Sounds pretty lofty doesn’t it?!   Winning the lottery. Who am I to think I can manifest an enormous thing like that?!

What came up for you when I said this?  Really?! What came up? What chatter came up?  Do you have judgement about me having this desire?  Maybe you have the same desire.

Here’s where it might get tricky.  In order for us to draw this or any seemingly outlandish dream into our life we have to really know and believe it’s for us.  

And I don’t mean there are a select few this dream is for.  I mean we have to know and believe we are all created equal.  The Universe wants us all to have the abundance we desire.

To have the abundance we desire we first have to look at all the reasons that stand in our way.  

We can’t just proclaim we want to win the lottery, then expect it to happen.   We also have to see all the reasons why we don’t already have it in our life.  

These reasons could be we think other people might judge us; others will talk about us; I don’t need it, I have enough; someone else can use it more than me; I might change if I have that money; I’m not good enough; I’m not worthy of having that money….

All these reasons are limiting beliefs filtering the experience we might be having to winning the lottery.   The phrases I just names are the beliefs we hold that filter the life we live. If we hold a belief we’re not good enough, that filter permeates our entire existence.  We use that belief in every aspect of our life. And that includes keeping the lottery winning at arms length.

Do you get what I’m saying?  Whether we want to win the lottery or find the perfect mate or feel healthy and fit in our body we have to know we first deserve it.  And I don’t mean deserving from a place of spite and victimhood. I mean deserving from a place of having cleared all the reasons why we think might not deserve it and arriving at a place of fully knowing and feeling the vibration of that abundance in our life.

Today’s episode is about manifesting all our desires, BIG and small, into our life.

I talk about tapping and EFT with Brad Yates.

And I love Abraham-Hicks and The Law of Attraction to bring about the exact manifestation I’m desiring.


Leave a comment below and tell me what you’d love to manifest in your life.  What’s holding you back? What limiting beliefs are ready to be released so you have everything you desire?

ON WINNING THE LOTTERY!

What is a boundary anyway?  Why do we even need them?  

According to my Dictionary app, a boundary is something that indicates bounds or limits; a limiting or bounding line.

Did you know creating boundaries is one of the most healthy acts of self love you can do for yourself?  

One of the reasons we create boundaries is to feel safe.  

When we need to have a tricky conversation with our partners, with our children, with a co-worker, with our boss, having boundaries in place as to what can or cannot be said allows us to feel safe and willing to open up with our truth.  

If we don’t feel safe, if we’re not willing to have frank discussions with someone, perhaps boundaries haven't been put into place.  

Or maybe we’ve established boundaries and haven’t stuck to them.

Boundaries allow us to take ownership for ourselves without self judgement. And here’s what I mean by that.

By establishing a boundary, we give ourselves permission to set a line.

The actual act of setting the boundary comes from a deep understanding there’s a piece within us that needs care; that needs self love.  

Yet often times, before we’re able to set that boundary, we criticize ourselves for having to create it in the first place. There can be so much self-bashing that can happen that we may not even create the boundary we really need. We might think that we’re weak or shouldn’t need to create a boundary, or we’ve been taught that boundaries keep others out.  

When in fact, it’s quite the opposite. Creating a boundary is acknowledging to ourselves and others we know what works for us and what doesn’t. It’s an act of self care.

Creating a boundary means we’re no longer judging ourselves for what we need or don’t need. It’s a realization that we need to create self care and that it’s our job to do it. When we can create this space without the self defeating chatter, we’ve arrived at the cusp of living fully.

Throughout this month, I’ll be talking about different ways to create boundaries in our lives. We might create physical boundaries, boundaries for conversations, boundaries for behaviors that we’re willing to tolerate or not.
 
By creating boundaries in our lives, we give ourselves the gift of feeling safe, valued, validated, heard. Creating boundaries also allows the freedom to be fully ourselves. When we know we are safe, we are free to be ourselves.

I’d love to hear how you create boundaries for yourself. What are your tips of self care?

Watch this week's episode or listen to the podcast. Then leave your comments below.  I love to hear what’s going on with you!

BOUNDARIES

I’ve been hiding something from you… and I didn’t even know it.

For as long as I can remember I’ve had a happy, energetic, free-flowing, bubbly personality. Guess what?!

I’ve been using my big personality as a defense mechanism to keep you at a distance.   

Bet you weren’t expecting that one, were you?! Me neither.  

My business coach dropped that bomb on me and it’s taken me weeks to sit with it.  

