Beware, when you become the narcissist's worst nightmare come true, and you begin to see what they don't want you to see. Narcissists rely on others for narcissistic supply.  By manipulating the emotions, and perceptions of others, a narcissist can maintain dominance and control. Without feeling a sense of superiority over others, a narcissist experiences a sense of vulnerability that causes them to react poorly. Narcissists fear rejection because they have an inflated sense of self-importance and believe they are entitled to admiration and adoration from others. When someone rejects a narcissist, it challenges their sense of superiority and can cause them to feel inadequate or inferior. Additionally, rejection can be seen as a threat to their ego, which they will go to great lengths to protect. Narcissists may also fear rejection because it could expose their vulnerabilities and flaws, which they try to keep hidden from others. &nbsp; Are you ready to set boundaries like a boss? If so, Lisa A. Romano has created a one hour mp3 and a downloadable Boundary Building Workbook that you can access here;

Discovering the Truth: A Narcissist's Worst Nightmare Come True/Unveiling the Mask

Whether you are the adult child of an alcoholic, or emotionally immature or neglectful parents raised you, it is important to contemplate the effects of such a childhood. Do you worry more about what other people think about you than what you think about yourself? Were you raised to feel as if your emotions were insignificant? Was your home unpredictable, and did you feel like at any moment, your house could explode? In this episode, Lisa A. Romano, a world-renowned mental wellness expert, dives deep into some of the not so obvious effects of growing up in an alcoholic, toxic family system. The good news is, there is a way to heal and to break through the damaging effects growing up in a dysfunctional home creates. The first step is coming out of denial.&nbsp; Lisa's been there and paved the way for those willing to live above the veil of consciousness, challenging their faulty negative childhood programming.&nbsp; Begin your journey with Lisa's 12 Week Recovery Program today.   &nbsp; &nbsp;

What Are The Emotional Effects of Growing up With Alcoholic Parents

Codependency is a deeply ingrained pattern of behavior that can be challenging to confront and overcome. It stems from a dysfunctional relationship dynamic where one person enables and relies on another to meet their emotional and psychological needs. As a result, the codependent individual often loses touch with their identity, desires, and boundaries. Confronting codependency can be difficult for several reasons. Firstly, it often arises from childhood experiences and learned behaviors, making it a deeply rooted pattern that feels familiar and comfortable, even if it is unhealthy. Confronting codependency means facing these deeply ingrained beliefs and behaviors, which can be unsettling and uncomfortable. Furthermore, codependency often involves a fear of abandonment or rejection. The codependent individual may have developed a strong sense of responsibility for others' emotions and well-being, fearing that if they assert their own needs or boundaries, they will be met with rejection or abandonment. This fear can make it incredibly challenging to confront codependency, as it requires stepping out of the caretaker role and prioritizing one's own well-being. However, it is important to remember that confronting codependency is an essential step toward reclaiming your own autonomy, self-worth, and emotional well-being. It requires a willingness to explore and challenge deep-seated beliefs. You can learn how to expand your awareness, and become more honest with yourself, although this is incredibly challenging for someone who fears abandonment, criticism, and rocking the boat.&nbsp; If you are ready to breakthrough codependency, here is a link to a FREE 10 Day Challenge! https://www.lisaaromano.com/10-day-challenge

Codependency Recovery: What Every People Pleaser Needs to Know

Welcome to our empowering journey with a remarkable woman who, at 75 years young, embraces healing and self-love after enduring a lifetime of childhood trauma. In this podcast episode, you'll meet Ellen], a courageous soul who has embarked on a transformative path of recovery. Ellen is the adult daughter of a narcissistic mother who has felt emotionally arrested due to childhood trauma and codependency. Ellen often felt invisible, alone, and like she could never be her true self. When she found Lisa's work, she decided to work with her during a live launch of  The 12-Week Breakthrough Coaching Program. She is learning about sefl love at 75, healing from childhood trauma, the covert narcissist mother, finding inner strength, resilience, and recovery, and embarking on a self-healing journey that is leading toward her inspirational life transformation.  Join us as we delve into Ellen's courageous journey of overcoming the deep scars left by her covert narcissist mother and how she found strength, resilience, and ultimately self-love in her later years. Her story is a testament to the human spirit's ability to heal, grow, and thrive. If you or someone you know has experienced childhood trauma or seeks inspiration to embark on a journey of self-discovery, listen to the whole episode now! &nbsp; To work with Lisa one to one, or to participate in one of her transformational online courses, visit: &nbsp;

