Science is discovering aspects of stress that may surprise you.  Fight, Flight or Food?  During quarantine, many of us choose the food option to deal with stress.  Over 42% of North Americans gained weight during the pandemic.  An average of 1.5 pounds per month.  
 
In today’s episode, Dr. Bray unveils the research on stress and how it affects what you eat, how you behave, and your mood.  New tests are on the way to market to help health providers treat stress, depression, and anxiety more accurately. All they need is a blood sample.  Dr. Bray also discusses new research on how to better handle difficult, stressful situations.  The answer is not only easy; it takes one decision!

“Subtract, the Untapped Science of Less” by Leidy Klotz

QUOTES BY DR. BRAY
“Do anything that gets you moving!”
“When you find ways to actively manage your stress daily, you’ll find it decreasing.”
“Subtracting something from your life may be the answer.”

EPISODE 377 Fight, Flight or Food

We slip into communication patterns when we fail to develop a variety of responses to people’s comments, we become predictable and we aren’t prepared for conversations where we’re caught off guard. We often go silent when someone says something we don't like, hurts our feelings or we disagree with. You can handle a political environment if you understand how the conversation works and how to turn it around.

QUOTES BY DR. BRAY
"Don't abdicate your responsibility of how people treat you."
"Increase what your responses can be so you can opt-out of the predictable patterns."

FAN FAVORITE: EPISODE 246 The Wisdom to Handle Difficult Conversations

Conversations are a lot like art. It is one of those uniquely human experiences of infinite variety, depending on who we are interacting with. Conversations are events where we share what we know, get to know others, find friends, and discover our place in the world. Conversations have an extraordinary power to excite, our neurons being so sensitive to face-to-face engagement that they rapidly activate our brain reward systems. Yet surveys show that it is losing ground to texting and other forms of communication that, at best, only provide pale illusions of satisfaction. 

In today’s episode, learn more about conversations, the difference between small talk and deep conversations, as well as the six conversation habits that you may need to break. Lots of great information about how you communicate this week.

To learn more about this topic, check out the May/June edition of Psychology Today Magazine, which has several articles on Communication. 

QUOTES BY DR. BRAY
“There are few things that are more delightful than effortless conversation.” 
“The trick is to be skilled at small talk and big talk.”

Episode 483 The Art and Science of Conversations

Welcome to a brand-new year—and with it, the perfect opportunity to set the tone for your most calm, focused and productive year yet! But let’s face it: January doesn’t just bring optimism and resolutions; it also delivers a big dose of stress. From tackling new goals to navigating the demands of work and life, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed before you even hit February. That’s why Dr. Bray focuses today’s episode on equipping you with the tools you need to not only survive, but thrive in the midst of chaos. 

In this episode, he will dive into 10 science-backed techniques, curated from the fields of neuroscience and behavioral psychology, to help you find calm, focus, and resilience no matter what challenges the year throws your way. These aren’t time-consuming hacks or complex routines—they’re practical, actionable, and incredibly effective. 

But here’s the twist—your brain may try to convince you that these techniques are too simple to be impactful. Don’t fall for it! These small habits pack a big punch when practiced consistently. As we explore and try the tools you’ll discover how just a few minutes can transform not only how you manage stress but how you show up in every aspect of your life. So, grab your mental toolkit, hit play, and let’s make 2025 the year you reclaim calm, focus, and balance.

QUOTES BY DR. BRAY
“Stress doesn’t have to control you. You have the power to reset your brain, refocus your emotions, and recharge your motivation right in the middle of your most busy and most stressful moments!”
“Have a cold moment!”

Episode 561 How to Stress Less, Remain Calm, and Achieve More in 2025

The world of work has changed forever. Disruption isn’t an event anymore—it’s a constant state. McKinsey calls this the "Era of Perpetual Upheaval," where uncertainty is the new normal. And yet, most leaders and organizations still rely on outdated change management strategies that simply don’t work. The old way of adapting is dead.

So what do we do? We rewire our brains. In this episode, Dr. Bray dives into the neuroscience of uncertainty, uncovering why change triggers survival mode in the brain, and—most importantly—how we can train ourselves to think, respond, and lead differently. We’ll break down the cognitive traps that hold us back, the psychological tools that give us an edge, and the brain-based strategies that separate those who thrive from those who just survive.

