Happy, healthy relationships are built on healthy boundaries. If you struggle to establish boundaries, understand your boundaries, or even define your boundaries to others, this episode is for you!  I am talking with Denver Therapist, and Boundary Expert, Kathleen Stutts and we are going to cover the basics of boundaries and then dive into the nitty-gritty of establishing your boundaries in relationships so that you too can feel empowered in your most important relationships! Join Us!  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby  www.GrowingSelf.com

Boundaries in Relationships

"We have communication issues" is probably the number-one complaint of most couples coming in for&nbsp;or&nbsp;. Because this is so common, and so frustrating, I am re-releasing my three-part "communication problems" podcast series over the next couple of weeks. Start here: Listen to this episode to learn about the root cause of communication issues, and the ideas that will help you overhaul your approach. Next week we'll be talking about what to do if your partner's communication style is angry, hostile, or emotionally reactive. And then in the following episode we'll be talking about I sincerely hope that these ideas help you both find your way back together again. xoxo,&nbsp;

Communication Problems & How to Fix Them

? What’s your partner’s? If you don’t know, you may be accidentally hurting each other’s feelings, creating disconnection, and stoking resentment without even realizing it.  Understanding love languages — and acting accordingly — can change everything in your relationship for the better. Discover both of your love languages (and practical steps for unleashing all their positive power!) in this info-packed episode.&nbsp; &nbsp; Love,&nbsp;   &nbsp;

Love Language Quiz

One of the worst parts of going through a breakup or divorce is feeling consumed by thoughts about your Ex. Even if you know, intellectually, that the relationship wasn't good for you, it's still so hard to stop thinking about your Ex! On today's show, we'll be exploring why that is, and the steps you can take to free your mind, release your attachment, and  — once and for all. For you!  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

How to Get Over Your Ex

Feeling invalidated is at the core of communication issues. When couples fight, they're usually fighting to be heard. Feeling shut down, or bulldozed by your partner is not just frustrating — if it happens routinely it can damage your relationship. Today, learn why emotional invalidation happens and what you can do to stop it. By the end of the episode, you’ll have some actionable takeaways to help you feel heard, valued, and understood. With love,&nbsp; Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

Emotional Invalidation

It’s common to fantasize about reconnecting with an Ex: either rekindling the romance, or as friends. But should you?&nbsp; Couples get back together. Past partners can be wonderful friends. But sometimes longing to reconnect with an Ex just keeps you stuck in an unhealthy attachment.&nbsp; Is  a good idea? Is being friends with an Ex healthy for you? When to lean in, and when to let go — listen to this episode for clarity and direction.&nbsp; For you! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Getting Back With An Ex

Worried about how divorce will affect your kids? On today’s episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success Podcast, we’re talking about , and the best way to support your children if you're navigating the end of your marriage (or thinking about it). I hope this episode helps you find clarity and confidence about the next best steps for you and your family. xo,&nbsp; Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Divorce With Kids

We all carry around at least a little emotional baggage from past relationships. But by seeking out new, healthy experiences with safe people, we have the power to help ourselves heal and grow. Today, we’re talking about , and how you can create positive experiences with others that help you become a happier, healthier version of you. Join me!&nbsp; Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Healing Relationships

Should you be friends with your ex? After a divorce or breakup, being friends with an ex can seem appealing, especially if you're co-parenting. Making the transition from partners to pals is possible. But without radical self-honesty and clear intentions, it can be challenging — and may even create new problems.  If so, how do you go about this transition in a healthy way? That's what we're exploring, in this episode. Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Can You Be Friends With Your Ex?

Is it hard for you to trust your partner, or feel secure with them? If you've ever caught yourself double checking them (and then wondering to yourself, "Do I have trust issues?") this podcast is for you.  We're talking about what trust issues are (and what they are not), signs of trust issues, what causes trust issues, how unresolved trust issues damage relationships, and what you can do to overcome them — so you can feel confident and secure.  Ps: Access all the resources I mention in this podcast on the blog at