Learning to Love Yourself Again After Narcissistic Abuse: Healing Childhood Trauma

In this episode, Lisa A. Romano delves into the profound journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Lisa delves into the essence of what it means to be human: the pursuit of integration. As human beings, we strive to bridge the gap between our past experiences and our current reality. We yearn to comprehend the intricacies of our thoughts, words, behaviors, and emotions - to decipher why we do what we do, say what we say, and act the way we act. Lisa A. Romano encourages us to embark on a voyage of self-inquiry, urging us to question the very essence of our existence. Why do we resonate with certain thoughts and emotions? Why do we attract certain situations into our 3-D reality, even when we consciously wish for something different? These profound questions lead us to a deeper understanding of ourselves and our place in the world. Lisa extends an invitation to pause and reflect on our own lives. She challenges us to explore the root causes of the patterns that continue to manifest in our reality, especially when they are not aligned with our desires. By asking these critical questions, we can begin to unravel the mysteries of our existence and make conscious choices that lead us toward a more fulfilling and purpose-driven life. So, if you've ever found yourself pondering the intricacies of your thoughts, actions, and the world around you, this episode is for you. To work with Lisa one to one, or to participate in one of her transformational online courses, visit: &nbsp;

Why Do You Keep Doing What You Don't Want to Do? Mastering Your Consciousness in the Nonphysical

Are you the adult child of trauma, who has grown up confused, feeling not good enough, and full of confusion over why life has become so complicated? Was your mother or father an alcoholic, narcissist, emotionally immature, and were you forced to figure out life on your own due to emotional neglect? Those of us who find ourselves listening to self-help podcasts, seeking therapy, and are drawn to spiritually healing information are often adults who have grown up feeling unworthy due to unhealed wounds from childhood.&nbsp; In this episode, you will hear Lisa A. Romano, who is best known for her remarkable work in the field of codependency and narcissistic abuse recovery, help those who have called into her webinar understand themselves from a higher perspective. Lisa is also well known for her understanding of consciousness as it relates to childhood trauma, subconscious programming, and living below the veil of consciousness. So, if you are ready to understand how to heal your wounded self through living a compassion based and conscious life, this episode is for you. Join Lisa's and her Breakthrough Healing Warriors inside her private membership. Learn more here: https://www.lisaaromano.com/bwm

Adult Children of Trauma: Healing the Wounded Self

Healing Narcissistic Abuse Through Mindfulness

Are you struggling to let go of the past and to forgive yourself? In this episode, Lisa A. Romano reveals practical steps that will help you learn how to forgive yourself for being human, so you can let go and move forward in your life. Forgiving oneself is a profound act of self-compassion and personal liberation. It involves acknowledging and releasing the burden of past mistakes and understanding that imperfection is inherent to the human experience. By granting oneself forgiveness, one opens the door to healing, self-love, and personal growth. It is a transformative journey that requires embracing vulnerability, letting go of self-judgment, and allowing room for self-acceptance. In this process, individuals cultivate resilience, learn from their experiences, and nurture a more compassionate relationship with themselves. Ultimately, forgiving oneself is an empowering choice that paves the way for inner peace and a renewed sense of self-worth. Lisa offers incredible insight and tools to help you learn to forgive yourself so you can move forward in your life.&nbsp; To work with Lisa privately or in a group coaching setting, visit: &nbsp;

Forgive Yourself For Past Mistakes

Women who love men they can't have are those who attract and are attracted to emotionally unavailable men. Emotionally unavailable men, spouses and boyfriends often mirror the relationships women have had with the male role models in their lives. In some cases, women who have suffered emotional neglect of a mother can also find themselves settling for emotionally unavailable partners. Women who lack a healthy sense of self, and who have been conditioned to feel as if they need to prove themselves worthy of love, generally do not attract high quality men. We are women who settle for breadcrumbs, beg for approval, are often codependent and emotionally dependent.&nbsp; The good news is, Lisa A. Romano has found a way to breakthrough the cognitive distortions, subconscious programs, and habitual thought processes that keep women seeking the love of men they can't have.&nbsp; Ready to take a 90 day deep dive into healing from the patterns and programs that keep so many women seeking the love of those they can't have? If so, click this link to learn more about Lisa's highly successful 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program&nbsp; &nbsp; This class starts soon! Participate from anywhere in the world. Follow along on Facebook and join the live Q&amp;A sessions with Lisa herself, as your coach and mentor.&nbsp;

