#LegallyClueless Ep104

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The song of the week is B.S by Jhene Aiko & H.E.R: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tXZ_B8Amy00

On #100AfricanStories Nicole takes us through her post-breakup introspection. She shares about a significant relationship and how she negatively contributed to it.

Ep104 - Break-Ups, Red Flags & Trying To Be More Like His Female Friends

Trigger Warning: This episode references suicide.

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The song of the week is HELLO by Erylah Badu & Andre3000: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KXGqHYNTNHU

On #100AfricanStories Michael shares his journey of going to uni in South Africa, going through a dark phase that saw him try to take his life, coming back home and building his brilliant business around triathlons.

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Ep110 - Coming Back Home After Trying To Take My Life &  Building A Triathlon Business

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The songs of the week are: 

Breathe by India Arie: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uM4zzIIlibw 

Palea by Dobet Gnahore: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r-1Vug4jQcY 

On #100AfricanStories Joseph shares about unemployment, looking for a job for 15 months, then setting up a barbershop. He also shares about how TechnoServe helped him navigate the pandemic. 

TechnoServe is an org that fights poverty by helping people build regenerative farms, businesses and markets that increase incomes.

They could be a great resource if you are a small business owner so check them out here: https://www.technoserve.org/

Ep143 - 15 Months Unemployed & A Haircut In A Pandemic

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The song of the week is The King's Affirmation by Iniko:
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On #100AfricanStories Michael shares about his childhood and how it contributed to his social anxiety.

Ep170 - A Cacao Ceremony & Social Anxiety

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The song of the week is VAPORIZA - JIDENNA: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Ob3Y54o04Y 

On #100AfricanStories Shiko Nguru shares her story of moving back to kenya after 10 years in the states and finally achieving her childhood dream of becoming an author! 

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Ep180 - I Moved Back To Kenya & Wrote A Book!

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The song of the week is "As It Was (cover)" by Prep: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fn4JAuCfHQA 

Here's an article with tips on fighting your fears: https://www.nhsinform.scot/healthy-living/mental-wellbeing/fears-and-phobias/10-ways-to-fight-your-fears

Ep202 - The Fear Episode

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The song of the week is Famous - Parcels: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WBf7f2hQcLk 

On #100AfricanStories Medrick shares his story of a Generalized Anxiety Disorder diagnosis during the pandemic

Ep204 - Gasping For Air During The Pandemic

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The song of the week is Strength, Courage And Wisdom by India Arie: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u6P4jI8t-0I 

On #100AfricanStories Swirry shares stories & insights on childhood trauma, love & fear

Ep205 - An Episode That’s Good For Your Soul PART 1

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The song of the week is Tokea by Ethan Muziki ft Brandy Maina: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5HS86tiD_jU  

On #100AfricanStories Esther Kazungu shares her journey to becoming one of Kenya's top digital activists, comedians.

Ep207 - This Last Born's Chronicles PART 1

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The song of the week is ZANGE - BONGEZIWE: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o5H6gNuMQqA 

On #100AfricanStories Noella shares her story of traveling to the states to study and ending up admitted in a psych ward and diagnosed with unspecified bipolar disorder. She turned her story into a powerful film.

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Ep216 - Something’s Eating My Mind PART 1

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The song of the week is JERICHO - INIKO:
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On #100AfricanStories Noella shares her story of traveling to the states to study and ending up admitted in a psych ward and diagnosed with unspecified bipolar disorder. She turned her story into a powerful film.

Watch the film here: www.youtube.com/watch?v=klDKf2tUMX8

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The resource: whatseatingmymind.com

Ep217 - Something’s Eating My Mind PART 2

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The song of the week is ZANZIBAR - KAMALIZA: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4-aVY9nzfdk 

On #100AfricanStories Esther shares her journey in motherhood and facing her number one fear when it came to her kids.

