I Grieve How Quickly I Said, No

What J.D. Vance is really selling — and why we need to name it.

A bold, honest dispatch on avoidant attachment, desire, sex, and the sacred clarity of choosing yourself. Christen Rodgers unpacks what it means to be a woman who doesn’t collapse to be loved—and why she now prefers good sleep over mediocre penetration. For anyone tired of shrinking for approval, this is for you.

Avoidant, Funded, and Free: Dispatches from a Woman Who Didn’t Wait to Be Chosen

Are We The Body or The Virus by Christen Rodgers

Avoidant by Design explores the founding psychology of the United States through the lens of attachment theory. Blending personal narrative, historical reflection, and cultural critique, this essay examines how America’s fierce independence—while brave and necessary—was never metabolized into secure interdependence. From 1776 to modern capitalism, we trace how avoidant patterns shaped not just our politics but our architecture, values, and collective nervous system. It’s a call to evolve—not by rejecting our roots, but by maturing them. For anyone questioning the systems we’ve inherited and yearning for something more relational, beautiful, and whole—this piece is for you.

Part One: The Architecture of Avoidance

response to Doug Wilson's interview on CNN.

Doug Wilson, (aka Pastor D Biscuit) Triggers, and the 20% That Still Flinches

From Avocados to Amazon: Why the Word Everyone Fears Might Be the Guardrails We Need

What the fuck is socialism, really? We’ve been told it’s breadlines, dictators, and control. But what if it’s actually about worthiness, ecosystems, and the guardrails that keep life flowing?

In this piece, I pull from everyday life — avocados at $2.49, rent hikes, toothaches, baristas, poets, moms, janitors, farmers — to ask: so the fuck what? What does all this mean for us? And could socialism be less about safety nets for the desperate, and more about building an interdependent ecosystem where every role, every presence, every gift matters?

If you’re tired, if you’re curious, if you’ve ever wondered why your exhaustion feels like more than “just you” — this is an invitation to notice. To feel. To imagine worthiness as the foundation of our lives.

Substack.What the Fuck is Socialism

“Worthiness, You Old Hussy” is a fiery riff on America’s true origin story—not purity, but audacity. From Puritan shame to hustle culture, we’ve mistaken suffering for virtue. This piece calls bullshit, reclaims worthiness as our baseline, and dares us to imagine systems—housing, healthcare, work—built on that audacity instead of grind. Bold, irreverent, and deeply human, it’s an invitation to let worthiness become the floor, not the prize.

Worthiness, You Old Hussy: Audacity built this country. Masochism nearly broke it. Worthiness might just save it.

This episode explores the hidden patterns behind our obsession with hard work. What if “working harder” isn’t always truth, but a trauma-compulsion? I share how I’ve been learning to trust a third way—easeful participation—where creation flows without collapse or grind. Along the way, I reflect on synchronicity, resistance, and the mirrors that guide us forward.

Have You Mistaken Hard Work for Worth? Discovering the third way: easeful participation.

From Bootstraps to Belonging: Stop Gaslighting Ourselves
Why do we celebrate bootstraps and exceptionalism while ignoring equality, belonging, and nervous system safety? This essay explores how America has been gaslighting itself with scarcity and competition—and what it would mean to rebrand success around connection, abundance, and collective thriving. Featuring reflections on work, healthcare, food, housing, and tools for personal change, it’s both a critique and an invitation to value ourselves enough to demand systems that support us.

What J.D. Vance is really selling — and why we need to name it.

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