If you’re tired of waiting for things to "settle down," this episode is for you. The future belongs to those who master uncertainty—not fear it.

QUOTES BY DR. BRAY
"Change just isn't something that we react to anymore. It's something that we must be built for.”
“In a world where uncertainty is the only certainty, we must go beyond survival and learn to thrive.”
"The brain learns best from action—small, rapid experiments retrain the brain to be comfortable with uncertainty."
"The future belongs to those who train their minds to lead in crisis, not just react to it."


Episode 568 The Era of Perpetual Upheaval – Why We’re All Crisis Managers Now

Science, Skepticism, and the Future of Mind-to-Mind Communication:
 
Is telepathy real, or is it just a fantasy fueled by sci-fi movies and wishful thinking? In this episode, Dr. Bray goes to the edges of science and dives into the science, the skepticism, and the surprising research that suggests telepathic communication might not be as impossible as we once thought. From groundbreaking neuroscience studies using brain-to-brain communication technology to Dr. Diane Hennacy Powell’s fascinating work with autistic savants who seem to transmit thoughts without words, we’re uncovering the truth about telepathy—what's myth, what’s real, and what the future could hold.

Neuroscientists are beginning to explore the brain’s electromagnetic activity and the role of mirror neurons, which may provide a scientific basis for telepathic-like experiences. Meanwhile, technology is making what was once science fiction a reality, with researchers successfully transmitting thoughts between human brains using neural interfaces. Could telepathy simply be an untapped human ability? Could meditation, deep focus, or brain training enhance it? And if it’s real, how could it change the way we connect, communicate, and understand one another?

Join Dr. Bray as he breaks down the science, examines the skeptics' arguments, and explores the mind-blowing potential of thought-to-thought communication. Whether you're a believer or a skeptic, this episode will challenge everything you think you know about the limits of the human mind. Tune in now and decide for yourself!

QUOTES BY DR. BRAY
"The brain’s capacity to internalize and reflect the mental state of others demonstrates how deeply we are wired for connection."
"Techniques such as mindfulness, meditation, and visualization are believed to strengthen the mind-body connection, unlocking hidden potentials."

Episode 574: Does Telepathy Really Exist?

What got you here… won’t get you there. In the boardrooms of the early 2000s, executive presence was a well-guarded formula: confidence, a polished suit, a commanding voice, and just the right amount of detachment. You knew it when you saw it—and if you didn’t look the part, you probably didn’t get it. But in 2024, everything has changed. The pandemic, social movements, hybrid work, generational shifts, and the rise of authenticity have completely rewritten the rules. And if you're still playing by the old ones, you will get left behind. In this episode, Dr. Bray takes you inside the new world of executive presence—what it looks like now, why it's changing, and how to master it without losing who you are. 

We’ll explore:  

Why inclusiveness and emotional intelligence have overtaken pedigree and polish. 

How leaders like Thasunda Brown Duckett and Bill Hornbuckle are leading with presence by leading with heart. 

What the research says about appearance, confidence, communication, and what matters now. 

Why authenticity, adaptability, and listening are the power tools of today’s most effective leaders.  

Whether you’re aiming for the C-suite, coaching emerging leaders, or simply navigating how to show up more powerfully in your role, this episode is your blueprint for presence that works in the modern workplace. This isn’t about fitting into the mold. It’s about breaking it with purpose. 
QUOTES BY DR. BRAY 

"Being real is the win." 

"Respect for others... involves acquiring a body of knowledge that allows you to understand the lived experience of those whose identity or heritage is different from your own." 

"People now gravitate more towards leaders who listen and learn from others before they make decisions."

Episode 576: Executive Presence Redefined

What if you could have a world-class career coach in your pocket available 24/7, endlessly patient, and shockingly insightful?

In this episode with Dr. Bray, he explores how tools like ChatGPT, Claude, and Perplexity transform how we navigate careers from writing resumes and preparing for interviews to plotting promotions and managing toxic coworkers. Whether you're just starting out, pivoting mid-career, or climbing the executive ladder, this episode shows you how AI can become your smartest (and cheapest) ally.

Dr. Bray breaks down 7 powerful ways to use AI for career clarity, job search strategy, salary negotiations, leadership growth, and even workplace dilemmas with real prompts you can try today.

• Want to stand out in your next job application?
• Struggling with imposter syndrome or career uncertainty?
• Need help crafting that perfect LinkedIn summary?
• Curious how AI can help you grow as a leader?