How to Deal With Trust Issues

We have all been there… witnessing our Ex move on without us. As both a therapist and breakup recovery coach who has walked with many people through the breakup recovery process, as well as a fellow human, I know that if you’re in the early stages of getting over a breakup or recovering after divorce, it can feel like a flaming knife is stabbing you in the gut when your Ex moves on with someone else. What’s worse, it can feel impossible to think about anything else.&nbsp; &nbsp; How are you supposed to focus on your own life and your own recovery when you can’t stop imagining your Ex cuddling up with a new partner? How can you let go and move forward when you’re stuck in a painful obsession?&nbsp; &nbsp; I created this episode about “” to answer these questions and others. You’ll learn why you can’t stop thinking about your Ex’s new relationship, and the powerful cognitive skills that will help you shift your focus.&nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp; I hope you’ll join me, and that you’ll find this episode helpful in your healing process.&nbsp; &nbsp; With love,&nbsp; &nbsp; Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby &nbsp;

How to Deal When Your Ex Moves On

How can you make a hard decision when you have no idea what the future holds?&nbsp; &nbsp; Should you quit your job? Cut off contact with your difficult friend? Buy the condo, or the house? Marry your partner? Dump your partner? &nbsp; Some people swear by using a cost-benefit analysis, or a decision tree, or a patented Six-Step Decision Making Model for Tough Choices™. While tools like these may have their place in decision making, I think a lot of them miss the larger point…&nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp; Decisions are about feelings.&nbsp; &nbsp; Does that surprise you to read? Maybe you’ve absorbed the popular idea that emotions are the enemy of sound, rational, goal-oriented decision making. In reality, having a good connection with your feelings is the only way to set meaningful goals in the first place, from which wise decisions can flow. Your feelings are a source of information, pointing the way toward the life you want to live. When you can tune into them, the right decisions become clear.&nbsp; &nbsp; This episode of the podcast will teach you  using your internal wisdom, and the incomplete information you have about the future. &nbsp; Joining me are two of my Growing Self colleagues with a lot of experience with this topic. Alejandra P. is a marriage counselor on our team who helps people find clarity about their relationships, and Kristi H. is an experienced career coach and counselor who helps people navigate big, bold career changes.&nbsp; &nbsp; If you’re facing a hard decision, I hope you’ll find our conversation helpful.&nbsp; &nbsp; With love,&nbsp; &nbsp; Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby &nbsp;

Embracing Uncertainty: How to Make a Hard Decision

Do you believe being single is a bad thing? Or that it’s a problem that needs to be resolved as quickly as possible?&nbsp; &nbsp; I hope your reflexive answer to these questions is “absolutely not!” But, even if you’re not aware of it, you may have echoes of these cultural attitudes boomeranging around your brain, and they can make it hard for you to feel fulfilled and happy outside of a committed relationship.&nbsp; &nbsp; Now, don’t get me wrong — I think loving relationships are absolutely fabulous. In fact, I’ve devoted my life to helping people create and maintain healthy relationships through services like counseling, dating coaching, and more.&nbsp; &nbsp; But I also know that there are many people who are searching for a partner while living with a deep anxiety about their status as a single person. Many single people tell me they’re kept up at night by worries about the possibility of never finding love. Ironically, this kind of desperation can undermine your chances of building the kind of life that would make you authentically happy —&nbsp;and that would invite healthy love into your life in a sustainable way.&nbsp; &nbsp; If you are single and worried about never finding a partner, I hope this episode of the podcast helps you find greater meaning and happiness. My guest is John Kim, a marriage and family therapist and the author of “Single on Purpose: Redefine Everything, Find Yourself First.” He’s sharing tips on , while also making room for real love in your life. You won’t want to miss this conversation! &nbsp; With love,&nbsp; &nbsp; Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby growingself.com

How to Be Single and Happy

Toxic relationships are more than unhealthy. They can be an addiction.&nbsp; &nbsp; During the early stages of romantic love, our brains light up with flashes of ecstasy and excitement. The same chemical reward systems that are implicated in a cocaine habit also get us “addicted” to romantic partners, even when they’re inconsistent, unavailable, or downright destructive to our wellbeing.&nbsp; &nbsp; Unfortunately, toxic relationships can be even more addictive than healthy relationships. Being in a toxic relationship feels like swinging wildly between anxiety and relief, and living for honeymoon periods that feel even more blissful because of all the terrible things that are happening the rest of the time. Unlike the calm waters of a healthy relationship, the choppy waves of a toxic relationship leave you off balance, and often deeply hooked.&nbsp; &nbsp; If you are , I hope this episode of the podcast sheds some light on the dynamics at play. I’m sharing the true story of a client I worked with years ago (after changing the identifying details, of course) who was in the grips of a toxic relationship he could not seem to end, no matter how much pain it caused him and his family. Eventually he found his way out, back to true love and grace. I wish the same for you.&nbsp; &nbsp; xoxo,&nbsp; &nbsp; Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby growingself.com&nbsp;

