A Therapist Walks Into a Bar isn't quite back but I'm doing a little resurrection in order to share something very special that I think you'll like - Marsification: A tale of planetary grief.

Marsification was created and written by sound artist, musician, and psychotherapist Lily Sloane and writer, teacher, bodyworker and facilitator Zara Zimbardo. Lily and Zara live in the San Francisco Bay Area, on unceded Ohlone land.

All characters are voiced by Lily and Zara, and Chelsea Kigano, who also made some creative contributions to the story.

Audio production, music and sounds by Lily

Cover art by Lily

With editorial support from Keisha TK Dutes and sound consultation from Adriene Lilly.

Definitions used throughout this project are from The Bureau of Linguistical Reality, “a dictionary for the present future.” The exception is "solastalgia," which was coined by Glen Albrecht. Words coined by Ranu Mukherjee, Alicia Escott, Heidi Quante, Anthony Discenza, Paul Hassig, Patrick Reinsborough and Zara Zimbardo.

“Whitey On Mars” was written as an homage to American jazz poet Gil Scott-Heron’s 1970 iconic spoken word song, “Whitey on the Moon”, a year after the Apollo moon landing.

We would like to thank so many friends and creative colleagues who have listened to us talk endlessly about this project and provided invaluable feedback along the way:

Alec MacLeod, Martin Austwick, Charlotte María Sáenz, Ben Ward, Jessa Brie Moreno, Sara Brooke Curtis, Ariel Waldman, Heidi Quante, Patricia Zambrano-Rojas, Patrick Reinsborough, Lisa Denenmark, and Jennifer Benorden.

We also want to thank the writers, scientists, thinkers, activists, and creators who helped inspire and educate us and show us what it means to keep returning to Earth while dreaming of the stars.

Learn more and explore the planet at www.marsification.com.

Marsification: A tale of planetary grief

Episode 1: Seeing White

Seeing White explores the process of white people waking up to white privilege, how this process impacts people of color, and what white people can do to be better allies against racism and oppression. This episode features interviews with Zara Zimbardo and Allegra Lucas (more information and resources at www.atherapistwalksintoabar.com) and people I found at my neighborhood bar.

Produced By
Lily Sloane

Music
"Maruumba" by Topher M. Lewis
"Piles of Flesh" by Crown of Fog
Additional Music by Lily Sloane

Special Thanks

Tom and the other people who were brave enough to let me interview them at the bar. The Little Shamrock for letting me co-opt a table for a couple of hours. Ryan Krickow, Karen Smillie, Tiffany McClain, and Marielle Berg for support, guidance, and feedback. ​

Seeing White

Come explore romantic relationships and how they can go so so wrong or feel so hard at times. But don’t worry - you’ll also get to hear about what works. From some brave souls at the bar, you’ll hear stories of single, partnered, divorcing and “it’s complicated”. We'll also hear from Dr. Robert Solley, a well seasoned couple therapist in San Francisco. Join us as we dive into adult attachment!

Produced By: Lily Sloane
Theme Song By: Topher M. Lewis
"Friends Till the End" By: Derailed Freight Train
"The End of Love" Excerpt Written and Read By: Pilar Dellano

Special thanks to The Little Shamrock and Zeitgeist in SF, The White Horse Bar in Oakland, and Three Dots and a Dash in Chicago.

The Burning Spear in My Eye (AKA Relationships)

We All Use Something is an episode about the what, when, where, and why of our substance use and a revolutionary approach to substance abuse treatment called Harm Reduction Therapy. Most of us use something - be it drugs/alcohol, food, exercise, gambling, Facebook - to try to cope with difficult feelings. Maybe we want to feel less of something or more of something else. So how can we help ourselves manage our coping strategy so it doesn't lead to bigger problems than the ones we were trying to solve in the first place. Let's put morality and labels like "addict" aside and explore our use from a curious and compassionate lens. A lens that says, "you are the expert of your life."

