parting does not have to be dramatic and maybe the best thing in some cases. Try not to dismiss the person but give thanks for what you have learnt with them. 

Leaving Someone - remix

I have pictured a female but there are plenty of fat males. With this particular SC item, rants and criticism welcome. PS I do read all material and will respond if appropriately.  PPS I think the photo of the female is photoshopped. It looks anatomically impossible.

Ugly and Fat People

It drives me nuts to walk around the supermarket and have people apologise because you have moved slightly closer to them than 3m. Can we stop saying 'sorry' all the time. I wish I had a £ for every time...... you know the sort of thing.

Sorry Excuse me (for Brits. only)

What does it mean to 'succeed'. Some of the greatest inventors and personalities have 'failed' so many times but we don't see that.
If you have an idea then bring it on as much as you can.

Success and Failure

after a long break I'm coming back to the fold and will be issuing more words of wisdom from time to time. This time I'm talking about my diary writing which you can find on www.briansnellgrove.net

The benefits of keeping a diary

Not an easy one this one with conflicting loyalties. Sorry there is a mistake .....'free FOR you and not free FROM you.

Dealing with Mothers-in-law

With each problem and situation there is a bundle of emotion about the effect of what you do on other people whether it is a rejection or an adverse reaction of some sort.

To-do lists and how to go about them

The secret of being an interesting person is to take an interest in other people. There is no correlation between intelligence and being interesting wobbling slightly more homely and being boring, the answer is surprisingly simple

Do you ever wonder if you are boring?

Some people cannot keep their mouth shut and blab on about things that have upset them.
Communication is so easy these days, too easy, so you don't let the brain do its job of getting you sorted.

Why sharing problems may not be wise

I've had the pleasure of knowing a number of gay people over the years. It's interesting how many of my lady friends had said 'I have a gay friend, he's got a great sense of humour, you know where you are with him and he is safe to be with'
I call these people 'two for the price of one' because they can relate both to their own sex and the opposite sex. What a blessing!

My take on gay men.

the most asinine and stupid question of them all is ' so you found us all right then'. To which you answer "no dude I'm just a holographic 66 miles away".

Seven bad habits of hosts at social events

I see ideas like a bird landing on your shoulder. It's the universe saying to you 'maybe you and some others would love to do something why not have a go'. People love being rung up and being invited to something. Prize yourself away from your twittering and meet some real human people.

Light Bulb moments – take them seriously

we are all part of the universe but sometimes you wouldn't think it. If we have a systemic problem it really doesn't matter whether we are so called in a relationship or not the problems remain. Solution, get yourself sorted though it will take time.
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"lost without you, lost with you"

mostly it's obvious to both parties but the difficulty is breaking the ice and having the courage to start the conversation. there's no need to get your dagger out, just describe the situation and don't make it into a court case

Telling someone the relationship is over

I love you can mean anything from my fancy you to I adore you to I'm fixated by you to I need you anything you like but it does help to be honest.

How to say "I love you"

there are many reasons for this the main one being the psychological damage got there before our ability to deal with it. Early impressions have a much bigger impact on us than we imagine and it can take years to face consequences.

Why are people lonely? Part 2

Paul Klee the artist reminded us that 'Drawing is taking a line for a walk'. You're not supposed to visualise things in advance. Give your mind and brain the chance to play because that's what it loves to do. Music is part of your nature. To express music is healing.
don't expect to know exactly what you are doing in advance, just get on with it.

Have you uploaded your first music track?

Being inspired is like a bird landing on your shoulder and whispering in your ear. it won't stay there for ever so write down the details while there are fresh in your mind

Some tips for getting inspired

"don't judge a book by its cover" as they say; when you have sex with someone you may take on board more than more than you bargain for, is it worth it?

Sleeping with neurotic wo(men)

when you are lonely for a relationship, and a person gives you lots of attention it is very flattering and you may let your guard down. Act in haste, repent at leisure.

Is he the right one for me?

people often hurt us and they don't mean to. Maybe we are very slow learners or may be we are just drawing the lessons to us that we need in order to progress. 

People who hurt us – can we forgive?

I think everyone is afraid of the future to a certain extent and it's really good to face things before you have to. There is a lot to be afraid about and it's better to face things rather than stick your head in the sand

Fear of the Future

sometimes we are living with someone who is having great difficulty in communicating and is not handling stress very well. Here are a few commonsense tips.

what to do with a stressed partner

taking a risk is a part of living; the main thing is to act sensibly

Risk

I have not uploaded material for some time now but good news, more is about to come. I and my partner Francoise do a ton of things including healing, coaching, energy diagnosing, personal relationship advice.

I live in Midsomer Norton in UK which is a little bit south west of Bath.

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