It may be that some of the triggers that cause you to act out have to do with major aspects of your life - like relationships and work - and the only solution is to make major changes in the underlying structure of your life. 

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074 Restructuring Your Life

Porn offers the persistent fantasy that women exist in order to please men. But that doesn’t match up with reality very well. Or does it?

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075 Easy Women

This week Ben answers a question from a listener (and accountability partner) about ogling. It seems like it can easily be an edging behavior. How can we change that pattern?
Appreciations: Dear Sugars podcast about dating an addict
https://www.wbur.org/dearsugar/2017/12/02/a-spy-in-the-house-of-love-with-ariel-levy

Without Fail podcast interview with Ira Glass about being a mentor.
https://www.gimletmedia.com/without-fail/ira-glass

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076 Ogling

God rest ye merry gentlemen
Let nothing you dismay
Remember Christ our Savior
Was born on Christmas Day
To save us all from Satan's pow'r
When we were gone astray
Oh tidings of comfort and joy
Comfort and joy
Oh tidings of comfort and joy

Music this week by Sharon Jones & the Dap Kings “God Rest Ye Merry Gents”
https://youtu.be/UewEIBZ7VHM

Check out the new movie - “Spider-Man: Into the Spider-Verse”

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077 Comfort and Joy

Ben tells the story of a recent “disaster” at an open mic performance. Rather than being mad about it, he laughed instead. 
 
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078 Miistakes and Other Disasters

Ben is angry today. That’s a trigger, but so is anxiety. Is porn use the best way to deal with these feelings? Probably not. 

Somatic Experiencing: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Somatic_experiencing
 
Appreciation: Brené Brown
https://www.newsweek.com/brene-brown-netflix-special-vulnerability-quotes-ted-talk-call-courage-1400956

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079 Anger, Anxiety and Therapy

Filmmaker and recovery podcaster Ben Fraser shares ways we can reframe our thinking about porn addiction. You are good. 

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