I've got a little secret to share in this podcast that you might not be ready to hear.  So, when you're ready...go listen!  You won't regret it.

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This podcast actually stems from a time in my life when I was struggling and I kept asking my mom for advice.  "Tell me your secrets!"  I'd say.  "I want to know."  She would keep telling me I wasn't in the right frame of mind to hear it yet and kept putting me off and putting me off.  Well, what does that do to anyone?  It sparks their curiosity and makes them want to know....NOW!!!

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So when I made her tell me it started off with the phrase, "You're not going to want to hear this."  Ha ha.  That's not the most fun thing to hear before someone proceeds to offer advice.  But, it was very simple y'all and you probably need to hear it, too.

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On the back end of the podcast, I talk a little bit about what real self-care is and what it isn't.  Interesting that the tough message from my mom is actually what proves to care for the self THE VERY BEST!

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Link in BIO.  EPISODE 101.  LOVE YOU GUYS!

101. Self-Discipline is the New Self Care

To all my single moms out there, this message is for you.  Single dads, just substitute dad for mom and listen on father's day. :) :)

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Why does Mother's Day shortly after a divorce feel weird or different?  I hope it doesn't for you, but just in case, I shared my perspective which I believe many share.  

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It is interesting that once divorced, you fall into the category of Single Mom.  Isn't that nice that society has a new name for you?  Subconsciously, this can feel like a different definition and even a different identity.

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I believe this identity can enhance what motherhood means to you and is a special calling.  As we rise to any challenge we may have, the Lord qualifies whom he calls.

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Please listen in and let me know what your perspective of a single mom is.  Link to Podcast in Bio.  Episode #102.

102.  Happy Mother's Day: To My Single Moms

In this episode, I explain where I've been for the last couple of years. I have been chasing after a dream. I share 3 key things I have learned about chasing dreams. I explain my podcast's new name Turn the Corner.

103. Following Dreams and Turning Corners

In this podcast I talk about how difficult communication is between anyone who seems to be the cause of pain for you. What would happen if you were asked to give a speech and while you were walking up about to deliver it, you totally stubbed your toe? Would you be able to talk right away? Would you have the senses to say everything as planned? Not at all...you'd definitely need some time to compose yourself. 

Same goes for our emotional pain. We just may not have the words in the moment when we are "triggered" into feeling a lot of pain. So, I offer some helpful strategies around this, so you can communicate better with your coparent, spouse, child, coworker...or WHOMEVER!

For more resources go here:
https://linktr.ee/coachemilysanchez/

Pain = The Reason for Poor Communication

In this episode, I share 10 ways family and friends can support their loved ones in crisis. We may not be supporting our people the way they truly need it, so listen in and let me know if you would add anything to the list. I would love to hear from you. 

Here's my link for all my services:
linktr.ee/coachemilysanchez/

Here's my link for my new course: Overcoming Divorce
https://emily-sanchez-s-school1.teachable.com/p/divorcecourse

Friends and Family of Those in Crisis

This podcast is for the self-help junkie. I have definitely been there. That hit of dopamine every time you hear the latest and greatest strategy is exquisite. So, you seek more and more and more. You've got the latest audiobook and 3 others queued and ready to go. You've got your ticket to a couple of retreats, and your nose in a few self-help books. 

But, is there true growth? Is there improvement? Is all the "trying" getting you somewhere. 

We are so good at being human doings instead of human beings. Listen in and see what might be missing. 

Check out all my services here:
https://linktr.ee/coachemilysanchez/

To the Self-Help Junkie

In this video, I address 2 common pieces of advice that I think do not really apply to modern relationships anymore. Are you truly working on yourself? Or are you more focused on what your partner is doing or who your potential partner is? Watch now. 

For my overcoming divorce course, or more resources click here:
https://linktr.ee/coachemilysanchez/

Get Ready for That Relationship!

We know how important it is to teach emotional regulation to our children. But parents, you better know how to emotionally regulate before you can teach it to your own children. Remember, so much more is caught than taught in our parenting world. 