Joining me is Harm Reduction expert Cynthia Hoffman, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in San Francisco. 

Credits

Produced by: Lily Sloane
Theme Song by: Topher M. Lewis
"60 Days", "All the Songs", & "Every Rise" by: Joel St. Julien from the EP Every Rise
"Feelings" by: Nina Pine and Lily Sloane

Clip from Dr. Phil show and "Friends" Theme Song used under Fair Use Act.



We All Use Something (Substance Use & Harm Reduction)

A Therapist Walks Into a Bar Presents: A Brief Psycho-Education

There are lots of cliches about therapy, but one of the most popular...well, it’s true. We DO ask “how does that make you feel?” A lot. In this brief episode, I'll talk about why we ask and why it's important to learn how to tell the difference between thoughts and feelings. 

Thank you Jesse Rhodes, Abby Thompson, Molly Merson, Talia Recht, Tiffany McLain, Dan Scharlack, Christine Hutchison, Robert Solley, Elaine Chan-Scherer, John Clark, Abby Volk, Tina Kopko, Cynthia Hoffman, Paul Ziller, and Topher M. Lewis for contributing your voices to this "minisode".

This episode was produced by Lily Sloane with editorial assistance from Jesse Rhodes. 

The theme song is "Maruumba" by Topher M. Lewis and  this episode also featured the song "Identical Twins" by Lily Sloane.

How Does That Make You Feel?

If I say body image, what do you think of? Stomach fat? Thigh gap? Laser hair removal? You probably think of women. And for good reason. Because women get a lot of pressure to look a certain way.  But this happens to men too. And that’s worth talking about. In this episode, we’ll hone in on one aspect of men’s body image: hair loss. First, we’ll take a look inside the thriving hair loss prevention industry and then we’ll explore the underlying motivations that drive men to take drastic measures and how the world of psychotherapy might approach this differently. 

This episode is a collaboration with the podcast Mannish, a show all about masculinity and gender.

Credits

Experts: 
Dr. Sheldon Kabaker
Rob Schene, MFT
Molly Merson, MFT
Jordan Wolfe, LMHC
Morgan Brown
Dr. Bernard P. Nusbaum
Dr. Ron Shapiro

Produced By:
Lily Sloane & Jesse Rhodes
​
Music:
Maruumba, Man of Mystery, The Pieces Fit, Mayday in the Morning by Topher M. Lewis
Old Fashioned Auto Piano obtained via creative commons at FreeSound.org

Additional Music & Sound Design by: 
Lily Sloane 

Other Media:
WTF am I going bald???!!!!

Special thanks to the strangers at the bar for sharing your stories, Lucky 13 for letting us fraternize with microphones on your patio, and Shoshana Walter for your feedback.

Beneath The Dome (Men, Balding & Loss)

Ghosts. You’ve seen the movies, nervously giggled and gasped over the stories at slumber parties, or like me, cowered in your sleeping bag in the other room to avoid hearing about it. Maybe you’ve even had an encounter with something you’d call a ghost. According to a 2009 Pew Research Study, 18% of Americans say they’ve seen a ghost and 29% believe they’ve been in touch with the dead. That’s pretty significant, so in this episode, I'm gonna dig in and explore what it might all mean.

This episode features special guests, Kay Fahlstrom, Elaine Chan-Scherer, Melanie Kay Mitchell, and strangers found in Golden Gate Park.

Producer: Lily Sloane
Editorial support: Jesse Rhodes
Field support: Katy Bullick
Theme song: Topher M. Lewis (remixed by Lily Sloane)
Closing song: Stacey McGuirl
Additional music & sound design: Lily Sloane

Special thanks to Abby Volk and everyone else who listened to me ramble on about ghosts.

Ghosts!

Wrapping up a very troubling year, "Very Dark, Very Appropriate" explores why we love listening to really sad music and how this can actually be good for us. This episode's featured guest is Stacey McGuirl, musician and San Francisco based psychotherapist. Visit www.staceymcguirl.com for more.