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Ep229 - Do You Realise Your Child Has Cancer PART 1

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The song of the week is: Dance Or Die by Janelle Monae ft Saul Williams: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9dyxNx5NEPU 

On #100AfricanStories Ian shares his story of being a child star, fame & becoming a monk.

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Ep231 - Becoming A Monk Part 1

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Ep252 - So You Want Better Boundaries With Your Family?

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In this episode, Adelle Onyango, unpacks what it truly means to decenter men. She reflects on how this journey began in the quiet spaces of therapy and not with a bold Instagram caption and how she continues unlearning societal conditioning that told her she needed to be chosen to be worthy.

If you’ve ever caught yourself performing for approval, living for someone else’s gaze, or shrinking your voice to fit in, this episode is your reminder: you were never meant to be someone’s accessory, you were meant to be whole.

She also shares practical steps to begin your own decentering journey and the simple but radical ways she's reclaiming herself, from trusting her intuition to laughing without apology.

Tap in and share this with another woman who is choosing herself.

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The Radical Act of Decentering Men | Mid Week Tease

This week on Legally Clueless, we step into Part 1 of Audrey June’s story. She takes us back to her childhood in Migori County, the joy, the bond with her siblings, the love in her family, and then the cracks that began to appear. From her parents’ separation, to the loneliness she felt as a child, and the strength she witnessed in her mother as she fought to rebuild their lives. Part 2 of her story, where joy and unimaginable heartbreak collide, will be out next week.

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The Day My Childhood Shattered | Legally Clueless Ep 342

When Grief Silences Siblings 

In Part 1 of Audrey’s story, she took us back to her childhood in Migori County, the joy, the cracks in her parents’ marriage, and the loneliness of family separation. In this second part, Audrey shares the unimaginable: the sudden loss of her beloved brother Warren. She opens up about the chaos that followed, the unanswered questions surrounding his death, and the invisible grief siblings often carry when families and communities focus only on the parents. This part of her story is raw, painful, and a reminder of how layered grief can be, and how important it is to honor every voice touched by loss.

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The Day My Childhood Shattered PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 343

Over the past two episodes, we’ve journeyed with Audrey through her childhood and the unimaginable loss of her beloved brother, Warren. In this final part of her story, Audrey shares how she navigated life after loss, the painful burial, the anger she felt at faith, and her long journey of slowly facing the places and memories she had been avoiding.

She also reflects on how unexpected moments, like her mother’s later pregnancies, brought new light into their family’s story. This episode is a powerful reminder that grief isn’t linear, and healing often comes in pieces, sometimes in the most surprising ways.
📌 This is Part 3, the final part of Audrey’s story.
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How trauma shows up in adulthood
How it shapes our relationships and bonds
How to begin healing your inner child
🗓️ Dates: October 11, November 8, December 6
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The Day My Childhood Shattered PART 3 | Legally Clueless Ep 344

In this episode, we document Brenda's path toward a childfree life, from a lively Meru childhood and firstborn duty to the moment, at seven years old, when she first questioned whether motherhood should be her destiny. Through community, Catholic-school conditioning, and a deep love of words, she begins naming a life that’s hers by choice. In this episode you’ll hear:
Meru roots: muddy play, tea farms, and a massive, close-knit community
Firstborn duty vs. being allowed to be a child
Early conditioning around womanhood/motherhood and the first “no”
Reading as refuge and rebellion
Body literacy at home vs. school expectations

You're invited to our upcoming 3-part group therapy!
We’ll explore: Signs you may be carrying childhood wounds, how it shows up in adulthood, trauma responses & coping mechanisms, trauma bonds, healing your inner child, and more.
Facilitators: Psychologists Symon Murage, Margaret Wachira, Catherine Njoroge
Dates (Saturdays): Oct 11, Nov 8, Dec 6
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Unlearning “You Must Be a Mother” PART 1 | Legally Clueless Ep345

Social media has become part of our daily lives but it’s also quietly changing us. The endless scroll, the outrage-driven posts, the comparison traps… all of it can keep us in survival mode: tense, reactive, judgmental, and even less empathetic. In this episode of Mid-Week Tease, Adelle unpacks what survival mode actually feels like, the racing heart, the late-night doom-scroll, the sense of always being “behind” and explains how algorithms profit from keeping us there. But it’s not all bad news. You’ll also learn practical ways to use social media without losing your humanity: from pausing before reacting to creating no-scroll zones and practicing digital sabbaths.

