In this episode, we talk about siblings from an Aware Parenting perspective. We offer ways to prepare a child for a new sibling, how to support the relationships between siblings, and the cause of sibling aggression. We offer ways to help siblings be naturally gentle with each other without ever asking them to "be gentle!". We also share why having our own feelings listened to is so vital if were are to be able to help our children when there is conflict. We also discuss how we can support children to repair when they've hurt their sibling.

Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast

You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au

And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?
 
We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey.
Marion and Lael
xoxo

Episode 84: Siblings Q & A

In this episode, we talk about sleep from an Aware Parenting perspective, which is the third way with sleep, where we can have secure attachment AND restful sleep! We answered questions on: the three things needed for sound sleep, co-sleeping, children moving to their own bed, closeness before bed, talking lots before bed, thumb sucking to sleep, waking up after one sleep cycle, waking up lots in the night, and lots more!

Marion has a course called Sound Sleep and Secure Attachment with Aware Parenting at: http://www.soundasleep.me/invitation/

Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast

You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au

And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?
 
We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey.
Marion and Lael
xoxo

Episode 87: Sleep Q and A

In this very special episode, we interview Gabor Maté about his most recent book, 'The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture.'

We so loved talking with Gabor and hearing him share his wisdom about his willingness to be vulnerable, the four needs of children, and how people are desperate for information about trauma and healing. 

He also shared about attachment and authenticity, and the effects of needing to make a choice between these two as a child on later physical and emotional health.

He talked about mothers, and how so often girls are given the responsibility to take care of others and how mothers are then often given the task of mothering both their children and their partner.

He explained why virtually all trauma is intergenerational, and makes a key suggestion for healing intergenerational trauma. He also spoke of the effects of the trauma of colonisation in Australia, Canada and other countries. 

He talked about tantrums and what he invites parents to do if their child is having tantrums. 

He also spoke about the schooling system and its intentions. He explained that it is unnatural for children to be away from their parents for the whole day, and what schools need to do if children being at school is necessary, so that children have emotional safety and therefore stay connected with their natural curiosity to learn.

He shared the reason for the subtitle of his book, and also talked about his stance on children and screens.

We are so willing for you to enjoy listening to this episode as much as we enjoyed recording it!

We so  highly recommend 'The Myth of Normal' to anyone who hasn't read it yet.

You can find out more about Gabor Maté at https://drgabormate.com/

Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast

You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au

And if you haven’t already, would you be willing to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?
 
We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey.
Marion and Lael
xoxo

Episode 123: An interview with Gabor Maté

In this episode of The Aware Parenting Podcast, I talk about sleep from an Aware Parenting perspective. This incudes why Aware Parenting is the third way with sleep, the three things needed for sound sleep, and why it's important to understand the difference between true relaxation and dissociation when looking at sleep. I also explain why concepts such as 'overtired', 'fighting sleep', 'sleep windows' and 'sleep regression' don't exist in Aware Parenting. I share about my own experience of sleep in my family and about the myth that early parenthood always not getting much sleep for years!

I'm going to be making a new course on sleep, writing a book and creating a workshop, so keep an eye out on my social media and email list if you want to find out more about those. The existing course is very glitchy at the moment! 

You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net, https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ and https://www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 125: Sound sleep and secure attachment

In this episode, I talk about how our own capacity to be present in our bodies with each particular feeling affects our capacity to be present with our baby or child as they feel and express that feeling. I share about the cultural effects on which feelings are welcomed, and how we can become more comfortable to be present in our bodies when we're feeling particular feelings, thus affecting our presence with our baby or child's feelings. I also relate that to a child's experience of being unconditionally loved. And finally, I explore how these are connected with sleep.

If you want to find out more about Aware Parenting, I invite you to come to my website at www.marionrose.net. You can also sign up for my emails, including about my sleep course 2.0, there on my website.

Episode 138: Feelings, unconditional love and sleep

In today's episode I talk with Adrienne Harper-Pike, who is an Aware Parenting instructor who also works in the deaf/blind community as a social worker, works with queer people and their families, and works with families with multiples, including twins, triplets and higher order births.