Keep digging into the sadness with these helpful links:

Nick Cave lecture: The Secret Life of the Love Song: http://www.openculture.com/2015/04/listen-to-nick-caves-lecture-on-the-art-of-writing-sublime-love-songs-1999.html

Feeling Blue? Sad songs DO help us cope better with grief, study finds:
http://www.dmu.ac.uk/about-dmu/news/2016/march/feeling-blue-sad-songs-do-help-us-cope-better-with-grief-study-finds.aspx

Why We Like Sad Music (New York Times):
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/09/22/opinion/sunday/why-we-like-sad-music.html

For a special sad song play list created by Lily with input from listeners:  
https://open.spotify.com/user/lilysloane/playlist/1POVR78ZnqXnrmaVfwuie2

Credits

Producer: Lily Sloane
Editorial Support: Stacey McGuirl 

Music Credits

"Tough As Texas": My Side Project (download/listen on Bandcamp):
https://mysideproject.bandcamp.com/album/my-side-project

"Downprov": Richard Marchant (download/listen on Soundcloud):
https://soundcloud.com/arjuan/downprov

"Everybody Leaves": Lily&Stacey (download/listen on Soundcloud):
https://soundcloud.com/user-566886405/everybody-leaves-song 

Additional Music & Sound Design: Lily Sloane

Episode photo by Marc Gautier, used under creative commons:
http://tinyurl.com/gskyzb9

Special thanks to my traveling buddies in Japan for use of our sad music conversation and everyone who pitched in their favorite sad songs for the playlist.

Please subscribe and sign up for the newsletter at www.atherapistwalksintoabar.com so you don't miss what's coming in 2017!

Very Dark Very Appropriate

Almost no one is free from beliefs, rules and attitudes about food. But some of us have experienced an undue amount of emotional pain as a result, riding this rollercoaster of harshly conditional self-love. And some people develop full blown eating disorders where rules, punishment, and rebellion formulate some of the most wretched, soul-destroying patterns to break free from. But ultimately, whether you have an eating disorder or are caught up in dieting and other disordered forms of eating, the truth is it’s probably not about the food.

Featuring:

Eating disorder specialist and producer of the PBS documentary "Erasing ED", Nicole Laby, MFT. www.nicolelaby.com

Producer, director, writer, and actor for the comedy web-series "The Skinny”, Jessie Kahnweiler. www.jessiekahnweiler.com

Registered dietician, blogger at "Dare to Not Diet", and co-host of the podcast “Dietitians Unplugged”, Glenys Oyston, RD. www.daretonotdiet.com 

Written & Produced by:
Lily Sloane
Jessica Brown http://integralcounseling.org/staff/index.html

Theme Song by:
Topher M. Lewis

Additional Music & Sound Design by:
Lily Sloane

Episode Image by Takeshi used under Creative Commons

Special thanks to Wildhawk for letting me use your bar and for all the strangers who let me interview you.

Ending The War (AKA The Food & Body Image Episode)

If you’ve been feeling anxious, overwhelmed, shut down, angry, hurt, or scared since the new administration took over, you’re not alone. We’re dedicating this episode to sifting through some of what this political chaos and noise stirs in us and how we can show up and fight the good fight while practicing self-care so we don’t have to escape into the Alaskan wilderness. As our guest Kip Williams says, “you can’t have healthy movements without healthy people.”

Featured Guest

Kip Williams is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a private practice in San Francisco where he specializes in treating sexual minority men with depression and anxiety as well as a number of other issues. Before becoming a therapist, Kip was a dedicated activist for LGBTQ rights and co-directed the 2009 Equality March on Washington. www.kipwilliamspsychotherapy.com

Credits

Written & Produced by:
Lily Sloane
Jessica Brown 
Theme Song by:
Topher M. Lewis
Additional Music & Sound Design by:
Lily Sloane

Special Thanks to Sarah Henley, Jesse Rhodes, Eric Welsh, Abby Volk, and Stacey McGuirl for your contributions. Thank you to the strangers at the bar for talking to us. Thank you to The Woods Cerveceria for letting us hang out for a bit.

