Welcome to Fat Girl Finds Love Meet Your Hostess Briana Cavanaugh &nbsp; This is an interview by Dalia Kinsey of School Nutrition, Dietician podcast of Briana Cavanaugh, hostess of Fat Girl Finds Love. &nbsp; &nbsp; Dalia will be a frequent guest and occasional co-host! She’s awesome! We do an interview of Dalia a bit later in the series, but her bio and links are included here so you can find her if you need her! &nbsp; In this episode we talk about: &nbsp; Dalia lives in Georgia and Briana lives in California -My vital stats -Age, race, identities -Why do we use the word fat? -Finding my fat identity -Going to NOLOSE for the first time and what it felt like to spend time with fat people -How sex positive spaces are not fat positive and what does that actually mean? -being able to get more voices heard and get my work around relationships, love sex, and relationships - Do they want fat people there? - The Racist origins of dieting - “Fearing the black body, the racial origins of fatphobia" by Sabrina Strings on The Nod:  -“if you're going to do something that's not the patriarchy, what are you going to do. - Hanne Blank’s “Big, Big Love” book - You get to have choice about your relationship. -“ it's time that we have the lives that we want to live now.” - How are we having pleasure in our lives now? Pleasure is a game changer. As soon as you have enough pleasure everything changes. Join us at fatgirlfindslove.com

Welcome to Fat Girl Finds Love! Meet Briana Cavanaugh

Christine&nbsp; lives in the San Francisco Bay Area and, although busy, is always looking for new friends, community, and activity partners! If you'd like to get in touch, the best way is to send her a Facebook message or friend request () You may also email her at christineastory@gmail.com for a slower response. Also @RainyDayMondays on Instagram This was recorded at Desire Riviera Maya in Cancun. My sweetheart and I were there with the folks from Life on the SwingSet for a little event they call “Swingset takes Desire.” Desire is a swinger resort in Cancun Mexico that is taken over by a group of what I think of as freaks and queers: poly, swinger, kinky, queer, sex positive folks. Some new folks, lots of returners. I interviewed several people and this is one of those. They are a bit out of recording order because of various logistics like getting people’s bios and so on so ignore all that. These were recorded with my iPhone so I’ve done my best with the sound quality. Also the episode references Nomy Lamm – queer, fat icon. Who happens to be one of the fat queers that I also connected with in another place in Fat community. I met met Nomy at  I reached out to her to see if she wanted to comment and this is what she said: “hi briana! this sounds amazing. my website is . you could also mention that I'm the creative director for Sins Invalid - sinsinvalid.org. also if people want access to the first issue of 'i'm so fucking beautiful' (released in 1993!) here is a link:  “ So now you can reach out to Nomy and her work and see what a bad ass she is too! Also she’ll hopefully be on an upcoming episode and you can hear her yourselves! Now on to the show snippets!  How did you become sex positive? Christine: Oh, I was always a horny little slut. On her partner struggling: not being able to communicate well meant that he didn't have the words to describe how he felt or really to identify it so it was hard to talk about. “Actually all, all of my partners are, are queer men currently, but, um, so he, he's, his main interest is in, in guys like sexually. But he's a varsity cuddler!” On Bi men “There were a lot of men putting their mouths in a lot of places. And we like that!” Queerness and queer invisibility and seeing internalized homophobia. “You know, we didn't know you were queer. We thought you were straight. And he's just like. Well, I have the purple bead, I have the rainbow necklace, I have the rainbow bead. My toenails are painted rainbow. My fingernails are painted. I'm wearing ladies' flip flops. More do I have to do?” We give a lot of love to bi men! “You don't have to be 100% love your body to, to use it in a way that's pleasurable” Also @RainyDayMondays on Instagram

Sex-vacation with Xine: Have Pleasure Now

Sex-cation interview with Matie! This is a really fun episode with Matie Fricker of Self Serve Toys! It was recorded while we were at Desire Riviera Maya – a swinger resort. We were there on a takeover of the resort with The Swingset Takes Desire. We get deep in it and talk about so may sweet and sexy things. &nbsp; Self-Serve Toys was kind enough to give us a promo code: Exxxxtraordinary&nbsp; and listeners will get 20% off!&nbsp; &nbsp; Matie&nbsp;Fricker&nbsp;is a smut peddling sweetheart with a deep love for the odd and tender. She owns Albuquerque’s best sex shop,&nbsp;Self Serve Toys. Self Serve is a shiny bubble of love and safety for those seeking pleasure and joy in their lives. One of her proudest accomplishments was causing&nbsp;Rush&nbsp;Limbaugh&nbsp;to say “female orgasm” on-air multiple times.&nbsp;Matie&nbsp;has been awarded the 2008 Tough Cookie Award from the National Association for Women Business Owners, Best Sexy Shop in ABQ’s Alibi Weekly Newspaper for 13 years and Albuquerque Pride’s Outstanding Retail Store Award.&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; Here’s the highlights! &nbsp; In finding her fat identity:  Overcoming child sexual abuse Coming out as queer Touching a girl’s hand for the first time Learning to feel hunger for sex and eat again “I’m so sure that you’re wrong that you’re body is wrong. I am 100% confident that you’re wrong about hating your body” Mattie Fricker  Virgie Tovar’s “You Have the Right to Remain Fat”   “We deserve to be treated well” – Briana Cavanaugh The tension of “the good fatty role” v the “good activist role” Food is not poison. My relationship with my body has to be a practice. And my relationship with food has to be a practice. I love your feelings Secrets and being healthy or unhealthy Resources: The Body is Not An Apology by Sona Renee Taylor  Not having to earn love.  About Fat SEX!  “Emergent Strategy: Shaping Change, Changing Worlds” by adrienne maree brown&nbsp; “Pleasure Activism” also by adrienne maree brown&nbsp; Standing up to a fat fetishist at sex party Mattie: I want somebody to tell me that I fucking love my fat pussy and they love my rolls. And they love how they love how heavy I am. They love how things feel. They love, they want to, they want to fuck me until I juggle… but respectfully. And I fuck feminists who won’t say things like that. Care about fucking fat people. Touch us and listen to us. Sex Out Loud podcast with Tristan Taormino  All bodies are good bodies, deserving of love, exactly as they are. This is what my body looks like when it’s not aroused and you have to add arousal. It was so cool to use my body to teach. It was so cool to teach the whole time I was having an orgasm! We help each other feel safe. “Curvy Girl Sex” by Elle Chase:  Matie is awesome! You can find Matie at