Introducing BiPositive – a new podcast for bisexuals, about bisexuals and by bisexuals! This week, join your hosts, Mari and MD, on a journey to dispell common (and stigmatizing) myths about bisexuality. 

Transcipt: https://bipositivepodcast.tumblr.com/post/171196487054/bipositive-episode-1-the-common-myths

The article we discussed: https://www.huffingtonpost.com/maria-burnham/bisexuality-myths_b_1193152.html. 

The scientific study: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/241745537_An_Empirical_Study_into_the_Relationship_between_Bisexual_Identity_Congruence_Internalized_Biphobia_and_Infidelity_among_Bisexual_Women. 

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We do not own the HuffPost article or the study cited. These belong to their proper owners.

The Common Myths

MD and Mari dig into the issue of bisexual representation in the media and its effects on the mental health of bisexual and queer viewers.

Referenced article, please go check it out: https://www.thedailybeast.com/the-media-doesnt-know-how-to-talk-about-bisexuality 

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Bisexuals Represent Pt. 1: I See You

Mari and MD talk about amazing and awful examples of bisexual representation in the media: movies, television, and even anime. 

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DISCLAIMER: We don't own any of the movies/shows mentioned in the podcast, we just either enjoyed them or didn't.

Bisexuals Represent Pt. 2: The Bi, the Bad, and the Ugly

MD and Mari talk about why it's okay to love several people at the same time and why it's not the same nor mutually exclusive with bisexuality.

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Ricky Martin Article: http://www.newnownext.com/ricky-martin-wants-to-help-normalize-open-relationships/02/2018/?xrs=synd_facebook_logo

Klesse, C. (2011). Notions of Love in Polyamory – Elements in a Discourse on Multiple Loving. Laboratorium 3(2): 4-25.
Mint, P. (2004). The power dynamics of cheating: Effects on polyamory and bisexuality. Journal of Bisexuality. 
Rubin, A.M. and Adams, J.R. (1986) Outcomes of Sexually Open Marriages. The Journal of Sex Research, 22, 311- 319. http://dx.doi.org/10.1080/00224498609551311
Sheff, E. (2015). The Polyamorists Next Door: Inside Multiple-Partner Relationships and Families. Rowman & Littlefield Publishers. ISBN-13: 978-1442253100.

Polyamory: A Solution to 'Bi Greed?'

Mari and MD talk about the gaydar and the bi-fi, and discuss whether it is ever okay to assume someone's sexuality. What are the signs? How do you approach the person? Do you approach the person? Is it ethical? Listen up and join the discussion!

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Bi-Fi Active or When Is It Okay To Assume?

Mari and MD talk to Greg (@hatori1181) about what it's like to be bisexual in a "straight" relationship (one where the other partner is of the socially acceptable gender) and discuss coming out while being married. 

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Bi's In "Straight" Relationships

Mari and MD discuss being queer in the workplace. How do you navigate that? Is it even professional to discuss your sexuality at work? Is it appropriate for a therapist to be out? Join the discussion with us at @bi_positive!

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The Stonewall study cited: 

Bachmann, C. L., & Gooch, B. (2018). LGBT in Britain: Work report. Stonewall. https://www.stonewall.org.uk/sites/default/files/lgbt_in_britain_work_report.pdf

Work It, Bi-By

In this episode, Mari and MD go in-depth *pun intended* on sex: the problem of limited sex ed, what things need to be discussed, and how to protect yourself before you have intercourse. 

We apologize in advance for the slightly cishet skew at the beginning of the episode: we've been having nothing but cis M/W sex for years now. 

NOTE: We are going on hiatus for a couple of weeks after the release of this episode, given the geographical difficulties in recording an episode. We will be back soon with more BiPositive+ content!

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The Sexy One

MD and Mari discuss why sometimes, it's absolutely okay to be a stereotype. 

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It's Okay To Be A Stereo-Bi

Mari and MD sit down with Tiaan, our resident expert on all things gay, to discuss how the male gay community views bisexuals and whether prejudice may stand in the way of love.

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The Gay Word: Are Bi Men Dateable?

Mari and MD sit down to talk about marriage equality, its history from Ancient Rome to today, and its influence on mental health. 

