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Podcasters and Radio Makers

This week I chatted with the critically acclaimed, and multi award winner and nominee, podcaster Dave Pickering about podcasts.

You will hear:

 - Dave doing an intro about their podcasts and history with them
- why people might listen to them, what are the motivations
- the danger of neoliberalism 'self improvement' and podcasts 
- the parasocial relationships that we have with podcast hosts and guests and how much that is part of why we listen (atomised, alienated from those around us we might turn to these kinds of relationships maybe?)
- recommendations for good shows

Dave’s own projects are
 
Getting Better Acquainted
Stand Up Tragedy
The Family Tree
Down to a sunless sea: memories of my dad (I’ve listened to the first of these, it’s really moving and excellent. 
 
Current (Client) projects: 
Who Hurt You (formally Made of Human) (I sort of mentioned this)
The Restart Project 
Race Reflections AT WORK
The Breakup Monologues 
 
Check all those out via Dave’s website http://dave-pickering.squarespace.com/ 

Also follow them on twitter for their excellent recommendations (usually on a Friday) https://twitter.com/goosefat101 

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Speaking of shows, the easiest ones for me to make are the 'Ask Justin' advice shows. So if you have any questions about relationships, sex, your relationship to your self, you can ask me. I will anonymise your question and will also give an excellent, long, and thoughtful answer. Email culturesexrelationships at gmail dot com

Dave Pickering: Podcasts

In GBA 38 we get better acquainted with Karl James. He talks about having conversations and creating dialogues, how developing skills and theories on talking has shaped and influenced his life. We compare notes about interviewing and get to a point we "co-create a dialogue." 

Karl plugs the power of having and listening to conversations: If you know someone who is in a great deal of pain, or has had bad experiences of sex, or a hard time in and around friendship, go and have a listen to Karl's conversations on those subjects.

The Dialogue Project: http://www.thedialogueproject.com/
2 + 2 = 5: http://understandingdifference.blogspot.com/
Itunes 2+2=5: http://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/2-2-5-the-dialogue-project/id423791414

Why Not Me? http://soundcloud.com/thedialogueproject/why-not-me




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GBA 38 Karl James

In GBA 40 we get even better acquainted with Lily who was in episode 39 and with Karl James who was in episode 38. Lily asks me for advice on an interesting interview project she is considering and I ask Karl James for notes on how to make what I do on GBA better.

We cut between these two conversations about conversations, these two interviews about interviews, and learn a lot about the art of talking and the craft of dialogue.

http://soundcloud.com/gettingbetteracquainted/gba-38-karl-james

http://soundcloud.com/gettingbetteracquainted/gba-39-lily


Notes:

The Dialogue Project: http://www.thedialogueproject.com/ 

2 + 2 = 5: http://understandingdifference.blogspot.com/ 

Itunes 2+2=5: http://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/2-2-5-the-dialogue-project/id423791414

The Story: http://thestory.org.uk/

Karl James' talk at The Story: http://vimeo.com/20141340

WTF with Marc Maron: http://www.wtfpod.com/

On the Media: http://www.onthemedia.org/podcast/

Radiolab: http://www.radiolab.org/

The episode of radiolab that Karl and Dave refer to: http://www.radiolab.org/2007/sep/24/


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GBA 40 The Interview Process

In GBA 47 we get better acquainted with my JP and Elah from the podcast I Like You. This is the first GBA done via skype with a link up between London and Toronto.

Amongst other things we talk about love and like, independent podcasting, ex girlfriends, working together, putting yourself online, radio and more. They use their own interview skills to draw some stories out of me.

A shorter version of our conversation edited by Elah appeared last week on their podcast: http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2012/03/67-getting-better-acquainted/

If you want to write a letter to your ex and send it to JP and Elah for them to use on their show they would love you to do so. Send it to: us@ilikeyoupodcast.com

If you live in Toronto and are single you might also be interested in getting involved with this I Like You project: http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2012/03/wanted-reality-dating-volunteers/


Find I Like You here: http://ilikeyoupodcast.com

We refer to these episodes of the show in our conversation:

Time Travel: http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/09/22-back-to-the-future/

Mum and Kid: http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/07/15-generation-gap/

Crying episode: http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/02/42-all-broken-up/

