Self-improvement

This week on the School of Greatness podcast, Lewis Howes and Jordan Harbinger discuss the journey of cultivating a confident way of being.

It's a powerful one. To get the show notes and more valuable information about the two, we welcome you to http://www.lewishowes.com/73

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Jordan Harbinger: How to Increase Confidence and Overcome Fear of Rejection

http://businessrepubic.net/e45 - Welcome to the last interview for People Who Know Their Sh*t! We have one more episode with just Nicole and Omar but this episode features Jordan Harbinger from The Art of Charm. From early days Jordan was a student of human nature. Highly skilled, intelligent and very astute, Jordan has had tremendous success as an entrepreneur and podcaster. Well-known and highly respected in our space, Jordan gets right to the heart of the topic at hand with ferocious honesty. We covered his early days, podcasting, creating and running successful live events, growing a business, innovating and building a brand. This is a great, jam-packed conversation so go ahead and press that play button! 

E45 The Art of Charm with Jordan Harbinger

How do I keep enjoying music I enjoyed with an ex? How do I recover from being doused in bull semen? What are my responsibilities when people ask me to watch their stuff? And more!

066 - A Great Bit of Oratory

"The mind follows the body and the body follows the mind." - Jordan Harbinger

If you enjoyed this episode, check out show notes, video, and more at http://lewishowes.com/439

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EP 439 Master Social Skills and Confidence with Jordan Harbinger

139: How to Become a Master Networker to Increase Your Income with Jordan Harbinger

My guest today is Jordan Harbinger of the Art of Charm podcast.

While men sometimes see developing their social skills as something superficial or unimportant, these skills are essential for success in business and life. Knowing how to interact and get along with others is how we can make friends, find love, and advance our career. My guest on the podcast today has spent the past ten years helping men become more socially dynamic through his in-person coaching services and his podcast The Art of Charm. His name is Jordan Harbinger and today on the show Jordan I discuss why improving your social skills is so important and why many men often give it the short shrift. We then dig into the concept of social capital and why it might be even more vital to develop than financial capital. We end our conversation getting into brass tacks advice on how to become a social dynamo without having to be an extroverted “life of the party” cheeseball. 

This is a great podcast filled with tons of actionable steps.

#294: Learning the Art of Charm

The Art of Charm's Jordan Harbinger joins for this 4th of July episode where we discuss how technology effects social skills, differential learning styles, and costs and benefits of having "Southern Charm." Jordan and Matt connect in business as well, with networking, work ethic, and the extreme-ownership ethos.

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How can a young Nigerian student develop the habit of oratory excellence? Youngsters leadership coach David O. Lawal shares some insights in this talk, which was delivered at the KIST! Writing and Public Speaking Conference in March 2017. Download. Enjoy. Learn. Share.

David O. Lawal - Developing The Habit Of Oratory Excellence @ KIST! WAPS Conference (17 - 03 - 2017)

“Those who have the courage to do something distinctly, purposefully, and strategically different will reap the rewards.” - Jay Baer (click to tweet) On today’s episode of Steal the Show, we are discussing talk triggers: the things that brands and businesses do that get us telling stories about them to our friends. However, to create one inside our own company is much easier said than done. That’s why we’re digging into the specific elements required for a talk trigger to be activated. With so much noise in the marketing and advertising spaces, the opportunity to set yourself apart from the competition lies in the customer experience. Listen to this episode to understand the anatomy of a talk trigger, so you can implement them into your brand experience! You can order Talk Triggers here And learn more about Daniel Lemin and Jay Baer “Talk triggers are all about giving your customers a consistent story to tell.” - Daniel Lemin (click to tweet) Steal The Points  Most of those who are good at word-of-mouth are good at it by accident. Talk triggers must align with the brand’s positioning and be operationally feasible. It is most difficult for companies to operationalize human interaction. Look at UberConference’s hold music as an example of a talk trigger. Word of mouth is directly responsible for 19% of all purchases, and influences as much as 90%.

119 Jay Baer and Daniel Lemin on How to Get  People to Talk About You

I grew up in Edmond, OK, a suburb of Oklahoma City. When I was teenager back in the 90s, I started hearing about some church being run out of a garage. Didn’t give it much thought then. Fast forward more than twenty years later, and Life.Church now has over 30 campuses across 10 states, and is often ranked as the largest church in America.

Today on the show I talk to the guy who started this thing in a garage, and has stood at the helm of its tremendous growth, to glean his insights on leadership and strategy. His name is Craig Groeschel, and he’s the founder and head pastor at Life.Church. We discuss Craig's philosophy on leadership and managing the growth of a large organization, how he balances innovation with stability, how an organization can stay nimble even as it gets bigger, how you have to relinquish control in order to get growth, and why leaders need to go out of their way to show people they’re noticed and needed.

