Josh Harris as the author of the hit book "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" was a very beloved figure in conventional Christian circles. In turn, he was not the most celebrated when he came out as deconstructing.

In this episode, we talk about how Josh came to terms with the negative parts of his story, how he has integrated those into positive parts today and how we as we deconstruct can do the same thing.

You can follow Josh at https://www.instagram.com/harrisjosh
Or check out his site at https://www.joshharris.com

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106 - Joshua Harris - Navigating The Harm Our Beliefs Have Caused

In this video, I talk about the phenomenon that is the Deconstructing Christian. It seems everyone and their mom has an opinion about this hot topic right now. But what I've found is most opinions are just that. Opinions. They aren't very rooted in reality. 

Deconstruction, as experienced by the community of those leaving conventional Christianity, is not to be conflated with the philosophy of Jacques Derrida nor is it to be conflated with the dictionary definition of just taking down a building. There is a lot more nuance at play and it is important we understand what Deconstruction is both if we are going through that process and if we are not!

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107 - Understanding Deconstruction - What Is Deconstruction

When talking about faith deconstruction there are a lot of myths around why people do it. But what's the truth? What does the hard data point to? Why do people end up deconstructing their faith?

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109 - Understanding Deconstruction - Why Do People Deconstruct

Dr Tina Schermer Sellers is a sex therapist and family therapist. She has worked extensively with those emerging from purity culture to find a healthy embodied approach to sex and freedom from the shame their faith has built around sex.

You can find out more about Tina at https://www.tinaschermersellers.com
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https://www.instagram.com/drtinashameless

And keep an eye out for her upcoming book "Shameless Parenting"

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110 - Dr Tina Schermer Sellers - Shameless Parenting

Everyone and their mom seems to have an opinion on deconstruction and that often comes with a concept of reconstruction. But what we don't tend to look at what drives this and why with the best of intentions leaders in this area can enter into some very questionably unethical behavior as they discuss this stuff.

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111 - Understanding Deconstruction - Let's Talk About Reconstruction

They're back it's Adrian Gibbs and Josh Link who are the Dirty Rotten Church Kids. In this episode we talk about how Easter traditions have changed in deconstruction, handling our mistakes while in the spotlight and I ask the uncles about building community among those who are deconstructing.

You can check out their fantastic podcast here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dirty-rotten-church-kids/id1487820978
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114 - The Return Of The DRCK - Easter, Deconstructing Publicly & Building Community

Spiral Dynamics is an amazing model of human psychological development. It tracks how the human mind develops and can give us incredible insight into where, we, others, our families, churches, nations etc. are at in our personal development. It can also give us incredible insight into how we can interact with others at different stages as well as what we ourselves can do to continue to grow up the spiral.

Over 70 independent primary studies done over almost 100 years in dozens of different cultures and supported by 100’s of other studies have shown pretty conclusively that there is a direction in which the human psyche moves as it develops. That is to say, the way humans grow and develop has been mapped out quite a bit. We know what steps most people take as they grow in the way they see the world, and this in turn effects how our societies, cultures and faiths look.

In this series we look at this roadmap to see where are we on the journey, where are we going and how might we use this information to interact more healthily with others and grow more intentionally.

These videos are seriously in depth and will take some serious time to watch and will require a lot of additional time to process in serious contemplation if you are to get the most out of them.

In this first video we are going to look at why understanding human psychological development is important and how you can use it to grow more effectively in your faith and interact with others who are at different stages than you are.

The stages as discussed in this video are just a very quick summary and I would strongly recommend you watch the more indepth videos later in the series as well.

I cannot stress enough that this is a HUGE topic that has a massive scope for changing your life. It is also likely to upset you profoundly unless you are already well on the way to deconstructing your faith. You have been warned.

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TGC - 026 - An Intro to Spiral Dynamics

One of the most frequent questions I get is if there is anywhere I share my story of faith and deconstruction. I am frequently asked about it on podcasts but usually give just a 5 minute overview and so I figured for this 100th episode milestone I'd sit down with my wife and we'd talk about my journey. 

(If you give her some love I might be able to talk her into coming on and telling her story at some point!)

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100 - Phil Drysdale ft. Tilly - My Personal Deconstruction Journey

He's back! Brian Peck is a co-founder of the Religious Trauma Institute and equal parts lovely human and religious trauma genius! In this episode we talk through some of the questions submitted by you the viewers about religious trauma.

You can find out more about Brian at https://www.roomtothrive.com​ or the Religious Trauma Institute at https://www.religioustraumainstitute.com​

And the Instagrams are https://www.instagram.com/roomtothrive​ and https://www.instagram.com/religioustraumainstitute

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102 - Brian Peck - Answering Your Religious Trauma Questions

She's back and she's answering all your questions about how life post-purity culture.

Her podcast is https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-positive-christian-feminists/id1549622305
You can find her FB group where she does free trainings and all sorts of amazing stuff here -https://www.facebook.com/groups/1136815826514918/
Her instagram is - https://www.instagram.com/rachel.alba.coaching

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103 - Rachel Alba - Navigating Dating and Intimacy Post-Purity Culture

Join Trace Bell and I as we dive into some of the nuances of growing through the Spiral Dynamics and waking up to awareness.

If these terms aren't familiar to you I strongly recommend you first watch my overview of spiral dynamics on Jon Steingard's podcast here - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JVUTtHnR4fQ

If you want to go deeper into Spiral Dynamics you can find my 15hr series on the topic here - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BKCLyiNjESo&list=PLZbIA5qmklwP1BwD3sxV_ttOz_eudjq7P

You can follow Trace on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/tracebelll
His website is https://www.tracebelll.com
And you can book onto the Saturday School he is running with his dad Rob Bell here - https://robbell.com/portfolio/saturday-school/

Apologies for the audio quality... my microphone really died on me and I didn't realize until after the call unfortunately. Hopefully I cleaned it up enough that you could enjoy the conversation all the same it's a good one!

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104 - Trace Bell - Spiral Dynamics, Growing Up and Waking Up

Helping those losing their faith find something new.

TGC - 026 - An Intro to Spiral Dynamics

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