Loving Emotionally Unavailable Men

Loving a love-avoidant person can be frustrating, but so can be wondering if you are dealing with a covert narcissist in disguise. In this episode, relationship coach and codependency narcissistic abuse expert Lisa A. Romano, the Breakthrough Life Coach, unveils how to tell the difference between a love-avoidant and a covert narcissist. She explains the power of being able to intelligently and clearly identify the key differences so that you can determine what steps to take next in your relationships. Want to know how to avoid getting stuck in relationship dynamics? Learning to use emotional intelligence to your advantage, while healing from the subconscious wounds that were created in childhood offers you the greatest ability to living an empowered life.&nbsp; Ready to get unstuck and gain the emotional, mental, cognitive and spiritual skills you need to live a life of peace, clarity, and confidence? Then, join the thousands who have transformed their lives with Lisa A. Romano's most popular healing and training program, The 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program. Lisa offers this class live once a year, so be sure to join before time runs out. &nbsp;

Love Avoidant or Covert Narcissist in Disguise?

Narcissistic friends enjoy pushing you around, minimizing you, and embarrassing you in the name of a joke. By suggesting their antagonistic communication is a form of play, they covertly incapacitate your ability to push back rightfully.&nbsp; In this episode, Lisa A. Romano, Breakthrough Life Coach, an expert in the field of codependency recovery and narcissistic abuse, explains the best way to confront a narcissistic friend. Learn about the psychological strategies that will help boost your confidence on how to push a passive-aggressive, narcissistic, and demeaning so-called friend back. Lisa will help you gain the clarity and the strength to hold your ground as you break the patterns that often cause us to be targets of narcissists at the level of the subconscious. Ready to breakthrough and to heal the subconscious energies, patterns, conditioning and programming that keeps so many humans living and reacting from below the veil of consciousness? If so, join Lisa's online subconscious healing and retraining program and put an end to feeling stuck, reactive, and not good enough!&nbsp; &nbsp;

Narcissistic Friends: #1 Best Way to Confront Them

Shadow work refers to the journey one takes to make that which is subconscious conscious, so to discover the lost facets of the self for the purpose of a more integrated sense of self and being-ness. In this episode, Breakthrough Life Coach Lisa A. Romano, author of the bestselling books The Road Back to Me, (2012) and the award-winning Codependency Manifesto and Codependent Now What? It's Not You, It's Your Programming delves into the specific shadow work necessary for a codependent people-pleaser.&nbsp; Lisa points out that shadow work is the most profound self-discovery journey anyone can take. It should not be viewed as woo-woo or pseudo-psychology but instead, as an opportunity to more fully integrate the not-so-likable and very likable yet denied facets of the self in order to become more fully self-actualized.&nbsp; Lisa has created several online courses and workbooks to assist with the self-discovery journey, otherwise called shadow work. Download the 21 Day Inner Child Healing Adventure Journaling Program today for only $27 and uncover the lost facets of the self so that you can more fully understand and thus integrate.&nbsp; https://www.lisaaromano.com/journaling-adventure

Shadow Work of the People Pleaser: What You Didn't Know

The Importance of Self-Care and Self-Accountability in Healing from Narcissistic Abuse Healing from narcissistic abuse is a journey that requires immense strength, courage, and resilience. The pain inflicted by a narcissist can leave deep emotional wounds that often linger long after the relationship has ended. Amidst this healing process, self-care becomes not just a luxury but a necessity. It is the foundation upon which recovery is built. Yet, true self-care goes beyond the surface—it involves self-accountability, a commitment to nurturing oneself while being honest about the steps needed to move forward.  In this episode of Breakdown to Breakthrough with Lisa A. Romano, Life Coach and award winning author, learn about the importance of the self care you need on the healing and awakening journey.  When you’ve been through narcissistic abuse, it’s common to feel depleted, emotionally drained, and disconnected from your own needs. Narcissists have a way of eroding your sense of self, often leaving you questioning your worth and value. This is why compassionate self-care is so vital. It’s about reconnecting with yourself deeply, understanding that your needs and feelings are valid, and treating yourself with the kindness and love you may have been denied in the past. Self-care, in this context, isn’t just about pampering yourself with a spa day or a new book—though those things can certainly be part of it. It’s about actively prioritizing your well-being in every aspect of your life. It means setting boundaries that protect your peace, saying no to situations and people who drain you, and giving yourself permission to rest and recharge without guilt. By practicing self-care, you’re affirming to yourself that you are worthy of love, care, and respect. Embracing Self-Accountability While self-care is about nurturing and protecting yourself, self-accountability is about taking ownership of your healing journey. After experiencing narcissistic abuse, it’s natural to feel like a victim—because, in many ways, you were. However, healing requires you to move beyond that identity. This doesn’t mean blaming yourself for what happened; it means recognizing your power to change your life moving forward. Self-accountability is about being honest with yourself about the areas of your life that need attention. It’s about recognizing any patterns or behaviors that may have kept you stuck in the past and committing to making the changes necessary to break free from them. This could mean seeking therapy, learning about healthy relationship dynamics, or even just making a conscious effort to challenge negative self-talk. It’s a process of growth that requires both self-compassion and self-discipline. The Balance Between Self-Care and Self-Accountability The healing journey is a delicate balance between self-care and self-accountability. Too much focus on self-care without accountability can lead to avoidance of the deeper work that healing requires. On the other hand, too much focus on accountability without care can result in self-criticism and burnout. The key is approaching your healing with a gentle heart and a firm resolve. Remember, healing is not a linear process. There will be days when self-care looks like taking a break and nurturing yourself and days when it means pushing through difficult emotions and holding yourself accountable for your progress. Both are equally important, and both require you to be kind to yourself throughout the journey. As you continue to heal from narcissistic abuse, remember that you are not alone. Many others have walked this path and found their way to the other side, and you can, too. By prioritizing self-care and embracing self-accountability, you are taking powerful steps toward reclaiming your life, happiness, and sense of self. You are worth the effort, and your future is brighter than you can imagine. Embark on the path to conscious awakening, emotional healing, and...