This is your episode.

The best part? You don’t have to be tech-savvy to start. You just need curiosity and a willingness to try something new.

QUOTES BY DR. BRAY
"Establishing yourself as a thought leader always makes you appear as a leader. It opens new doors to new opportunities."
"If something is on your mind for more than an hour, it's time to take action and fix it."


Episode 586: How to Use AI as Your Career Coach

You crossed the finish line. Got the promotion. Hit the goal. Everyone’s congratulating you...
So why does it feel so underwhelming?

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Bray dives into the neuroscience behind one of the most surprising emotional twists of modern life: why achievement often leaves us feeling flat and how to reclaim lasting meaning.

You'll learn:
• Why your brain is wired to crave the chase, not the finish line and what to do when the dopamine drops
• The difference between achievement and meaning and why one lights you up longer.  
• How to build a life that aligns with who you are, not just what you do
• 5 powerful, science-backed tools to help you rewire your brain for purpose, connection, and fulfillment

If you’ve ever asked yourself “Is this all there is?” After a win, or if you’ve quietly moved the goalpost before even celebrating the one you just reached, this episode is for you.

Dr. Bray blends neuroscience, personal reflection, and practical strategies to help you shift from achievement chasing to meaning making without losing your ambition.

Be sure and  Listen in — because what your brain’s really hungry for might surprise you.

QUOTES BY DR. BRAY
"Accomplishment and fulfillment are not the same thing."
"Achievement is about doing. Meaning is about becoming."
"Five to ten minutes of reflecting on your values each week can change how you feel about yourself, your work, and the people around you."


Episode 588 Why Success Often Feels Empty - and What to Do About It

Have you ever stopped and looked at your life and thought, Why do I feel poorer than I am?

I know I have. On paper, things are going well. I've written books, worked with big companies, and my little company continues to grow. I’ve built a career that I’m proud of, and I work hard to live within my means, especially with six kids who are always wanting lessons in everything! From the outside, it looks like it is all going really well.. But when I pause to reflect, there’s still this feeling of being... poorer than I’d like to be.

And no, I’m not talking about the literal kind of poverty, the kind that keeps people awake at night, wondering how they’re going to make ends meet. I’m not talking about the kind of struggle that comes with scarcity. What I’m talking about is something deeper. A kind of poverty that can’t be solved with money, no matter how much you have in the bank.

Ryan Holiday recently wrote about this in an article titled “These Are All the Ways I Feel Poorer Than I Am.” In it, he talks about a conversation he had with Sahil Bloom about the different kinds of wealth, wealth that doesn’t show up on your paycheck. Time wealth, emotional wealth, social wealth, mental wealth, and physical wealth. These are the kinds of wealth we often overlook, even though they shape our happiness far more than any amount of money ever will.

Today, I want to dive into this idea. I want to explore how, even though my life is going well, I still deal with anxiety and stress, worrying about things that haven’t happened, missing out on present moments because my mind is too busy. I want to talk about how I’ve neglected my social wealth and how I don’t have enough close friends anymore because I’m too wrapped up in work and family.

But here’s the thing: The more I think about it, the more I realize that true wealth isn’t about the size of your bank account, it’s about the balance in your life. It's about the freedom to live on your terms, the relationships you build, and the moments you enjoy, fully present.

So, if you’ve ever felt like you have everything, but still feel like something’s missing, this episode is for you. We’ll explore how to stop chasing the wrong kinds of wealth and start focusing on the ones that really matter. And maybe, just maybe, you’ll discover that you’ve had everything you need all along.

**From Ryan Holiday's website:  "These Are All The Ways I Feel Poorer Than I Am."  (It is a great read!)

QUOTES BY DR. BRAY
"Worry and stress are a real cost—they have stolen hours of sleep, moments of joy, and precious time with family."
"We spend so much time worrying about imaginary problems that we create real ones."
"True wealth is measured not by the balance of your bank account, but by the balance in your life."


Episode 591 The True Wealth That’s Not Found In Your Bank Account

What if the key to unlocking your potential isn’t talent but timing, effort, and the way your brain rewires itself? In this episode, Dr. Bray dives into the science of how learning happens, real, lasting, brain-changing learning, with insights from world-renowned neuroscientist Dr. Michael Kilgard. You’ll learn why your brain doesn’t change without discomfort, why sleep might be the most powerful learning tool you’re ignoring, and how tools like visualization, self-testing, and even a tiny implant in your neck are helping people recover from strokes and transform their performance.