If you’ve ever wondered why scrolling leaves you more drained than inspired, this episode is for you. Resources Mentioned:
Brady et al. (2017, PNAS): Outrage spreads faster online.
Kramer et al. (2014, PNAS): Emotional contagion in social networks.
Suler (2004): Online disinhibition effect.
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Surviving the Scroll & Staying Human | Mid Week Tease

This week, The Mid Week Tease features Susan Wanjiku, financial educator and founder of The Legacy Hub KE and She-E-O Africa. In this part 1 of our conversation, Susan opens up about her journey from employment to entrepreneurship and the financial shock that came with losing a steady paycheck. She shares real, relatable lessons on:

Managing irregular income without panic
The mindset shifts that turn creatives into business owners
Tracking your money (and why even Ksh 100 matters)
Building systems that make your finances work for you
Separating business and personal money to regain control

🎟️ Don’t miss the upcoming LCA Wellness Talk:
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So You Have Irregular Income? | Mid Week Tease

In part one of Steve Ataru’s story, we journey through Nairobi childhoods, the pressure of “golden opportunities,” and the courage it takes to start over. The moment that anchors this episode is raw and unforgettable: Steve’s newborn, Zayn, suddenly needs surgery and his wife’s intuition is the compass that saves precious time. This is a story about choosing alignment over approval, and learning to trust the wisdom right beside you. In this episode, you’ll hear:

Growing up across Eastlands, Juja, and Lang’ata, and how environments shape resilience.
Leaving a partial scholarship in Russia to return home and begin again.
Surviving the in-between: hustling, odd jobs, and rebuilding identity through creativity.
Dating, intention, and choosing partnership on purpose.
A mother’s intuition: the Sunday morning crisis that led to Zayn’s surgery, and how it changed Steve’s outlook on partnership and parenting.

Upcoming Wellness Talk: Saturday October 25
We’re hosting a special session with Susan Wanjiku (The Legacy Hub, SHE-E-O):
Smart Money Strategies for Entrepreneurs & Freelancers.
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Building financial systems that support calm (not chaos)
Mindset shifts to repair your money relationship
Practical tools for irregular income, paying yourself, and planning rest
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Trusting Her Intuition: When Zayn Needed Surgery | Legally Clueless Ep 348

Journalist and writer Kui Mwai joins Adelle for an unfiltered, deeply relatable conversation on adult friendships: why they end, how they evolve, and what it means to outgrow people you still love.
In this episode, they unpack:

✨ Why Kui revisited four former friendships for her viral Vogue article
✨ What really happens during friendship fallouts, guilt, anxiety, disappointment
✨ Why adult friendship feels so different from school-era connection
✨ The loneliness and emotional risk of solitude
✨ Navigating boundaries in a culture that isn’t always taught them
✨ The pain of friendships that “fizzle” with no explanation
✨ How to rebuild connection without losing yourself
✨ Why friendship seasons are normal and nothing is wrong with you

Kui also opens up about her writing journey, her upcoming novel, and what solitude taught her about inner strength. If you’ve ever questioned your friendships or felt guilty for choosing yourself, this episode will feel like a warm exhale.

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Why Friendships End: Kui Mwai on Boundaries, Loneliness & the Truth About Adult Connections | For Mannerless Women

In this episode of Legally Clueless, Adelle shares Part 2 of Gachambi’s powerful and deeply honest story, a testimony of resilience through toxic workplaces, repeated exam failures, sexual harassment in the legal world, and the long, winding road toward becoming an advocate of the High Court of Kenya. After passing only four out of nine bar exams, Gachambi faced disappointment, self-doubt, and the pressure to keep going when giving up felt easier.