We then discuss the personal side of leadership, including how to balance work and life, how to avoid letting administrative duties kill your creativity, and how to handle criticism.

Whether you're a leader in a business or a non-profit, you’re going to find lots of actionable advice in this show.

Show Highlights
What Craig did before he started Life.Church and why he was turned down for ordination on his first go
How do you measure success when the goal is more spiritual/emotional in nature?
How does Life.Church continually innovate while also maintaining stability?
Why "needed and known" is an important philosophy for any leader
How does the large organization of Life.Church stay agile?
Why Life.Church fights against rules 
How to give up control as a leader
Why flying by the seat of your pants isn't necessarily a bad thing
How Craig balances the CEO aspects of his job with the creative aspects
Why Craig puts artificial deadlines on everything 
Fighting the loneliness and isolation that comes with being a leader
Dealing with criticism and critiques 
How to figure out which criticisms to pay attention to and which to ignore?
How do you keep volunteers motivated?
Long-term planning and setting a vision for a large organization
Why Craig doesn't care for numbers-based goals

Podcast #457: Leadership Lessons From the Pastor of One of America's Most Innovative Churches

Your time on earth is finite and once you use it up, it's gone forever. Thus on the AoM podcast, we talk a lot about how to maximize your time -- how to use it more effectively to be more productive. But is it possible to be too concerned about managing your time? Should you also make space for chucking out all the to-do lists and schedules and just being kind of idle?

My guest would say yes. His name is Alan Lightman, he’s a physicist and writer, and the author of the book "In Praise of Wasting Time." Today on the show Alan forwards the sort of countercultural argument that intentionally wasting time isn't a vice but a virtue. We begin our conversation by discussing what Alan means by wasting time, and then get into how wasting time benefits our psyches, creativity, sense of mental self-reliance, and even, ironically enough, our productivity. We end our conversation discussing the difference between chronos time and kairos time, and how wasting time allows us to spend more time in the latter state.

Get the show notes at aom.is/wastingtime.

#458: In Praise of Wasting Time

Humans are storytelling and story-listening creatures. We use stories to teach, persuade, and to make sense of the complexities of existence. Being able to craft and deliver a good story is thus a real advantage in all areas of life, giving you a foot up when doing job interviews, going on dates, interacting with friends, or making a sales pitch.

Fortunately, good storytelling is a skill that can learned by anyone. Here to teach us the art of storytelling is Matthew Dicks, a writer, five-time Moth GrandSlam storytelling winner, and the author of the book Storyworthy: Engage, Teach, Persuade, and Change Your Life through the Power of Storytelling. 

Today on the show, Matthew walks us through the nuts and bolts of how to craft a compelling story. We begin our conversation discussing ways to generate story ideas, why good stories don’t have to be about big moments, and why he recommends a practice called "Homework for Life." Matthew then tells us what we can learn from movies about making a story so engaging that people are waiting to hear what you say next. We also discuss the don'ts of storytelling, including how to never begin a story. And we end our conversation with a five-minute story from Matthew that showcases all the principles we discussed during the show.

Get the show notes at aom.is/storyworthy.

#462: How to Tell Better Stories

While Cristina Gallego was busy working as a producer on her partner Ciro Guerra's magnificent film "Embrace of the Serpent", she caught wind of a story from one of the many indigenous non-actors onset. That story was one that perhaps many of us have heard before, a Colombian man finds partners in America that he can sell drugs to, becomes fantastically wealthy and ends up abandoning his morals as a result. Except "Birds of Passage" is so much more. 

With Gallego and Guerra at the helm, we get a glimpse at a side of this much-glamorized Narcos-era that we've never seen before. The film presents the narrative from an indigenous Colombian perspective, full of magical realism steering from traditions that go back hundreds of years and is perhaps the most authentic story concerning its subject matter of all time. Think of it as a thrilling mixture of The Godfather and One Hundred Years of Solitude, where we watch the entire history of two families whose native ways are slowly brought to a halt as they engage in the burgeoning drug trafficking business. Eventually, it brings a war to control the business that ends up destroying both their lives and their culture.

There is no other pair of directors in the world that could've told this story, and for her part, Gallego switched from a lifetime of producing to the role of co-director in order to more clearly communicate her vision. I sat down with her at TIFF to talk about what that transition was like, working with Ciro Guerra, and finding the stories that stem from your own history.

Making the Move from Producer to Director: Cristina Gallego on 'Birds of Passage'

ACCELERATE YOUR LEARNING CURVE.

Are you taking advantage of the knowledge of the smartest people in your field?

If not, you are denying yourself an abundance of information.