Self Care After Narcissistic Abuse

In this podcast episode of Breakdown to Breakthrough with Life Coach and award-winning author, Lisa A. Romano shares how childhood trauma, and emotional neglect shape the personality all outside of conscious awareness. While most of us believe we are our personality traits, Lisa explained this is untrue. The false self is a program.&nbsp; This program has been shaped by external experiences we as children could not control. However, as it is explained in this mental wellness and emotional healing podcast, unless you awaken your consciousness, you remain asleep in the ego identity of the false self.&nbsp; The miraculous news is that the mind can awaken and transcend the personality as the true self, the authentic self, is untethered to ego identity. The key is, will you do the mental and essential inner work necessary to experience peek emotional freedom? If you are ready to embark on a system and program that has been crafted by Lisa herself, someone who successfully shook loose the limitations of ego identity and is now living her authentic life, reach out at  or join the next live 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program. Lisa moderates this class herself.&nbsp;  Embark on the path to conscious awakening, emotional healing, and transformation with Lisa's Conscious Healing Academy, which includes a 3 tier coaching system that assists with one's awakening, emotional intelligence, and mental and emotional mastery.&nbsp;     To learn more, contact Lisa and her team members here;      &nbsp;

Childhood Trauma Shapes Your Ego Identity: Quiet Your Heart and HEAL THY SELF

Growing up with a narcissistic mother leaves deep emotional scars. 🌪️ In this episode, we unpack the&nbsp;long-term consequences of emotional neglect, including struggles with self-worth, codependency, and a constant fear of abandonment. 💔 Learn how these early wounds shape your relationships and behaviors—and, more importantly, discover steps to reclaim your power, reconnect with your authentic self, and break free from the cycle of pain. ✨ Listen now and take the first step toward emotional freedom! 🔑 Key Topics:  Signs of emotional neglect in childhood How narcissistic parenting impacts self-perception The connection between emotional wounds and adult behaviors Actionable steps to heal and set boundaries  🎧 Tune in to start your healing journey today! Make 2025 your breakthrough year and join Lisa in her next live online course, beginning February 9th. Participate from anywhere in the world. Follow the course material online at your leisure throughout the week, and join Lisa and her life coaches daily in a private support group. Every Saturday at 9:00 am EST, join a live group coaching call where Lisa answers members’ questions.&nbsp; Join Lisa's efforts to awaken consciousness one breakthrough at a time despite a painful past. It's not you--it's your programming.&nbsp;  Embark on the path to conscious awakening, emotional healing, and transformation with Lisa's&nbsp;Conscious Healing Academy, which includes a 3 tier coaching system that assists with one's awakening, emotional intelligence, and mental and emotional mastery.&nbsp;     To learn more, contact Lisa and her team members here;      Tags:  #NarcissisticMother #EmotionalNeglect #InnerChildHealing #CodependencyRecovery #PodcastEpisode #EmotionalFreedom #HealingJourney #ToxicRelationships #SelfWorth #SelfHealing