She takes us through the emotional weight of resitting exams over two years, the inner dialogue of remembering “the smart girl she once was,” and the moment she finally passed her final papers in 2023. But her academic journey was only part of the story.

In this episode she also opens up about:
• Surviving toxic legal workplaces that drained her mentally and physically
• Sexual harassment from seniors in the profession — and the silence surrounding it
• Being fired just weeks before her admission to the bar
• Navigating unemployment, anxiety, and the pressure to “have it all figured out”
• Rediscovering her purpose through humanitarian law and volunteering
• The role faith plays in her rebuilding

This episode is a raw reflection on what it means to survive workplaces that weren’t built to protect you, how failure can become a teacher, and how purpose sometimes reveals itself in the ashes of what fell apart. If you’re in a season of career confusion, burnout, or feeling unseen in your workplace, this story will hold you gently.

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My Journey Through Grief, Bullying & Becoming PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 354

As the year comes to a close, the pressure to reinvent ourselves starts to rise. “New year, new me” culture tells us we must transform, overhaul our habits, set 20 resolutions, and show up in January as a completely new woman. But what if you don’t have to? In this Mid Week Tease episode, Adelle Onyango offers a soothing, truth-filled conversation about stepping into the new year gently, without burnout, shame, or the pressure to rebuild yourself from scratch. We explore:

Why January reinvention culture creates unnecessary pressure
How the self-improvement industry profits from women feeling “not enough”
What gentler, more realistic growth models look like
Why healing and change don’t follow calendar timelines
How to honour the version of you that carried you through this year
Soft, sustainable shifts you can embrace instead of drastic reinventions

This episode is for anyone feeling exhausted, uncertain, reflective, or overwhelmed by “new year expectations.” You deserve a beginning that feels kind, not punishing. 

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You Don’t Need a New You in January: A Kinder Way to Start the Year | Mid Week Tease

In this fearless and deeply educational episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Dr. Kristina Sule, one of only two cosmetic gynecologists in Kenya, for a groundbreaking conversation on vaginal health, vulva education, harmful practices, and what intimate wellness truly means for women at every age.

Together, they unpack topics we were never taught, including:
The difference between the vulva and the vagina
How millions of nerves make the clitoris one of the most sensitive organs in the body
Why the vagina is a self-cleansing organ
What’s actually “normal” when it comes to vulva appearance

Harmful Practices & Dangerous Myths Dr. Sule breaks down the real risks behind:
Vaginal steaming
“Vajacials”
Yoni pearls, oils, sweets & inserts
DIY lightening creams
… and how some contain substances potent enough to cause vaginal cancer.

Safe Alternatives & The Science of Cosmetic Gynecology We explore medically sound options for:
Tightness
Lubrication
Dryness after childbirth or menopause
Aesthetic concerns
Intimate wellness across life stages (including her clients in their 80s!)

What Intimate Wellness Really Means “It’s when your intimate life is pain-free, comfortable, confident, and enjoyable — not mechanical.”

This episode empowers women to:
Understand their anatomy
Seek help safely
Let go of shame
Exercise agency over their bodies
Know what to look for when choosing a licensed provider
You deserve the absolute best reproductive and intimate health.

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The Truth About Vaginas: Dr. Sule Breaks Down Myths, Safety & Intimate Wellness | For Mannerless Women

In this final episode of Gachambi’s three-part story on Legally Clueless, we sit with the quiet, life-altering chapters that come after survival, grief, sobriety, faith, and the ongoing work of becoming. After being admitted to the bar in November 2023, Gachambi reflects on navigating unemployment, rebuilding her legal career at her own pace, and confronting the reality that being without work is often a systemic failure, not a personal one Gachambi 3. But the heart of this episode lies in the personal. She speaks openly about grief, losing her father, realising years later what “life without dad” truly means, and learning that grief does not have a timeline. Instead of trying to heal “correctly,” she chooses to honour her father by living fully and truthfully Gachambi 3.