Please note that we discuss  things that might help you connect with painful past experiences, including the journey to conceiving through IVF, pregnancy complications, birth and postnatal trauma and complications as well as early separation between parents and babies.

Adrienne shares her story of coming to Aware Parenting, which began when her daughter asked her to heal some of her birth trauma through play. She also talks about her journey with IVF and the stressful and traumatic experiences during pregnancy and during and after the birth or her premature twins and how that affected her – including with postnatal anxiety and depression, and guilt, shame and worry – as well as the babies and her partner. 

Adrienne talks about the huge healing they have all done since then, and the hope this gives to other families about what is possible. She talks about how the system isn't set up to support parents to heal so that they can support their babies or children to heal. 

Adrienne goes on to share specific examples of how her children have indicated that they were healing from their experiences in utero, during birth and after birth, and what she and her partner did to support them. 

She talks about the information that her partner and she have given their twins about what happened to them and how that has built over time. She finishes by sharing about the wondrousness of the healing that is possible and what she would love to share with other families who might be in similar positions.

You can find out more about Adrienne and her work at: www.alongsideparenting.com and on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/alongsideparenting and on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/alongsideparenting/

Episode 150: Helping children heal from their birth through play with Adrienne Harper-Pike

This is a very special episode, with a lot of laughter, where I talk with Belynda Smith, who is an Aware Parenting instructor and Hand in Hand Instructor and also copy editor. Belynda shares about her journey to Hand in Hand Parenting and then Aware Parenting, and how she came to be the copy editor of The Emotional Life of Babies, my book which is about to come out.

Belynda shares about Listening Partnerships, and I explain why I often tell other parents about how many Listening Partnerships she has. 

We then go on to talk about the process of editing the book together, including the enjoyment and ease of it all. We talk about the length of it and the cover, as well as the nuanced approach of Aware Parenting with a baby that it describes. I share about the process of feeling called to write it and how and why that happened. We talk about all the parents' stories in the book and I talk about how delighted I was that most of them used their real names.

I'm so grateful to everyone who has shared their stories, who has been a beta reader, to my Marion's Books Support Team, and to those who have shared a testimonial, and more.

Belynda asks me about how I've sustained my excitement about this long, and I loved responding to that question, about how in our culture we often have not only our sadness and rage suppressed, but also our excitement and exuberance. I share about how much I've enjoyed all the steps and the collaborative process of finding the title and the subtitle and so on, including with the help of the father of my children.  We also talked about the invitations throughout the book, including for self-compassion, and the research triangle that I talk about in it too.

The book will be out any day now!

You can find out more about Belynda and her work at: https://belyndasmith.com.au/
On her website, you can also sign up for her free ebook on book sharing for connected families.

Her podcast is called Tales from The Toolbox. https://www.facebook.com/talesfromthetoolboxpodcast

If you want to be notified when The Emotional Life of Babies is out, I'll be sharing about it on my main email list. If you're not on it, you can sign up here:  http://eepurl.com/8ifhn

I'll also be sharing information about how you can support me and this book, both by email and social media. My website is www.marionrose.net

Episode 151: Marion Rose & Belynda Smith talk about Marion's new book, The Emotional Life of Babies

In this episode, I talk about the self-connected approach to eating, which is officially called the self-demand approach to food or self-regulated eating in Aware Parenting. I talk about children's innate body wisdom in relation to food, and the interplay of that with them needing to learn about the place, family and culture they are born into. I share about what gets in the way of their connection with the sensations in their bodies, and specifically what we can do to help them stay connected with that intrinsic wisdom, or to reconnect back with it. I explain what can make that so hard for us, and what can help us with that. 

If you're wanting support with this, 
it's included in my Aware Parenting with Marion Course, https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/aware-parenting-with-marion-course/, 
and in my next book (I'm Here and I'm Listening) 
and in 1:1 mentoring. 
I also highly recommend reading Aletha Solter's book 'Cooperative and Connected' which has a chapter on eating and ailments.

Episode 156: Trusting children's innate body wisdom in relation to food

In this episode, I share about what's going on when a child is hitting. I talk about them being in the fight or flight response, and how we can help them move out of that state of hyperarousal, through feeling physically and emotionally safe, to return to homeostasis through healing raging and crying (or laughing and playing) with our loving support.