Parents Interview: http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/01/39-the-secret-of-my-success/

Drunk Episode: http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/04/49-a-few-too-many/

And this is a favourite of mine that we don't refer to: http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/07/17-dating-under-the-influence/


GBA Episodes mentioned:

Christmas Special: http://soundcloud.com/gettingbetteracquainted/gba-christmas-special

(My brother) Tony: http://soundcloud.com/gettingbetteracquainted/gba-35-tony


We also explore my experiences making Four Days in a Room: http://www.fourdaysinaroom.co.uk/



JP plugs: 

Savage Love: http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLovePodcast/Page

 in particular the episode featuring Ira Glass: http://www.thestranger.com/SavageLovePodcast/archives/2012/01/31/savage-love-episode-276

RadioLab: http://www.radiolab.org/

The Moth: http://themoth.org/

WTF: http://www.wtfpod.com/

Stop Podcasting Yourself: http://www.maximumfun.org/shows/stop-podcasting-yourself

Sound Of Young America / Bullseye : http://www.maximumfun.org/shows/bullseye

Jordan Jessie Go: http://www.maximumfun.org/shows/bullseye


Elah Plugs:

Wiretap: http://www.cbc.ca/wiretap/

Age of Persuasion: http://www.cbc.ca/ageofpersuasion/

Under the Influence: http://www.cbc.ca/undertheinfluence/



Other audio mentioned:

This American Life: http://www.thisamericanlife.org/

CBC: http://www.cbc.ca/radio/

BBC Radio 4: http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio4/

Jon Ronson: http://www.jonronson.com/radio.html

The Bugle: http://thebuglepodcast.com/

Answer Me This: http://answermethispodcast.com/

2 + 2 = 5: http://www.thedialogueproject.com/

(Hear a GBA with the man who makes that podcast here: http://soundcloud.com/gettingbetteracquainted/gba-38-karl-james )

Spark London: http://www.sparklondon.com/

The Longest Shortest Time: http://longestshortesttime.com/




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GBA 47 JP and Elah from I Like You

In GBA 65 we get better acquainted with Helen and Olly from the excellent podcast Answer Me This! 

We talk the realities of awards ceremonies, the different sides of Chris Evans, the experience and cultural position of going to Oxford, trying to make money from podcasts, meeting Paul McCartney's son the TV show Lorraine, working with friends and husbands, the legacy of Jewish comedy, reading Olde English, the entertainment industry, Big Issue sales tactics, making stags heads from old clothes and more!

Answer Me This! has won both Gold and Silver Sony Radio Awards and European Podcast Award that was voted for by the public.

It's a comedy/entertainment podcast where Helen and Olly (and Martin the Sound Man) answer questions of all kinds provided by its audience.

The show has been named one of iTunes Podcasts of the year and is THE most popular UK independent podcast; it's been a critics choice for a variety of different magazines and newspapers. Read the full low down on the show here: http://www.answermethispodcast.com/about

This episode is part of a strand of GBA where I talk to podcast makers and radio makers: http://soundcloud.com/gettingbetteracquainted/sets/podcasters-and-radio-makers/

WHERE'S MARTIN?  - He get's an episode all to himself which is coming out in 2 weeks on Wednesday 18th July!

Helen and Olly Plug:

The Answer Me This Jubilee special: http://answermethispodcast.com/jubilee It's £2.49 and available from iTunes and amazon.

I added to that a plug for their archive of classic episodes (each old episode is just 79p): http://www.answermethispodcast.com/classic

And their book: http://www.answermethispodcast.com/book

And LAST MONDAY they announced the release of the new Answer Me This Sports Day Special: http://answermethispodcast.com/sportsday/ It's £2.49 and available from iTunes and amazon.

You can find AMT on iTunes, the Stitcher Smart Radio app and a bunch of other places. Like it's website: http://www.answermethispodcast.com/ Like GBA it is a free independant podcast.

Want to know more about what they do separately?

http://www.helenzaltzman.com/

http://www.ollymann.co.uk/


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GBA 65 Helen and Olly from Answer Me This

In GBA 67 we get better acquainted with Martin "the soundman" Zaltz Austwick from the podcasts Answer Me This!, The Sound of the Ladies, The Global Lab Podcast and Bright Club. 