Why The Resistance Needs Therapy

When was the last time you cried? How about the last time you cried in front of someone else? Most of us have mixed experiences with crying - whether it’s our own tears or seeing them in someone else. And a lot of this is impacted by gender norms and expectations. In this episode we bring back Jesse Rhodes, host of the podcast Man-ish, to share his latest two-part series about crying in politics. 

Part one tells the story of Edmond Muskie, a 1972 Democratic presidential candidate, who's public tears were so fatal to his campaign "The Muskie Rule" was created to reflect how detrimental it is for politicians to cry. Part two, "Muskie Today", questions this rule by diving into some more recent examples of political tears.

The "Muskie Rule" and "Muskie Today" were written and produced by Jesse Rhodes. Learn more about Man-ish by visiting www.man-ish.weebly.com.  

Special thanks to The Edmund S. Muskie Archives and Special Collections Library, John Milne, Jim Witherall, Emily Palena, Brandon Pascal, Shoshana Walter, and Ryan Neville-Shepard. To find links to Ryan’s research, go to the show’s website, and open the page for this episode. There, you can also find links to music you heard on the show.

A Therapist Walks Into a Bar is produced by Lily Sloane and Jessica Brown.

ATWIAB Presents: Man-ish (AKA There's no crying in politics!)

Dating can be this overly-complicated, painful, confusing, ungrounded, whirlwind. Honestly, it can feel really hopeless at times. In this episode we talk with our experts about how to make this process less of a clusterf#ck and navigate the dating world with a fresh perspective.

This episode's experts are:

Nate Bagley, creator of The Loveumentary and The First Seven Years
Eve Peters, founder and CEO of Whim
Lily Sun, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in San Francisco

Credits

Written & Produced by: Lily Sloane + Jessica Brown 
Theme Song: "Maruumba" by Topher M. Lewis
Credits Song: "Blimp" by Louis Cole
Opening Poem: "Admit Something" by Hafiz, recited by Eve Peters
Additional Music + Sound Design by: Lily Sloane
Featured Clip: "The Timing is Everything" Edition on Dear Prudence, with Andrea Silenzi
Episode Image:  "Have Your Awkward Tinder Dates Here" by Chris Goldberg via Flickr Creative Commons

Special thanks to the strangers at the bar for talking to us The Woods Bar and Brewery and Lost and Found Beer Garden for letting us hang out for a bit.

Seriously, F#ck Dating.

Most of us know what it means when we say a person went “unconscious” or “lost consciousness”.  But deeply imbedded in the roots of psychology’s history is the idea of The Unconscious - a psychological phenomena that is inherent to the human psyche and whether we like it or not, influences a tremendous amount of our behavior from who we fall in love with to racial discrimination. As part of the ongoing "Brief Psycho-Education" series, in this episode Lily breaks down what The Unconscious is and makes a case for facing all that we've kept hidden from ourselves and others.

CREDITS

Written & Produced By: Lily Sloane
Music & Sound Design By: Lily Sloane
"Come as You Are" Instrumental: Original song by Kurt Cobain, cover by Lily Sloane
Role of Anais Nin Performed By: Anna Howland of Anna Howland Psychotherapy
Role of Carl Jung Performed By: Kurt Kohlstedt, producer at 99% Invisible and founder of Web Urbanist
Editorial Support Provided By: Jesse Rhodes, Molly Merson, & Stacey McGuirl
Interview & Concept Support: Jessica Brown
Episode Image: jayhem by Andy NoTanx

Special Thanks to the strangers at the bars, Kip Williams, Aurelie Goldblatt, & Adam Foster.