Dr. Bray breaks down the four essential ingredients for rewiring your brain: focus, friction, reflection, and rest.  Dr. Bray explores real-life stories and tools you can use today to learn faster, retain more, and adapt better. Whether you're trying to pick up a new skill, overcome a setback, or simply want to sharpen your brain, this episode will shift how you think about change. This one’s made to be bookmarked, shared, and revisited.

QUOTES BY DR. BRAY
“Your brain isn’t a hard drive. It’s a living, changing, messy miracle.”
“One of the most underutilized productivity tools is a great nap.”
“No discomfort, no change. Learning shouldn’t feel easy.”


Episode 592 How to Rewire Your Brain (Without Burning It Out)

If you’ve ever hit a wall at 2:47 PM and wondered, “Why can’t I think straight?” This episode is for you. Spoiler alert: It’s not a willpower problem. It’s biology.

In this episode, Dr. Bray breaks down one of the most overlooked truths in workplace performance: your brain has a limited energy budget. From decision fatigue to task switching to why your focus crashes mid-afternoon, you’ll discover the hidden forces behind mental burnout and how to fight back.

We’ll explore:

-Why your brain burns through more energy than any other organ

-How your “mental bank account” gets drained without you even noticing

-The real cost of multitasking (hint: it’s not just lost time)

-What top performers, neuroscience researchers, and companies like Google are doing to protect brain power

-Simple ways to refuel your focus using strategic breaks, movement, and even social interaction

You’ll also learn how to spot the moments when you’re cognitively bankrupt and what to do to recharge fast.

Bonus: Dr. Bray shares a simple method to track your “brain budget” for one day so you can identify your personal energy leaks and high-focus windows. You’ll walk away with actionable tools you can start using today to work smarter, feel better, and lead with more clarity.
If you're in leadership, juggling too many tabs, or constantly battling decision overload, this episode might change how you manage your most valuable asset: your brain.
Listen now and get ready to stop blaming yourself and start working with your biology.

QUOTES BY DR. BRAY
"The brain doesn't store fuel. Once the tank is low, the first thing to go is your ability to think clearly and resist distractions."

"Don't use your brain's best hours on low-leverage tasks."

"Performance problems may not be due to poor skills, but poor fuel. Invest in good nutrition and rest."


Episode 593 The Brain’s Energy Budget: Why You’re Not Lazy, You’re Overdrawn

Think you know why employees quit? Think again. It’s not about money, perks, or a flashy job offer. In this episode, Dr. Bray uncovers the surprising truth about why top talent leaves your organization.
You’ll learn what neuroscience tells us about motivation and progress, why our brains rebel when work feels stagnant, and the four “quests for progress” that push people to make career moves. Additionally, Dr. Bray will share real-world stories, research-based strategies, and practical steps you can implement today to keep your top talent engaged and thriving.
If you’re a leader, HR professional, or just curious about the future of work, this episode is your wake-up call. Don’t just ask how to retain employees, discover how to create a culture where people want to stay. Tune in and rethink everything you thought you knew about turnover.

QUOTES BY DR. BRAY
"People rarely leave for just money. They leave when their work stops feeling rewarding, when progress feels impossible, or when every day becomes an energy drain."

"The real question is: how do I make staying feel like progress and not stagnation?"

"People don’t quit companies — they quit environments where their brain feels stressed, stuck, and underutilized."


Episode 594: Why People Are Quitting and How Neuroscience Sheds Light on the Answer

Why do good employees walk away? You might think you know, but most exit interviews never uncover the real story. People rarely say, “I left because I felt stuck” or “I couldn’t see a future here.” Yet, those are often the true reasons behind turnover.
In this episode, Dr. Bray breaks down a powerful interview framework that goes beyond surface answers and gets to the heart of why employees quit. These aren’t ordinary exit questions; they’re conversation starters that uncover what employees were searching for, what pushed them away, and what might have convinced them to stay.

