Several years ago, there was a tweet that went viral which said that of Jesus' many miracles, perhaps his greatest, was having 12 close friends in his 30s.

As people say, it's funny, because it's true.

When my guest today came face-to-face with the anemic state of his own friendships, he set out to try to do the miraculous himself, and make friends in middle-age. His name is Billy Baker and he's a journalist and the author of We Need to Hang Out: A Memoir of Making Friends. Billy and I begin our conversation with the problem of male loneliness in the modern age, and how it befell him in his own life. We then discuss how men and women do friendships differently, the way men do theirs shoulder to shoulder, what this means for what male friendships need to be built around, and why they require what he calls “velvet hooks.” Billy shares how he started his project, which experimented with different ways to recover and create connections, by rekindling his old friendships, but why that ultimately didn't scratch the friendship itch for him. Billy then describes what did: a kind of casual fraternity for middle-aged men he started, and how it was inspired by something called the "men’s shed" movement in Australia and its philosophy that men need "somewhere to go, something to do, and someone to talk to." We end our conversation with Billy's takeaways for making friends in adulthood, including the need for embracing intentionality and social risk.

Get the show notes at aom.is/makefriends.

#702: One Man's Impossible Quest — To Make Friends in Adulthood

 'Bareknuckle Pipes & Drums' is our third studio album, recorded in 2011 - this is the 'well-polished' and extended follow up to our raw EP, 'The SubZero Sessions'.

The album was produced and mastered by Grant Miller at Sub Zero Studios in Glasgow.  Cover design by Charles Randolph Bruce.

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Bareknuckle Pipes & Drums - 06 - Tweedle Dee

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Song : PUPPETS
Date : 31 Mar 2014
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PUPPETS ( remix )

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ASMR [flower sniffin kitty pettin baby kissin corporate rock whore]

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Depeche Mode - Pimpf (Strange Days Mix)

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