REFERENCES

A Fist Full of Dollars (1964) (clips used during "Wild West" song)

Westworld Season 1, Episode 10 (2016) 

Anaïs Nin, A Woman Speaks: The Lectures, Seminars and Interviews of Anaïs Nin

C.G. Jung, The Essential Jung: Selected Writings

A Brief Psycho-Education: The Unconscious

Communities of gay men and the larger LGBTQ communities continue to face challenges from trauma to addiction, to ongoing discrimination. But that's not the full picture. In this episode we explore the challenges while also talking about the incredible strengths and resilience of gay men. We headed to a few bars in the Castro during Pride Week and asked some of the men we met to tell us their stories about facing – and overcoming – challenges.

The Expert

Jamie Moran is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with over thirty years experience in mental health and health care settings, focusing on gay men dealing with depression, grief and loss, HIV/AIDS, family, homophobia, intimacy and relationship issues. He has extensive training and experience facilitating groups in varied settings encompassing diverse groups of people. Jamie provides psychotherapy for individual adults and couples. He is also a certified group psychotherapist, currently leading six groups in the bay area out of offices in San Francisco and Menlo Park. www.jamiemoran.com

Credits

Written & Produced by: Lily Sloane + Kip Williams 
Theme Song: "Maruumba" by Topher M. Lewis
Additional Music + Sound Design by: Lily Sloane
Philadelphia Pride News Clips: 
More Color More Pride
Pride Flag, Drag Race Finale, Gay Men's Golden Girls | Gay Weekly Roundtable
Philly Unveils New Pride Flag (CBS Philadelphia)
Gay Rainbows Can Have Black & Brown Stripes - The New LGBT Pride Flag | David Levitz
Episode Image:  "Together" by John St. John (used under creative commons)

Special Thanks to the strangers at the bar for talking to us as well as Twin Peaks Tavern and The Mix for letting us hang out.

Visit atherapistwalksintoabar.com for links and more information.

Two Therapists Walk Into a Gay Bar

In light of the recent emboldening of white supremacist groups in the US, Seeing White II revisits the topic of whiteness as explored in Episode 1: Seeing White. What do white people need to do right now to show up and fight internalized and externalized fascism and white supremacy?

This episode features excerpts from my interview with Zara Zimbardo, adjunct faculty at California Institute of Integral Studies and co-founder of The White Noise Collective. www.conspireforchange.org

Produced By
Lily Sloane

Music + Sound Design By
Lily Sloane

"I Am Not The Angry Racist They See" Written + Read By
Christine Hutchison

Special thanks to the people who showed up to protest in San Francisco and to those who were willing to let me interview them.

Episode Image
Silver Spring #ReclaimMLK Sit-in 26 by Stephan Melkithesian used under creative commons.

Seeing White II

Here's the return of an old favorite just in time for Halloween season!

Ghosts. You’ve seen the movies, nervously giggled and gasped over the stories at slumber parties, or like me, cowered in your sleeping bag in the other room to avoid hearing about it. Maybe you’ve even had an encounter with something you’d call a ghost. According to a 2009 Pew Research Study, 18% of Americans say they’ve seen a ghost and 29% believe they’ve been in touch with the dead. That’s pretty significant, so in this episode, I'm gonna dig in and explore what it might all mean.

This episode features special guests, Kay Fahlstrom, Elaine Chan-Scherer, Melanie Kay Mitchell, and strangers found in Golden Gate Park.

Producer: Lily Sloane
Editorial support: Jesse Rhodes
Field support: Katy Bullick
Theme song: Topher M. Lewis (remixed by Lily Sloane)
Closing song: Stacey McGuirl
Additional music & sound design: Lily Sloane

Special thanks to Abby Volk and everyone else who listened to me ramble on about ghosts.

Ghosts! (again)

We've all got baggage. And as a psychotherapist in private practice, I help people unpack a lot of it in my office. But what if I went out looking for it? From complete strangers? In this episode, you'll learn all about the emotional baggage I collected in my Halloween costume this year.

