In this episode, I share a powerful story from a recent two-day training course where I worked with a client on one key area that changed everything for him—his incentives. Once we adjusted what was driving his actions, his dating results transformed almost overnight. Listen to this episode if you want to understand how shifting your internal motivations can dramatically improve your dating success.

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#503 - Change Your Incentives To Change Your Dating Results

In this episode, I reveal the silent trap that catches many high-achieving men: believing that their success, title, or reputation automatically make them attractive to women. In business, status earns respect. In dating, it often builds distance.

I break down how status-driven communication — talking about achievements, leading with your résumé, or expecting admiration — disconnects you from the feminine. I explain why presence, curiosity, and emotional grounding create far stronger attraction than any professional success ever could.

You’ll discover:

Why the traits that build success at work often kill chemistry with women

The hidden arrogance behind status-based communication

How to shift from leading with achievement to leading with authenticity

The mindset that makes even powerful men magnetic, not intimidating

If you’ve ever wondered why you can close deals but struggle to create real connection, this episode will show you how to escape The Status Trap.

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#504 - The Status Trap: Why Successful Men Struggle With Women

If you are trying to fix everything on the outside, like your clothes, routines, messages, or appearance, but you still feel stuck, it is because real change never starts there. True transformation begins when you turn your attention inward. What are you really struggling with? What fears are still holding you back? Until you face and release those inner blocks, no external strategy will make a lasting difference. Once you work through those fears and raise your internal frequency, everything in your dating life starts to shift naturally. You stop chasing results and start attracting them.

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#505 - Change Your Frequency, Change Your Dating Results

In this episode, I explore how most men unknowingly trap themselves within invisible walls in their dating lives. These limits often come from fear, rejection, past experiences, and the influence of others. They quietly shape what you believe is possible, who you approach, and how confident you feel.

Breaking your dating limits goes far beyond becoming more confident with women. It is about expanding how you see yourself and the impact you can have in the world. When you rise above those limits, your goals grow bigger, your sense of purpose deepens, and you feel more grounded and secure.

Listen as I help you uncover the limits that hold you back, break through them, and build a dating life that reflects your full potential.

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#506 - Break Your Dating Limits Before They Break You

Women are not attracted to words alone. They are attracted to what your words reveal about you.
From an evolutionary perspective, attraction is guided by what Geoffrey Miller calls fitness indicators in his book The Mating Mind.

These are traits that show intelligence, vitality, leadership, humour, courage, and creativity.
When you display them naturally through conversation, women instinctively feel attraction without you needing to prove anything.

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#507 - How to Demonstrate Real-World Attraction through Conversation

In this episode, I explore the truth behind how men communicate in dating. Most men think confidence is about control, but what they really seek is safety. I expose the hidden cost of silence, politeness, and pretending to be fine, showing how these habits quietly destroy connection. Through real examples and honest reflection, I explain how to move from surface-level charm to genuine presence. You will learn how to speak with honesty, vulnerability, and intent so that women feel the truth behind your words. This episode is about finding your voice, telling the truth, and creating real connection.

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#508 - They call it confidence, but what they really mean is safety

In this episode, I explore the truth about the poverty mentality in your dating life and how it quietly keeps you single. I explain why believing you have limited options with women creates insecurity, fear, and scarcity in every interaction. You will learn how to shift into an abundance mindset, build genuine confidence, and develop the courage to meet more women in your everyday life. This is how you create real choice, real connection, and a dating life that grows instead of shrinks.

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#509 - The Poverty Mentality In Dating

In this episode, I speak about our torn nature of speaking to attractive women. I go a level deeper into how to balance your thoughts so you are less affected by a woman's beauty. I then explain a simple thought-experiment that you can use to remain mentally calm and stoic. 

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#510 - The Hot Girl At The Gym

In this episode, I speak about the primary and secondary pain in dating. It is a concept that I have taken from Buddhism that helps explain why reacting to situations creates more pain and disturbances in our lives. It covers why we are drawn to sensory pleasure when we are not comfortable being unconfutable. 

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#511 - Primary and Secondary Dating Pain

My name is Gary Gunn, and in this podcast, I will save you thousands of hours of pain, frustration and isolation in your dating life.

I will give you tried and tested dating advice that will make you a more confident, more attractive and a more desired man. 

I will show you how to transform your dating life, one podcast episode at a time, and more importantly, have some fun on your journey.

#503 - Change Your Incentives To Change Your Dating Results

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