But there is much more to Martin than podcasting:

I talk to Martin about treating cancer with lasers, the relationship between physics and sociology, songwriting, public engagement, the relationship between class and studying at Oxford, changing your name when you get married, reverb, the history of social housing in the UK and more.

This episode is part of a strand of GBA where I talk to podcast makers and radio makers: http://soundcloud.com/gettingbetteracquainted/sets/podcasters-and-radio-makers

For more about Answer Me This! (including reference to Martin) have a listen to the GBA I did with it's hosts Helen and Ollie: http://soundcloud.com/gettingbetteracquainted/gba-65-helen-and-olly

Martin Plugs:

If you're interested in his music: The Sound of the Ladies: http://www.thesoundoftheladies.com/

If you're interested in sciencde engagement stuff: http://www.sociablephysics.com

His two twitters:

http://www.twitter.com/sociablephysics
http://www.twitter.com/martinaustwick

Mentioned in the Episode:

Darren Hayman: http://soundcloud.com/gettingbetteracquainted/gba-62-darren-hayman

Coventry Special: http://soundcloud.com/gettingbetteracquainted/gba-64-coventry

Gavin Osborn: http://www.myspace.com/gavinosborn

Bright Club: http://www.brightclub.org/

Martin talking lasers on Bright Club: http://brightclub.wordpress.com/2010/05/11/podcast-2-martin-king-of-lasers-austwick-and-kent-valentine/

Martin talking fictional lasers for The Naked Scientists: http://www.thenakedscientists.com/HTML/content/latest-questions/question/3337/

The Global Lab: http://www.thegloballab.com/

Science Showoff: http://www.scienceshowoff.org/

Answer Me This: http://www.answermethispodcast.com/

The Dave: http://soundcloud.com/the-dave/sets

The Plural: http://soundcloud.com/the-plural


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GBA 67 Martin "the sound man" Zaltz Austwick

In GBA 90 we get better acquainted with Kevin Allison. We link up between London and New York via Skype and talk storytelling, comedy, BDSM, what to do when expecting a hurricane, where sexuality and religion meet, The State, polyamory, being recognised in the street, how making his podcast Risk! has transformed his life and more!

http://risk-show.com/

https://twitter.com/RISKshow

Kevin Plugs:

The Story Studio: http://thestorystudio.org/

https://twitter.com/StoryStudioNYC


Follow him on twitter:

https://twitter.com/TheKevinAllison


3 non Kevin related Risk stories I really, really, really recommend:

http://risk-show.com/podcast/in-my-own-skin/

http://risk-show.com/podcast/mani-sheriar/

http://risk-show.com/podcast/danny-lobell/


Mentioned:

Kevin's Kink Camp Saga:

http://risk-show.com/podcast/kevin-goes-to-kink-camp-part-1/

http://risk-show.com/podcast/kevin-goes-to-kink-camp-2/

http://risk-show.com/podcast/beyond-kink-camp-part-1/

http://risk-show.com/podcast/beyond-kink-camp-part-2/

His recent story:

http://risk-show.com/podcast/the-god-problem/

Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan, Ph.D. AND Cacilda Jethá, M.D. (apologies for only remembering one authors name!): 

Tangentially Speaking: http://feralaudio.com/show/tangentially-speaking-with-dr-christopher-ryan/

Christopher Ryan and Dan Savage: 

http://www.thestranger.com/SavageLovePodcast/archives/2010/07/06/savage-love-episode-194

http://www.thestranger.com/SavageLovePodcast/archives/2010/10/27/savage-love-episode-210






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GBA 90 Kevin Allison

General content note for the series: death, dementia, old age, mental health issues

This episode is about creating things: imaginary worlds, homes and friendship. It's also about walls: drawing on walls, putting up boundaries, and pulling down the walls inside your mind and heart.

Artwork by my brother Tony Pickering: http://www.pick-art.co.uk/

The BPA Fund has a survey that I’d really appreciate you filling in if you have a few moments. You can find it here: http://podcastviews.com

For some extra incentive if you fill it in you can be entered into a draw for a £50 Amazon voucher. For the purposes of this survey “Getting Better Acquainted” counts as "Down to a sunless sea" whether you are listening to it via the GBA feed or not.