Here is the link I promised to follow along with:
https://cls.unc.edu/wp-content/uploads/sites/3019/2016/06/Chain-Analysis-Worksheet.pdf

I have decided to do a series on emotional regulation in DBT. Dialectical Behavior Therapy is a great therapeutic modality because it presents so many skills that can actually be learned. 

To further sharpen your emotional regulation strategies, find a DBT trained therapist in your area or contact me for more info.

https://linktr.ee/coachemilysanchez/

Parenting By The LInks: Mastering Emotions with Chain Analysis

When I saw this quote from Eckhart Tolle that I opened the podcast with, it really hit me. It hit me so hard that it inspired thoughts to spew out of me that I felt would be very pertinent to so many.

It is so important to remember that we are not our emotions. I realized that a couple of weeks ago, I fell prey to personifying the way I was feeling. I began to identify with it. I felt like it was part of me. I had forgotten that feelings come and go. Just because I was sad, did not mean I was a sad person and it would last forever. 

I see this all of the time with my clients. Narrative therapy is what I will often use to try to objectify and separate those feelings from the identity. When a person says they are anxious or have anxiety, it has become part of their identity. It has become something that has been felt so consistently that it is now a part of the subconscious and is a way of life. Narrative therapy suggests to separate these entities by objectifying them. For example, labeling feelings of anxiety and painting them into a character such as "the old lady" or whatever. That way, you can ask when they remember "the old lady" first showing up. Can you see how this can begin to separate emotions from idenity?

Join me in this podcast and listen to some practical examples of how this occurs and 3 steps that will help to combat identifying so much with our emotions. 

Tell Siri or Alexa to play episode 109 of The Family Matters Podcast. Just Because You're Bored Doesn't mean You're Boring. 

Or check out the link in my bio.

Link to my online course: https://emily-sanchez-s-school1.teachable.com/p/divorcecourse

Just Because you're Bored doesn't Mean you're Boring

This short track briefly describes the need for LDS divorce persons to receive coaching.  With the stress that comes from ending something that was supposed to be eternal, one can be left with a lot of terrible feelings.  You do not have to feel this way.  Reach out to me at CoachEmilySanchez@gmail.com

Podcast 6 LDS Friends

In this podcast, I give my thoughts about Tina Fuller's book, "Living with a Narcissist."  It is an interesting dynamic to work with a narcissist that you share children with.  It is not easy, but it is doable.

Podcast 13 Dealing With A Narcissist

I had the amazing opportunity to attend a speech led by Ellie Orrin, a holocaust survivor, at my daughter's junior high school.  Although her experience was completely horrific and traumatic, she has a zest for life and such a vibrant personality.  Please listen as I try my best to respectfully summarize her story and the interesting thoughts she gave me afterwards about dealing with PTSD.  CoachEmilySanchez@gmail.com

Podcast 19 Learning From A Holocaust Survivor

Transforming the Difficult Child-The Nurtured Heart Approach is a book by Howard Glasser and Jennifer Easley.  It is expertly written and has been adapted in many school systems throughout the world.  It is not just for the difficult child and once implemented, you will see confidence and order come into your child you've never seen before.  Whether if you're single parent, coparent, or married, anyone with children should come and listen.

30 - The Nurtured Heart Approach - Howard Glasser (parenting)

After a divorce or breakup emotions can get the better of us.  Sometimes defeat can set in without even noticing it.  Many people end up "divorcing themselves" so to speak as well and lose sight of who they are and who they can be and what they are capable of.  By choosing to invest in ourselves, accepting our situations, and focusing on what matters, we can accomplish great things.  We can leave those defeated feelings behind and experience a true rebirth.

31 - Don't Divorce Yourself!