Gachambi also shares her sobriety journey, quitting alcohol in 2022 after years of heavy drinking, alcohol-induced health issues, and emotional numbing. She reflects on the clarity, discipline, and emotional presence sobriety brought into her life, and why choosing to be sober became one of the most life-affirming decisions she’s ever made.

This episode is a powerful reminder that:
Grief doesn’t end, it changes shape
Sobriety is about choosing presence, not punishment
You’re allowed to reinvent yourself at your own pace
Your best version is still ahead of you
Faith, community, and self-honesty can carry you through seasons that feel unbearable
If you are grieving a loved one, rebuilding your life, questioning your relationship with alcohol, or learning how to live again after loss, this story will meet you gently.

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My Journey Through Grief, Bullying & Becoming PART 3 | Legally Clueless Ep 356

What happens when your growth starts to shift your relationships? In this episode of Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango explores the quiet, often painful realization that not everyone in your life knows how to sit with your light.

This episode unpacks how dimming yourself can show up subtly, why some relationships struggle when you expand, and how to let go without bitterness, blame, or drama. It’s a reminder that you don’t need to make yourself smaller to belong and that release can be an act of self-respect. In this episode, we explore:
Why personal growth can make some people uncomfortable
The subtle ways we dim our joy, confidence, and presence
How to recognize relationships that require self-erasure
Letting go without villainizing people you outgrow
Grieving relationships that can’t meet you where you are
Choosing yourself without guilt
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When Your Light Makes People Uncomfortable: How to Stop Dimming Yourself in Relationships | Mid Week Tease

What does it really take to build a sustainable fashion brand in Kenya, without overnight success, investor hype, or a perfect plan? In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with Zia Nyamari, fashion entrepreneur and founder & creative director of Zia Africa, for an honest conversation about building a business from the ground up, fear, faith, intuition and all.

Zia takes us back to her very first business idea at 10 years old (selling popcorn on the street), through years of importing clothes in suitcases, quitting employment, navigating family pressure, and eventually opening a flagship store at Village Market. She shares the behind-the-scenes realities of growth, the fear of dead stock, imposter syndrome, and why consistency matters more than speed. 

This episode is especially for women who are:
Thinking about starting a business
Growing slowly and wondering if they’re “behind”
Learning to trust their intuition alongside logic
Navigating fear, faith, and self-belief

In this episode, we talk about:
Starting a business with what you have
Why growth is rarely overnight
The fear of dead stock and financial risk
Quitting employment to bet on yourself
Consistency as a business strategy
Trusting intuition and feminine leadership
Sustainability and slow fashion
Affirmations, faith, and doing things afraid

ZIA’s reminder is simple but powerful:
“Believe in your idea so much it has no choice but to materialize.”

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@nandigirl_ on instagram
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@ziafrica on both IG & TikTok
website: www.ziaafrica.com.
Physical location: Village Market, New Wing, 1st floor.

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From Suitcase to Store: Zia on Building a Fashion Brand, Trusting Instinct & Doing It Afraid | For Mannerless Women

In Episode 357 of the Legally Clueless Podcast, Victoria shares part one of her powerful life story, growing up away from her mother, navigating multiple homes and boarding schools, and learning independence at a very young age.

From her childhood in Nyeri, Karatina, and Garissa to her school years and early adulthood, Victoria reflects on how emotional absence, instability, and silence shaped her sense of belonging and connection.