You’ll discover:

The four “quests for progress” that drive almost every job change

The exact questions that reveal whether someone left for alignment, control, growth, or just to get out

How to turn exit interviews into learning tools that reshape your culture

Why stay interviews matter more than exit interviews and how to run them effectively

If you’re a leader, HR professional, or business owner, this episode gives you actionable insights and ready-to-use tools for reducing turnover. Understanding why people leave is the first step in creating a workplace where they want to stay.  You don't want to miss this episode!
For more information on this topic, read the HBR article spotlight on "Why did They Leave?  An Interview Guide,"  in the November-December 2024 Issue for exact questions to use in your next exit interview.

QUOTES BY DR. BRAY

"People rarely say, 'I left because I felt stuck' or 'I couldn’t see a future here.' Yet, those are often the true reasons behind turnover."

"Turn exit interviews into learning tools that reshape your culture."

"Whether someone left for alignment, control, growth, or just to get out — the right questions will reveal it."


Episode 595 Why Did They Leave? Reinventing and Revitalizing the Exit Interview

Ever feel like you’re carrying bricks in your backpack that no one asked you to carry? Or turning a five-minute task into a half-hour saga of overthinking? You’re not alone, and your brain might actually be the culprit.

In this episode, Dr. Bray pulls back the curtain on why we over complicate simple things and what neuroscience reveals about it. (Hint: it’s not just about dopamine,  it’s about the way our brain’s prediction systems and default mode network keep us stuck in loops of worry and “what ifs.”)

You’ll learn:

Why your brain makes simple things feel hard, and how it thinks it’s helping.

The hidden costs of overthinking on your energy, creativity, and well-being.

Practical tools to stop adding “extra screws” to life and start living with more clarity and ease.

If you’re ready to stop over-engineering your days and start creating space for simplicity, joy, and focus, this episode is for you.

QUOTES BY DR. BRAY

"The mind is designed for survival, not for peace. To find peace, we must practice it intentionally."

"Overcomplicating things gives us the illusion of control, but real control comes from simplicity."

"Multitasking is the art of doing everything poorly at once."


Episode 596 Stop Making Life Harder Than It Is

Retiring Without Regrets

For decades, we’ve been told the same story: work hard, save well, and one day retirement will be the reward. But what if stepping away from work feels harder than the job itself? What if freedom comes with a side of restlessness?

In this episode, Dr. Bray delves into what truly makes retirement fulfilling and why neuroscience reveals that it’s about more than just money or free time. I’ll explore the hidden challenges the brain faces when structure, identity, and daily rewards suddenly disappear. And more importantly, I’ll share the four practices that help people not just retire, but rewire: alignment with your values, rediscovering yourself beyond the job title, taking charge of your time with agency, and embracing adaptability when life doesn’t go as planned.

You’ll hear stories of people who struggled and those who thrived and learn practical tools to shape a retirement that feels rich with meaning and growth.

If you’re approaching retirement, in the midst of it, or simply curious about how to build a life you don’t want to escape, Dr. Bray will provide you with insights that are both eye-opening and actionable.

Please tune in and discover how to retire without regrets and why your brain will thank you for it.

QUOTES BY DR. BRAY

“Retirement isn’t the end of the road; it’s the beginning of a new journey.”

“Your identity is not in your job title; it’s in the lives you touch and the purpose you find.”

“Purpose is the engine that keeps you moving. Without it, even the most luxurious life can feel empty.”


Episode 597 Preparing for Retirement, It is About More Than Money

Work is noisy. Slack pings, endless meetings, emails that never stop. But beneath all that activity, many employees feel something deeper, disconnected.

In this episode, Dr. Bray dives into a powerful article from Harvard Business Review that reveals a hidden truth: nearly one in five employees feel lonely at work. That loneliness is not just a personal struggle; it is an organizational blind spot. When people feel isolated, creativity wanes, performance declines, and engagement wanes.

But here’s the good news: leaders can change this. Connection is not about forcing more meetings or filling calendars with “team building.” It is about designing workplaces where belonging is baked into culture, conversations, and even decision-making.

Join Dr Bray as he explores why traditional fixes are not enough, how leaders can spot the “connection deficit,” and the practical steps any organization can take to turn disconnection into a competitive advantage.  He also shares the top three ways to build connections that don't require a lot of time to plan.

If you lead a team, work in HR, or care about making work a place where people thrive, this episode is for you.

Let’s talk about how belonging is not a nice-to-have; it is the real driver of performance in today’s workplace.