In this podcast I explain in detail Brooke Castillo's model that she teaches all of her students.  She is the founder of The Life Coach School.  This information has changed so many lives.  It puts the power right into your hands as you learn you have complete control about how you want to think and feel about your world and yourself.  What an invaluable tool it has been for me to learn from her!  Go through your model yourself!  Try it out and see how your life can drastically improve!
Email me at CoachEmilySanchez@gmail.com

39 What I Learned From Brooke Castillo

What is the step-parent's role?  Should they contribute to the disciplining of children?  Should the children call the parent mom or dad or just by their name?  When entering a marriage that's a package deal, being a step-parent can feel frustrating and overwhelming.  In this podcast, I focus on 5 points of parenting that is crucial for the step-parent to understand.  If you are a step-parent or know someone who is, please listen and share as this topic should be high priority when the benefit of the child is concerned.

45 How Should The Step - Parent Parent?

There seems to be so many questions to answer when one thinks about dating after divorce.  So, I have started a DATING AFTER DIVORCE podcast series.  Here's the first one:  YOU READY?

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Are you ready to date?  Is there a time frame to wait before dating?  What about your kids?  How will this affect them?  How do I navigate all this online dating stuff?  I haven't dated in so many years, will I feel awkward?

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I invited my favorite guest, Yasser Sanchez (my husband) to help answer these questions and more as we share some of our dating experiences after divorce.  He was definitely an expert dater and has a lot of helpful thoughts to share.  As divorced LDS people, there was a lot of trepidation about dating again.  That's completely normal and ok.  You are definitely not alone.  Hopefully, our light conversation will open your eyes up to have a fun and joyful dating experience.  

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Email me at CoachEmilySanchez@gmail.com to set up a free coaching mini session.

68. Dating After Divorce: You Ready?

What do you want in a mate?  Sometimes after a divorce the question becomes, what do I never want to repeat again?  Taking a moment to ask these questions of ourselves is important before we embark into the dating world, because we don't want to repeat patterns that were harmful or simply didn't work.

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A few things I cover are recognizing our own part in the dysfunction, believing in the possibility of a great relationship and changing our pattern as we become aware of how we function in interpersonal relationships.

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Tune in if you never want to repeat those mistakes again or if you'd like a few tips on discovering how you can get exactly what you want in a partner.  It is possible!

69. Dating After Divorce: What Do You Want Now?

Maneuvering the world of dating after divorce can seem tricky with children.  Your kids just went through a terrible break up as well and introducing new people and relationships into the mix can create many mixed emotions and fears in children.

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In this podcast, I give 10 tidbits of advice that definitely make dating while being a parent go a lot more smoothly.  Ranging from timing to what type of input we take from the kids can make or break a dating relationship; or the relationship we have with our kids for that matter.

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Come have a listen and tell me what you think.  What has helped you as you have dated while being a parent?  CoachEmilySanchez@gmail.com

70. Dating After Divorce: What About the Kids?

Hey, so we're in the middle of a pandemic and also have protesting, rioting, and looting...Who wants to talk about dating and love after divorce???  Seems odd to break topic, but I'm going to and this one is good folks!

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In this podcast, I won't be talking about the typical red flags in dating like if he still lives with his parents or if he owns a pet boa constrictor named Clarisse.  Although those are still smart to heed, what I want to present is what many mistake for love.  Our biggest red flag is our own repeated pattern and those are sometimes hard to see.

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So, what do people mistake for love?  How about infatuation, desire, dependency, transactionalism, possession, and attachment.  These things are not true love and so many of us fall into these traps in the quest for love.

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So, come and listen to LDS DIVORCE COACH #72 with your podcast provider today.

72.  Dating After Divorce:  Disguises of Love - The Real Red Flags in Dating

This was too crazy of a time in my family's life to not document.  So, I made a podcast about our experience having COVID-19 because of what I learned through it.  Our little 6 year old must have immunity of steal because she was the only one who did not test positive.  

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A few things I learned:  1.  The Small Things Matter  2. Having a strong coparenting relationship matters 3.  Allow others to hurt with you and 4. Prayer is real and has real power.

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I continue to be amazed at the love and service that exists around me.  I know that the world seems bleak, especially with everything going on right now, but we can truly focus on what those storms can bring and the beauty during the process.

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Email me at CoachEmilySanchez@gmail.com if you have any questions.