I mention ways we can prevent hitting from happening in the first place, what we can do if we don't get there in time to prevent it happening.

I talk about the choice we have between loving limits and attachment play in response to hitting, and what exactly we might choose to say with loving limits.

I finish with a story from my latest book, 'I'm Here and I'm Listening', which is through the eyes of a child who is hitting.

You can buy the paperback or ebook on Amazon by searching for 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' on the Amazon store in your country!

Or send me a DM for the direct link!

You might also enjoy my Loving Limits Deep Dive!

The link is here:

https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/loving-limits-deep-dive/

Big love xoxox

You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net

You can also find me here:
https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/
https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/
www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 172: Helping a hitting child

In this episode, I talk to Maru Rojas again. Maru is an Aware Parenting instructor in the UK and is originally from Mexico. She was a guest on the podcast on episode 139, also talking about sleep. If you haven't listened to that episode, I highly recommend listening to it after this one.

Maru shares her journey of sleep with her daughter and son, as she gradually increased the depth of her understanding and practice of Aware Parenting.

In particular, she talks about her daughter's night waking and moving all around the bed as a toddler. 

She shares how she stopped breastfeeding at night, and about her increasing awareness of the surprising control pattern that was the lynchpin for more sleep.

She also shares more about the huge difference in sleep between her daughter and her son, with whom she started practicing Aware Parenting with at birth, alongside having much more understanding and experience with Aware Parenting by that time.

Maru is also a teacher of Elimination Communication and offers courses and 1:1 consultations in both EC and Aware Parenting.

You can find out more about her work and can contact her at: https://parenttogether.co.uk/ and https://www.instagram.com/_maru.rojas_/

Episode 184: Night waking and night weaning for toddlers, with Maru Rojas

It really is possible to get free from guilt!

I'd love to emphasise again that this is NOT Aware Parenting. This reparenting series is based on The Marion Method.

I'm so grateful to Marshall Rosenberg, who created Nonviolent Communication.

It was from him, back in 2002, when my daughter was 9 months old, that I learnt about the true origin of guilt, and how it is simply a form of cultural conditioning. It's not an innate feeling.

I also borrowed the term 'Domination Culture' from him. He in turn borrowed it from Walter Wink.

I added 'Disconnected' to it, i.e. 'Disconnected Domination Culture', to emphasise that disconnection needs to happen in order for domination to happen.

In contrast, in The Marion Method, I see our true nature as Love and Will - in other words, we are LOVE: deeply interconnected with all that is, and WILL: deeply powerful and connected with the power of Life, particularly through our yeses and noes.

So, back to guilt!

In this episode, I talk about how guilt is related to both Love--Hurts and Will-Hurts.

Guilt has two functions: to coerce us into doing things, and to lead to uncomfortable feelings if we don't act as we think we 'should'.

The first is related to will. The second to love.

In comparison, with The Marion Method, we can transform self-coercion into acting from willingness, or being unwilling to do something.

And we can transform the pain of self-judgment to deep self-compassion.

Getting free from guilt is so life-changing, in ways that I explain in more depth.

You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net and my books at: https://marionrose.net/books/

The Get Free From Guilt Course is in a Facebook group and is here: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/get-free-from-guilt-for-good/

You can also find me here:
https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/
https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/
https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/
www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 206: It really is possible to get free from guilt!

I'd love to emphasise again that this is NOT Aware Parenting. This reparenting series is based on The Marion Method.

I came up with the concept and practice of the three types of feelings by integrating two philosophies:

Aware Parenting, which includes what I call needs-feelings and healing-feelings.

Nonviolent Communication, which includes what I call needs-feelings and thoughts-feelings.

I'll explain more about this!

But first, why is this important?

Well, if we think that there is only one type of feeling, and the most apt response is the same to any feeling, we may miss the most apt response. 

In the episode, explain the three types of feelings in more detail, what they are caused by, and how to most aptly respond in the reparenting process.

