the experience of adversity creates appreciation for the accomplishment.  

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Phenomenal. Men's greatest source of shame is being perceived as weak, i.e. feminine.

This has jolted me. especially in what I used to think was the right thing to do - shame my kids into doing the right thing.  The thing is I had this ideal in the beginning that if I didn't get mad and just explain why kids behaviour is not acceptable and could they please think about it without the awful concept of punishment. unless they did it deliberately then there was consequences of their own choosing. but as they got older it was quicker and easier to make them feel bad and then punish. aaghh where did I go wrong. But happy to report there is space for conversation. they say mum u make us feel guilty!!... and vulnerability exists and is discussed. Love how this has brought to light some concepts I felt very alone about in letting my kids work thru struggles and vulnerability with my guidance and unwavering support and love. But the story of the man in the yellow golf jacket floored me. It's so true. my husband only grew when he felt safe to hit the floor with his shame. I too struggled to see him like that but wasn't that what I was asking of him.???? wow wow. Love this. Thanks Brenna and Krista. 

Does this mean that our capacity to be whole-heartedness can never be greater than our willingness to be broken hearted.

"it" could fail, not "i" failed.... i so needed to hear this, ive gotta learn how to separate the it and the me. thank you 

Courage is borne out of vulnerability, not strength. This finding of Brené Brown’s research on shame and "wholeheartedness" shook the perfectionist ground beneath her own feet. And now it’s inspiring millions to reconsider the way they live, parent, and navigate relations with members of the opposite gender.

See more at http://www.onbeing.org/program/brene-brown-on-vulnerability/4928

Brené Brown — The Courage to Be Vulnerable (Dec 5, 2013)

Groundbreaking Peabody Award-winning conversation about the big questions of meaning, hosted by Krista Tippett. Every Thursday a new discovery about the immensity of our lives — and frequent special features like poetry, music and Q + A with Krista.

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