If you can’t get your S*it together, it might be because you are negotiating way to much in your life. Giving in, letting things be OK instead of great, not standing up for yourself or your values. And then you want to cry, cry, cry and ask, “Why can’t I get my S*it together?” Because you have taken stock and enlisted your non-negotiable list. So listen up and do it today. Learn how on this episode and then go read the blog post for further help.

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302: Uncloseted Riff and Rant - Non-Negotiables S*it List

Imagine being a boy forced to attend school dressed in a girls’ uniform. Imagine being a girl banned from the girls’ bathroom and too afraid to “go” in a stall surrounded by boys. Imagine being asked, again and again, by other kids, “Are you a boy or a girl?” Imagine having your deepest sense of self refuted by adults in authority. Imagine the routine stress of being a transgender kid.

Unfortunately, this is the world we live in. The political climate and social constructs are being tested more than ever around sexuality and gender identity, and it seems that transgender youth are caught in the crosshairs with a target on their back. And, if you are a parent of one of these gender non-conforming individuals, your struggles are just as great as theirs. The how do you dance the dance, juggle your emotions and feelings as well as your child’s, in order to create a supportive and loving environment for them to be who they are in the world?

Joining us today is Ann Travers, author of THE TRANS GENERATION: How Trans Kids (and Their Parents) Are Creating a Gender Revolution. In this riveting exploration, Ann offers rare insights into the everyday facts of life for a trans boy, a trans girl, or a gender fluid child in a world of rigid gender divisions and expectations.

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303: Coming Out To Create a Gender Revolution – Ann Travers

We’ve talked about 7 ways to get your sh*t together. But this one is a true winner. It’s going to require that you look to your past, but don’t get caught up in the crap of the past. It’s about looking back when something has gone right, when you felt that pull to do something that gave you the warm fuzzies and you just knew this was the thing you were meant to do. Now you’re going to learn to use that instinct and intuition get you out of your sh*t storm of live.

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Gosh I’m a fraud. I don’t want anyone to know I don’t know it all? And, I sure the heck don’t want to screw up in front of my friends. I just don’t get how everyone else has such a perfect life except me? Sound familiar? Of course it does because you are human and we humans think everything has to be perfect. But here’s a little insight. Those kind of thougths are toxic and really don’t do you any goo.

Here is the great news, you are not alone. Almost everyone at some time in their life feels that they are the only ones not holding up their end of the bargain and an imposter in their own life. And the higher the stakes, the closer you are moving towards your dream life, the more likely these thoughts will appear. But there’s hope for you and the rest of humanity.

Back for a repeat visit is my dear friend Petra Kolber. Author of her new book The Perfection Detox: Tame Your Inner Critic, Live Bravely and Unleash Your Joy!, Petra will help us see how we can never make a bold move, live life on our terms, or discover the joy of a life (un)closeted, until we tell perfection were to go!

305: Boldly Stepping Beyond Toxic Perfectionism – Petra Kolber

Honestly, none of likes having sh*t happening in our lives. It’s stressful, frustrating, annoying and most of all isn’t fun. However, when we realize that sh*t happens so that shift can happen, then it becomes a lot easier to contend with the sh*t of life. So here’s a short lesson in allowing the sh*t of life to help us make the shifts in life to be more present and alive.

306: Uncloseted Riff and Rant - Let Sh*t Happen So Shift Can Happen

Have you ever wished you could find a place to learn, grow, let go, connect and enjoy absolute bliss and ecstatic pleasure? Sounds great doesn’t it! But then you find yourself stopping yourself, or someone else stopping you all because it might be taboo, wrong, or scary. Scary to let yourself be yourself. Scary to realize, that maybe this is what your spiritual self is all about. Or maybe, this is what your sexual self is all about. If so, then let’s go explore. Explore in a safe way that makes you realize spirituality, sex, sexuality, and being human are all part of you… the real you.

Today I’m joined by Lance Navarro, a guy who considers himself a sacred whore and “Daddy Next Door.” I’m just going to let that description set there  and let you discover where we’re about to go on today’s podcast. As you might can tell, we are uncloseting some taboo’s today that just might make you uncomfortable, or glad you came to listen so that you could learn to let go!

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Episode 307: Uncloseting Spirituality & The Business of Sex – Lance Navarro

I know some of you are probably going to balk at this. Go ahead. Balk, balk, balk. But the truth is, most sh*t in life is short-lived and self-created. Think about it. When stuff happens, how of it was because of something you did, or allowed yourself to blow out of proportion, and then when it was all said and done, in the grand scheme of life, it really wasn’t all that bad. That’s what we’re exploring on this episode. The short-lived and self-created sh*t of life.

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308: Uncloseted Riff and Rant - Sh*t is Short-Lived and Self-Created

This is one of those, I knew him when moments. I knew him when he was trying to find himself. I knew him when he helped me with my social media. I knew him when he was in dark times. I knew him when I saw him come blazing out of his closet to do some insane shit. And now I know him as an artist who is bringing his street smarts, cool take on graffiti, and turning himself into a force to be reckoned with on the art scene.

Blake Jamieson is a friend, soulful man, deep thinker, proud uncle, and a guy who never stops uncloseting himself so that he can make the big bold moves he needs to make in his life to live life on his terms. His paintings take your breath away and make you think – “How does he do that?” And that’s exactly what we will explore today with the art of Blake Jamieson!

Episode 309: Uncloseting the Artist Within – Blake Jamieson

If you haven’t heard, the Catholic Church is having some problems. Overtly sexual indiscretion problems. Hey it happens. But it shouldn’t. This really isn’t new, news with the church, but what took me and others aback was the Catholic Leagues Presidents’ – Bill Donohue – to the Grand Jury finding of abuse of in Pennsylvania. His flippant response stating “It wasn’t really abuse as most the victims didn’t experience penetration,” shows that white male privilege and male sexual masculinity are still a problem…no surprise. And I’m here to say that no penetration does matter and this bullshit has to stop.

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