QUOTES BY DR. BRAY

"Being on a team can make people feel even lonelier when the closeness they expect doesn't come to pass."

"Build socializing into the rhythm of work."

"If employees are constantly working at their maximum capacity... they won’t be able to invest time in pivotal interactions that generate trust."

"Social activities shouldn’t be offered as one-offs — they should be embedded in regular workflows."


Episode 598 The Work Connection Deficit and How To Fix It

Ever noticed that the athlete standing in second place sometimes looks less happy than the one in third? Turns out, it is not just your imagination, it is neuroscience.

In this episode, Dr. Bray dives into thirty years of research showing why bronze medalists often leave the podium smiling while silver medalists are silently stewing. The culprit? The way our brains process expectations, comparisons, and reward prediction errors.

He will explore:

Why your brain is wired to feel loss when you almost win, but joy when you barely make it

How dopamine, the amygdala, and the prefrontal cortex play tug of war with your emotions

What Olympic medalists can teach you about managing expectations in your career, leadership, and life

So, whether you are chasing your own gold medal or just trying to survive your inbox, don't miss this episode. You will walk away with strategies to feel happier, perform better, and cut yourself some slack the next time you finish in third place.

Quotes by Dr. Bray

"Happiness doesn’t always come from being the best. It often comes from how we frame our situation and what we expect to happen."

"Train the brain to see opportunity rather than loss."

"Silver is coded as loss because the brain expected gold. Bronze is coded as gain because the brain expected nothing or less."


Episode 599 Why Bronze Feels Better Than Silver

Smarter, Stronger, Sharper – How to Measure and Improve Your Brain Health

What if your brain had a dashboard that told you exactly how well it was performing before you hit burnout, before focus fades, and before your memory starts to slip?

In this episode, Dr. Bray dives into the cutting edge science that is reshaping how we understand brain health. You will discover how researchers like Dr. Evelyne Bischof, a Harvard and Columbia trained longevity physician, are using data, AI, and neuroscience to measure brain performance in real time and even predict cognitive decline before it begins.

Forget the old idea that your brain is static or unchangeable. Today, science can track everything from your biological brain age to your daily cognitive resilience and even show you how small lifestyle shifts can rewire your mind for greater clarity, energy, and focus.

If you have ever wondered why some people stay sharp under pressure while others burn out, or how technology is helping us see what is happening inside the brain long before symptoms appear, this episode will change how you think about mental performance and longevity.

Tune in because the future of brain health is not about reacting to problems, it is about measuring, training, and optimizing the most powerful system you have.

Quotes by Dr. Bray

"Brain health should be treated the same way we approach physical fitness or financial well-being: measurable, trackable, and provable."

"Your chronological age is what your driver’s license says. Your biological brain age is how old your brain acts."

"The brain doesn’t know the difference between a good habit and a bad habit — it just knows habit."


Episode 600 Smarter, Stronger, Sharper: The Science of Measuring and Improving Your Brain Health

We have all heard it. Someone looks at you with a smile and says, “Just be yourself.” Nice idea, but have you ever tried it? It turns out being yourself is not nearly as simple as it sounds.
In this episode, Dr. Bray digs into the science of authenticity and why the version of you that shows up at work, at home, or even at dinner with friends is often a carefully constructed blend of performance, prediction, and protection. You will hear how the brain’s prefrontal cortex, default mode network, and even the amygdala shape your sense of self and sometimes keep you from showing up as the real you.

We will explore why decades of cultural conditioning, family expectations, and even old survival strategies can bury your authentic self under layers of habit. More importantly, Dr. Bray shares the practical side of neuroscience: how neuroplasticity allows you to rewire your brain and excavate the parts of you that feel the most genuine.

So whether you are leading a team, building a career, or simply trying to feel at home in your own skin, hit play. Dr. Bray will show you how science can help you do it, and maybe even convince you that the project of becoming yourself is the most worthwhile work you will ever take on.

Quotes by Dr. Bray

"Just be yourself" sounds easy, but your brain is running layers of predictions, protections, and performances that you may not even notice”

“Your sense of self is shaped by repeated neural pathways—the habits of thought and behavior that you practice again and again”

“Sometimes you uncover trauma responses—protective adaptations that once kept you safe but no longer serve you”


Episode 601 Being Yourself Is Terrible Advice: The Neuroscience of Authenticity

Everyone loves a good personality test. Whether it is the Myers-Briggs, the Enneagram, or that quiz you took online that told you which TV character you are most like, there is something satisfying about seeing yourself neatly described in a few short sentences. But here is the question: are these tests actually telling you who you are, or just giving you a clever label?