In this episode, we explore:
• Growing up separated from primary caregivers
• Childhood loneliness and emotional neglect
• Boarding school experiences at a young age
• How early instability shapes adult survival patterns
• The quiet ways trauma takes root

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Surviving An Abusive Relationship Part 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 357

As the year comes to a close, there’s often pressure to reflect, reframe, and rush into hope.
This final episode of Mid Week Tease offers something different: a pause. In this episode, Adelle invites you into a soft, honest moment of witnessing, not to extract lessons or tidy the year up neatly, but to honor what the year truly held. This is a conversation for anyone who feels emotionally tired, quietly proud of surviving, or unsure how to carry this year forward. 

In this episode, we explore:
When the year didn’t turn out the way you expected and why that doesn’t mean it failed
The invisible things you survived without recognition
Relationships you outgrew or quietly grieved
Releasing versions of yourself that could no longer keep up
Fatigue that comes from carrying too much, not from laziness

The episode closes with a gentle reflective ritual no homework, no fixing, just presence:
Three things you’re laying down
One thing you’re proud of surviving
One truth you’re carrying forward
This is not a wrap-up.
It’s a deep exhale. Listen when you need permission to pause before moving on.

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This Year Asked A Lot Of You: A Gentle Closing Before The New Year | Mid Week Tease

In episode 358 of the Legally Clueless Podcast, Victoria shares Part 2 of her story, a powerful journey of leaving an unsafe marriage, rebuilding life as a single mother, navigating fear and displacement, and eventually experiencing deep love and devastating loss. Picking up from childhood trauma and survival patterns explored in Part 1, this episode focuses on healing, agency, community support, and what it means to choose life after years of endurance. In this episode, we explore:
Leaving an unsafe marriage with children
Rebuilding life from scratch during COVID
Community support and dignity-centered help
Navigating co-parenting and safety fears
Finding love after trauma
Grief, loss, and continuing to live fully
Victoria’s story is a reminder that healing is not about perfection, it’s about persistence, courage, and choosing yourself again and again. Listen to Part 2 now.

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Surviving An Abusive Relationship Part 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 358

#LegallyClueless has been invited to 
an African country that I've always wanted 
to visit, this week, by the African Union and the 
United Nations! And it's all because of the 
many African voices we have on this podcast! 
Listen to the episode for more deets! 
I'm so happy and thankful to YOU for listening! 

On #100AfricanStories Maureen shares a story 
of the painful way she learnt that abuse isn't only 
physical and schools us on what GASLIGHTING really
is! I have a feeling you will love this story!

Ep32 - Gaslighting, Abuse & Toxic Advice

I have had an emotionally 
draining week and I was a bit 
confused as to why.....and then my period 
popped up. I feel like my anxiety gets worse 
just before my period. Let's unpack that this week.

Also on #100AfricanStories Kitt from Kenya 
shares conversations she's had to have with her 
5 & 2 year old and how to raise kids that know 
it's ok to cry and finding the balance of letting them 
talk back but not talk back - get it?
Check out her blog here: http://raisingkendi.com/

Remember send in your Christmas story demos to
+254768628790

Ep35 - Scared Of Becoming A Parent?

This week's episode is first about trying to tackle self doubt head-on which I must say is not for the faint-hearted phew! I made a few major decisions this week like deciding to let go of my management team so you will hear "solo dolo" in this episode about 100 times haha!

Secondly did you ever think, when going into university, that, that would be the place you find...a husband? Our storyteller this week shares her hope of finding love, societal pressure to be in a relationship and.....deciding to be celibate while in campus.

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Ep46 - Hoping To Find My Husband In Uni & Deciding To Be Celibate

Welcome to episode 62!

I speak about Imposter Syndrome in this episode because yo! I think I'm battling it - I have a therapy session in a week or so and I plan to bring it up then but until then what did I do? Read up about it! Here's the article I mention in this episode: https://www.themuse.com/advice/5-different-types-of-imposter-syndrome-and-5-ways-to-battle-each-one


This episode features Ghanaian musician M.anifest on #100AfricanStories sharing stories he has never shared before. They're entertaining and insightful too! Remember to check out his latest song here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DxW7MtxYHyM and he's super active on twitter here: https://twitter.com/manifestive and IG here: https://www.instagram.com/manifestive/

I have such a soft spot for Accra as I loved my short visit there last year. You can hear a snippet of that trip in episode 25 btw! I'm actually already planning my next trip there - next year!

