We hear about boundaries a lot, and sometimes, what we hear is correct and accurate. Unfortunately, sometimes, the term is used as a weapon for bullies to say what they want to say without any pushback from anyone else. These are not boundaries.
We have weaponized the statement, "I don't feel safe," and it's time we walk back from the brink.

244. What are Boundaries? How do they Help Us?

Good books should bring us all to the table for conversation. They should do an honest survey of the research, which will almost always show some research that contradicts the author’s thesis. Therapy is one of the topics that should invite such a book. It is a topic that should be held accountable for its outcomes.
In a world where more resources, time, energy, and knowledge are devoted to therapy, it would seem that we are due for a real and honest conversation about the outcomes.
We should be forcing therapists to have some difficult and hard conversations about therapeutic outcomes. The book Bad Therapy by Abigail Shrier seems like it might start a conversation about these very topics.
But, I found the book to be very frustrating. It did not have a conversation. Instead, it seemed to one to make its point, and there really wasn’t a point to be bothered with the breath of research. I wanted to like this book, because I have some strong thoughts about therapy and bad therapy. I have strong thoughts about education and its intersection with therapeutic practices.
Beyond this episode, I wrote an in-depth (and long) review on my blog, which was published on March 25th Be sure to check it out there.

265. Bad Therapy Book Review Podcast: A book I wanted to love but was left mostly frustrated with

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It's probably not what you're thinking. It's time to end the shaming idea and resurrect it as something that is actually helpful.

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What if a healthy relationship is actually on the other side of distress? What if a major skill you need for your relationship is actually the ability to tolerate distress? This episode explores the need to be able to tolerate stress inter personally and gives some practical ideas on how to develop this skill.

62. Tolerate distress: One of the biggest keys to a healthy relationship

There is a difference between what you feel and what you do. We can experience negative emotions and still treat people well. Behavior is not dictated by emotions.

95. Facing death, pandemic and fear; Differentiating between our emotions and behavior

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265. Bad Therapy Book Review Podcast: A book I wanted to love but was left mostly frustrated with

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