You can find my Inner Loving Presence Process Course here: https://innerlovingpresenceprocess.com/

You can find my Wonder of Willingness Course here: https://www.thewonderofwillingness.com/

You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net and my books at: https://marionrose.net/books/

You can also find me here:
https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/
https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/
https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/
www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD



Episode 207: Reparenting ourselves with the three types of feelings

I love this episode with Caitlin Jaspers, who has been doing mentoring with me for the last 4 months.

This episode includes both her practice of Aware Parenting, and also The Marion Method and Nonviolent Communication.

Caitlin starts off sharing her journey with Aware Parenting, which started when her 4-month-old son was waking very frequently.

Once she started practicing Aware Parenting, his sleep shifted. 

However, she then saw how much of an effect her own inner work, including her exploration of her control patterns, her willingness to have her needs met, and her having her feelings heard, affected her son's ability to freely express his emotions.

I love how clearly Caitlin shares the direct and tangible effects of doing her own de-conditioning so she has been more and more willing to have her own needs met.

I'm so grateful to Caitlin for sharing her experience of how powerful we are as mothers, and what a difference we can make to our children's experiences and willingness to express their healing-feelings to us.


If you want to learn more about The Marion Method, you can do so on my Psychospiritual Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-psychospiritual-podcast/id1344385341

You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net and my books at: https://marionrose.net/books/

You can also find me here:
https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/
https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/
https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/
www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 212: The tangible effects of having our needs met as mothers with Caitlin Jaspers

This is another episode of the reparenting series, which is based on The Marion Method, not reparenting.

As parents, our relationships with our partners and exes can have a huge effect on our children.

I love supporting my mentees, either in 1:1, or them as a couple, to use The Marion Method maps and practices to bring about deeper connection, harmony, and healing in their relationships.

In this episode, I share the maps and practices which support that.

If you want to learn more about The Marion Method, you can do so on my Psychospiritual Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-psychospiritual-podcast/id1344385341

You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net and my books at: https://marionrose.net/books/

You can also find me here:
https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/
https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/
https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/
www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 217: How the Marion Method can help our relationship with our partner or ex-partner

This is the last episode in the series about reparenting with The Marion Method.

In this episode, I welcome Nic Wilson, who is a Marion Method Mentor and Aware Parenting instructor.

Nic shares about how she first came to The Marion Method 7 years ago, in a 1:1 willingness mentoring session with me.

She talks about the power of reparenting with The Marion Method, including how our relationships with our Inner Loving Presences can often result in our outer relationships changing.

Nic also shares about how her life has changed through the will and willingness work, and how she uses Psychospiritual Entrepreneurship, such as in posting on social media.

Nic offers 1:1 mentoring, as well as her Surviving School with Aware Parenting and The Marion Method Course, amongst other courses.

You can find her on Instagram at: 
https://www.instagram.com/peacefulparenting/
and on Facebook at:
https://www.facebook.com/PeacefulParenting.com.au
Her website is at:
https://peacefulparenting.com.au/


If you want to learn more about The Marion Method, you can do so on my Psychospiritual Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-psychospiritual-podcast/id1344385341

You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net and my books at: https://marionrose.net/books/

You can also find me here:
https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/
https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/
https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/
www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 219: The power of reparenting with Nic Wilson


In this episode, I talk with Alex Letham, who is the mother of a 12 year old son, Miles.

Alex did my Attachment Play Course 10 years ago, when I first created it, and I still share her testimonial and the games she and Miles made up, all these years later.

In the episode, Alex shares about the conversation where she asked about tantrums and her dear friend shared about Aware Parenting.

Then we had a lovely conversation about attachment play. 

Alex talks about her grandmother has an incredible ability to play with children, and until learning about attachment play, she didn't think she'd also be able to do that.

We talk about how Aware Parenting supports children, parents, and the relationship between the two throughout the tween and teen years.

Alex shares about how attachment play helped her son prepare for some surgeries he had, as well as for healing afterwards. She also explains how Miles healed from fear he felt before performances playing the trumpet using attachment play and listening to feelings.

She also talks about how doing attachment play helped Miles be willing to eat more vegetables, but also how important it is to not use attachment play to try to get children to do what we want them to. She gives an example of how she trusted his food choices.

We also talk about how helpful attachment play is for children and teens learning new things, and how both nonsense play and power-reversal games are so helpful.