In this episode, Dr. Bray unpacks the science behind our obsession with personality tests. You will learn why we are wired to love them, how the brain’s reward systems light up when we feel recognized, and why the Barnum effect makes even vague descriptions feel spot-on. We will also take a closer look at the history of personality testing, from Hippocrates and the four humors to the modern-day workplace.

More importantly, you will hear why taking these tests too seriously can backfire. Neuroscience shows that personality is not fixed. The brain is plastic, meaning it is constantly adapting and capable of change. When you lock yourself into a rigid type, you may be limiting your own growth without even realizing it.

Dr. Bray keeps it practical and entertaining, weaving together science, history, and a bit of humor. You will walk away with a fresh perspective on personality tests, knowing when to treat them as fun and when to be cautious about the labels they hand you.

So if you have ever wondered whether your four letters define you or if you are destined to always be “the extrovert” or “the thinker,” hit play. This conversation will convince you that you are far more than a type, and that the most exciting part of your personality is how it continues to grow and change.

Quotes by Dr. Bray

"The real danger is not in taking these tests, but in taking them too seriously."

"The appeal of personality tests has less to do with their accuracy and more to do with what they promise us."

"This is just who I am" — that’s the fixed mindset we need to challenge.”

"Hold those results lightly and treat them as a starting point for exploration."


Episode 602 Personality Tests: Why We Love Them and Why They Can Mislead Us

We have all been there. The job that didn’t happen, the plan that fell apart, the moment that left you wondering, what now?

In this episode, Dr. Bray explores what happens in your brain and body when life doesn’t go as planned, and why learning to let go, reframe, and keep moving forward is one of the most powerful things you can do for your mental health and resilience.

You will learn why holding onto anger, regret, or comparison quietly drains your brain’s energy, how your nervous system responds to disappointment, and how small mindset shifts can rewire your focus and restore clarity.

Drawing from neuroscience, psychology, and real-life stories of growth, Dr. Bray shares why everyone’s path looks different and why comparing your journey to someone else’s will always leave you behind.

If you have been feeling stuck, disappointed, or worn down, this episode will remind you that nothing is wasted. Your brain is still learning, adapting, and building strength with every challenge you face.

Sometimes, the things that do not work out are exactly what lead you where you are meant to go.

Quotes by Dr. Bray

“Resilience isn’t about bouncing back. It’s about becoming someone new because of what you’ve been through.”

“Strength doesn’t come from holding on. It comes from releasing what no longer serves you.”

“Forgiveness and acceptance aren't fluffy emotional ideas — they're biological resets for your brain.”


Episode 603 Why You Don’t Need to Worry When Things Don’t Work Out

We live in a world that glorifies speed, noise, and constant doing. But what if the secret to thinking better, leading better, and living better is actually found in the moments when we stop? In this episode, Dr. Bray dives into the neuroscience of stillness; why your brain needs quiet to perform at its best, and how doing nothing may be the most productive thing you can do.

He will share the story of a high-performing executive who thought he was burning out, when in fact, his brain was begging for a break. We’ll explore what happens in your mind when you slow down, how silence rewires your focus, and why some of your best ideas appear in the shower, on a walk, or in moments of calm.

If your brain feels full but your clarity is fading, this episode will change how you think about rest. Because stillness isn’t the absence of work, it’s the space where your best thinking begins.

Quotes by Dr. Bray

“Rest is not a luxury. Stillness is not a luxury. It’s a biology.”

“Because in all the noise of modern life, stillness is where clarity, insight, and performance are born.”

“Stillness isn’t the absence of productivity. It’s the very foundation of it.”

“Your brain actually performs better when you slow down and stop.”


Episode 604 The Science of Stillness: Quieting the Brain

We all need a day to celebrate and acknowledge all that we are grateful for. No matter where you live in the world today listen to the story of Squanto and how he changed Thanksgiving for numerous immigrants. Also, take up the Thanksgiving challenge to do service for others and be an individual someone else is grateful for! Dr. Bray starts off the United States Thanksgiving week right.

Quotes by Dr. Bray:

“This week the assignment is: be a blessing, do service, or have someone be grateful for you.”

