She wasn’t born overwhelmed, she was raised to survive overwhelm. A song about ADHD daughters: how learning to keep peace in childhood shapes how they love as adults.

She learned to read rooms, smooth tension, apologise for being wired different. That survival wiring follows her into relationships, anticipating needs, holding the calm, burning out from doing too much.

It’s not control; it’s fear of chaos. It’s not “too much”; it’s never being allowed to rest. 

This song names the pattern so daughters can see themselves with compassion, and listeners can finally understand why love feels heavy when your nervous system never switches off.

(Chorus excerpt)
She learned love through survival,
not through calm or rest.
Always reading every tone,
doing her anxious best.

Sing it. Share it. Reuse it with attribution — this work is licensed CC BY.

Every play helps replace shame with understanding for ADHD women and their families.

Written by Lolly (AusticZone).
License: Creative Commons Attribution (CC BY).

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She Learned Love Through Survival (ADHD)

Autistic Adult writing lyrics for songs for healing from PTSD, Domestic Violence, and Coercive Control and seeking Trauma Informed Care For Front Liners. All my songs are FREE, I invite artists to record my songs as long as words not changed and attribution given to AusticZone. Still building this platform so please be patient while I organise things. Bless you