We have an innate desire for fair outcomes in life, but the legal process with divorce is not built on fairness.  It's built on equitable decisions.  Divorcees often get trapped in their desire for fairness, and this often contributes to their level of "divorce suckiness".  In this episode, Steve talks about how our desire for fairness creates suffering, or "suckiness".  This episode is followed by an exclusive podcast extra and support content on "A Man's Journey Through Divorce" Patreon page. 

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Ep 60: What is Equitable is Not Always Fair

Ep 105 Look at the Meaning You Assign to Things

The holidays are a time of gathering, joy, and peace.  Those finding it hard to connect with these important parts may find that their chance for peace is being stolen.  In this episode, I speak about how we allow self-imposed chaos, or suffering, to steal our chance for peace this instant. I share a poem titled “Peace Instant” which you can find in my book Spirit Poems.

Ep 106 Finding Peace Now

It’s easy to drift into the negative energy of divorce. Fear, doubt, worry, resentment, vengeance, and other trappings fuel the devil within.  It’s these emotions that are very much in our control.  Yet so many fail to properly manage them.  In this episode, I share a poem titled “A Man’s Heart” which you can find in my book Spirit Poems.


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Ep 107 Finding Peace Now

Setting a resolution to forgive may seem daunting.  In this episode, Steve simplifies the process of forgiveness and explains how it can be a resolution capable of meeting.

Ep 108 Can You Make Forgiveness Your Resolution?

You ask, “Why is this so friggin’ hard?”  Is it?  Arguing against the truth is hard.  Resisting things that you wish were different is hard.  Becoming aware of how you create self-imposed suffering is simple.  In this episode, Steve talks about struggle and its purpose and brings to light the lessons inside the toxic dance within a couple.


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Ep. 109 Why is this so Friggin' Hard?

The way to a final divorce decree can follow several paths.  The traditional, or socially branded, path is the path of litigation.  Many have found litigation not the right fit and even have regrets with the outcome it produced.  Alternative divorce methods, like mediation, pro-se (or kitchen table), and arbitration, are becoming more prevalent.  In this episode, Steve compares the traditional and alternative paths, and shares both benefits and weaknesses of Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) methods.

Ep 110 Alternative Divorce Options

Listen to Steve talk about the three stages of personal transition, and the transition a couple makes as they divorce.  Steve talks about the importance of setting aspirations for each type of transition - personal and relationship.

Ep 111 Setting Aspirations

In this episode, Steve challenges the instinct to rely solely on thriftiness during major life changes such as divorce, emphasizing the importance of investing in oneself instead. He explores strategies for elevating personal and relationship capacities swiftly, even amidst the timeline and procedural intricacies of divorce. Tune in as we discover how to shift from thriftiness to strategic investment, ensuring not just stability but growth during transformative life events.

Ep. 112 Making the Most Progress in the Shortest Amount to Time

Explore the profound insights uncovered in this podcast episode as we delve into the transformative journey of healing emotional pain during divorce. Discover strategies to navigate conflict, elevate relationships, and enhance financial acumen for a brighter future. Tune in for empowering guidance on creating the divorce outcome you truly desire.

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Ep 113 Building Immunity to Pain

In this episode, we unravel the complexities of divorce fear and the transformative power of personalized support. Delving into the concept of weak spots, we uncover how these areas of vulnerability can hinder our journey through divorce. From the illusion of security surrounding material possessions to the importance of action-based and supernatural faith, we explore strategies to navigate fear and uncertainty. Joined by a specialized divorce coach, we discuss the pivotal role of personalized support in identifying and addressing these fears, offering actionable strategies for a seamless transition. Tune in to gain insights on overcoming divorce fear and unlocking a sense of peace and empowerment through personalized divorce support.

Ep 60: What is Equitable is Not Always Fair

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