80.  That Time My Whole Family Had Covid-19: LIFE LESSONS

Image a world without complaining.  Can you even picture it?  It's too good, right?!  I want you to start picturing it at least in your own life.  Everything starts with one person...YOU!

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Why 21 days?  Studies have shown that it takes about that amount of time to make or break a habit.  That is what complaining is....a habit.  We have wired our brains to make complaining in conversation a part of life.  We have to rewire it to break the pattern and then see results.

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Complaining has been scientifically proven to shrink parts of our brain and to be very bad for our health.  Let's reverse it's effects and see what our lives can become without it!  Let's turn that decay into growth!

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Do you think you can do it?  NO COMPLAINING or CRITICIZING for 21 DAYS!  JOIN ME!

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Check out link in my bio to access the PODCAST episode 88!

88. 21 DAY NO COMPLAINT CHALLENGE

Here's the deal.  I know how loneliness feels.  It can really suck, I get it.  But, ya know what else is worse?  Being in a lousy relationship or even worse, an abusive one.  Sometimes once we're freshly out of that relationship, the sting of loneliness hits us hard at first and literally blinds our memory of how bad it was in the relationship.

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We start freaking out and want to either get back into said relationship or jump into another one straight quick.  Desire to be with someone can get so out of wack that it actually screws up our chances.  Have you ever wanted something so badly that it just couldn't work?!  Weird that sometimes when we want something too bad, it just slips through our fingers.

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In this week's podcast I take a look at how we can change our focus from wanting a partner and why we want one into who we want to become for OURSELVES!  There's SO much good to do, so much fun to be a part of, and so much life to live!  

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And to quote Madea, "I'd rather be in a corner with a puppy and a goldfish and be happy than to be sitting around with somebody in my house and I'm wondering what the hell they there for."

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Check out link to podcast in my BIO.  Episode 89.

89.  There are Worse Things than being Alone

This podcast is for all my self-helpers out there.  The green smoothie drinking, morning routiners, goal setting, self-improving friends.  Sometimes we all get into funks where our usual strategies don't seem to be working.  At those types of moments, I ask (in my best Chandler from Friends voice) "Could it BE more simple?"

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With so much content and self help in the world, we can miss the mark.  We make things more complicated, more heavy, more important, more...

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Let's wipe that all away and get to the simplicity of what works.  

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I'm really excited about this podcast.  I hope you love it!

90.  Could it BE this SIMPLE?  Does it Have to be a big deal?

Having the Gift of the Holy Ghost is probably life's most precious gift.  We sometimes forget we even have it, though.  We have GOOGLE where we can get all our answers, so we forget we have the greatest direction ever!

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Our world is obsessed with self help books, diets, blogs, smoothies, gurus, podcasts (um ya, that's me).  Everywhere you turn someone has the answer or strategy you need to feel better, be better, look better, dream better.  Shoot!  Our precious gift gets overshadowed easily, especially when we get out of practice of using it.  

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Snuggle up and come listen as I share a story of a bear, a dog, and how we can follow the Spirit in our lives.  Animals in stories are awesome especially when it's death defying and about my awesome ancestor!

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91. A Bear, a dog, and Following the Spirit

What do you do if one parent will not give permission for your child to be baptized?  This can feel very devastating as members of The Church view baptism as necessary for salvation.

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If you foresee this happening in the future there are a few things you can include in your divorce decree.

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Come listen in to hear my take on a few things you can do to dispel the fears that surround this.  I have truly found some gems from past conference talks that have completely changed my perspective and I truly hope your worry will be alleviated as well.

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Link in Bio.  Episode 92

92. When One Parent Won't Consent to Child's Baptism

In this podcast I share what I feel are the top TEN things people forget to include in their divorce decrees.  When writing a parenting plan, it's hard to look into the future and have things laid out especially when your kids are young.  

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You're probably not thinking about cell phones, extra curricular activities let alone college.  How does this all play out as the years go by?

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Tune in and find out what you might be missing.  Link in Bio Episode 93.

