We hear about boundaries a lot, and sometimes, what we hear is correct and accurate. Unfortunately, sometimes, the term is used as a weapon for bullies to say what they want to say without any pushback from anyone else. These are not boundaries.
We have weaponized the statement, "I don't feel safe," and it's time we walk back from the brink.

244. What are Boundaries? How do they Help Us?

A friend asked me recently,
“Why do you always stir the pot?”
Fair question.
It’s a fair question and to be honest, 
I’ve become comfortable with being willing to discuss the things that people tend to find uncomfortable. 
But truthfully?
I’m not trying to stir anything.
I’m trying to name what’s real.
Because I’ve sat with too many people wrecked by the things we refuse to talk about.
It’s not about being provocative.
It’s about being honest.
What happens when we keep silent?
When we see the carnage but ignore the cause?
When we have compassionate eye for the carnage but refuse to discuss the cause? 
That’s why I speak up.
That’s why I write.
That’s why I’m pushing hard
to get Hiding Behind God into the world.
In this episode of The Joe Martino Show,
I unpack why I keep going to uncomfortable places—
and I read the lyrical introduction to my next book. 
I hope it gives you something to chew on.
Maybe even something to challenge you.

313. It's not about stirring the pot

Episode 159, with guests Michael Shear and Stephen Grand

One of the most underappreciated skills for any couple is the ability to manage expectations.

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Ep. 3. Managing Expectations

How is courage different from bravery? What does it mean to tell your story? Find out in this episode.

Episode 39: Courage

This episode deals with anxiety meds and children, plus details the two choices we get in any relationship. Do you want to be right or do you want to be reconciled? You can only choose one.

Episode 49: Do you want to be right or reconciled?

It's probably not what you're thinking. It's time to end the shaming idea and resurrect it as something that is actually helpful.

54. It's time to end the shame

What if a healthy relationship is actually on the other side of distress? What if a major skill you need for your relationship is actually the ability to tolerate distress? This episode explores the need to be able to tolerate stress inter personally and gives some practical ideas on how to develop this skill.

62. Tolerate distress: One of the biggest keys to a healthy relationship

There is a difference between what you feel and what you do. We can experience negative emotions and still treat people well. Behavior is not dictated by emotions.

95. Facing death, pandemic and fear; Differentiating between our emotions and behavior

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313. It's not about stirring the pot

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