And since then I’ve kinda had a personality crisis! If I wasn’t a happy energetic person then who was I? And what did she mean I was using it as a defense mechanism?!

Looking back, I now recognize the defense piece. I was letting the bubbly piece go before me like a shield. I sent this big piece of me ahead to keep others at a “safe” distance. If I didn’t feel safe being vulnerable I pulled this piece out of my hat so as not to show you the real me.

And here’s what’s interesting. As I’ve sat with the confusion and wonderment for weeks now I realized I am bubbly and cheerful and happy and have a big personality and I don’t have to use it to keep others at a distance.

I can feel safe to be me without keeping you out. There was part of me that felt unworthy and not good enough to be seen. So I used this piece to keep you where I wanted you. Seeing exactly what I wanted to you see and not allowing you to witness anything else.

I don’t want to do that anymore. So how do I let go of the shield and still be me?   

By letting my guard down. By being willing to be vulnerable and seen by everyone, not just a select few.

When we’re willing to be seen for all that we are and willing to stop pretending we’re someone we aren’t, real connections are made.  

If we’re not willing to be open and vulnerable with others, we can’t expect them to be so with us. Only when we allow others to see us for who we are can we expect those around us to do the same.

In this week's video and podcast, I go more in detail about this unfolding and the struggles I experienced.

I give example of how we keep others at arm's length.  

Listen or watch and leave me a comment below. I’d love to hear any break-through you have and what pieces of you you haven’t been willing to share with others.

I'VE BEEN HIDING FROM YOU

When I decided to make Self-Care this week's topic I thought...blah blah blah. Who wants to listen to self care?  

Then I let go of that ridiculous voice and got on with the task at hand… thinking about how self-care should be all consuming! And realizing that I needed to hear this just as much as you do.

As I started tapping into the ways we take care of ourselves, I realized how it actually happens all day long, not just when we think about a “Spa Day.”

Self-Care is how we move through our entire day.  

It shows up in our health, the food we eat, our exercise, the amount of fun in our day, relationships, work, sleep, play... 

When you really think about it, self-care is happening 24/7, 365.  It encompasses us. We’re either taking care of ourselves or we’re not.  

We’re either really loving our bodies or we’re not. We’re either loving ourselves as a humans or we’re not. Self-care is literally taking care of ourselves every moment of everyday.

The way we treat ourselves sets the stage for how we allow others to treat us.    

Take a look how we allow others to treat us.  Do we make it a requirement that others treat us with love and respect or do we allow them to take us for granted and speak to us with disrespect? 

How we care for ourselves is a direct reflection of how others will treat us. Speaking up for how we wish to be treated means we’re taking care of ourselves. WE are responsible for how others act towards us and speak to us. If we don’t like what’s coming at us, it’s up to us to change it or move in a different direction. We get to be clear on how we want others to treat us. 

So it’s incredibly important that we’re clear on how we treat ourselves.

Gone are the old thoughts that self-care means a day at the spa or a massage or reading a book or having our nails done. These can be part of our lives. They allow our bodies to maintain health and balance. But this is just the tip of the iceberg. 

Self-care is balancing our lives in all aspects body, mind and spirit. 

When our minds and bodies are balanced, our health and well-being are balanced.  

And when this is balanced, self-care is our act of love and kindness to ourselves. It’s self-care!

Watch today’s video and podcast and let me know how you take care of yourselves. Is this a radical new thing to think about… self-care happens every minute of the day? Or have you been on this train for awhile.

Leave your comments and let’s start a dialog on how you love the most important being on the planet... YOU!

I'M BEING SELFISH TODAY!

Last week’s blog and video was all about self care and the opportunities that show up for us everyday.  

Several weeks ago, I had a situation present itself to really practice what I preach.  
 
I arranged to share a room at a business conference with a lady who I knew only from our online meetings. We hadn’t met in person.

When we met I immediately realized our energies were different. They were actually kinda crashing and bumping against each other. I wasn’t looking at it from the point of either of us being right or wrong… just recognizing we weren’t vibing together and that there was a definite difference between us.   

I was curious how this was going to work rooming together. When we got to the hotel it was really apparent our energies just weren’t working and I needed to get another room.

Here’s where the lesson came in.  

The old me would’ve wanted to push all this aside and just stay in the room we’d booked. I wouldn’t have felt strong enough to face whatever reaction she might have delivered to my response of bailing on our reservation.  

