Hello, how are you? My name is Antoine. I felt compelled to not be so interested in the concept of becoming a part of your life and not the application of allowing you get to know me more intimately. I hope all is well with you and that this receives you well.... I sincerely want to share "Me!" with you now; ... Love is not Love ...until it's given away! I'm 5'10, 180lbs... As for me, I have a flair for the unusual and the creative and I am drawn to those who shun the conventional. I shy away from those who tend to be TOO BOSSY, INCONSIDERATE, & DON'T RECEIVE CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM! It usually manifests as a rather quick wit. My imagination is so powerful that it is requisite that I have a strong creative or spiritual outlet. I believe that I have a unique view of life and have to find friends and partners with whom I can share it. I think I am right but I could be wrong; my relationships will be most successful when I also have in my life an interest, goal or project which absorbs both my partner & I equally.
    I have a mind that never quits. I need constant stimulation and am fond of talking, reading, writing and other forms of communication. This nervous energy of mine often translates into bodily tension that needs a physical outlet. I'm also fond of exercise, dancing, or any other activity that keeps me moving about. I am a performer & entertainer, or closely connected with show business, & stage; I'm impressed by cleverness and always appreciate a good joke. I think I’m right but I could be wrong, however, a most important key in "Life" is to wisely, however sincerely give of the gifts that are given to you & have equanimity to display discipline by loyalty to honesty. Objective reality is the final truth. So it is very important to know that how I observe people or situations is the primary ingredient in choosing a direction. I am learning how to accept people at face value who are different, think different, & act differently from me and realize that this way my life will be more fun and more stable. I see all sides of every question and then invent a few more to explore. I am logical, inquisitive, and mentally alert. In me developing depth and persistence, then I'll have the best of both worlds. I am also a daring spirit that has a love of adventure. I usually try to be very physically fit and enjoy staying in shape. I am optimistic, inquisitive and embrace change. I am an individual who expresses their love of independence often through an unusual life style. I am also accepting of new people and new ideas. The last thing that could ever be said of me is that I'm closed minded. I will try almost anything once..... Love is not Love until it's given away! Romantically others may find me hard to get close to as I would rather sit and chat first then, possibly, get intimate. Others fail to understand that the most valued expression of my love is the expression of my hopes and dreams to another. Because I've come to learn that being loyal to honesty builds confidence! With all of that said, "The risk of insult is the Price of Clarity". The less compatible people are in their relationships, the more they have to compromise. And compromising decreases the level of desire.
    I am about the right to follow where my heart and gut-instincts lead me in life. I am a great lover of human nature as well as one of its greatest observers. I also have a spiritual bend to my personality. One of my challenges is learning how to not spread myself too thin! In the past, I have been quite casual about some of my relationships and have had some challenging trouble managing any type of ill-logical emotional crisis. I've even experienced panic at the idea of commitment, to certain individuals, as I don't like the idea of being responsible to...( not for but to )...another person that is not mature, considerate, & loyal to honesty. The truth does not change; only people do! Thank you for indulging me thus far...

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      Understanding My Psychology