“No matter where you live in the world, it’s a great time to be grateful, thankful, and maybe learn a little history about another country.”

“This is the week to be thankful and grateful for somebody.”

FAN FAVORITE Episode 306: Thankful, Grateful and a Dose of History

In this episode of the Dr. CK Bray Show, Dr. Bray unpacks the “Fester List,"  Airbnb CEO Brian Chesky’s bold move to expose the quiet problems rotting his company from within. The top offender? Leaders and teams glued to phones during meetings, including Chesky himself.

Dr. Bray goes beyond the headlines, exploring why people are on their devices and the impact it is having on internal meetings and, even more importantly, external client meetings. 

You’ll discover the surprising reason some CEOs encourage discreet texting (yes, really), the 60-second team ritual that turns distraction into focus without a single rule, and the subtle cultural shifts that make presence feel natural, not forced. Dr. Bray blends real-world stories from Fortune 500 boardrooms with practical, no-drama strategies you can test in your next meeting.

No fluff, no shame tactics, just smart, human-centered leadership that respects bandwidth while rebuilding trust. If you’ve ever looked around a room and seen more screens than eye contact, this episode is your wake-up call.

This post draws from real-world leadership stories in CEOs Are Furious About Employees Texting in Meetings by Chip Cutter. The Wall Street Journal, October 28, 2025.

Quotes by Dr. Bray

“Our brains are not built for sustained, divided attention.”

“Even a brief distraction like checking a text can increase your mental fatigue and lower comprehension.”

“Attention is the new corporate currency… When the room is fully present, ideas expand. When attention fragments, so does performance.”



Episode 605 The Meeting Habit That is Ticking Everyone Off!

The next 15 minutes are so intense it will change the trajectory of your career! What the heck is an autodidact? It's a self-learner and you are going to become one. As you take on new habits & hobbies you'll find that you'll open up your world!

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150 The One Thing To Do Today For Your Career: Become an Autodidact with Dr. CK Bay

This week is not about the GO, GO, Go– it’s about the STOP. Instead of adding more and more to your plate, let’s discuss stopping, and how to subtract from your busy life. You can take things away to make your life better, more successful and productive.

173 Go Go Go……..Stop

Episode 306 We all need a day to celebrate and acknowledge all that we are grateful for. No matter where you live in the world today listen to the story of Squanto and how he changed Thanksgiving for numerous immigrants. Also, take up the Thanksgiving challenge to do service for others and be an individual someone else is grateful for! Dr. Bray starts off the United States Thanksgiving week right.

Thankful, Grateful, and a Dose of History

The World is in turmoil, and your job may soon be affected. While this is not a topic that any of us want to think about, it is essential to be prepared. Understanding the steps of what to do after losing your job can make all the difference in how quickly you secure a new one. Dr. Bray shares questions you need to ask when you are notified you are being laid off. Dr. Bray also reviews the steps you need to take the first few weeks of not working.

*Susan Peppercorn, HBR-online.  Questions to Raise Immediately After You’re Laid Off.  3/2020

QUOTES BY DR. BRAY
“Budget!”
“Grieving is an important part of being human.”
“You are not alone in dealing with this.”

EPISODE 325 What to Do If You Are Laid Off

We live in a world that is so different from any previous generation. The iPhone in your pocket is 120 million times more powerful than the computer guiding the Apollo 11. With increases in technology and luxury, we are also seeing changes in well-being and fulfillment. Fewer people are able to find meaning and feel fulfillment. This podcast discusses why that is, and what habits you can create to find greater purpose and meaning in your life. 

QUOTES BY DR. BRAY 
"It is amazing how many people have turned off their emotions.” 
“The things that have the power to cause us the most pain are the things we care the most deeply about.” 
“As you fight, run, avoid, you become distant from your own life.” 
“Don’t do dumb things! They will make life difficult for you.” 

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EPISODE 348 The Science of the Voice in Your Head Part 1

The Dr. CK Bray Show is a 20-minute science and research-based podcast that aims to provide the information you need to create a better life and career. Dr. Bray shares the latest research findings in the areas of business, personal excellence and achievement, resilience and thriving, career, learning, leadership, change, and health.  He also provides a one-stop resource for actionable advice and tools to cover every aspect of your life. Be prepared to be simultaneously educated and entertained.

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