Narcissistic Mother: Consequences of Maternal Emotional Neglect

Have you ever felt like someone's psychological slave, as if every thought you have, you must worry what someone in your life is going to think or feel? If you have ever loved a narcissist, you may have slowly lost yourself overtime and not even realized it until you felt like you were going crazy or like you were losing your mind. A narcissist lives in a very unique fantasy world, in their mind, and you are merely an actor in their play. You do not exist as an autonomous 3D human being, with your own unique beliefs, needs, expectations, emotions or opinions, at least not in their heads you don't. No, you play a role in their life and whether you realize it or not, in their eyes, you are their psychological slave and you are to bend when they blow. Lisa A. Romano, a breakthrough life coach, and expert in codependency and narcissistic abuse recovery, clearly explains in this episode how a narcissist uses their perception as a weapon of manipulation against you. Additionally, a special warning goes out to those who struggle with self-doubt, low self-worth, and the need to be understood, needed, and who identify as codependent. You have been conditioned since childhood to seek validation outside yourself to feel worthy. Dear One, you are a prime target for narcissistic abuse.&nbsp; Listen good! In this episode Lisa is going to help you develop that stainless steel spine all codependents and those who have been psychologically manipulated by narcissists need to strive for on their transformation journey from inner wounds to inner strength.&nbsp; Work with Lisa here:  Apply for her VIP Mastermind Groups  Listen to One of Lisa's Books for Free  Join Lisa in Person at the Art of Living Center in May

Narcissists: You're NOT Their Slave But They Treat You Like They Are

If you struggle with&nbsp;worrying about what others think, you may be vulnerable to narcissistic manipulation. Codependents are often conditioned to seek external validation, fearing rejection or judgment. Narcissists exploit this by twisting reality, making you question your own experiences, and using your need for approval against you. They may say, "You're too sensitive," or "No one else sees it that way," to gaslight you into doubting yourself. They might also manipulate social perceptions, controlling how others see you through smear campaigns or triangulation. &nbsp;In this episode, Lisa A. Romano exposes these tactics and teaches you how to detach from the fear of judgment, trust your own reality, and break free from the narcissist’s control. If you don't know just upset you can become when others perceive you in a negative way, you might not realize how someone with high narcissistic traits could use that fear against you to keep you stuck! Tune in now to reclaim your power! We appreciate your like, follow and share.&nbsp; And if you know someone who needs to know that a narcissist might be using their fears regarding how others perceive them against them, be sure to share this episode with them.&nbsp; Embark on the path to conscious awakening, emotional healing, and transformation with Lisa's Conscious Healing Academy, which includes a 3 tier coaching system that assists with one's awakening, emotional intelligence, and mental and emotional mastery.&nbsp;     To learn more, contact Lisa and her team members here;      &nbsp;

Beware: Narcissists Use Your Perception Against You

How often do you look within and hear yourself asking the only questions that have any real potential to change your life, such as, "Who am I?, or "Why do I feel not good enough?" If you're like most people, you may never question whether or not you question the quality or validity of your thinking. That's why Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach wants to activate higher consciousness within you so that you have a chance at changing your life outcomes.&nbsp; While going through the early stages of recovery, Lisa realized she had an authenticity problem.&nbsp; Being raised to fear her mother's gaslighting, rejection, and emotional neglect, conditioned Lisa to feel as if her authentic self needed to be abandoned.&nbsp; Learn why it is essential to stop apologizing if you are truly serious about becoming a cycle breaker and healing from codependency. Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach

Stop Apologizing for This: Codependency Recovery

If you love a narcissist and you're here listening to this podcast, chances are you are learning to understand that you are not viewed healthily and that perhaps the person you are dealing with perceives you through a skewed lens. Maybe you're realizing that it's not you and there is nothing you can do to please a narcissist, although God knows you've tried. Sadly, a narcissists mind works in black and white. You are either for them or against them, which is why having any type of conflict or disagreement is so earth-shattering to them and why they can become so mean, angry and vile with a flip of a switch.&nbsp; To a narcissist, you are in their life because you represent an asset of some sort, most often as narcissistic supply. However, when a narcissist begins to sense that you can see through them, and especially if you stand your ground, their minds begin to view you as a liability. If a narcissist is unable to dominate you through coercive control tactics, you will be discarded sooner than later, because to them, you have now become a liability and offer them no value.&nbsp; It's sad but also true and incredibly clarifying ONCE you see the dynamics for what they are.&nbsp; Are you ready to develop that stainless steel spine we all need in order to develop self love and start manifesting the lives we deserve and desire, free of toxic narcissistic and codependent dynamics? If so, start your transformation journey with Lisa here; &nbsp;