    I think I'm right but, I could be wrong;  I've come to learn, understand and now accepting that Relationships are complicated by nature. There is no single aspect that accurately describes this complex matrix. Also in a relationship an important concept to recognize is that the emotional, irrational partner knows that he or she is being irrational and unfair. To spend endless hours in discussion or argument is futile. That only gives the irrational partner an outlet for personal frustration. As long as that partner can engage you in discussion of the irrationality then he or she has an emotional outlet. False guilt is projected onto you by the irrational partner. Thus, that partner avoids facing responsibility for their actions. A person sets up prosperity & earns happiness from within. Happiness cannot be taken from the material world or from another person. Happiness of a man & woman is not based on sex or pleasure, but on self-esteem. Self-esteem is a person's estimation of their self-worth. Self-esteem is based on the ability to live independently, happily, competently. Self-esteem is also dependent on one's effectiveness in dealing with reality. Fear of being hurt or rejected prevents the development of real romantic-love relationships. That fear keeps a person defensive which, in turn, prevents emotional openness with their partner. And believe it or not, that openness is necessary for developing romantic love & pleasures. The achievement of romantic love involves a willingness to take risks. A person, however, is always hurt by faking or concealing emotions from one's self or loved one. Denial of feelings traps a person into emotionally repressive situations that diminish the potential for love & happiness. Being emotionally honest & open is the safest, happiest way to live....being emotionally open, however, does not mean gratuitously projecting emotions onto others or blaming one's emotional problems on others. Blaming others for your personal or emotional problems is an irrational, unfair, and mystical act that keeps a person from solving their own problems. Being loyal to honesty builds confidence! With all of that said, "The risk of insult is the Price of Clarity ".
    Whenever love dies, reasons always exist. But the reasons are not always obvious. A person can better prepare for a future relationship by identifying the reasons for failure through high-effort, and honest introspection. The less compatible people are in their relationships, the more they have to compromise. And compromising decreases the level of desire. Life is not an event, it's a process. And when certain events that happen effect the process we each experience, its then we learn to make adjustments. Life is simple & Compassion follows ...so far, it is what it is. But the Future is open to suggestions, input, & application. Each and every individual has a positive side ( + ) & negative side ( - ); a past & a future... And so we must accept both in the individual that we choose to love. I realize that because of me not completely knowing myself, I'd burn out 10-15 yrs of my relationships for down the line the future by trying to force romance in a few years! And people don't need the discipline of micro-managing love to grow up into the concept of an understanding, compromising relationship! Growing up is just apart of this life! It happens on its own. In trying to develop a healthy psyche, it takes more time than most people have to invest! And so, I understand now; that it's not when a person get it, but it's that they get it. Because a man's reach exceeds his grasp and then a man's grasp exceeds his nerve! Obsession is a young game! We must give respect in order to be received & earn trust in order to be believed. An excuse is the meat of a lie with the skin of ones reason on or around it... that's why so many people ruin an apology with an excuse & a stiff apology is a second insult! Why let the minor things in life become priority and let the Major things in life become options? And if a person can't surpass their emotions, then they can't surpass their limitations! I now understand that I was purposed to give my heart to seek & search out, by wisdom, those things that are related between heaven & earth. This heavy task has been given to me to be occupied with or better yet, afflicted with! And in giving my heart to know wisdom and ignorance; I have learned for in much wisdom is much grief and he that increases knowledge, increases sorrow. I hope all of what I'm sharing with you, receives you well; ... But again as for me, what a cocksure, self-satisfied person might perceive about me as an immature need for stimulation .... A more curious soul might see as refreshing openness, a sense of life's brevity & preciousness, an impressive commitment to making every minute live & breathe! And I now know the importance of, " Temet Nosce " ... thine own self must thy know! Simply because ...

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...slow to speak & quick to observe one learns a lot faster ( + ) the  application of considered persuasion are the keys to the " Art of Conversation " ....

          Life's Love Understanding

     The one who loves you, loves you just the way you are. Because if someone wants to change you, it means you are not what that person wants. Love is, loving someone for being themselves (v.s) loving someone because the other person makes your life easier. Real Love is not being afraid and getting teased for having needs; that's fEaR! Each person's reality is different. Understand, it's easy to love something or someone that doesn't have verbal opinions about you. Because "Love is a Choice." But first you will need to take a step back... You have to accept yourself and love yourself just the way you are, because if one of you has a bad moment or an emotional crisis, your agreement is to love the other individual for no reason, with no justification. Love is, the not putting an innate needy individual in a helpless situation, but the giving freely of one's self. Communication through respect & love is the whole key to keeping the love alive and never getting bored in your relationship. Consideration in Moderation. Choosing to stay focused & be positive. We as people are pre-domesticated by fear or greed to work jobs that we hate, to buy things & stuff that we don't need... When we are children, we are taught that everyone's opinions are important and we rule our lives according to those opinions. We feel the need to hear the opinions of others because we are domesticated, indoctrinated and manipulated by those opinions. That is why we seek recognition from other people.... But it’s very important to develop your own opinion of Life! "Temet Nosce" thine own self thou must know. Because a person changed against their will is of their own opinion still!
  
