For someone who doesn't like to talk about "love" relationships, Adya does a very good job at getting to heart of the matter  ;-)

Excerpt from "The Emptiness of Boundaries"  	
The Emptiness of Boundaries
Cambridge Satsang 7/9/12


In love with a potential  ~Adyashanti~ ;-)

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I recorded this little audio of my reasons for unschooling my girls for moms in one of my Clean Parenting groups, and thought others might be interested in it as well.

I don't consider myself an expert on that topic, but I did unschool my 3 daughters until they were ages 10, 9 and 10 respectively. All 3 then adjusted well to a public school setting, and went on to do well in it, and even excel in it, as well as in their college experiences.

You can read a bit about the results of my parenting approach, which included unschooling, in this article ► http://tinyurl.com/zk8y8ew, and if you're in any of my programs, can join a Q & A call I'll be hosting on that topic on March 17th.

For more on my work, you can check out my website www.coachingforwholeness.com and follow my active Parenting For Wholeness page on Facebook.

You can also request my FREE 8 page report "The Almost Magical Formula For Surprising Ease and Harmony in Your Family While Fully Honoring Your Children’s Spirits' here: https://tinyurl.com/pqeb38z.

Reasons I Chose to Unschool My Daughters

For the original publication of this podcast by Primal Happiness, go to https://primalhappiness.co/podcast/episode178/.

About this interview, the amazing Lian Brook-Tyler wrote:

"... we spoke about one of the main reasons many parents who try gentle parenting struggle and why adding in the missing ingredient of leadership makes so much difference. It’s actually quite magical! What I especially love about Eliane is that she grounds everything she talks about in what’s natural for humans and also what’s she’s seen herself as a parent and as a parenting coach. She’s wonderful! I know you’re going to love her too!

What you’ll learn from this episode:
• Why is leadership in parenting so important? As Eliane says: imagine if you were moving somewhere with a completely different culture. Or even to a different planet. Picture yourself being there alone, not knowing the language and not knowing any of the local customs; not knowing what is considered rude or might upset people or possibly even make them want to harm you; not knowing how to operate any of their technology or how to operate in their society, organizations, businesses, etc. How would that feel?

And now imagine that you have a local guide who is there to help you acclimate. Would you do whatever you want, or would you check with that trusted person to find out what’s appropriate? Would that person be controlling you or helping you adapt to the culture?

As far as that guide goes, would you prefer someone who is afraid to give you information, who is apologetic and who avoids giving you directions as much as possible? Or would you want someone who knows you well, knows what you already know and what you haven’t encountered yet, and matter-of-factly presents you with the information you need when you need it.

• Find your tribe: Surround yourself with parents who are parenting this way, this stuff is so much easier when we’re not doing it alone! And be very choosy about who you talk to parenting challenges with  – Eliane’s suggestion of having a phrase to politely rebuff unwanted parenting advice is a great one!

• Understand your non-negotiables, personal non-negotiables and preferences and give your children clear and benevolent leadership around them accordingly, I love Eliane’s example of crossing the road – almost all of us will know that feeling of guiding children to cross the road safely – it’s that same feeling that informs clear, benevolent leadership elsewhere."

Resources and stuff that we spoke about:  

• Eliane’s book: Clean Parenting ~ The Peaceful Parent's Essential Handbook ► http://www.coachingforwholeness.com/
• What Clear Benevolent Leadership Looks Like – an Example from the Huxtable’s ► http://tinyurl.com/ow72chb
• The Missing Piece In Many Peaceful Parenting Teachings ► http://tinyurl.com/ydewh2ej 
• A Simple Exercise With A Big Impact: Differentiating Between Non-Negotiables And Preferences ► http://tinyurl.com/glyxtcm
• How To Raise a Healthy Child When You're All Fucked Up ► https://tinyurl.com/y9jyxc9l

And if you love Lian as I do, check out her website: https://primalhappiness.co/.

Primal Happiness Interview Of Eliane on Benevolent Leadership

For the original publication of this podcast by Primal Happiness, go to primalhappiness.co/podcast/episode190/.

About this interview, the amazing Lian Brook-Tyler wrote:

"In this conversation, we spoke about what’s wrong with modern day parenting – where typically the focus is on short term results, rather than the long term implications. And what the alternative is… getting back to what nature intended, which not only feels easier and more enjoyable in the short term but also has long term positive impact.

This show is for you if the usual mainstream advice doesn’t feel quite right – your instincts are telling you that’s something off, or you’ve heard a lot about peaceful parenting but you don’t know quite how to make it work, or maybe you’re already feeling peaceful parenting is right for you but you’re still feeling doubtful because you don’t know anyone else who does it that way.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• Instead of looking at latest fad or theories, look at what has worked for human animal over millennia. Though our lives have evolved, our bodies and needs haven’t. Connect with your instincts, trust your own inner voice and values.
• Something that’s worth remembering is: every behaviour is an attempt to meet a need. If you only focus on addressing behaviour, you’re doing nothing to address the underlying need, whereas if the need is met, the behaviour will naturally disappear.
• Come up with mission statement or a set of core values for your family. This can be such a helpful guide for both your children and yourself – you’re then all able to check in and ask yourselves whether the current behaviour will create what you most want, in both the short and long term.
• Even when you’ve made the choice to parent peacefully, you’ll probably still be surrounded by people who still think the mainstream way is the right way. It is so important to get support from like-minded parents, ideally from people farther along in parenting journey, who have been through your current stages, and can keep pointing you back to your own instincts.