Alex shares about the power of attachment play when tweens are going through adolescence. She also offers games to play for when we're feeling exhausted, and also for when our big feelings are starting to bubble up.

If you want to find out more about attachment play, I highly recommend reading Aletha Solter, PhD's book 'Attachment Play": http://www.awareparenting.com/attachmentplay.html

If you want to find out more about my Attachment Play Course, you can do that here: http://www.attachmentplaycourses.com/join-in

You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net and my books at: https://marionrose.net/books/

You can also find me here:
https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/
https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/
https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/
www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD




Episode 226: The long-term effects of attachment play with Alex Letham

In this episode, which is the second in my series of the foundations of Aware Parenting, I talk about helping children cooperate with toothbrushing.

I share about my own journey with my teeth and mouth, and how I passed down some of that trauma to my children, and how that affected their willingness with toothbrushing.

I talk about the three reasons why children may not be willing to cooperate with toothbrushing, including trauma related to their mouths, and what we can do to tend to each of those three reasons.

I offer suggestions for how to respond to each of those three reasons, including attachment play suggestions.

Here's the link for my Helping Your Child Cooperate with Toothbrushing Mini Course: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/helping-your-child-cooperate-with-toothbrushing-mini-course

If you want to learn more about attachment play, I highly recommend 'Attachment Play' by Aletha Solter, PhD, and my Attachment Play Course: http://www.attachmentplaycourses.com/join-in

You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net and my books at: https://marionrose.net/books/

You can also find me here:
https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/
https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/
https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/
www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 227: Helping children cooperate with toothbrushing

In this episode of the Aware Parenting Podcast, which is part of the Foundations of Aware Parenting series, I discuss separation anxiety. 
I delve into the history and current usage of the term and I contrast Aware Parenting's understanding of separation anxiety with Classical Attachment Parenting's understanding. 
I explore various causes of separation anxiety, including developmental stages, a need for safety, accumulated feelings, past unhealed separation trauma, and the parent's own past unhealed separation trauma. 
I also emphasise the effect of cultural beliefs on the understanding of separation anxiety and, as always, I offer lots of compassion to parents and children who are experiencing separation anxiety. 
I provide practical suggestions, such as the use of separation games and listening to crying and raging, to help both parents and children experience more connection, safety, and healing.

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction to Aware Parenting

00:26 Understanding Separation Anxiety

02:24 Cultural influences on Parenting

06:52 Causes of, and Responses to, Separation Anxiety

25:59 Healing Through Separation Games

40:10 The Influence of a Parent's own Separation Trauma

41:53 Conclusion and Resources

If you want to learn more about separation anxiety, I wrote a free ebook, which you can access here: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/gfm8bc3qf5

I also recommend reading these books by Aletha Solter, PhD.:

Cooperative and Connected
Healing Your Traumatized Child
Tears and Tantrums
The Aware Baby

And these books by me:

I'm Here and I'm Listening
The Emotional Life of Babies
All of Your Feelings are Welcome

If you want to learn more about separation games, one of the nine types of attachment play, you might feel called to do my Attachment Play Course, which you can find here: 
http://www.attachmentplaycourses.com/join-in

I'm also creating a mini course on separation anxiety. You'll be able to find that on my website.

You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net and my books at: https://marionrose.net/books/

You can also find me here:
https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/
https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/
https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/
www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD


Episode 228: Separation anxiety

In this episode, I talk about why I believe crying is so important in children (from an Aware Parenting perspective) and for adults (from a Marion Method perspective).

I emphasise that in Aware Parenting, crying is a vital natural healing response for children, enabling them to release stress and trauma. 

I connect emotional disconnection in adults to societal issues and suggest that many violent and harmful behaviours stem from unexpressed grief and rage as well as from a sense of disconnection. 

I draw parallels between individual emotional health and historical/cultural disconnections caused by colonisation, and I track that colonisation back, step by step.

I recommend the movie, 'Schooling the World: The white man's last burden", and mention scenes from the film that highlight what I'm talking about.

By supporting children in feeling and expressing their feelings, parents can help their children feel more, care more, and make more of a difference in the world. 