          There is nothing good or bad; only thinking makes it so.........
.    .........since being predictable is not part of anyone’s long-term nature......
        And because insecurities & guilt of consequences are the primary factor of undisciplined anger and negativity; that simply uncivilized emotional impulses represent immature, unhelpful & majorly destructive forms of mysticism.

                MYSTICISM

Mysticism is defined as: 1. Any mental or physical attempt to recreate, evade, or alter reality through dishonesty, rationalizations, emotions, deceptions, or force. 2. Any attempt to use the mind to create reality rather than to identify and intergrate reality. Mysticism is a disease -- it's a huge mistake to theorize before data is collected because one begins to twist facts to suit theories, instead of allowing theories to suit facts; Mysticism is a disease that blocks intergrated thinking and brings stupidities through mind-created realities. The ultimate goal of mysticism is to develop the follower's own consciousness and intellectual knowledge through the means of difficulties & deception, through ploys and strategies devised. To break with the belief of mysticism in our life is an emotional struggle! Mysticism is perpetuated by cheaters who must undermine honesty in order to usurp their livings & pseudo self-esteem through value destruction. Such people must disregard or undermine the "burden of proof " concept. For that concept is the protector of honesty. The "burden of proof " concept requires that whoever makes an assertion has the burden to supply objective proof before credibility is granted to that assertion. People who promote mysticism either ignore the "burden of proof " concept or subvert the concept by passing off non-sequiturs or specious rationalizations as "proof ". In any case, mysticism by nature is the opposite of honesty, rationality, objectivity, reality. There is no moral standard anymore! ...evading reality in favor of feelings; a person may trick his mind into thinking that selfless behavior is moral, but he cannot fool the biological and irrational foundation of his inner self and his true essence as a human being.
     We as humans are not good or bad or right or wrong; we are just the way we are. We have the need to justify everything - when it is just the way it is, period. Humans accumulate a lot of knowledge; we learn all those indoctrinated beliefs, morals, and rules from our family, societies codes of conduct & man's religion. And we base most of our behavior, most of feelings, on that behavior.... Our individual unique lives are patterns of functions, conditioned by basic set principles, trapped in forces of nature as to how our cosmic being fit by numerical design in this universe. Believing so many indoctrinated ideas, that it creates wounds infected with emotional poison. The mind plays this game, but the body doesn't care what the mind believes; the body just feels the sexual need. And the body is going to feel sexual when it's excited, when it's touched, when it's visually stimulated, when it sees the possibility of sex. The body can feel sexual & a few min. later, stop feeling sexual. If the stimulation ends, the body stops feeling the need for sex, but the mind is another story. The mind knows, and that's the problem!:-( ..and now the drama and conflict begin! "The Fear" becomes the obsession! And that AUTOMATICALLY makes it to be that the experience only becomes GREAT! Only after all the tension is released!
• Evolution is the Law of Life
• Numbers is the Law of
Universe
• Unity is the Law of God
............simply because.........
* Science is our everyday life
* Spiritual/ Religion is what
we hope for
* Psychology is what we
struggle thru

    A most important key in " Life " is to wisely, however sincerely give of the gifts that are given to you & have equanimity to display discipline by loyalty to honesty. Objective reality is the final truth.
    Whichever is the right answer; these are just my views on the subject of " Life! " without claiming any theological specialty and not saying that I am correct, these are just thoughts for ponder......this is to know me; Antoine: mentally, intimately, emotionally, spiritually... this is honesty from the depths of my soul, myself. It is what it is & I am who I am.

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