Narcissists See You as a Liability or an Asset and Nothing More

In this episode, you will explore 10 distinct forms of narcissistic manipulation tactics and the true agenda of a narcissist with whom you must engage, communicate, parent, and resolve issues. Those who display narcissistic traits often do not recognize themselves as narcissists. Instead, they tend to hold on to their grand illusions of themselves or see themselves as the victims of others. When they are up, it is because they believe others see them as the best, smartest, most beautiful, creative or talented. When they are down, that is because they feel victimized by evidence that someone, maybe you, no longer feed into their grand illusions of themselves. Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach, Award winning author, meditation teacher, course creator, and podcast host, is on a mission to awaken those who live below the veil of consciousness, and who are in toxic, enmeshed, codependent, subjugating relationships with those who are either narcissists, or who have high narcissistic traits. As an adult daughter of narcissistic and codependent parents, and as someone who escaped the undertow of a toxic marriage herself, she understands that the first step in healing from a narcissistic relationship is recognizing the signs that you are actually in a narcissistic relationship.&nbsp; Ready to begin your healing journey?&nbsp; Embark on the path to conscious awakening, emotional healing, and transformation with Lisa's Conscious Healing Academy, which includes a 3 tier coaching system that assists with one's awakening, emotional intelligence, and mental and emotional mastery.&nbsp;     To learn more, contact Lisa and her team members here;      &nbsp;

10 Disturbing Ways Narcissists Control You Via Manipulation Tactics

Socrates once said,“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but building the new.” If you've ever wondered how long it might take you to heal from narcissistic abuse, emotional neglect, codependency, or even addiction issues, you're in the right place. When emotionally, financially, and spiritually abused, the amygdala takes over and life can become minuscule. All we can focus on, when being abused, persecuted, judged or gaslit, is the moment. And although this is a sacred design created to help us avoid threat and harm, the human brain can become stuck in fight or flight. In this episode, Lisa A. Romano, a Breakthrough Life Coach, uncovers a simple yet profound mindset shift that can help you heal sooner rather than later. As a survivor of narcissistic abuse and an adult child of two unrecovered, emotionally abusive, and neglectful alcoholic parents, Lisa has relied on self-discovery work focused on healing at the subconscious level, compassionately embracing her inner child every step of the way to become an international advocate for adult children everywhere. Her research and nearly 30 years of self-healing work have established her as a prominent global voice in mental wellness, personal healing, and transformation.&nbsp; Begin your healing and transformation journey with Lisa's groundbreaking approach, which is grounded in the latest trauma research, neuroscience, and cognitive science. Heal your inner wounds in 12 Weeks of Less:  To learn more, contact Lisa and her team members here;

The New Way to Heal From Narcissistic Abuse

The best way to stop focusing and ruminating about narcissists in your life is to close your eyes and fall in love with the self. Ancient Persian Philosopher Rumi is an excellent example of how to break up with, let go of, divorce, and go no contact with narcissists in your life. In this lesson, you will learn what Rumi has to say about releasing narcissists from your life, and why doing so is terrifying yet brings emotional freedom at the same time. Healing from narcissistic abuse, requires that you release resistance to the pain manipulation, gaslighting, triangulation, smear campaigns and discard have created. Through radical self awareness, and acceptance, we discover the power of sacred wisdom as it pertains to choosing nonresistance. A narcissist will never follow you into solitude. When you embrace solitude, narcissists will run away because in solitude their masks fall. And that's why you must travel into the silence within. Codependency is akin to spiritual death. It implies you are living in denial of what is, and running from reality. The answer lies in climbing the ladder of the mind, from the subconscious to the higher conscious realms. But first, we must figure out where you are now and at what level of awareness do you reside. Feel free to take my FREE Codependency Quiz to discover more. ✨ Take my FREE Codependency Quiz 🔗 &nbsp; &nbsp;"I know it's painful", Rumi says, yet he says, "Walk this way anyway." That's how I feel about The 12 Week Breakthrough Program. &nbsp;Let's peel back decades of layers of the subconscious mind and teach you the skills you need to live emotionally free, unbound by the chains of the past. Work with me this July, 2025 Join early and save $500&nbsp;  &nbsp;📞 Work With Me One to One ✉️  &nbsp;It is not you, it is only your programming. Your higher self is free, but your inner child is stuck. All you need are tools, an experienced guide, and the grit to stick to this healing journey when the going gets tough. Remember, steel is forged through fire, and diamonds appear only when enough force is applied. You can develop a stainless steel spine, and my three-part healing framework helps you achieve unbound emotional freedom. The 12 Week Breakthrough Program The 8 Week Master Class Soul School, a 10 Week Course in the Quantum Science of Love Consciousness. We got this. New to the inner voyage of transformation? No worries, read The Road Back to Me to activate higher consciousness. Follow that up with My Road Beyond the Codependent Divorce, Codependent Now What? Codependency Manifesto, Quantum Tools to Heal Your Life Now and then Loving the Self Affirmations volumes 1 and 2