Produced: Lily Sloane
Editorial Support: Nuala Sawyer, Dani Scoville, and Emily Shaw
Music and Sound Design: Lily Sloane
Additional Music: "Green" by Robby Kharr

Emotional Baggage Voice Actors: Aura Aguilar, Simon Batistoni, Julene Beeson, Bryce Bishari, Jessica Brown, Chris Bunting, Vince Campillo, James Greene, Aaron Gotwalt, Christine Hutchison, Caryn Kesler, Molly Merson, Gili Neglar, Hannah Paessel, Jesse Rhodes, Nuala Sawyer, Dani Scoville, Ben Sloane, Mat Stevens, Brian Thompson, Clarice Torrey, Allisa de Vogel, and Ben Ward

Clip of Esther Perel on the podcast Why Oh Why, from the "Stage a Fight" episode, used with permission by Andrea Silenzi

Episode Image: "Full of Tricks" by StefSince1985 used under creative commons license

Thank you Ben Sloane and Aura Aguilar for letting me interview you in the bar. Thank you to all the strangers and friends who shared you emotional baggage.

Check Your Emotional Baggage Here

For decades, the field of psychology has been interested in understanding the myriad creative strategies we employ to cope with life's inevitable discomforts. But right now, I wonder if I can convince you that your defense mechanisms might be the key to knowing who you are as an individual and who WE are as a collective. And maybe, just maybe the ways we defend ourselves against the things that scare us are unfairly getting a bad rap.

​I say, the best defense is the one you know.

This episode features Molly Merson, a psychotherapist in Berkeley, CA. Learn more at mollymerson.com. 

Credits

Produced by: Lily Sloane
Edited by: Emily Shaw
Additional Editorial Support by: Rueben Ly & Keith Menconi
Music & Sound Design by: Lily Sloane
Episode Image: "Tauben in Stein" by mingusmutter via creative commons. Image is cropped and brightness has been adjusted.

Thank you to the Wooden Nickel and the friends and strangers at the bar who opened up to me.

For a complete transcript of the episode, visit https://www.atherapistwalksintoabar.com/the-best-defense.html

The Best Defense Is the One You Know

In a new bonus segment of A Therapist Walks Into a Bar, which will release on the third Wednesday of each month, I pull the best moments from my sister show, Radical Advice, which airs live on Tuesdays from 10am-noon PST. You can tune in at BFF.fm.

This time, San Francisco psychotherapist, Brian Thompson, and I call his mom, Noreen, a psychiatric nurse, for help answering a listener's question about their childhood imaginary friend.

If you want your life questions answered, visit www.radicaladviceshow.com and click submit.

This episode was produced, edited, mixed, scored, etc. by me, Lily Sloane.

Radical Shorts: Imaginary Friend

In the last episode, we explored defense mechanisms - all the things we do to cope psychologically with various threats in our day to day lives. One of the biggest threats we find ourselves defending against as conscious beings is the unknown in its many forms. So in this episode we’re gonna dig into all of that excitement - like, how we develop narratives and strategies to get through uncertainty. And what happens when life tears through those structures like an F-5 tornado.

This episode features an interview with Phoebe Judge of the podcasts Criminal and This is Love. 

Produced by: Lily Sloane
Edited by: Emily Shaw
Music & Sound Design by: Lily Sloane
Episode Image: "who am i?" by paurian via creative commons. Image is altered to black & white.

This episode features a clip from "All the Time in the World", episode 68 of Criminal.

Thank you to Arthur Mac's Tap and Snack and strangers at the bar who opened up to me. Thank you Garrett Tiedemann for talking through some philosophy with me for this episode.

The Unknown

For this Radical Short, we time travel all the way back to February, when my colleague Lauren Selfridge, host and creator of the podcast This Is Not What I Ordered, joined me in the studio and we answered a listener question about why feeling is important - even if it does hurt sometimes.

Produced by Lily Sloane

Find This Is Not What I Ordered at www.thisisnotwhatiordered.com and all the podcast listening places.

