This is a voicemail to a friend who asked me a few questions about life. I’m covering a lot of topics. If you don’t have much time, jump to 1:40:00 and listen for 10 minutes.

This voicemail is part of my weekly newsletter about how to live life on your terms. You can sign up here: http://signup.consciousx.co/

To make it easier to find what interests you, you find the content with timestamps below.

For the full content and links, click here: https://medium.com/vincentd/how-to-live-your-life-successfully-voicemail-to-a-friend-b2587fadf1cc

START ASKING QUESTIONS
- Do things because you want to do them and not because you expect something in return. Don’t make assumptions: A dog walking story. [0:00] 
- It’s all about expectations. We always assume the worst and often the least likely. And it makes us suffer. [3:42]
- Why am I recording this voicemail? [4:48]
- Messages: Failing to respond in a timely manner. [6:25]
- We prioritize what’s urgent before what’s important or matters to us. [7:55]
- You are in full control of your life. It might not feel like it but you are. [9:40]
- What do you want to spend your life on? If you are doing things that you are meant to do rather than what you want to do then ask yourself whether you should not change something in your life. [10.38]

FROM VICTIM TO MASTER
- Why are you complaining? We all behave like victims. With reflection, you can find all the answers to life by yourself. You have complete freedom to change anything. [11:52]
- Hard choices, easy life. Easy choices, hard life. There is always a choice. The more difficult paths are the better ones in the long term. We underestimate second and third order consequences. [13:41]
- Be honest with yourself. About making excuses. Do what you want rather than what everyone is doing. [15:05]
- Skip the next minute [16:21]
- Creating a modern framework how to live life. We are all stressed for nothing. Stress will make you physically sick. [17:21]
- When has being busy become cool? Do less or do it slower. Stop making excuses. [20:00]
 
RELATIONSHIPS
- Don’t have social interactions you don’t enjoy. Life is constant flux, there is nothing static. Things change and you can change things. Don’t try to lock things in. Example marriage. [21:21]
- We are all in different stages. You can immediately see whether someone is in a good place or not. Doing things not because you want to but to impress others. [25:17]
- Knowing means that you know nothing. The more you learn the more you realize how much you don’t know. Keep asking questions. [28:28]
- The journey of becoming more aware and how it might impact your relationships. Superficiality vs. depth. [29:30]

UNDERSTANDING YOURSELF
- Awareness: Those that need it the most want it the least. Understanding the human condition and why everyone should dive into it. It only works if you make it a priority. [33:29]
- Know thyself. Understanding why you have the emotions and state of mind you have vs. doing, doing, doing. Reflecting vs. taking immediate action. [36:20]
- Self-inquiry. Listening to yourself is the most powerful tool to understand yourself. Asking why you feel, like or do things and you will find all the answers. Stop lying to yourself. [38:57]

FINDING YOURSELF
- Decision making. Finding and creating your rules. Automating and outsourcing agonizing decision making and make your life more enjoyable. [43:38]
- Expansion and consolidation. The power of mental frameworks. You can only connect the dots looking backward so you have to trust in something. [48:01]
[...]
For the full content and links, click here: https://medium.com/vincentd/how-to-live-your-life-successfully-voicemail-to-a-friend-b2587fadf1cc

BEFORE YOU GO
If you enjoyed my thoughts, sign up for my weekly newsletter and learn how to live life on your terms (http://signup.consciousx.co/). Or read previous editions here: https://medium.com/vincentd

ConsciousX - How to live life successfully: A voicemail to a friend

Even if you knew whether we would live we live in a simulation or we in a dream it doesn't really matter because it still feels pretty painful if you know if someone cuts off my leg and you know maybe there's a way out of the dream but then you know I think death is probably the way out of the dream or at least then you get more answers because if you look at what people I mean without being religious I think has zero true religion but if you look at how like near-death experiences so people are going to die and then come back what they tell you you know is very similar for everyone very similar and they go on this light and there's lots of love and feeling and all of that. And the interesting thing is often you can also observe from outside how they die and they can say oh this person tried to do CPR on me and like this doctor did. So it's not just the mind making up something do you actually saw what's going on. So that speaks for a higher form of consciousness that we're more than our material self. 

So that's one one thing and I think you can kind of wake up kind of if you do the Buddhist process and you kind of become more self up 7 but it's not really waking up it's more like you see things more clearly as there is not then how your mind makes them think but you still are kind of trapped in a material world but any kind of spiritual experiences. Right. I don't know whether you have had one. I have had some and they take you to a different place in you again. Some people call them hallucinations but you could also say maybe life is a dream slash hallucinations. And when you have these spiritual experiences that is actually closer you know to the reality or the what is what is beyond what we normally perceive in life. And I think also what our mind does like it kind of like you know all the census pick up a lot of stuff in our mind doesn't make us conscious of all of that. I think for example the whole world is actually vibrating right because atoms are vibrating. Everything is frequency and vibrations but I think our mind just shuts down because we would get crazy like it would be too much information. Everything is moving etc of moving but vibrating. So that's that's another aspect. Then there's the idea of you know we live in a simulation. You can think of kind of a Matrix style simulation or you can just part in a video game but it's to us it's real. I mean it's hard to tell any of these things because we're trapped. Also the ability our our body and senses are only able to pick three dimensions and time so four dimensions. 

But I mean already astrophysicists when they look at the world they see it seems like there's more than like mathematically to explain certain phenomena they need to be more dimensions so you know the ability to travel through time and actually that there is no feeling like time. That's just how we perceive because we have a limited if limited faculties. And so what we see it's a bit like think about it when people thought the world is flat and because they didn't know any better so fast is the same. We just think we know but we limited by the tools. It's like an aunt on a floor. The UN doesn't realize the world is three dimensional it just sees the flat surface its walking on and then if that flat surface bends then and walks. But it's still for the same. It's two dimensional the world for an art. And so think about the same for us first of what is free slash four dimensional but maybe there's more dimensions we just don't have a way to seeing them. So there's so many ways you can cut it but I think I love these kind of like discussions and it's fascinating but I think for real life for life why we on Earth are not relevant even if you knew the answer. Like even if like let's say it's proven me in a dream you know what changes nothing. It still hurts. Pain you know if someone breaks your heart it hurts.

Vincent Daranyi