Narcissists Crumble When You Choose This Path

If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a one-sided relationship—where you're the fixer, the rescuer, the peacekeeper—this episode is your wake-up call. In this powerful episode, best-selling author and codependency recovery expert Lisa A. Romano uncovers the invisible thread between childhood emotional neglect and codependent behaviors in adulthood. If you:   Feel overly responsible for other people’s emotions   Stay in toxic relationships hoping things will change   Obsess over your partner’s moods   Feel like you've lost your sense of self   ...you're not broken. You're running survival patterns wired into your nervous system long ago—when love meant self-abandonment, and your feelings didn’t matter. This isn’t your fault. But now that you know, it becomes your power. Lisa explains how codependency is a subconscious trauma response rooted in unmet emotional needs and a lack of safety in childhood. We mistakenly learn that love must be earned through fixing others—especially the ones who hurt us. But this only perpetuates the pain and draws us toward emotionally unavailable or narcissistic partners. In this episode, you’ll discover: &nbsp;How early childhood trauma wires your brain for codependency &nbsp;Why rescuing others is a subconscious survival strategy &nbsp;Why narcissists and toxic partners are drawn to codependents &nbsp;How to spot the thinking traps of codependency &nbsp;Actionable steps to reconnect with your authentic self Whether you're healing from a codependent marriage or waking up to your past for the first time, this episode will help you break free from emotional enmeshment and start living from a place of empowerment and emotional clarity. 🌱 Begin your healing journey with Lisa’s step-by-step system: The Groundbreaking 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program 👉  🎓 Want to go at your own pace? Self-Study Version — 50% Off 👉  &nbsp; #CodependencyRecovery #ChildhoodTraumaHealing #EmotionalNeglect #FixingPeople #InnerChildHealing #SelfAbandonment #ToxicRelationships #HealingFromNarcissisticAbuse #LisaRomano #CPTSDRecovery #PeoplePleasing #RescueFantasy #TraumaBonding #ConsciousHealing #NeuroscienceBasedHealing #CodependentNoMore

Trauma Informed Codependency Recovery: It's Not What You Think

Are you constantly hurt by a spouse who struggles to prioritize you? Do they avoid setting boundaries with their parents—even when it damages your marriage? If your partner was raised in a toxic or emotionally immature home, their nervous system may have been wired for survival—not connection. That early programming can lead to deep-rooted abandonment wounds, emotional shutdown, and a fear of conflict that puts your relationship at risk. In this episode of Breakdown to Breakthrough, Breakthrough Life Coach and creator of The Conscious Healing Academy, Lisa A. Romano, unpacks the hidden trauma behind emotionally unavailable partners and explores why some spouses can’t put their significant other first—despite their best intentions. You’ll learn:   Why your spouse might feel safer pleasing their parents than protecting your marriage   How unhealed childhood trauma impacts adult intimacy and emotional prioritization   The subconscious fears that drive people to abandon their partner to avoid being rejected themselves   What you can do to begin shifting this painful dynamic in a healthy way   👉 Ready to start healing the patterns that keep you stuck? Explore Lisa’s 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program:

