The Sisters meet with Sabrina Colechio to discuss her experience after losing her mom Joy. &nbsp;Sabrina shares how she and Joy were best friends who did everything together. They spoke on the phone everyday, spent quality time together and were more than just mother and daughter. &nbsp;Sabrina talks in depth about what a Mother's Day without her mom means to her. &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;

Mother's Day without a Mom with Sabrina Colechio

Erica shares about how her youngest son Jordan is preparing to go off to college she's been having bad feelings about something terrible happening to him. &nbsp;Sharon helps her access her feelings in real time and they discuss how it's stemming from her sadness. &nbsp;The sisters discuss how it's very important to allow your feelings in so you can identify what the core feeling is that is really driving your emotions. For more information see our website  https:/www.facebook.com/groups/hope.heal.recover.com

I'm Terrified Something Bad is Going to Happen

The sisters discuss the importance of bringing attention to mental health and those afflicted with mental health disorders. &nbsp;Recently, what Simone Biles did on the world stage brought a lot of attention to mental health issues. &nbsp;Sadly, instead of being embraced and supported she was attacked and criticized. &nbsp;That is not okay and should not be happening. &nbsp;We need to support those who speak the truth about their mental health struggles.   &nbsp; &nbsp;

It's Okay to Not Be Okay

The Sisters discuss how it's so common for people to avoid calling grievers for the special days and anniversaries that honor their loved ones and the most common response they get is "I didn't want to make you feel bad." But what's so widely misunderstood is that grievers feel bad every minute of every day without their loved one. &nbsp;What grievers want most is to be able to talk about their loved ones without all of the unsolicited advice given to them by others. &nbsp;   &nbsp;

I Didn't Want to Make You Feel Bad

What Grief Healing Looks Like

The Sisters talk about the griever resisting healing, resisting the pain. In the first few weeks and months after the loss, the most important thing that the griever can be doing is allowing in the pain, but no one ever tells them that. &nbsp;One of the ways is to &nbsp;bring the grief up, like bringing it up when the time is appropriate. And one of the ways we do that is with a voice recording of Austin. &nbsp;You can use pictures or videos of your loved one as well, it's just important to make sure it's being done.

I Miss the Sound of Your Voice

The Sisters discuss the choices that a woman and a man have to go through when making the decision of whether or not to have an abortion and the grief that is connected to that. &nbsp;&nbsp;

Grief and Abortion

Is Crying Required

What Is Closure?

This episode was recorded just two weeks after the Uvalde, Texas shooting. &nbsp;Sharon asks Erica to go back to the moment when she learned that Austin had died to help people understand what those parents might have been feeling in the moments leading up to finding out that their lives were about to be forever changed as a result of this tragedy.&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;

Uvalde

We have to start prioritizing our grief. We do need. &nbsp;No one wants to be without love. But when you have love and you have these relationships through death, divorce, and again, break up of a romantic relationship, you lose it. But no one wants to deal with it. They essentially want to throw their hands up or stick your head in the sand, be sad, be miserable or run out and get another love. We don't prioritize our grief and it will essentially bleed out into other areas of your life.

Prioritize Your Grief

Conflicting Grief Feelings

I distinctly remember having a, a huge bowl of vanilla ice cream. Now that I think back on it, I probably was trying to eat away my pain. This was right after Austin had died and the very first spoonful of vanilla ice cream that I put in my mouth was, so sweet and so cool. And I could literally, it was like the vanilla bean were, jumping off my tongue and my taste buds. And I remember thinking, oh man, this is so good. And instantly right afterwards, feeling guilty that I was enjoying life for one minute. These were in the beginning stages of my grief for Austin. And when you, and I didn't know anything about grief, I had convinced myself that I was supposed to feel bad all the time. I was supposed to be in the grieving state all the time. And I didn't find out till much later that grief goes up and down that your emotions change, that you could literally enjoy something and still be grieving.

I Feel Bad For Feeling Good

We just shared this with a client this week because she is staying in bed longer than she ever has before. And it's worrying her husband. And she's been worried about it too because she's said she didn't want to get stuck in the debilitating depression. This exhaustion is so normal because grief consumes every fiber of your beam having to get out of bed, brush your teeth, make breakfast for your littles. This grief can make you feel the same amount of tiredness as if you would've run a full marathon because you are trying to live while grieving. And it's consuming every cell every chromosome trying to go to biology and remember the parts of the body. Every hair follicle grief is consuming every pour in your skin. It's &nbsp;&nbsp;just &nbsp;like you've been taken over by alien.

Grieving is Exhausting

Circumstance Vs Thought

Sharon and Erica debunk the myth of the five stages of grief and how they do not apply to grievers. &nbsp;The sages of grief were developed by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross for people in the process of dying not for the grievers who were left behind.&nbsp;

There  Are Not Five Stages of Grief

Sharon and Erica invite their sisters Yolanda and Sharlene along with their sister in law Peggy to discuss racism in America. &nbsp;This conversation is coming on the heels of Ahmaud Arbery, Breonna Taylor and George's Floyd's deaths at the hands of the police. &nbsp;The sisters explain how racism can cause a grieving event in your heart. &nbsp;For more information please see their website at www.healingstartswiththeheart.com

I Can't Breathe- How Racism Can Be A Grieving Event

The sisters discuss the challenges involved with having to go out into the community when you're grieving. &nbsp;Unfortunately the world does not stop for your grief and although your heart may be broken you still have to plaster a smile on your face to interact with others. &nbsp;This is extremely taxing on the broken hearted and can cause long term problems if the behavior is not changed. &nbsp;For more information please see our website at .&nbsp;

Fake it Until You Make it

&nbsp;As mentioned on multiple shows in the past everyone is susceptible to having a grieving experience at some point in their life. &nbsp;Sometimes this occurs in the adult years when you are married. &nbsp;Erica shares her personal experience of what worked for her and Louis her husband when their grieving experiences occurred. &nbsp;It is very important for the spouses to respect the manner in which each of them chooses to grieve and they need to know that they will not grieve the same. &nbsp;&nbsp;http://www.facebook.com/groups/hope.heal.recover/

Sharon and Erica

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