Do you struggle with felling resentment in your relationships?  I know I do sometimes.  The way to get a hold of this and decrease the amount of resentment you feel is to understand where it comes from.  Resentment comes from giving the responsibility of creating the feelings you want to feel to other people.  Take back your life by remembering that you are responsible for the way you're feeling now and for creating the way you want to feel. 

Resentment comes in when we don't like how we're feeling and we think that someone else should fix it.  Listen to this episode as we dig into all of this and I share some personal examples of specific times in my life when I have felt resentment and how I solved it.  Enjoy!

Episode 84 - Resentment

In this episode I explain why the perfect environment for working on our mindset and trying to make changes in our life is to think of it like conducting a science experiment in a laboratory.  This is so good to know and can be really fun and exciting to spend time in this space.

The problem is that we are human and accessing this space in our minds can be difficult when it comes to many areas of our lives...and then actually spending time there can be even more challenging.  The reason it can be so challenging is because as humans we tend to think dramatic, heavy, painful, discouraging, sad thoughts about our lives and when we're thinking that way the laboratory can feel very far away.

Tune in to hear more about all of this and how you can work with your incredible brain to have more success getting to the laboratory and to know exactly what to do when you're not ready to spend time in the laboratory and why that's ok.  Enjoy!

Episode 122 - Science Experiment

Do you feel like you are frequently feeling overwhelmed or frustrated? Do you ever ask yourself what you wish you were feeling instead? If you have, my guess would be that your answer to that question would be peace. Feeling peaceful is amazing and a very desirable feeling and I want that for you too.  However there are a few ways to feel peace and the main one feels like the absence of chaos which is mostly not available.  Listen to this episode to learn how to create a more powerful version of peace in your life rather than just trying to create the absence of chaos. Enjoy!

Episode 123 - The Power of Peace

When we slow things down and step back we can see that we are almost always wanting peace to think what we're thinking, feel what we're feeling and do what we're doing and unfortunately we are often not giving ourselves that permission.  One problem is we think we need to wait for permission from others, but what we really need is permission from ourselves.  Listen to this episode to learn how to switch this around so that you primarily go to yourself for permission and not others. Enjoy!

Episode 124 - Permission

A very common piece of advice that we are given as military wives to get through deployment is to just "stay busy."  This can be a good thing but it can also be overdone and you can use it against yourself if you're not careful.  Listen to this episode where we focus on productivity and processes and less on the end result.  I will also show you how to watch for what you're using to motivate yourself to be productive and to make sure you aren't trying to earn your worth by getting things done each day. Your worth is complete and whole always and can't be earned.  So alternatively let's just get things done because it's fun and feels good. Enjoy!

Episode 125 - Productivity and Processes

Have you ever felt really drained or stuck and didn't know why? Chances are you were experiencing a lot of resistance about something and maybe didn't even know it. You might be resisting your current reality, your emotions, the actions of others, yourself, etc. After all you can argue with reality and lose the argument...but only every time.  Our brain tends to resist things that are different from our plans or expectations or things that are happening that we don't prefer or we wouldn't choose...and the problem is that our brain does this by default. Once we understand this and practice doing it less by intentionally creating a mindset of acceptance, we can experience all of the benefits of this shift such as extra energy, feeling less stuck, experiencing more compassion and understanding and less self judgement, and learning to have a more healthy relationship with negative emotions and processing them, and more.  Enjoy!

Episode 126 - Resistance and Acceptance

This week I am celebrating one year of being the coaching client.  I started working with Lizzie Merritt in March of 2023 and today she is coming on my podcast to help me share our top 12 takeaways from a year of working together.  Listen to the episode to hear the most impactful lessons we've learned as we've worked on weight loss, mind management, healing, my business, my relationships, money, time management and everything in between. Enjoy!

Episode 128 - Top 12 Takeaways From One Year of Being the Client

One of my favorite mind management topics is understanding the difference between needs and wants and staying clear on who is responsible for what.  My favorite way to illustrate this concept is the Cupcake Concept (see episode 42). In this episode we take a look at this concept again and spend a little more time understanding what needs are and what wants are and how to keep them from getting mixed up. Enjoy!

Episode 127 - Needs vs Wants

Do you remember being young and in love? Do you remember what it felt like to be so into someone that you may have even been a little obsessed? Now full on actual obsession is not necessarily healthy, but what I'm talking about in this episode is how to add a dose of obsession to things in your life that are important to you and you want to think about more and feel more strongly about like yourself, your spouse, your life, your kids, your responsibilities, your choices, your future.  You guys! I'm obsessed! Enjoy!

Episode 129 - Obsessed

There are so many fascinating layers when it comes to experiencing disappointment.  In this episode we get into what it can be like to be willing to feel disappointed and to even get good at feeling this common emotion that accompanies so many of our regular daily experiences. Enjoy!

Episode 130 - Disappointment

There are many ways to think about the word ownership, but in this episode I'm referring to taking ownership or responsibility for the parts of your life that are in your control and that are your creation.  There are a few sneaky traps that we can fall into in this area where we accidentally categorize things that are in our control as out of our control. Also, we may not realize when we are not owning something in our lives that is our fault or our doing and when we make that shift to ownership we get unstuck in that area. In this episode you are going to learn how to ask questions like: "In what ways is this my fault?" and "How is it being my fault good news?" Remember that we are not taking ownership or accepting fault for things that are other people's responsibility (another sneaky trap), just our own. Enjoy!

Episode 131 - Ownership

Hello everyone! Welcome to the Simply Resilient Podcast. My name is Jessie Ellertson and this is life coaching from a military wife who is in the trenches of life with each of you. This is a podcast for military wives who know how to handle the challenges of deployments and frequent trainings, but want to stop feeling mentally miserable in the process. You know what to do and you’re doing it, all while holding down the fort at home, but you are weary from living in survival mode and battling with your brain. You are ready to thrive and you are in the right place!

Episode 84 - Resentment

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