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Sources: 
Marriage equality and mental health 
Am J Public Health. 2015 June; 105(6): 1101–1105.
Published online 2015 June. doi:  [10.2105/AJPH.2015.302589]
PMCID: PMC4431106
PMID: 25880959
Ben Lennox Kail, PhD,￼ Katie L. Acosta, PhD, and Eric R. Wright, PhD

Journal of Marriage and Family Volume 80, Issue 2
Brief Report
Legal Marriage, Unequal Recognition, and Mental Health Among Same‐Sex Couples
Allen J. LeBlanc David M. Frost Kayla Bowen
First published: 08 January 2018
https://doi.org/10.1111/jomf.12460

Am J Public Health. 2013 February; 103(2): 339–346.
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PMCID: PMC3558785
PMID: 23237155
Richard G. Wight, PhD, MPH,￼ Allen J. LeBlanc, PhD, and M. V. Lee Badgett, PhD

Queerly Beloved: Marriage Equality and Mental Health

MD and Mari address the infamous bi/pan discussion and delve into what sexual orientation and attraction really are, how they come about, and what our attitudes are toward them.

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Sources:

- https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/sex-sexuality-and-romance/201711/the-truth-about-pansexuality?amp
- https://edition-m.cnn.com/2016/01/07/health/bisexuality-on-the-rise/index.html
- Morandini, J. S., Blaszczynski, A., & Dar-Nimrod, I. (2017). Who adopts queer and pansexual identities? Journal of Sex Research, 54, 911-922.
- https://www.psypost.org/2017/01/adopts-queer-pansexual-identities-study-examines-sexual-demographic-characteristics-47187
- https://books.google.nl/books?id=SwtQDwAAQBAJ&pg=PR3&lpg=PR3&dq=Bisexuality:+Theories,+Research,+and+Recommendations+for+the+Invisible+Sexuality&source=bl&ots=XP4W8STzdr&sig=ThGcE6eI3_59cFgufd7UL0l6SmU&hl=fr&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjRiqGSipHfAhUCaBoKHYteDr4Q6AEwBXoECAkQAQ#v=onepage&q=Bisexuality%3A%20Theories%2C%20Research%2C%20and%20Recommendations%20for%20the%20Invisible%20Sexuality&f=false
- https://medium.com/@puentera/bisexual-vs-pansexual-9da1190b8fc5
- http://repositor.essex.ac.uk/12910/1/E%26G%20Edited%2011.14.14.pdf
- https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/1529100616637616
- https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/1529100616637618

Orient Me: Bi, Pan, and What is Sexuality?

Mari and MD discuss tips on how to respond to a child's coming out and how to create a nurturing and supportive environment for an LGBTQ+ child.

References:
Katz-Wise, S. L., Rosario, M., &amp; Tsappis, M. (2016). LGBT Youth and Family Acceptance. Pediatric Clinics of North America, 63(6): 1011-1025. DOI: 10.1016/j.pcl.2016.07.005.

Rosario, M., Schrimashaw, E. W., &amp; Hunter, J. (2009). Disclosure of sexual orientation and subsequent substance use and abuse among lesbian, gay, and bisexual youths: Critical role of disclosure reactions. Psychology of Addictive Behaviors, 23(1): 175-184. DOI: 10.1037/a0014284.

Ryan, C., Huebner, D., Diaz, R. M., &amp; Sanchez, J. (2009). Family rejection as a predictor of negative health outcomes in white and Latino lesbian, gay, and bisexual young adults. Pediatrics, 123(1): 346-
352. DOI: 10.1542/peds.2007-3524.

https://www.hrc.org/resources/all-children-all-families-caring-for-lgbtq-children-youth

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/10/22/sleepovers-closeted-gay-teens_n_6029062.html

I Think My Kid Is Queer!

Mari and MD talk to Greetje den Holder, blogger at Meemoeder.com, who talks about her experience as a queer person, and later, a parent, in the Netherlands.

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Queer Utopia: LGBTQ+ Parenting In The Netherlands

MD and Mari discuss how cognitive psychology explains prejudice and stereotyping, and why not fitting into a box can be a very rewarding thing. 

Sources:

Intersectionality and the Stereotype Content Model: Cognitive, Affective, and Behavioral Consequences for Multiply-categorized Individuals by David W. Hancock, M.A. 