Martha sent in Muthoni Drummer Queen's song POWER to be the song of the week! You can check it out here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GQUMbOn7EzI

Also here's the #LegallyClueless hotline: +254768628790. Send through your 1minute story demos on whatsapp and let's get you on an episode!

Ep62 - A 6 Year Old, A Guitar, A Stool & M.anifest's VIP Experience

This week has been intense right?
First there's still corona, then the brutality from police in multiple countries - including Kenya - which is something we've been battling with for a long time! Too long in fact! In this episode I speak about what your role could be and possibly how to use your voice.

Here's the African Uncensored documentary is called Burden Of Bullets: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F2Afe9X0eCE&list=PL8SSOIb3zzK947tFolZKdoAr37jfg7frz&index=2

Here's a petition to sign for one of the victims of police brutality in Kenya, Samuel Maina: http://chng.it/hNH6KVcC4W 

On a personal note I lost two people I know and it just had me feeling a certain way. But I did find a few things that made coping a lil easier including writing poetry: https://www.adelleonyango.com/poetry/freedom

Also music specifically by Mereba. The song by her I want you to check out is called Planet U: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F5QsPFI1B4k

On #100AfricanStories, Chimano shares a string of stories from his childhood where he used to feel like he didn't belong or fit in and how he found his voice but sometimes still fears the anxiety from people judging him. 

After you listen to this - please do one kind thing for someone you know, many people are hurting and don't know how to ask for help.

Ep64 - The Socially Awkward Boy Who Put Juice In Eggs, Found His Voice

#LegallyClueless Ep 78

First we have new tags - they sound so fresh! I've been wanting to change them for a while so I'm glad I finally did!

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The song of the week is by Janelle Monae it's called Dance Or Die check it out here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9dyxNx5NEPU

Here's my instagram & Facbook for the microphone giveaway:
https://www.facebook.com/adelleonyango/
https://www.instagram.com/adelleonyango/

Here's CDI Gadgets: https://www.instagram.com/cdi_gadgets/

On #100AfricanStories Olendo shares her series of three heartbreaks - one of which she found a woman in his house wearing his PJs! I love her thoughts on self-love though!

Ep78 - I Found Her In His House Wearing His PJs & A Midnight Gecko Bite

#LegallyClueless Ep 84

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The song of the week that honestly is really soothing me right now is MINT by Kamauu ft Talibah Safiya: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DLiijrWxYdU 

To get screening details about SOFTIE the film about Njeri and her family go here: https://www.instagram.com/softiethefilm/ please try and watch it!

Catch #LegallyClueless on Trace Radio every Monday, Wednesday & Friday at 9AM & 8PM - traceradio.co.ke

Ep84 - My Kids & I Had To Leave Our Country Because Of Death Threats

#LegallyClueless Ep103


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The song of the week is Thinking Bout You by Frank Ocean: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wGp92LanUAM


On #100AfricanStories Muthoni Gitau shares how the creative in her was birthed, how she discovered she loved DIY projects and how she can help transform your home!


Follow here here and do try and donate to her ongoing project "Here Comes Muthoni: https://msha.ke/muthonigitau/

Ep103 - A Fire, Safaricom Green & The Making Of Kenya's DIY Queen

Legally Clueless is a weekly podcast by Kenyan  media personality & social activist: Adelle Onyango!!

Here, she documents her raw human journey as an evolving unapologetically African woman. The podcast is a space where people get to know just how okay it is to not know or not have it all figured out. It is also a space where Africans share stories from their lives; stories that teach, make us cry, make us laugh - real, authentic African stories.

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