Addicted to a Toxic Relationship

You’ve hired the caterer, booked the venue, and spent hours curating a playlist that is danceable and family friendly, while also conveying the story of your love. You think you should be feeling excited for your wedding —&nbsp;you love your partner deeply and this is supposed to be the best day of your life! But instead you’re feeling a little bit nauseous, and considering possible escape routes à la Julia Roberts in “Runaway Bride.”&nbsp; &nbsp; If this is sounding familiar, then you my friend have a case of cold feet before the wedding. It’s a common occurrence, and something that premarital counselors even expect. When thoughtful, responsible people prepare to make the biggest commitment of their lives, they’re bound to feel some uncertainty and apprehension. The good news is, these thoughts and feelings probably don’t mean that you’re making a big mistake. But they’re also not something that you should ignore. &nbsp; This episode of the podcast will help you get to the bottom of , so you can gain the tools to walk forward into marriage with joy and confidence. My guest is my Growing Self colleague Brenda F., a marriage and family therapist, premarital counselor, and teacher of our “Lifetime of Love” premarital counseling class. Brenda has helped countless engaged couples address their cold feet and lay the foundation for a strong, happy marriage together. I hope our conversation will help you too.&nbsp; &nbsp; With love,&nbsp; &nbsp; Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

Cold Feet Before the Wedding? Here’s How to Deal

We all hear “you have to love yourself first.” But what if you don't know ?&nbsp; This episode is all about authentic self love: What it really means, why having compassion and care for yourself matters so much, and how to love yourself even if (and especially if) you don't always feel like it. You are worthy of love and respect, and today's podcast will help you build your relationship... with yourself. With love and gratitude for the gift that is YOU,&nbsp; xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby  P.S. — For even more support in creating a healthy, loving relationship with yourself, check out my  You'll find articles and advice about confidence and self-esteem, plus podcast playlists I put together for you. &nbsp;

How to Love Yourself

If you’re going through a breakup, you know that  is one of the toughest parts of the heartbreak experience. Even if you know the relationship is ultimately not right for you, it’s normal to look back on the happy memories and feel sad that your Ex can no longer be in your life. You might even question whether breaking up was the right choice, or if you should reach out and try to be friends. This episode will help you understand why you miss your Ex, what it means, and how you can transform those difficult moments into something that moves you forward. I hope you’ll find it helpful and healing.&nbsp; With love,&nbsp; Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby  &nbsp;

Why You Miss Your Ex (and What to Do About It)

Long term relationships can get a little stale when you don’t know how to keep love alive over the long haul. It’s very common for couples to believe they’ve  when this happens. But a stronger, more fulfilling relationship is possible, and on this episode of the podcast, I’m going to tell you how.&nbsp; I hope it gives you hope for your relationship and guidance on how to bridge the gap so you can feel in love with your partner again.&nbsp; Xoxo,&nbsp; Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby  &nbsp;

Why We Fall Out of Love (and What to Do About It)

Are your insecurities holding you back?&nbsp; We all have things that we feel insecure about, but many people feel trapped by shame and self doubt, or like they're never quite good enough. And this can create major problems. Unchecked insecurity can keep you from taking risks, achieving your potential, getting close to others, and enjoying your life.&nbsp; A little insecurity can be healthy, leading to humility and an openness to the perspectives of others. True security doesn’t come from being perfect, it comes from accepting your imperfections and loving yourself regardless.&nbsp; So how can you , and start building self-esteem and confidence? That's what we're talking about on today's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast.&nbsp; I hope you'll join me! xoxo,&nbsp; Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby&nbsp; P.S. — The best way to address insecurity is by working with a good therapist or coach.  at Growing Self today.