Adams GA, Webster JR. When leaders are not who they appear: The effects of leader disclosure of a concealable stigma on follower reactions. J Appl Soc Psychol. 2017;00:1–16. https://doi.org/10.1111/jasp.12467 

Mémoires, représentations et traitements - 2ème édition Collection : Psycho Sup, Dunod Parution : février 2015 Jean-Marc Meunier

Behave: The Biology of Humans at Our Best and Worst. By Robert M. Sapolsky. New York: Penguin Press. ISBN: 9781594205071 (hc); 9780735222786 (eb). 2017.

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Queer Little Boxes: Cognitive Psychology and Prejudice

Mari and MD discuss queer impostor syndrome, why we sometimes feel like we don't quite belong in our own communities, and how we can overcome that feeling using wisdom from other sexual minority groups.

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Sources: 

Clance, Pauline R.; Imes, Suzanne A. (Fall 1978). The Impostor Phenomenon in High Achieving Women: Dynamics and Therapeutic Intervention. Psychotherapy Theory, Research and Practice. 15 (3): 241–247. CiteSeerX 10.1.1.452.4294. doi:10.1037/h0086006.

Joshi, A., & Mangette, H. (2018). Unmasking of Impostor Syndrome. Journal of Research, Assessment, and Practice in Higher Education: Vol. 3: Iss. 1, Article 3.

Langford, Joe; Clance, Pauline Rose (Fall 1993). The impostor phenomenon: recent research findings regarding dynamics, personality and family patterns and their implications for treatment. Psychotherapy: Theory, Research, Practice, Training. 30 (3): 495–501. doi:10.1037/0033-3204.30.3.495

Queer Impostor Syndrome: Am I Even Real?

A live recording of Mari and MD at ClexaCon 2019 in Las Vegas! This is our panel on "Queer Storylines in Therapy: Constructing Your Narrative Through Fictional Characters" featuring Nicole Pacent! 

Media representation of the queer community has steadily been improving over the recent years – and queer clients in therapy find themselves gravitating toward their narratives in hopes of finding a good example to live by. In this panel, psychologists and media enthusiasts will explain how relating to a well-represented queer character can help develop positive outcomes in therapy, and add to the creation of a well-grounded minority identity.

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Queer Storylines in Therapy: Bi+ @ ClexaCon feat. Nicole Pacent

In this drive bi episode Mari and MD fangirl about one of the best (in our humble opinion) TV shows in the recent years, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend. We talk about bi representation, mental health portrayal, and raunchy music numbers, so stay tuned in! 

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The Drive Bi Episode: Why We Love Crazy Ex-Girlfriend

MD and Mari talk to Briana Venskus about labels, what it was like growing up with accepting parents in a religious environment, and why queer actors have a hard time finding work in the industry today. 

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Briana Venskus: Labels, Religion, and Not Queer Enough?

Join Mari, MD, and our good friend Tiaan, in a tipsy and much-needed discussion of how Game of Thrones tackles LGBTQ+ and mental health representation! Caution: coarse language ahead!

Queers On Thrones: A Problematic Phenomenon

Mari and MD sit down to talk with CB Lee, author of the Sidekick Squad series, about writing, stereotypes, and why queer characters will no longer stay on the sidelines.

CB Lee is a Lambda Literary Award nominated writer of young adult science fiction and fantasy. Her works include the Sidekick Squad series (Duet Books), Ben 10 (Boom!) and All Out (Harper Teen). CB loves to write about queer teens, magic, superheroes, and the power of friendship.  When not nationally touring as an educator, writer and activist, CB lives in Los Angeles, where she can neither confirm nor deny being a superhero. You can learn more about her and her adventures as a bisexual disaster at http://cb-lee.com.

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Not Your Sidekick

Mari and MD talk about recent good and not so good representation of queer people in the media, sports, and politics. Featuring favorites such as Brooklyn 99, Lily Singh, Captain Marvel, Eugene Lee Yang and more!

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20-Bi-Teen: An Update on Representation

Mari and MD discuss Anne Lister, the famous "first modern lesbian," diarist, and title character of BBC's "Gentleman Jack." TW: mental health, sexual assault, gender dysphoria, sexual language.

