I got physically assaulted by a man and retaliated by smashing his car, at first I felt good about it, I even bragged about it online, then it all spiralled out of control, I got overwhelmed with attention and to be honest, as much as I was satisfied with retaliating, by the time I made my way home I realised that I acted out of character...but by then it was too late, my secret was out, that I was human, and that I made a mistake.

Moral of the story?

Sometimes you just need someone to talk to, sometimes you have to take accountability for your actions and recognise where you went wrong, all the time you have to remember that growth isn't a destination  but a journey and that you've come a long way.

"How I Feel About Getting Punched In The Face"

Self validation is accepting you own internal experience, your thoughts, and your feelings. 

Self validation doesn't mean you believe your thoughts or actions are justified; there will be times when you will be shocked by your own thoughts and actions because they reflect your truest self, or, times when you are disheartened by experiences because they don't seem fair. 

When you fight your thoughts, your feelings and judge yourself for having them or for making mistakes, you increase your emotional upset and look past the truth which is that you are human; that you feel, that you can change and that who you were yesterday doesn't have to be who you are today. The sooner you learn, understand and accept that you are not defined by your experiences, by people's actions and perceptions, the sooner you realise that, "you are you and that is your power' and that perfection isn't a destination but a journey you embark on, a hill you climb and wars you overcome. 

Moral of the story? 

Be gentle with yourself and find ways to, ”make peace with yourself” because at the end of the day, we are all winging it when it comes to this thing called life.

Counselling Session 4: Self Validation

We are joined by Trans activist Terrell and Musician and Host Tinyman as they explore and discuss battling with stillness, 'McDonald-ization' and Metacognition. 

You can find and connect with this episodes guest via Twitter and Instagram: 

-Terrell @_editmyfengshui_ 

-Tinyman @tinymanmusic 

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"Day 26" ft Tinyman & Terell

Identity relates to self-image; the mental model of yourself, self-esteem, and individuality. Imagine knowing who you are, the way you think about yourself, the way you are viewed by the world and the characteristics that define you then BOOM.......ITS A PANDEMIC!!!

Is it me or does it feel like the individuation process is scary and never ending? 

Who are you when you can't go to the museum, when the gyms are closed, when you can't just meet your friends for drinks, or when you're forced to work from home?

When your artificial lights of expression are taken away from you, what makes you feel alive? 

On this episode, we dive head first, straight into the deep end to pick apart, what seasonal transformation and escapism look like as well as what Carl Jung has to say about the bodies of identity.

Problem 1 - Identity

Pretty Girl Problems is a platform which seeks to enlighten and empower women through storytelling. Here we value, promote and embrace personal development and emotional intelligence.

Let's normalise vulnerability, healing and what is sometimes blissful, and other times a nightmare...the journey of self discovery.

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