I had no idea how she would act. And truthfully, it’s none of my business how she responds. My job is to take care of me, whatever that looks like. It’s one key piece I teach.  

We are here to take care of us. How others to respond to us when we’re being truthful isn’t our business. We DO NOT take personally someone else’s reaction. 

Now, the new me who’s all about taking care of herself knew I had to put my big girl panties on and talk about what was going on.  And, figure out another room.

As we sat together for a few minutes I told her I had a knot forming in my stomach. And a few other physical reactions. I didn’t know exactly what was causing them, I just knew our vibrations were different from each other and I needed to take care of me.

Her reaction to me bailing on the room was actually easy. She didn’t feel rejected or dismissed or wrong. Confused maybe, but not in a bad way. She saw it for what it was.

And that’s that. I called a friend, asked if she could share her bed and voila! Done.  I took care of me.

It would have been so easy for either of us to take the negative road.  

But it wasn’t the road I wanted to take. 

What a gift she gave me. She gave me the opportunity to speak up for myself and take care of my needs. I’m actually grateful the situation presented itself. I feel stronger within.
 
And there’s more to the story. Listen to the podcast or watch the video for another lesson I learned.  

And leave a comment below. How are you taking care of yourself in less-conventional ways?

I GOTTA BE ME

“I avoid confrontation like the plague!” 
Ever made that statement? 

So many of us are challenged when it comes to speaking up for ourselves. For most of us, it doesn’t come naturally. 

We either do it or we don’t.

And for those of us who have struggled or are struggling, it can create all sorts of physical and emotional turmoil.

Let’s dig into why it might be so hard to say what we need to say.

Speaking up for ourselves means we feel worthy. And if we’re not speaking up, perhaps we don’t feel worthy. 

Perhaps somewhere in our childhood we got the message what we had to say didn’t matter. Or that we didn’t matter.

So speaking up for ourselves seems irrelevant.

As a child we may have had adverse reactions to speaking up. Maybe we had a loud, overbearing father or a mother who was emotionally unavailable. These experience could have left us feeling small and irrelevant. 

We know, those who cared for us were doing the best they could with what they had. Nonetheless, that was our reality. 

And from these experiences we might have formed a belief that what we have to say really isn’t that important, or that we ourselves aren’t important. 

In order for us to speak up we have to have confidence in ourselves. We have to believe that what we need and what we have to say are valid. 

We also have to have the confidence in how we’re going to handle what’s going to be dished back. 

In other words, since we have no idea what the reaction will be to our speaking up, we have to know we’ll be able to handle whatever it is.

And for those of us who didn’t grow up with that kind of confidence, speaking up can be terrifying!

Today’s video and podcast is from a Facebook Live I did last week. 

I chat about more underlying causes of why we don’t speak up and give tips on how to overcome this.

Do you easily speak up or is it a challenge for you?

Leave me a comment below and let’s start a discussion on how to have more confidence in speaking up!

COULD YOU SPEAK UP, PLEASE?

Ya! You read that right! I got hit on. And I had no idea what to do with it.

Having someone hit on me was so weird. That experience hasn’t been in my reality for some time. I was super surprised. And even more important, I didn’t like how I reacted. 

I looked at him with a scowl! I really crinkled up my brow and gave him a good scowl. As if he’d done something wrong!

But why? Why did I look at him in such a weird way when he was actually trying to pay me a compliment?

I didn’t know how to act in that moment. All I knew was I felt ashamed, weird, unworthy, uncomfortable, anxious, awkward, embarrassed and a lot more that I can’t identify at the moment.

What I’ve realized is that I’m not fully comfortable receiving compliments. How interesting is that?! 

I bet most of us can say we’re better at giving than receiving. I mean, isn’t that what we’re taught? It’s better to give than to receive?

That old, outdated phrase needs to go! 

Giving and receiving are equally amazing. Both the acts of giving and receiving create balance. And we learn so much in doing them.
 
But back to the way I acted. I REALLY didn’t like the way I acted toward him. He didn’t do anything wrong. At all! I did. 

I was reacting in such a weird way. I probably made him feel bad, which was not my intention. 
 
I really want to be more present in the moment and identify what I’m feeling rather than to be taken off guard and act like a weirdo. 

 Listen here for this week's Podcast and watch here for the video.
 
And leave your comments below. What is your reaction when you’re taken off guard? Or when you receive a compliment?

I GOT HIT ON! AND HERE'S WHAT I DID...

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