Radical Advice is live Tuesdays from 10am-noon pacific time on www.BFF.fm and you can find past broadcasts archived on the website or by subscribing to radical advice in your favorite podcast listening place.

If you want your life questions answered on Radical Advice, please visit radicaladviceshow.com. You can submit your question anonymously right there on the site. Or you can record a voice memo and email it to me at lilysloane@gmail.com.

Become a patron of the show by visiting www.patreon.com/atherapistwalksintoabar

Find the show on Twitter @atwiabpod; Radical Advice @radical_advice; and Lily @lilyrosesloane

Radical Shorts: Feelings Sometimes Hurt

When performing is a normal part of all our lives, on stage or off, what does it mean to be authentic? What is a “true self”? I’m hoping an opera singing drag performing therapist, some strangers in a bar, and a dead psychoanalyst can help me figure it out.

This episode features San Francisco drag performing artist, Dusty Porn (aka San Francisco psychotherapist Paul Ziller).

To watch Dusty's performance in the Miss California Gold Pageant this year, follow this link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xTzs5sbZ5nw&feature=youtu.be

Credits

Producer: Lily Sloane
Story Editor: Emily Shaw
Music & Sound Design: Lily Sloane

Thank you to The Little Shamrock, one of San Francisco's oldest bars, and the strangers there who opened up to me. 

"Firenze Church Choir" by mmiron used under creative commons. The file length was altered and effects were added.

Become a patron of the show and collect some sweet rewards! Visit patreon.com/atherapistwalksintoabar

Be Someone Else

Radical Shorts are a glimpse into some of the incredible conversations I’m having with all kinds of interesting people on my sister show, Radical Advice, a weekly live show on BFF.FM.

In this Radical Short, San Francisco and Berkeley based psychotherapist, Larry Lariosa, and I try to answer a listener-submitted question a lot of us are struggling with right now:

“I can't handle the news but I can't stop tuning into it. Even if I take like a week off, as soon as I go back it's like a daily terror festival. More like a runaway train and knowing there is no driver and I can't find the brakes. I don't know how to cope through another minute of this crazy bullshit. What can we be doing to make Trump go away? How does someone like him get what he needs to stop tormenting so many of us?”

Learn more about Larry at larrylariosapsychotherapy.com. 

If you'd like your life questions answered, visit radicaladviceshow.com. Tune in to Radical Advice on BFF.FM Tuesdays from 10am-noon PST or subscribe to listen in your podcast feed on your own time.

Become a patron of A Therapist Walks Into a Bar by visiting www.patreon.com/atherapistwalksintoabar

No new show until July! Until then, also check out this related episode https://www.atherapistwalksintoabar.com/why-the-resistance-needs-therapy.html

And to prepare for what's coming in July, subscribe to the Jedediaries where ever you listen or visit www.thejedediaries.com.

Thanks for listening!

Radical Shorts: Coping With This Crazy Bullshit

There’s this cliche, that all therapists want to do is make you talk about the past. Even though I often reassure new clients that I won’t make them talk about anything they don’t want to, it’s not untrue - a lot of us do want to know about your past. Because the past is never actually in the past and the present and the future are intricately tied to it. But like any historical research, piecing our own pasts together is both vital to self-understanding and fraught. And our understanding of history changes with who we are in the present.

/ Credits /

Producer: Lily Sloane (www.lilymakessound.com)
Story Editor: Emily Shaw (www.emilyshawcreates.com)
Original Music & Sound Design: Lily Sloane
Additional Music: "Colocate" by Poddington Bear and the original theme to The Jedediaries by Marshall York

Find The Jedediaries at www.thejedediaries.com or wherever you listen to podcasts.

Thank you Josey Baker, Torrey Paquette, and Ada and Linden for lending your voices to this story and Mat Stevens for helping me interview Jed.  

Clips from Mortified were recorded at the New Parish in Oakland, California March 10, 2018. I highly recommend the Mortified TV series on Netflix, the podcast, and live shows. www.getmortified.com

Become a patron of the show at www.patreon.com/atherapistwalksintoabar.