Watch the Gentleman Jack trailer here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-uBYRcP44M4
The podcast on Gentleman Jack: https://www.secretlibrarypodcast.com/episodes/anne-choma-149
The book: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/43980644-gentleman-jack
Try out Anne Lister's code here: https://wuluwuh.com/anne-lister-code

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Gentleman Jack: More Ways Than One

Mari and MD discuss various techniques in therapy to help you find the right fit. Disclaimer: everything discussed is based on our own experiences and opinions.

Israel, T., Choi, A. Y., Goodman, J. A., Matsuno, E., Lin, Y.-J., Kary, K. G., & Merrill, C. R. S. (2019). Reducing internalized binegativity: Development and efficacy of an online intervention. Psychology of Sexual Orientation and Gender Diversity, 6(2), 149-159. https://t.co/1uLhkBMUAJ?amp=1

Skinta, M., & Curtin, A. (2016). Mindfulness and Acceptance for Gender and Sexual Minorities: A Clinician's Guide to Fostering Compassion, Connection, and Equality Using Contextual ... Mindfulness and Acceptance Practica Series). https://www.amazon.com/Mindfulness-Acceptance-Gender-Sexual-Minorities/dp/1626254281

Shopping For Therapy

MD and Mari talk about trauma, PTSD, available treatments and the vulnerabilities within the LGBTQ+ community.

Sources: 

Pagani, M., et al. (2012). Neurobiological Correlates of EMDR Monitoring – An EEG Study. PLoS ONE 7(9).
van der Kolk, B. (2015). The Body Keeps the Score. https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748

PTS-Me?

We are back! Mari and MD sit down to discuss working with LGBTQ+ refugees and the hurdles they have to face from a psychological and a human rights perspective. 

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Sources:
https://www.cbsnews.com/news/refugees-europe-migrants-shelters-gay-asylum-seekers-attack-abuse-lgbt/
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBTQ_migration#Current_trends_of_migration
https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2018/08/austria-tells-teenager-hes-not-stereotypically-gay-enough-get-asylum/
https://www.dutchnews.nl/news/2018/10/ind-officials-still-assessing-gay-refugees-from-western-viewpoint/
https://www.pri.org/stories/2017-11-09/not-gay-enough-dutch-authorities-challenge-asylum-seekers-prove-their-sexuality
https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s13178-018-0364-7

LGBTQ Refugees: Running for Your Life

Mari and MD discuss their 13 (and then some) guidelines for how to make a relationship work. Queer, heteronormative, poly, ace, kinky relationships and more more more! 

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Recommended reading: 

Experiments for Newlyweds: https://www.amazon.com/Experiments-Newlyweds-Amazing-Science-Projects/dp/1492669768
Girl Sex 101: https://www.amazon.com/Girl-Sex-101-Allison-Moon/dp/0983830959

I Ship Us: 13 Relationship Rules

This week, MD and Mari talk with Hayden about his experience of being a Black bisexual man in a long-term same-gender relationship.

Hayden Winston is a black, bisexual, writer, poet and activist. His work draws on his experiences as a QPOC and the child of West Indian immigrants. His goal is to expose life’s most jarring elements, while promoting self-exploration. He currently resides in Northern California with his husband. 

Follow him on Instagram @afterthewaves or visit his blog at sealedinink.com.

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Hayden Winston: The Bi-Catch-22

Mari and MD sit down with some wine and discuss the recently aired season of L Word: Generation Q. 

CW: drinking, spoilers.

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L Word Generation Q: Oh God Why?

MD and Mari return from a long hiatus to talk about COVID-19: how it has changed our lives and what tools we can use to cope in these weird times. 

WHO Mental Health Recommendations: https://www.who.int/docs/default-source/coronaviruse/mental-health-considerations.pdf?sfvrsn=6d3578af_2 
CDC Website: https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/index.html
Dutch RIVM Website: https://www.rivm.nl/nieuws/actuele-informatie-over-coronavirus
Mari's Article on Eating Disorders in the LGBTQ+ community: https://www.mirror-mirror.org/lgbtq.htm

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#ItsCoronaTime

MD and Mari sit down to discuss Netflix' A Secret Love, its message, and its importance for queer representation.

Them interview: https://www.them.us/story/a-secret-love-netflix-pat-henschel-interview

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A Secret Love: The Story We Came Out For

Join Mari and MD – bi women, therapists and media enthusiasts – in discussing issues and exploring the sexuality continuum in an unapologetically queer podcast.

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