Why They Can’t Love You Fully: The Truth About Spouses With Childhood Trauma

If you grew up feeling emotionally unsafe, unseen, or like your feelings didn’t matter, you may have unknowingly developed&nbsp;codependent behaviors rooted in childhood emotional neglect. In this powerful episode, Lisa A. Romano, codependency recovery expert, breaks down how early life experiences shape your nervous system and self-worth—and why the "invisible child" often becomes an adult trapped in patterns of people-pleasing, self-abandonment, and toxic relationship cycles.  &nbsp;In This Episode, You’ll Learn:   How childhood trauma, emotional instability, or neglect programs the brain for codependency   Why feeling unsafe as a child rewires your nervous system to seek external validation   How beliefs like “I’m not enough” become subconscious blocks to self-esteem   The hidden link between early emotional trauma and compulsive rescuing or caretaking   How to start reclaiming emotional safety through boundaries, self-awareness, and nervous system regulation    &nbsp;Why This Episode Matters Codependency is not just about behavior—it’s about the emotional blueprint you were given as a child. If no one ever mirrored your worth or made space for your needs, you may now unconsciously look to others for permission to feel safe, lovable, or whole. But healing begins with visibility—recognizing your patterns and rewiring the beliefs that keep you stuck.  &nbsp;Take Action: Journal Prompt: When was the first time you felt emotionally unsafe or invisible? How is that experience still influencing your relationships today? Self-Awareness Practice: Next time you feel the urge to fix or please someone, ask yourself: “Is this about honoring me—or avoiding rejection?”  &nbsp;Continue the Journey: Discover Lisa’s neuroscience-based system for codependency recovery in the 👉 12 Week Breakthrough Method:  &nbsp;  &nbsp;

Codependency: The Invisible Child's Addiction

Borderline personality disorder can be understood as the extreme version of codependency, where, at the core are adult adult children who have suffered from abandonment, rejection, abuse, neglect, and trauma. When an innocent child is unable, through no fault of their own, to connect with their primary caregiver, and especially when that caregiver is actually a source of pain, suffering and instability, the brain of that child is forced to live from the plane of survival. Due to default settings of the personality, brain and nervous system, for the one who has been denied a healthy attachment and who at the same time, also learned that they could not and should not trust the one caring for them, the inner world becomes trapped below the veil of consciousness, living in fear of the love the being so desperately craves.&nbsp; How Narcissistic Parents Contribute to Borderline Personality Development Children of narcissistic parents often grow up in environments marked by emotional unpredictability. One moment, the parent may be intrusive, critical, or controlling, and the next they may be cold, withdrawn, or dismissive. This creates a push-pull dynamic where the child never feels secure. Over time, this instability fragments the child’s developing sense of self. Because their emotional needs are dismissed or punished, the child learns to fear abandonment while simultaneously fearing engulfment. They internalize the belief that love is unstable, unsafe, and conditional.&nbsp; As adults, this unresolved conflict can manifest as borderline traits: Intense fear of abandonment Unstable self-image Difficulty regulating emotions Stormy, chaotic relationships These symptoms are not “character flaws” but survival adaptations to a childhood where the parent’s narcissism left no room for stable, secure attachment. How Narcissistic Parents Create Codependency While borderline traits stem from instability, codependency develops from self-abandonment. In a narcissistic home, children quickly learn that their parent’s approval, affection, or even basic safety hinges on meeting the parent’s emotional needs.&nbsp; The child becomes hypervigilant, scanning the parent for shifts in mood, anticipating outbursts, and adapting themselves to keep the peace. This conditioning teaches the child: “My needs don’t matter.” “I must earn love by taking care of others.” “If I say no, I’ll lose connection.” As adults, these children often: Over-function in relationships Prioritize others’ needs above their own Struggle to set boundaries without guilt Confuse love with caretaking or control This is the essence of codependency: a pattern of chronic self-abandonment rooted in early survival strategies. ✅ Bottom line: Both borderline personality traits and codependency share the same root wound — a lack of secure, validating parental love. One path (borderline) reflects the inner chaos of unstable attachment, while the other (codependency) reflects the learned habit of self-erasure for connection. Both are survival strategies that can be unlearned through conscious healing, reparenting, and building self-trust. Ready to breakthrough these subconscious patterns? Start here with  #borderlinepersonality #childhoodtraumarecoverypodcast #codependencyrecovery #innerchildhealing #mentalhealthpodcast #lisaaromanopodcast #narcissisticmother #narcissisticparents #selfawareness #selfdevelopment #healingjourney #awakening #higherself #consciousness&nbsp; &nbsp;

Borderline Personality and Codependency: Signs You Were Raised by Narcissistic Parents

This meditation has been created to help you reprogram your mind and allow you to better understand how to love the self.  Fear prevents us from being able to ACT ON positive affirmations. We must awaken to the self but we must also understand the unconscious self. When we better understand the unconscious thoughts that have been preventing us from truly merging with the self, it is then we can better heal more consciously. 

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You are Worthy Meditation 

You are WORTHY Meditation

This meditation has been created to help you release your conscious mind so that you can drift more easily to sleep. It has been recorded with theta brainwaves to help your brain settle into a relaxed state more easily. Sometimes we have a difficult time shutting our conscious minds off as we drift to sleep. This meditation has been created to help your mind softly release so it can drift more easily to sleep.

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