93.  10 Things to Include in Your Divorce Decree

In this video, I interview President Tim Overton of the Phoenix, AZ West Maricopa Stake.  President Overton has been stake president for 5 years and a previous bishop.  He joined the church 20 years ago while playing football at Idaho State University.  Tim works as an attorney and law professor and specializes in inclusion, diversity and race relations.

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I wanted to take a peek inside the training of bishops and  shine light on what their role is while one is going through a divorce.  Or, what their role is in general in conflict resolution.  I was surprised to hear of the amount of resources available.  This left me filled with hope for any individual who is seeking guidance and counsel from a bishop.

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The Church has taken great strides in aiding its members with mental health.  We need to remember that bishops are human and are not trained therapists.  However, they can offer so much guidance and have direct access to find more support if you so need.

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Check out the PODCAST by going to my link in BIO. Episode 95.

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Remember the views and ideas expressed are not representing The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.  We are merely two individuals who happen to be members of the church who are sharing experiences.

95.  BISHOPS: Not Therapists, But Great Resources

In this podcast I interview my oldest daughter Izzy.  I thought it could be beneficial to go to the source and ask how her experience has been with going between two households.

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I can imagine that having four parents might feel a little much at times, but Izzy handles it great.  She's a wonderful oldest sister to all her siblings and is a great example.  

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I love how she explains having two houses as such a great way of living.  She is truly blessed but also has natural frustrations that come with the territory.

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I know how parents worry about their children especially when faced with divorce.  You are a good parent because of it!  Please do not assume it'll automatically be hard for them or something they cannot overcome.  Instead, take those energies and harness them into creating a beautiful picture of what their life is.

97.  An Interview with my daughter

In this podcast, I interview Noelle McBride, @c.noellemcbride author of "Beauty for Ashes: Divorce and the Latter-Day Saint Woman."  I believe this is the first book of its kind!  FINALLY, there is a great resource for members of the Church going through divorce.

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We talk about everything here: healing, boundaries, forgiveness, falling out of love, dating after divorce, faith amidst trial, building ourselves back.  The struggle is real, but it CAN lead to a new reinvented self through the atonement of Jesus Christ.  And that's why I love her story so much!!!  People, there is hope and healing on the way.

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Come listen and then read the book whether you are divorced or not, this can give you the tools to overcome any challenge by using gospel principles.  

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Grab her book "BEAUTY FOR ASHES: DIVORCE AND THE LATTER-DAY SAINT WOMAN" on Amazon.

About the author: www.amazon.com/author/cnoellemcbride

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Check out the Podcast:  Link in BIO episode 99.

99. Interview w/ author NOELLE MCBRIDE

This is truly the come back kid story.  If you feel a lack of motivation or continuation or cultivation or any -ation, come listen to this interview I have with my friend, Jordan Keith (@jordandkeith).

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We are talking fitness, health, physical journey today folks, and boy this guy has had one...and a few.  Growing up as a kid who was always overweight, it was super hard to feel confident enough to jump into the physical fitness world that the small town had to offer. Nobody really teaches you how to break out of unhealthy habits at that age, but Jordan exercised a lot of fortitude going into college to take his first steps in a healthier direction.

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Next comes love, then comes marriage, then comes babies in a baby carriage (ok, that sounds familiar) and sometimes those things throw wrenches in the physical fitness area.  We can ALL relate!

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Then Jordan pushed through and broke through some barriers he never could before to get to where he is now.  11% body fat and training to GAIN weight/muscle.  He can't believe he's stepping on the scale and hoping it'll go up.  A place he's never been before.

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Come listen in to find out his secrets on my 100th podcast episode!

100. Extreme Weight loss Edition

The Family Matters Podcast is a Mental Health podcast for anyone who is rebuilding, stretching, or growing from struggle in any way. This podcast has expanded to include not just those going through divorce, but going through any difficult adjustment in life. In this podcast, we talk about all things family from children, parenting, marriage, divorce, and becoming our best selves. Welcome to those who are ready to turn the corner and grow real emotional resiliency from adversity.

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