What have we been led to believe about the ‘mummy wars’ and how do they relate to patriarchal motherhood and ‘the perfect mother myth’?

These are the questions I address in this episode of the podcast, where I offer a new lens through which to understand ‘mummy wars’. This is with an intention of helping you develop an ‘antenna’ as a cultural assessor, where you can pick up, observe, get curious about, and assess instances where you see the ‘mummy wars’ either playing out OR being referred to. 

I describe the mummy wars as both a symptom of AND a product of patriarchal Motherhood – creating environments where we come to judge ourselves and each other. 

The sense of ‘competition’ that is spoken about in motherhood is also a reflection of the social narratives around competition and comparison between women – and mothers especially. I suggest that this priming into focusing on other mothers (and judging ourselves) is part of what dilutes our power and potential for changing the broader culture and systems that impact Mothers. 

I explain how and why the ‘mummy wars’ can only be sustained and produced if ‘boxes’ and categories of ‘types of mothers’ exist. Sometimes labels can be helpful tools to allow us to find a sense of belonging within community, and build identity. But sometimes the very tools we draw on to build our sense of identity and connection within motherhood, can shift into constraining limits. 

A deconstruction of the ‘mummy wars’ actually means reconstructing what it means to be a mother in our society and culture and reclaiming the fluidity and ever-changing nature of our identity.  

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I refer to my concepts of The Fish-Tank of Motherhood Model©, The Good Mother Bad Mother Binary© and The Care/Career Conundrum©

Find graphics and information on all of these here: https://drsophiebrock.com/conceptualmodels

68. A New Take on 'The Mummy Wars’

Hello and welcome back, or welcome for the first time! In this episode I share:

- where things have been for me as a mother, creator and business owner over the last 6 months or so
- why I took a step back from podcast recording
- what my purpose is in relaunching the podcast

All of my work is focused on examining the social structures and cultural narratives of Motherhood that individual mothers live within, and as a mother who lives within the very society and culture I'm critiquing, I'm of course subject to its challenges!

Also being a business owner, entrepreneur, and independent academic, brings with it experiences where I'm navigating what I call the 'care/career conundrum' in a way that allows me flexibility but also sometimes a lack of stability as a consequence of the 'piecing together of the puzzle'.

This navigation is also in the context of my experience as a single mother, and some health challenges my daughter has experienced recently. I talk through some of these challenges in the context of my own personal experiences as both a mother and professional.

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Join the waitlist for the 2022 round of The Motherhood Studies Practitioner Certification beginning June 20th - https://drsophiebrock.com/motherhoodstudies/

I'm back! :) And where I've been...

I'm often asked this question and in the spirit of relaunching the podcast felt it might be helpful to share the path I've taken to becoming a Motherhood Studies Sociologist - essentially a social scientist whose focus is Mothers and Motherhood.

This episode is another personal share where I talk about:

- how I first discovered Motherhood Studies
- what it was like researching this area before I was a Mother myself
- why I came to be interested in my subject matter - tracing back to my own family experience
- my journey of finishing my studies, becoming pregnant, going through a divorce and reorienting my career focus to lead me to what I do today

I hope this episode offers you some insight into my journey and leads you to reflect on your own evolving journey of your 'self' in the context of your broader relationships, life experiences, and motherhood. 

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If you'd like to join me for the Introduction to Motherhood Studies Webinar Wednesday June 1st 8.30pm AEST, register to reserve your place. If you can't attend live you will receive a replay to watch in your own time.

https://drsophiebrock.com/introductiontomotherhoodstudies

Content covered:
- What is Motherhood Studies?
- Where did Motherhood Studies come from?
- Why you likely haven’t heard more about Motherhood Studies yet
- What some of the key Motherhood Studies teachings are from a sociological perspective 
- The ‘missing pieces’ and gaps in current knowledge and practice
- An overview of Sophie’s conceptual frameworks and theoretical contributions
- How Motherhood Studies informed theory can help you and your clients

70. My Path to Becoming a 'Motherhood Studies Sociologist'

In this conversation with Fiona you’ll hear us both talk about our personal experiences of mothering our children and some of the challenges we’ve experienced (and continue to experience). Fiona shares how understanding information about temperament, sensory preferences, and connection-based, relationship-building parenting ‘tools’, can transform how we see our children - and ourselves. 


You’ll hear us discuss*:


- How to contextualise and understand our experiences of parenting, to support us in trying to see the world through our children’s eyes 

- What the 'goodness of fit' is and why it matters in our parenting

- How to recognise quirks in your child as temperamental tendencies, temperament traits or sensitivity traits

- Meeting our children not only where they’re at, but also as who they are 

- How to understand who your children are, with all of their temperament traits and sensory preferences

- The importance of how we perceive our children and why this really matters in how we parent them

- Why separation based techniques don’t necessarily work for children

- Giving yourself permission as a parent to hold that bigger, holistic focus in parenting in mind as we navigate day-to-day challenges 

- Why it’s more common than you think that parents feel resentment towards their child or baby

- What attuning to our children actually means

Founder of Mama Matters, Fiona is a Social Worker turned Infant Sleep Specialist. She provides attachment-centred, real-life parenting and sleep support to responsive parents and their renegade babies and kids. She is passionate about busting through the mistruths of the mainstream sleep industry and empowering parents to parent in alignment with their values, with evidence-based, biologically normal sleep advice and relationship-centred approaches to optimising sleep and wellbeing for families.