You need consistent accountability at the highest level.

You need inspiration from inspiring peers.

And you need to be a part of something that is coaching you to play bigger.

Some might call it an accountability group. In the business industry, we call these groups “Masterminds.” It’s a dynamic that you miss out on when you only do one-on-one coaching.


On today’s episode of The School of Greatness, I do a special solo episode where I explain how joining a Mastermind group has changed my life and how it can change yours.


“You need to constantly clear your mind and be open to new opportunities.” - Lewis Howes


I coach my own group called the Greatness Mastermind. If you’re making seven figures, you eligible to join.


You don’t want to join a group that will keep you at the same level or where you’re the smartest person in the room.


You have to be inspired by the community of people you join.

So get ready to learn all about getting access to influential people by joining a Mastermind on Episode 728.


In This Episode You Will Learn:

The one thing I would do differently if I started over again (2:00)

Why you should be looking for a Mastermind (2:40)

About the first Mastermind I was a part of (6:00)

6 Keys to finding a mastermind (12:45)

About my mastermind (22:00)

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“PASSION IS THE NUMBER ONE INGREDIENT TO SUCCEEDING IN ANYTHING.” 

Are you governed by fear?

If so, it’s time to figure out if what you’re scared of is real or imaginary.

What if there really isn’t anything to be afraid of?

You might have some setbacks or “fall,” but at the end of the day you’ll be fine.

In the face of stress, you can get overwhelmed by negative emotions, or you can look forward. You can instead focus on the task ahead.

It’s all about your mindset.

On today’s episode of The School of Greatness, I talk about fear with a champion climber who has learned to be mental tough by constantly pushing her limits: Sasha Digiulian.

Sasha Digiulian first began climbing at 6 years old, in 1998. She has won the World Championships for Female Overall and has placed Silver in the Bouldering World Championships, as well as Bronze in the Duel. Sasha has been the undefeated Panamerican Champion 2004 to the present, and she is a three-time US National Champion.

Outdoors, Sasha is the first North American woman to climb the grade 9a, 5.14d, recognized as one of the hardest sport climbs achieved by a female. She has done two. Sasha was the third woman in the world to accomplish this grade. Additionally, she has onsighted multiple 8b+’s, 5.14a’s, ascended groundbreaking multi-pitch routes of up to 1000 feet of 8c climbing, and has accomplished multiple First Ascents and 28 First Female Ascents around the world, including a First Female Ascent on the North Face of the Eiger.

Sasha has learned to trust the process and the universe in order to quiet her anxiety.

She says that the only way to get up a mountain is to think positively. She’ll find herself saying, “Just go, just go, just go” when she’s in a tough spot.

So get ready to learn how to have the mindset of a champion risk-taker on Episode 731.

Some Questions I Ask:

What’s the highest mountain you’ve climbed? (20:00)

How do you stay focused while climbing? (23:30)

Are there more men or women in climbing? (27:00)

How do you manage stress levels? (32:00)

What’s your thought process during a climb? (46:00)

What did you learn from your father’s death? (1:00:00)

In This Episode You Will Learn:

The difference between speed climbing, bouldering, and sport climbing (11:00)

How Sasha got started in climbing (12:00)

The largest distance Sasha has fallen (17:00)

About Sasha’s scariest climb (34:00)

The mantras that Sasha says while climbing (48:00)

The three things Sasha’s parents taught her (53:00)

The reason why sleep is so important (1:06:00)

Mindset of Becoming World Champion with Sasha Digiulian

“COMMITTED SEX IS PREMEDITATED SEX.” - ESTHER PEREL

Let’s talk about sex.

So often, we blame our lack of romance on our partner.

We’ll say, “He or she just isn’t doing it for me anymore.”

But what if it’s your responsibility to make sure that you’re keeping the passion alive?

If you are truly living your fullest life, you will create desire.

Take ownership.

That’s why, for this week’s Five Minute Friday, I want to share this conversation I had with world-renowned relationship expert Esther Perel who knows the key to making monogamous relationships successful.

Belgian psychotherapist Esther Perel is the New York Times bestselling author of The State of Affairs and Mating in Captivity. Her celebrated TED talks have garnered more than 20 million views and she is also the host of the popular podcast Where Should We Begin?

Esther says that it’s not the other person who turns you on or off. You turn yourself on by making sure you are connected to what lights you up.


Learn how investing in yourself and pursuing your life force will help you want monogamy on Episode 723.


In This Episode You Will Learn:

The definition of “desire” (00:45)

What makes someone want to be monogamous (1:30)

What the biggest turn on is (2:10)

How to experience love and desire at the same time (2:55)

How to keep sex erotic (4:00).

The Power of Erotic Intelligence with Esther Perel

DON'T LET PERFECT BE THE ENEMY OF GOOD.