By receiving support ourselves as parents to feel more, we can also be a part of making a difference in the world.

I conclude by inviting parents to see their children's tears as part of a broader context of healing and connection, not only for themselves, but also for  their community and world.

My new Aware Parenting book for babies and children about welcoming feelings is out!

Here are the links:

AU: https://www.amazon.com.au/dp/0645857572
US: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0645857572
UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0645857572
DE: https://www.amazon.de/dp/0645857572
FR: https://www.amazon.fr/dp/0645857572
ES: https://www.amazon.es/dp/0645857572
IT: https://www.amazon.it/dp/0645857572
NL: https://www.amazon.nl/dp/0645857572
PL: https://www.amazon.pl/dp/0645857572
SE: https://www.amazon.se/dp/0645857572
JP: https://www.amazon.co.jp/dp/0645857572
CA: https://www.amazon.ca/dp/0645857572

You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net and my books at: https://marionrose.net/books/

You can also find me here:
https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/
https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/
https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/
www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD


Episode 229: Why crying is so important

Welcome to The Aware Parenting Podcast! In this special episode, I celebrate the launch of my first children's book, "I Love You, However You Feel," by reading it aloud. 
I highlight the unique nature of the book, which uses flower photographs to help convey nuanced feelings. 
Emphasising the importance of deep presence and unconditional love, I invite you to connect deeply with your child or children while reading this book. 
I also share ways for you to buy the book and take part in the 'I Love You, However You Feel' movement by sharing your own reading of the book on video.

You can find the paperback and hardback on Amazon here:
AU: https://www.amazon.com.au/dp/0645857572
US: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0645857572
UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0645857572
DE: https://www.amazon.de/dp/0645857572
FR: https://www.amazon.fr/dp/0645857572
ES: https://www.amazon.es/dp/0645857572
IT: https://www.amazon.it/dp/0645857572
NL: https://www.amazon.nl/dp/0645857572
PL: https://www.amazon.pl/dp/0645857572
SE: https://www.amazon.se/dp/0645857572
JP: https://www.amazon.co.jp/dp/0645857572
CA: https://www.amazon.ca/dp/0645857572



You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net and my books at: https://marionrose.net/books/

You can also find me here:
https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/
https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/
https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/
www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD


00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:17 Celebrating the Birth of My First Children's Book

04:28 Reading the Book: I Love You, However You Feel

08:07 Information for Parents about Aware Parenting

08:34 Where the Book is Available

10:10 Invitation to Join the Movement

12:17 Conclusion and Gratitude

Episode 230: My first children's book ~ 'I Love You, However You Feel'

Join me as I welcome Linde Lambrechts back on the podcast! Linde is an Aware Parenting instructor, Psychotherapist and Psychologist.

Linde was a guest on episode 210, where she shared an experience that I found deeply moving. 

In this episode, Linde shares her profound journey with Aware Parenting, discussing the transition from mainstream parenting to understanding the true causes of behaviours in children and adults. 

We explore the nuance, depth, and transformative experience of practicing Aware Parenting, highlighting the importance of addressing our unmet needs as parents, and developing deep self-compassion. 

Both of us reflect on our personal experiences as psychotherapists and psychologists, and how what we see working with adults in their own healing journeys inspires our work as Aware Parenting instructors.

Linde shares her passion and vision with Aware Parenting, and together we talk about the supportive, life-changing community that Aware Parenting welcomes parents into. 

Linde finishes by sharing about her work, including the special birthday offer she has on at the time of recording.

You can find out more about Linde and her work here:
https://www.instagram.com/lovinglimits/
https://www.facebook.com/linde.lambrechts
https://www.lindelambrechts.be/


You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net and my books at: https://marionrose.net/books/

You can also find me here:
https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/
https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/
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Episode 231:  How Aware Parenting creates transformation with Linde Lambrechts

There are many different beliefs about why children hit, and based on those beliefs, what the most helpful response to a hitting child is.

Old religious paradigms believed that children were innately evil or bad and needed to be shamed and punished into being 'good'.

Behaviourism believed that children needed to be taught through punishments, or removal of rewards, to teach children to stop hitting.