#389 - How to Stop Feeling Insecure

Do you have a tough internal critic? When you are always talking to yourself in a negative, unkind way, it impacts how you feel about yourself, how you show up in your relationships with others, and how much resilience you have to achieve your goals.&nbsp; Learning how to recognize your inner critic and talk back to it moves you forward. That's what we're talking about on this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast. You'll learn:&nbsp;  What the inner critic sounds like Where the inner critic comes from&nbsp; How self-criticism impacts your confidence and self-esteem How to  How to develop an "inner champion" who encourages and supports you.&nbsp; And more!  I hope this episode helps you silence your inner critic and amplify your inner champion. Because you deserve a loving, supportive relationship with YOU! xoxo,&nbsp; Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby&nbsp; P.S. — Ready to conquer negative self-talk once and for all? Let's talk: &nbsp;

#390 - Silencing Your Inner Critic

Do you wish you were "good with people?" Many of us do! But we're not often taught the one skill that will not only help you connect with others, but also make you happier and more successful in every single area of your life: .&nbsp; Raising your emotional intelligence has all kinds of benefits, including increased:&nbsp;  Contentment Motivation Adaptibility Resilience Empathy for others Self-Awareness  And, it will make every relationship in your life stronger. Truly, emotional intelligence is the secret sauce that makes you "good with people" — and so much more.&nbsp; So, how can you increase your emotional intelligence? That's what we're talking about on today's episode! You'll learn all about emotional intelligence: what it is, how it helps you create the life you want, and the practical strategies that help you raise your emotional intelligence, no matter where you're starting from.&nbsp; I hope you'll join me.&nbsp; xoxo,&nbsp; Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby&nbsp; P.S. — I have therapists on my team who specialize in emotional intelligence coaching specifically. Start with a free consultation today: &nbsp;

#391 - How to Be 'Good with People'

When you have an anxious attachment style, it's hard to feel secure in your most important relationships. But learning  and create a stronger relationship with yourself can be the path to emotional freedom.&nbsp; On today's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, we're discussing how you can stop relying on the people around you to regulate your anxiety, and learn to manage anxious feelings internally. This not only helps you have better relationships, it makes you stronger, happier, and more resilient.&nbsp; My guest is attachment expert Thais Gibson, a counselor, YouTuber, and founder of the Personal Development School. Thais shared some eye-opening insights in this episode that you won't want to miss!&nbsp; You'll learn:&nbsp;  00:00  Introduction to Attachment Theory 08:19  Thais' Background and Interest in Attachment Theory 16:21  Understanding Attachment Styles 28:15  The Danger of Pathologizing Attachment Styles 33:51 The  Impact of Attachment Styles on Relationships 39:11  Strategies for Healing Attachment Wounds 41:15  Reprogramming Core Wounds 45:40 The Power of  Auto-Suggestion   And so much more. I hope you'll tune in!  xoxo,&nbsp;  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby&nbsp;  P.S. — Ready to transform your attachment patterns? Schedule a free consultation: &nbsp;

#398 - How to Self-Soothe Anxious Attachment

We all inherit some baggage from our families of origin — and often, we don't even realize we're carrying it! On today's episode, I'm talking about how you can explore the intergenerational cycles that may be holding you back, and then make some intentional choices about what you want to keep, and what you want to leave behind.&nbsp;  is a self-affirming process. It frees you from ways of thinking and behaving that may have felt like "just the way things are," and allows you to become who you truly are at your core. And if you're parent, breaking generational cycles can be even more important, because it spares your kids from inheriting the junk that's weighing you down.&nbsp; Tune in to learn all about how this works, including:&nbsp;  06:35  What Are Intergenerational Patterns? 09:49  Recognizing Your Patterns and Making Changes 21:22  Getting Help with Deeply Engrained Patterns 25:30  Emotional Intelligence and Generational Cycles 32:06 The Value of  Structured Emotional Intelligence Work  And more! I hope you'll join me, and that you'll feel inspired to break through the patterns that are no longer serving you, so you can start a positive new chapter.&nbsp; &nbsp; xoxo,&nbsp; Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby&nbsp; &nbsp; P.S. — Want help with breaking generational cycles? Schedule a free consulation:

#399 - How to Break Generational Cycles

Do you want to feel happier, have more success, and live your full potential? The key is your mindset. Specifically, whether you've , or whether you're living with a scarcity mindset. On this week's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, we're talking about what the abundance mindset is, and how you can put it to work for you in every domain of life.&nbsp; When you have an abundance mindset, you see possibilities everywhere you look. You're aware of your incredible power to make good things happen in your life, and you can maintain motivation to work toward your goals because you know you're ultimately bound to succeed.&nbsp; But many of us get stuck in a scarcity mindest, or believing that your opportunities to create the life you want are limited. This mindset makes obstacles feel insurmountable, and keeps you from being and having everything you're capable of.&nbsp; You deserve better! Tune in to this episode to learn how to shake off your sense of scarcity (which you may not even be aware of) and start embracing an abundant life.&nbsp; You'll learn:  00:00 What Is an Abundance Mindset? 05:08 Why Mindset Matters 09:44 The Abundance Mindset vs Scarcity Mindset 13:06 Abundance Mindset in the Workplace 20:01 Abundance Mindset and Money 23:14 Abundance Mindset in Relationships 29:07 Internal Benefits of Abundance Mindset 32:00 Developing an Abundance Mindset 37:21 Challenging Your Perspective  And so much more! I hope you'll join me, and that you'll find this episode helpful.&nbsp; xoxo,&nbsp; Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby&nbsp; P.S. — Want support in radically shifting your mindset and getting more out of life? Schedule a free consultation: &nbsp;

#400 - Mindset: How to Live an Abundant Life

Introverts are the unsung heroes of the workplace. They're thoughtful, analytical, and they excel at working independently. Still, if you have an introverted personality type, getting ahead at work can be a challenge. This podcast episode is going to tell you how to leverage your introvert superpowers (because I promise, you have them) and .&nbsp; Although introverts can be assets to a team, they struggle with visibility. They may hesitate to speak up in meetings and spend lunch hours munching a salad in their car rather than socializing with coworkers. Unfortunately, upper management might mistake your introverted personality for disengagement or even disagreeableness. But there are steps you can take to make your voice heard, highlight your accomplishments, and connect with your colleagues, all while staying true to YOU.&nbsp; Tune in to learn about:   05:42  Career Paths for Introverts   09:21&nbsp;Tapping into Your Introvert Superpower   12:09&nbsp;Signs of a Mismatched Career   16:23 The Impact of&nbsp;Negative Feedback&nbsp;   21:40&nbsp;Finding Balance as an Introvert   24:19&nbsp;Why Introverts Kick a$$ in the Workplace   26:30 The Value of&nbsp;Introverted Leaders   30:05 How to Step  Out of Your Comfort Zone   31:29  Self-Acceptance vs. Functioning in the World   38:23&nbsp;Normalizing the Introvert Experience    And more! I hope you'll join me and my Growing Self colleague Susan for this conversation! She's an experienced career counselor and she has so many excellent career tips for introverts that you won't want to miss!&nbsp; All of that and more on today's show! xoxo,&nbsp; Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby&nbsp; P.S. — If you want support building a thriving career, schedule a free consultation: &nbsp;

#401 - How Introverts Can Win in the Workplace

Are you tired of all the drama that surrounds money conversations in your relationship? This is an issue that so many couples deal with. Money is a highly emotional topic, and it can be very triggering, especially when we don't feel respected or understood.&nbsp; It takes a high degree of empathy and intention to communicate about a hot-button topic like money and create a financial plan with your partner that both of you can feel good about. But that is a key to long-term success and satisfaction in your relationship.&nbsp; On today's episode, I'm going to tell you , so you and your partner can get on the same page and grow together in both money and love. Tune in to learn about:&nbsp;  01:30 The Root Cause of Money Fights in Relationships 03:26 Money as a Symbol of Deeper Problems 04:47 The Emotional Significance of Money 07:39 Respecting Differences Around Money 08:05 The Limitations of Standard Advice 12:50 The Rider and the Elephant Metaphor 16:33 The Structured Process of Financial Counseling 18:39 Unpacking the History and Family Culture Around Money 19:37 Understanding the Value Systems Attached to Money 24:22 Creating a Shared Vision for Managing Finances 26:44 Talking About Finances Productively  And more! I hope you'll join me, and that you'll find this episode helpful.&nbsp; xoxo,&nbsp; Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby&nbsp; P.S. — If you'd like support from an expert couples counselor specializing in financial counseling for couples, .&nbsp; &nbsp;

#402 - How to Talk to Your Partner About Money, Without Fighting!

How about this idea for a #NewYearsGoal? Learn how to practice radical self acceptance, and love yourself, for who and what you already are.  Learning how to be okay with not being okay, have compassion for yourself and others, and grow in your authenticity may sound like the antithesis of personal development, but the opposite is true: &nbsp;The practice of radical acceptance can (paradoxically) lead to transformational change on every level.&nbsp; Learn how to lean in, in this episode.&nbsp; And happy new year! xoxo,

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