We can talk ourselves out of almost anything.

“I’m not good enough.”

“I’m not ready.”

“I don’t have all the skills.”

But what if you just took the plunge? What if you risked things not being “perfect” and put yourself out there?

You might fail, but you’ll learn a lot more than if you had never shown your project to the world.

It’s like I always say- the biggest risk takers are the most interesting. 


For this Five Minute Friday, I revisited a conversation I had with the entrepreneur Gunnar Lovelace who is passionate about telling people that it’s ok to make mistakes. 


Growing up poor with a single mom left Gunnar with a burning desire to create wealth to do good. As a result, he is a five-time serial entrepreneur focused on social impact at scale (people, planet + profit). Gunnar is the founder and CSO of Thrive Market, which offers organic groceries online at wholesale prices nationally. It has raised $200 million and grown to seven million users and 700 employees in three years.


Gunnar shares that part of the reason he is so successful is that he didn’t know everything when he started. He says that you need to get in the driver’s seat instead of overthinking.


Learn how to battle your perfectionism and dive into your dreams in Episode 735.


In This Episode You Will Learn:

What Gunnar tells his entrepreneurial friends (1:30)

Why it’s important to make mistakes (2:00)

How to use fear as a teacher (3:00)

Why you need real market feedback (4:00)

Stop Overthinking and Start Doing

THERE'S ALWAYS A PRICE TO PAY.

I’ve got a huge sweet tooth.

I’d love to eat candy all day.

But I know that what we put into our body will affect what we can get out of it.

If you want to achieve greatness in your health, you have to keep finding what works and tweak it.


You need to approach nutrition the same way you approach business or athletics.Keep refining until you get to the next level.


Diet is so important.


That’s why, for this Five Minute Friday, I revisited a conversation I had with Dr. Peter Osborne where he shared how what we eat affects every aspect of our lives. 


Dr. Peter Osborne is the clinical director of Origins Health Care in Sugar Land, Texas. He is a Doctor of pastoral science, and a Board Certified Clinical Nutritionist. Often times referred to as “The Gluten Free Warrior,” he is one of the most sought-after alternative and nutritional experts in the world.


He says that you can cheat on your diet, but if you look at it like getting 6/7 on a test score, you’re only getting a “B.” I think we can all do better than that. 


Learn how your diet is affecting your health in major ways in Episode 738.


In This Episode You Will Learn:

The three fundamental rules of nutrition (1:00)

How long it takes to find out if your diet is causing you pain (2:30)

If you can have a cheat day (4:00)

The relationship between food and death (6:00)

The Fundamentals of Nutrition

IF YOUR LIFE WAS A BOOK, HOW WOULD YOU WANT YOUR STORY TO GO?

Whatever it is that you want to do in this new year- declare it.

Tell everyone.

One of the scariest things you can do is to admit your goals. What if you fail?

But saying your intentions out loud allows the universe and those around you to make them a reality.

Holding yourself accountable to what you really want won’t be easy, but it will force you to dig deep.

No one knows this better than my guest on today’s special episode of The School of Greatness. I’m sharing a speech from this year’s Summit of Greatness with an inspirational athlete and author: Amy Purdy.

Amy Purdy is a para-snowboarder, motivational speaker, clothing designer and New York Times bestselling author. She is a 2014 Paralympic bronze medalist, 2018 Paralympics silver medalist, and co-founder of Adaptive Action Sports. In 2013, She was named one of the top 15 most marketable para-athletes in the world by the International Olympic Committee.

Amy has competed on CBS’s The Amazing Race and ABC’s Dancing With The Stars, eventually becoming the show’s runner-up.

Amy used a tragedy that took her feet to push her to the next level. She teaches us to use obstacles not as a reason stop but as a springboard to new ideas.

So get ready to learn how to write your own story on Episode 743.


Some Questions Asked:

What message would you give to other disabled people? (10:26)

What’s next? (15:28)

How did you become such a great speaker? (17:34)

What do you do to stay motivated? (22:43)


In This Episode You Will Learn:

How to use what you have (11:57) 

How Amy is aware of her time (14:07)

Why it’s important to tell stories that make you feel vulnerable (19:00)

The power of intention (23:40)

And much more...


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Amy Purdy: How to Be Your Best Self

Jean Case is a tech industry pioneer. Besides her role as CEO of The Case Foundation, which she co-founded with her husband Steve, she’s also chairman of the board of trustees for the National Geographic Society -- and, of course, a former AOL executive. Her new book on success and risk-taking, Be Fearless, covers five principles common to people and organizations that change the world. In this episode, Case talks pitch tips, data privacy and how to gauge whether your idea can go the distance.

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