You may miss someone; you may miss everything you’ve experienced with the person you’ve loved so much and wish you could relive these moments. And you wonder why it all ended... you fill your mind and thoughts with tons of unnecessary ifs and buts, trying hopelessly to figure out why things had to end this way. Could it have been something to do with you, with them, with the universe, with their dog, with...? What would have happened if...? Should we get back together? The dilemma is real! But nostalgia doesn’t necessarily mean you want to find that lousy prick who made you feel that way. Missing someone who has ghosted you or someone you’ve removed from your life can be complicated as fuck. Sometimes it involves satisfaction and relief, sometimes it’s accompanied by a twinge of pain and regret, and sometimes it involves anger and the need to revenge. But honey, you have to realise that some people only appear in our lives for a limited time; we experience good and bad times with them and then part ways. When we miss them, it’s good to remember the two sides of the story. There was a reason it ended in the first place. Keeping your distance helps you resist the temptation to go back – because, deep down, you know you don’t wanna go back into that shitty, crappy, unfulfilling relationship or friendship. You may miss the person or the story that brought you together, but this significantly affects the meaning of your memories. Sometimes you don’t want that stink ass saphead to come back, but you want to enjoy the good ol’ times again. However, remember that it doesn’t have to be with the same person again. You can relive part of the story and create better memories with another person.  When you start again with someone you already know, someone with whom you’ve shared part of your past or someone with whom you try to relive moments from another time, you start from a whole different point. And this has nothing to do with living or feeling the same shit again – I’m telling that from personal experiences. I’ve suffered a lot, thinking that I could start over. Because at some point, what I was missing was the good old times and how we used to be. But getting back together ain’t the same in any way! And that’s where you need to distinguish between missing the person and missing the memories. When stories end, they just fucking end. Yes, this may sound harsh, but it’s the brutal truth. So even if we wanna repeat the same thing with the same trashy person, it will NEVER EVER be the same. Because people mature, grow and develop and therefore will never come back to the same point – ever. So, on this note, let’s learn to leave the memories in our minds and savour the flavour they’ve left behind. Let us re-feel them when we close our eyes, when our eyes are filled with tears, sometimes thinking about how it’s no longer there. But at the same time, let’s be happy that it all happened, and they’re still here in us, in some way or another. We are all made up of our memories, and that’s why we must live them that way. So allow yourself to miss things. But if it’s gonna hurt like hell, just leave it there. Don’t try to repeat or force something that no longer exists. You may miss it, but you may not want it back. It’s high time to draw a line and move on if we make a decision based solely on nostalgia. Let’s stop thinking about the past and open our eyes to discover what the future has in store for us. The people who left will undoubtedly remain in our hearts, minds and emotions, but those who are waiting to walk our path will want us to open our arms wide to them. ❤️😍

38. Missing Them Doesn't Equal Getting Back Together (made with Spreaker)

"Boundaries" seems to be a buzzword in mental health circles right now –—and there is a good reason for that. 

They say good boundaries make good neighbors. I say good personal boundaries build great interpersonal and professional relationships. Some people feel the need to please others, often without realizing that by saying “yes” to everything, they are also saying “no” to something else that might be equally important to them. This can have negative effects on both your personal life and your career.

Not sure how to set boundaries? You'll want to learn as this is the key to gaining self-worth, self-esteem, and healthy relationships. Stay tuned for the next part of this episode to find some great ways to set personal boundaries

39. Defend Your Boundaries and Honour Who You Are (Monday Get-Up-And-Go Podcast) (made with Spreaker)

Kill that part of yourself that still wants to save someone after they've walked away while you were drowning. 

Don’t let that one person who doesn’t care about you live rent-free in your mind. They’ve taken enough. Re-claim your power by redirecting your focus to those around you who love you and care about you.

Your worth has nothing to do with how others treat you. How others treat you is a reflection of how they feel about themselves. 

As soon as we realise those two things, it becomes easier to see the situation for what it is: a hurt person projecting their hurt onto us.

You’re a beautiful being with so much love and empathy in your heart. Honour that you care, honour that you put yourself out there. Rejection doesn’t have to harden us; it can make us stronger, kinder, and quite frankly unstoppable.

41. Stop Forcing People to Care About You (Monday-Get-Up-And-Go Podcast) (made with Spreaker)

In a world that convinces you to be different, being different and unique has become a scarcity in this world. It's easy to compromise everything you are and what you stand for just to make people feel warm... But doing so won't change ANYTHING, honey! 😉

In fact, you'll most likely lose yourself trying to fit in this world. Every person is unique and you can't try to be someone you are not. Just like a snowflake, you have distinct personality and characteristics that set you apart. 🤗

Your uniqueness is what helps you identity who you truly are and who you aren't. So, it's high time you learn to embrace your flaws and dare to be different! 💕

Queen Nazia