Connect with Fiona further - 

www.mamamatters.com.au
www.instagram.com/mamamatters.au/
hello@mamamatters.com.au
Podcast: Mama Chatters

Explore Fiona’s offerings: www.mamamatters.com.au/workwithme

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The Motherhood Studies Practitioner Certification 2022 begins June 20th. Enrolment is currently open, closing June 16th. Learn more and here - https://drsophiebrock.com/motherhoodstudies/

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*explicit language in this episode

71. Transformative relationship-based parenting tools - with Fiona from Mama Matters

A behind the scenes insight into my creation of The Motherhood Studies course, and an insight into the 2022 round of the program. Program starts June 20th, enrolment closes June 16th. If you'd like to talk through any questions you have before joining, book a discovery call here - https://calendly.com/motherhoodstudies/certification-consult-calls If there are no times left please feel free to email your query to info@drsophiebrock.com To enrol head to - https://drsophiebrock.com/motherhoodstudies/

72. Behind the Scenes of The Motherhood Studies Certification Training

In this episode I share 5 different ways that my understanding of the social construction of motherhood helped me to step into my power as a single mother. I wanted to share this episode as a lived-reality example of how theory, concepts, and understandings can come to unveil new possibilities for how we lead and live our lives as mothers. I talk about the nuclear family and how it is held up as an 'ideal' in our society, the pulling down of facades, how the 'family' is socially constructed and our capacity to create fluidity in what the 'family' means, and the opportunity in unpacking social scripts that we inherit about what it means to be a mother. In the episode I mention the Council for Single Mothers and their Children - https://www.csmc.org.au/ and the 3min animation of The Fish Tank of Motherhood Model - https://drsophiebrock.com/thefishtankofmotherhood

73. How understanding the sociology of motherhood helped me step into my power as a single mother

This episode is designed to be a little tonic; a moment of presence and space to breathe. 

I am talking with Sophie Burch (aka The Mamma Coach).
Sophie is a mother, an author, founder and leader of the Beyond Birth Collective, an executive director and trainer for Perinatal Mental Health Training CIC, hypnobirthing practitioner, baby massage teacher, holistic and pregnancy massage therapist, and more. 
Sophie is on a mission to bring mental health awareness and emotional wellbeing practices into the lives of all parents, and in this episode she gives us some amazing strategies, tools and perspectives to really support us in our everyday experience of mothering. 

Sophie takes us through a beautiful process that can be used at any time which can create a sense of safety and calm. She also shares what to do when self-care feels like just another thing we have to add onto our to-do lists, and some ways we can tend to our nervous systems. 

You’ll hear about what Sophie has observed in mothers within her work, and the massive load they’re carrying. We look at what modern parenting means to us, and the significant shift in consciousness she has perceived recently. Sophie shares the one wish that she has for all parents in the world right now, and the importance of fostering self-connection and agency in our lives.

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Connect with Sophie: 
https://themammacoach.com/about
https://www.instagram.com/themammacoach/

Sophie's book, 'Beyond Birth: A Mindful Guide to Early Parenting': 
https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B08VYBPNKL?ref_=pe_3052080_397514860

Sophie's Mental Wellbeing Practitioner Certified Training:
https://themammacoach.com/beyond-birth-sign-up

74. Resourcing ourselves to carry the load of motherhood with Sophie Burch

Did you know that a Mother’s brain is more malleable and receptive to learning after giving birth?

In this episode of TGEM I chat with Dr Jodi Pawluski, behavioural neuroscientist and therapist about the fascinating effects of motherhood on the maternal brain.

We talk about whether ‘Mummy brain’ actually exists, and the interplay between both social and physiological factors that shape our experience of mothering.

Dr Pawluski reflects on what has been left out and not yet explored in neuroscience when it comes to motherhood, and I ask her about the brain differences between those of us who give birth to a baby, compared with fathers and other caregivers.

We open up discussion about the plasticity of our brains, and how the changes we go through when we become Mothers impact relationships, attachment, and so much more.

You can connect with Dr Pawluski through her website https://www.jodipawluski.com/ listen to her podcast Mommy Brain Revisited, and find her on Instagram @dr.jodi_pawluski

49. Rethinking 'Mummy Brain'

The role of being a Mother offers us the potential for incredible expansion, growth, and power, while also being one of – if not THE – most challenging, undervalued, and taken for granted roles in the world. Motherhood Studies Sociologist, researcher, and single Mother, Dr Sophie Brock hosts The Good Enough Mother (TGEM) podcast with an aim to change how Motherhood is culturally defined and individually experienced. TGEM draws its name from a theorist and pediatrician Winnicott, who highlighted the ways ‘good enough’ parenting is actually what is best for our children – not perfectionism. The podcast centres the Mother as the starting point for conversations with experts and change-makers who are passionate about seeing social, cultural, and institutional change to better support Mothers and therefore our families, and communities.