Resources and stuff that we spoke about

• Eliane’s book: Clean Parenting ~ The Peaceful Parent's Essential Handbook ►  www.coachingforwholeness.com

• Audio – Do You Believe Your Children Are Innately Good and Cooperative?: Here on SoundCloud

• Audio The Importance Of Focusing On Meeting Needs: Also here on SoundCloud

• Article What Is Family Homeostasis? (And why it’s important for you to know) ► https://tinyurl.com/ycztymxh

• Article  The#1 Question to Ask When Your Child ‘Misbehaves’ ► http://tinyurl.com/nfowyax

• Article  Could Your Struggle Just Be Caused By An Unrealistic Expectation? ► https://tinyurl.com/pa7u3ty

• Get the free report The Almost Magical Formula For Surprising Ease and Harmony in Your Family While Fully Honoring Your Children’s Spirits ► https://tinyurl.com/pqeb38z

• Follow Parenting For Wholeness on Facebook ► https://www.facebook.com/ParentingForWholeness/"

How Parenting Can Be Enjoyable and Easy (Really!)~ An Interview by Primal Happiness

In this conversation with Kristen Phillips, my dear friend and a junior Parenting for Wholeness parenting and healing coach, we discuss when and how to intervene with our children, as well as parenting around other people.

Resources mentioned on the audio:
• Are You Trusting Your Parenting Instincts And Your Inner Guidance? ► http://tinyurl.com/y7wlcxad
• What Is Family Homeostasis? (And why it's important for you to know) ► https://tinyurl.com/ycztymxh
• Presence & Authenticity with Children ► https://tinyurl.com/y9qw3f7v
• The Problem With Having ‘Rules’ ► http://tinyurl.com/y8mfzklv

For more about my work and to grab some freebies including my 8 page parenting guide, go to: www.coachingforwholeness.com/.

To get my support in reaching family homeostasis, where you live in ease and harmony with your children, and get to just ENJOY them, check out my transformational Clean Parenting program: tinyurl.com/q8e9lz9.

The Value of Relating Instead of Teaching

I hosted this call to discuss the topic of breastfeeding toddlers, nighttime nursing and weaning with some of the moms in my Clean Parenting group and then make it available to my followers. 

(If this link doesn't work for you, try this one: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1cQq3egMeKOiw35MO-t-Nn7FC5ZXw6Has/view?usp=sharing.)

Breastfeeding toddlers and older children is very different from nursing babies, and needs to be looked at differently.

On this call we discussed the importance of honoring our own feelings and boundaries in the nursing relationship, of setting limits when needed, of seeing the nursing experience at that point as a relationship where both parties’ needs matter and how to determine what best serves the child and the family in the big picture.

Here are the 3 resources I referenced on the call:

• A Healing Practice For When You Get Angry At Your Child ► https://tinyurl.com/y6g682bj 
• It Takes Time To Find Your Way With Parenting ► https://tinyurl.com/y9z63xnx 
• Ending the Blame Game by Scott Noelle ► https://www.dailygroove.com/blame/

My program through which this call was offered is my Clean Parenting™ program, in which I take moms by the end and closely guide them to create in their lives the ease and harmony that is possible through clean parenting, so that them and their children can fully blossom and thrive ► http://tinyurl.com/q8e9lz9. 

Email me at Eliane@ParentingForWholeness.com to schedule a time to chat if too would love to be living what all the participants describe on the program page, so we can discuss if this program is right for you.

For more resources, including my FREE REPORT and to get on my email list, go to my website ► https://tinyurl.com/vel4dtu.

Breastfeeding Toddlers, Nighttime Parenting and Weaning

If you want to take peaceful parenting from a beautiful theory to your day to day reality, Eliane Sainte-Marie is the person to call. She is passionate about her message that peaceful parenting CAN be easy, and she is a living proof that it is, having experienced it with her 3 now grown daughters. 

She founded Parenting For Wholeness to 1) support parents in also having ease and harmony in their families while ensuring that their children grow up whole and 2) help parents heal from their childhood baggage so they can parent in alignment with their values and also live from a place of wholeness, peace and happiness.

If you also want ease and harmony in your family, request your FREE report, The Almost Magical Formula For Surprising Ease and Harmony in Your Family While Fully Honoring Your Children’s Spirits ► http://tinyurl.com/zufxmuz  

The Value of Relating Instead of Teaching

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