Cognitive paradigms believed that children need to be taught that hitting hurts, in order to stop hitting.
Medical models might believe that there is something wrong with a child physiologically.

Some physiological maps believe that a hitting child has an immature nervous system and that they need to be taught to be calmed down.

In Aware Parenting, a hitting child is in fight or flight, or hyperarousal.

By definition, they don't experience being safe.

There are three reasons for this:

1 ~ They aren't safe;

2 ~ The present situation is reminding them of a past trauma that they haven't yet healed from, so when they revisit that, they go into fight or flight.

3 ~ They have accumulated unexpressed painful feelings sitting in their bodies which their system interprets as a sign of not being safe, so they move into hyperarousal.

The older models, with their shame, punishment, information, or calming methods, do not address the cause of the hitting, and are likely to either add more painful feelings to a child's system, and thus more fighting, or flight. 

Or, the child may stop hitting, but that's because they've gone into freeze, or dissociation.

All the painful feelings are still sitting in their bodies.

They're not feeling truly relaxed and connected to their innate nonviolence; instead, they are bypassing the feelings that are there.

With Aware Parenting, our role is to help the child actually know that they are safe now.

If we punish, or shame, even with an "it's not okay to hit", that won't lead to safety.

If we get harsh, or disconnect, that doesn't help them experience being safe.

However, when we move in close in particular ways and offer either loving limits or attachment play, we can support our child to know in their body that they are safe now.

When they experience being safe, they no longer need to be in fight or flight, and will stop hitting.

Then they can continue the innate physiological process of completion of the stress and trauma process, which includes releasing the feelings through either crying and raging with our loving support (if we've offered a loving limit), or laughter and play with our loving support (if we've offered attachment play).

In addition, they are releasing the tension mobilised for fight or flight, which includes vigorous movement - such as the vigorous movement or a tantrum, or of a power-reversal pillow fight.

They are also experiencing a sense of successfully completing the process, by being powerful this time, which helps change memories of danger and powerlessness into those of safety and power.

This active process is different to the calming down that other approaches advocate for, which tend to lead to dissociation instead of true relaxation and resolution.

When a child moves through this whole process, they emerge out the other side, naturally relaxed and nonviolent.

We didn't need to shame them, punish them, teach them, or calm them.

They innately know how to become truly relaxed.

They just needed us to know how to support them to do that, and to not prevent the process from happening!

If you want my free PDF to learn more about this, you can find it here:

https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/help-my-child-stop-hitting-free-pdf

You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net and my books at: https://marionrose.net/books/

You can also find me here:
https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/
https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/
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Episode 232: Help your child stop hitting

In this episode, I take a meander through the surprising beauty of welcoming children's crying and raging.

You can find my new course here: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/tantrums-and-tears-course

You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net and my books at: https://marionrose.net/books/

You can also find me here:
https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/
https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/
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www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 233: The secret wisdom of crying and raging

In this episode, I dive into the concept of embodying loving limits: a term I coined to describe the process which is integral to the Aware Parenting approach created by Aletha Solter, PhD. 

I share my experiences and challenges that I faced in practicing loving limits, both with my daughter and son. I also emphasise how the practice of loving limits contrasts with typical authoritarian or permissive parenting models. 

I highlight the nuanced understanding and deep inner work required to truly embody this practice, sharing insights from my own journey. 

Throughout, I highlight the profound influence loving limits can have for children, their parents, and the relationship between the two of them.

You can find my free PDF on Loving limits here:
https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/loving-limits-free-pdf

And the link to my Loving Limits Deep Dive is here:  https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/loving-limits-deep-dive/

You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net and my books at: https://marionrose.net/books/

You can also find me here:
https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/
https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/
https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/
www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 234: Embodying loving limits

In this episode, I read my second Aware Parenting children's book, "Calm Down Bob, Before Bed!"

I love this book, which was illustrated by Linda Valere!

