Episode 4 - Barriers to Happiness

- Stepping into who you are
    - there is no real barrier between your current self and this “best version” you hold in your mind //
    - if nothing changes nothing changes // what else do you expect? // we live in this illusory state that this person is somehow going to manifest without putting forth the action to step into it
    - our personal definitions/stories/histories run the show
    - ever notice that “someday” never comes
- Taking action
    - Who is this person? // What do they believe? // How do they dress? Talk? Get up in the morning? Show up in their relationships and at work?
    - What would actually prevent you from doing this now? Why are you holding back?
    - We pace ourselves out of our life expectancy by saying “someday” everyday until we die
- Maintaining
    - Identifying pain leverage in not making the change / being consistent
    - What would it cost you to waste the next 5 years in the same old? 10? 20?
    - How could you commit yourself on a quasi painful level to keep you committed? If you want to take the island, burn the boats. Sign up // Pay the tuition // Buy the building //

Episode 3 - Why Knowing Your Habits ISN'T Enough - What Comes Next?

Our regular processes, take a look at them.
In every second of everyday, we are making 3 decisions; what we’re focusing on, what it means and what we’re going to do about it.

Once you tackle how you show up yourself, you can also begin to shift this mental habit that affects your decisions. This will matter to your relationships, jobs, finances and health. 

Why suggest you come before the catalysts?
What comes first—you or your mindset? 
Let’s take a look. 

Who are you?
We usually start with rigid identity.
You could say any number of things. Mother, wife, daughter, friend, business owner, avoid baseball fan, devoted nurse, millennial, Christian, etc. 
Take that away. 

Who are you?
We usually move to less rigid identifiers.
You can say a lover, enneagram 3, Gemini, healer, etc.
Take that away.
Do your still exist?

Of course you do but who are you? Let’s find out. 
You’re standing in front of a fire. 

Take your thoughts.
Take your emotions.
Take your experience.
Personality.
Preferences. 
Throw them into the fire. 
Do you still exist?

Of course you do.
What remains is why we focus on you first. That being is what you return to during meditation. That just precede assessing our habitual processor. Because it is still, subsequently valid.

Many of us, without practicing self awareness will often define the intangible soul by the rigid and limited characteristics. This is backward.

Our infinite being should define our more limited personality traits and characteristics. 

Our unlimited being came to earth an information sponge, unbiased and untethered to any outcome. So through experience we adopted facts and laws of life (how we relate to others, how to get our needs met, what’s safe and unsafe, what creates pain and pleasure, etc. with an emphasis on how to be loved and survive) and no matter how inaccurate or skewed this experience came to teach us (ie: abused children learning to be unseasonably self sustainable and emotional hardened to acclimate to harsh treatment in order to please (as a replacement stand in for love) the caretaker) this is what we began to shove our infinite being into in order to develop as a human mind on earth. 
This data forms and shapes our psyche and therefore our behavior, mannerisms and traits. 

When we begin to take self inventory of this inversion we can begin to deprogram this and return to a more beautiful state of being. 

This open space is where we implant the nature we choose, this is where we implant happiness. 

How can you live in a beautiful state everyday? By removing the many barriers only you have chosen to keep in place. 

The vehicle to this before you master the habit of choosing happiness in every moment is meditation. 

Meditation is not something you make happen. It is something you allow for yourself. It comes to you naturally. We’ve created distractions, barriers and alternative methods for soothing/satisfaction and filled our lives with gunk that blocks the flow of peace and happiness to us. Meditation is merely the intentional clearing of those pathways.

Episode 2 - Looking at Current Habits & Why they Matter

Habit by definition - an acquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become involuntary / a customer practice / a dominant or prevailing structure or tendency

Emotion > Mood > Emotional home > Personality 

Think of/write 3 things you think to yourself daily.
- What could you assume about someone who thinks these three things predominantly
    - Mine were - this isn’t real/too good to be true/I can’t keep this up/I'm not good enough so I have to compensate for inferiority

What would you want your habit to be?
- What are 3 things you would assume this person would think

Happiness = alignment
Frequency raised to receive guidance/response from god
Feel it first . Then it comes based on law of attraction

You don’t have to follow along with the circumstances—that’s not a thing / you can feel good when shit it going awry

What else could a circumstance mean?

You owe nothing to the world to lower your vibration to that of the world / this is not a contract

You don’t get it not because you don’t want it but because you’re not a vibrational match to it

Leave out what feels bad / don’t neglect but minimize
Amplify what feels good

Low vibration maintains and lowers (ever notice how a bad day sustains or gets worse)
High vibration sustains and raises (good day gets better)

No happiness will come without choosing it, it won’t sustain = outer circumstances (unhappy on vaca)

Unhappiness occurs when the knowingness of your inner being is challenged by a thought that creates resistance

Be happy because its who you are, not because you found something to make you that way
Its the difference between creating health and preventing disease

Meditation as a tool to access emotionally

Episode 1 - Breaking down Happiness - Cause & Definition

How could you LOVE the thing about you that you once tried to hide away?


This podcast episode by Kara Payton of the Happiness Habit discusses what causes a person to stray from their core, how society, family, relationships and our life experience affects & encourages this process and what we can do in real time to return to our true north.

Episode 16 - Why We Stop Being Ourselves & How To Get Back

Episode 14 - How to Change Your Mind About Eating Healthy & Change Your Addiction to Bad Food

Episode 15 - How to Create Happiness On the Go & Eliminate Stress in Our Driving

Use this meditation in times of emotional crisis, stress, overwhelm, suicidal ideation and racing thoughts.

Episode 17 - Self-Soothing During Crisis Meditation

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Episode 18 - How to Deal With Difficult People & Relationships

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