The Presence of Past

In this Radical Short I talk to Dave Nadelberg, co-founder of the stage show, television series, books, movie and more that make up Mortified. In the last episode of A Therapist Walks Into a Bar, "The Presence of Past," I shared some clips from my performance in the stage show in Oakland. But this thing, where people get on stage and read from their adolescent diaries, share poems, songs, plays they wrote - it actually happens in chapters all over the world. Several months ago, on my sister show Radical Advice, I chatted with Dave about how all this got started. 

Learn more about Mortified at www.getmortified.com

Learn more about Radical Advice and submit a life question at www.radicaladviceshow.com and find the archives or tune in live at www.BFF.fm

Learn more about this show at www.atherapistwalksintoabar.com

Become a patron at www.patreon.com/atherapistwalksintoabar

Radical Short: Dave Reads A Poem & Lily Sings A Song

When it comes to making babies, it can often feel like there are only 2 choices and you have to feel 100% happy with your choice once you’ve made it. Oh, and also, no matter what choice you make, people will judge you. While I grapple with my own uncertain future, Nuala has made a decision that doesn't fit neatly into any category.  The choice to have children is not quite like other choices in life because it’s pretty untakebackable. But like many other choices, saying yes to one thing and no to another can be full of complicated feelings.

- Featured Guest -

Nuala Sawyer lives in San Francisco with her partner Bryce, dog Kazu, and cat Suki. She's a reporter for SF Weekly and freelance writer. You can find her at www.nualawrites.com and on Twitter @TheBestNuala.

- Credits -

Producer: Lily Sloane
Story Editor: Emily Shaw
Original Music & Sound Design: Lily Sloane
Episode Image: Qairin Qusyairi Ooi by Mohd Fazlin Mohd Effendy Ooi (used under creative commons)

To learn more visit www.atherapistwalksintoabar.com.

An Untakebackable Choice

Dearly Beloved, we are gathered here today to talk about the end. It’s the end of the third season of this podcast. A season full of stories about what it’s like to be living in these minds and bodies. But it’s also the final episode of this show. I want to quickly add, before you have a chance to react, “at least for now!” I want to imply the show could come back to make this ending feel like not a big deal. But let’s not do that. Let’s just take a moment to let it be. This is the end of the show. Afterall, resurrection fantasies are another defense against loss. 

As much as I want to just ghost on this ending, I'm not going to. So in this episode, I go back to some of the people who've been on the show before and talk about endings and why acknowledging them is important. And I take this chance to say goodbye to you and to the podcast.

Credits:

Writer/Producer - Lily Sloane
Sound Designer and Composer - Lily Sloane
Story Editor - Emily Shaw [emilyshawcreates.com]

Thank you Dani Scoville, Molly Merson, Jessica Brown, Kip Williams, Dusty Porn, and Al Anzola for taking part in this funeral...I mean, episode.

If you want to stay up to date on my new projects, follow me on Twitter @lilyrosesloane and sign up for the newsletter at atherapistwalksintoabar.com, which I’ll transition away from being about this specific podcast - and don’t worry, emails will still be fairly infrequent. To check out my other work and see if you want to hire me for something, visit lilymakessound.com. 

You can still hear me talk about therapy stuff every week on Radical Advice which is live on BFF.fm Tuesdays 10am-noon Pacific time. If you can’t listen live, subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts and tune in whenever. You can submit life questions by visiting radicaladviceshow.com.

Episode Image: Original Photo by Jaime Borschuck [jaimeborschuk.photo], adapted to black and white and ghostified by Lily Sloane

Lily Isn't Gonna Ghost (Finále)

A Therapist Walk Into a Bar is a podcast that brings therapy to you. I am a San Francisco based psychotherapist who likes to get out of my office, grab my microphone, and find people in bars to chat with about the best and the worst of life. Help support the show at www.atherapistwalksintoabar.com/donate

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