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You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net and my books at: https://marionrose.net/books/

You can also find me here:
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Episode 235: Calm Down Bob, Before Bed

I'm so delighted that Maru Rojas, an Aware Parenting instructor in London, originally from Mexico, is back on the podcast again.
Maru was on episodes 129 and 184.
Maru and I discuss the nuances of helping children cooperate and understand the world around them. 
Maru shares examples of how providing information to babies and children can make everyday tasks like hair brushing, nail cutting, and applying sunscreen easier. 
We emphasise the importance of meeting children’s needs for agency, autonomy, and choice, while also addressing accumulated feelings that might cause them to be unwilling to cooperate. 
We explore how attachment play can be a magical tool to foster cooperation as well as the deeper connection it creates between parents and children.
Maru is also a teacher of Elimination Communication and offers courses and 1:1 consultations in both Aware Parenting and EC.

You can find out more about her work and can contact her at: https://parenttogether.co.uk/ and https://www.instagram.com/_maru.rojas_/

You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net and my books at: https://marionrose.net/books/

You can also find me here:
https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/
https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/
https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/
www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD


Episode 236: How to help children cooperate with Maru Rojas

Episode 237: An end and a beginning

In this episode, we discuss why birth matters and its impact on our lives. We explore how birthing mothers birthing can feel as well as what babies may feel. 
We look at prenatal psychology and the awareness that babies are born with. 
We discuss why birth can often play out the way it needs for the baby for healing and learning from a bigger perspective. We also talk about honouring the mother's journey and feeling fear in pregnancy.
We talk about birth trauma and healing for mother and baby as well as why babies may cry and how we can meet their needs.
We also discuss how babies and children know what they need to do to heal.
Book: The Aware Baby by Aletha Solter
www.stanislavgrof.com
www.aboutbirth.com.au 
www.calmbirth.com.au

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Episode 2: The Power of Birth

In this episode, we talk about the short term and long term effects of listening to a baby’s feelings.
Books: The Aware Baby by Aletha Solter.
Tears and Tantrums by Aletha Solter.
Cooperative and Connected by Aletha Solter.
Babies have real feelings ebook: http://www.awareparentingbabies.com/babies-have-real-feelings/

Episode 3: Attachment and Tears

In this episode, we talk about toddlers and tantrums, but what we share is also relevant to children of all ages.
We discuss the importance of listening to a child's feelings, and what can be required from us as parents to be able to do that.
Resources:
Power and Powerlessness in Parenting Course: http://www.powerandpowerlessnessinparenting.com/invitation/
Intro to Aware Parenting Webinar with Lael 
https://laelstone.webinarninja.com/webinars/51777/register
Tears and Tantrums by Aletha Solter
Cooperative and Connected by Aletha Solter
Playful Parenting by Lawrence Cohen
Listen by Patty Wipfler and Tosha Schore

Episode 6: Toddlers and Tantrums

Episode 16: Hitting and Biting

In this episode, we explain why aggression happens, and how we can respond to that root cause in ways that are both effective and empathic. 
We differentiate between expression, regression and aggression, and we talk about how we can support our children to move from aggression to healthy expression. 
We discuss how important it is for us to do our own inner work so that we have the capacity to be with our child’s feelings of powerlessness, frustration and outrage. 
We describe Loving Limits in detail and explain why the language we use in Loving Limits is so important.
We hope you enjoy listening to this as much as we enjoyed recording it for you!

Recommended reading:
Aletha Solter - Tears and Tantrums
Aletha Solter - Cooperative and Connected

Offerings from us:

Marion
Why is My Child? Series:
https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/why-is-my-child-series/
Powerlessness, Power-over and Power-with in Parenting Masterclass
https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/powerlessness-power-over-and-power-with-in-parenting-masterclass/
Making Friends with Children’s Feelings Course
http://www.makingfriendswithchildrensfeelings.com/course/


Lael
Aware Parenting Immersion:
To explore the deeper imprints from our childhoods and how they turn up in our parenting.
Aware Parenting for Couples:
Coming Soon!
You can find all the details at www.laelstone.com.au

Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram  @theawareparentingpodcast

You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au

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We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey.
Marion and Lael
xoxo

Episode 47: Aggression

The Aware Parenting Podcast is based on Aware Parenting which was created by Aletha Solter, PhD. Marion Rose, PhD is a level two Aware Parenting instructor and the regional coordinator for Australia and New Zealand. The podcast explores all aspects of parenting and reparenting from an Aware Parenting perspective.

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