Down to a sunless sea: memories of my dad

Down to a sunless sea: Episode 10: Friendship Part 2

General content note for the series: death, dementia, old age, mental health issues

Extra content note: PTSD, dependency/addiction, rape (touched on lightly, no descriptions)

In the fifth full episode of the podcast using content funded by the British Podcast Awards and the Wellcome Trust I talk to psychologist and epidemiologist Dr Suzi Gage from the podcast Say Why to Drugs about researching recreational drug use and mental health.

Say Why to Drugs with Dr Suzi Gage: https://podcasts.apple.com/il/podcast/say-why-to-drugs/id1114492774

Say Why to Drugs by Dr Suzi Gage: https://www.hachette.co.uk/contributor/suzi-gage/

Artwork by my brother Tony Pickering: http://www.pick-art.co.uk/

The BPA Fund has a survey that I’d really appreciate you filling in if you have a few moments. You can find it here: http://podcastviews.com

For some extra incentive if you fill it in you can be entered into a draw for a £50 Amazon voucher. For the purposes of this survey “Getting Better Acquainted” counts as "Down to a sunless sea" whether you are listening to it via the GBA feed or not.

Down to a sunless sea: Episode 11 - Drink Sangria in the park

General content note for the series: death, dementia, old age, mental health issues

Additional content note: war, medical operations, suicidal ideation

I’m still pretty terrified of my dad stopping existing. He has been such a part of my life that it feels like a world without him in it is impossible. But ever since I was a child, I have been imagining that world. I’ve played out his death so many times. I’ve written it into fiction and songs. I’ve spent hours in my mind going through how it will be. What I might think and do. How it will affect me. How it will affect my family. And I’ve always thought it would probably happen soon. But it never has.

This episode is about confronting death and confronting love. It includes the story of my dad's war and of his heart attack and quadruple heart bypass.

Artwork by my brother Tony Pickering: http://www.pick-art.co.uk/

The BPA Fund has a survey that I’d really appreciate you filling in if you have a few moments. You can find it here: http://podcastviews.com

For some extra incentive if you fill it in you can be entered into a draw for a £50 Amazon voucher. For the purposes of this survey “Getting Better Acquainted” counts as "Down to a sunless sea" whether you are listening to it via the GBA feed or not.

Down to a sunless sea: Episode 12:  Hearts Breaking

General content note for the series: death, dementia, old age, mental health issues

Extra content note: operations, medical procedures, assisted dying, euthanasia

In the sixth full episode of the podcast using content funded by the British Podcast Awards and the Wellcome Trust I talk to sociologist Dr Gill Haddow about embodiment, replaceable hearts, everyday cyborgs, humanimals and unhealth. This is an episode about possible futures and how we feel about our bodies.

Gill on twitter: https://twitter.com/gillhaddow

Everyday Cyborgs and Humanimals 2018: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7WilTY5FF5w

Animal, Mechanical and Me: https://animalmechanicalandme.com/

Artwork by my brother Tony Pickering: http://www.pick-art.co.uk/

The BPA Fund has a survey that I’d really appreciate you filling in if you have a few moments. You can find it here: http://podcastviews.com

For some extra incentive if you fill it in you can be entered into a draw for a £50 Amazon voucher. For the purposes of this survey “Getting Better Acquainted” counts as "Down to a sunless sea" whether you are listening to it via the GBA feed or not.

Down to a sunless sea: Episode 13: New answers to old questions

General content note for the series: death, dementia, old age, mental health issues

Additional content note: euthanasia/suicide

I realised that maybe our positions aren’t that different after all. And I wondered if, in the moments that I manage to believe in hope, I seem as inspiring and naïve as he does. It made me wonder if maybe the spark I see in him, that belief in people and ideas, if that isn’t also in me, despite my frequent feeling that it isn’t. If I might communicate that to other people regardless. If the world as humans know it lasts for long enough for me to reach a similar age as my dad, I wonder if I will be someone who frustrates and delights young people with my faith in them, whether I will still accept the possibility of hope and change?

This episode is about belief, hope and progress. It considers technological change, generational change, spiritual change and political change.

Artwork by my brother Tony Pickering: http://www.pick-art.co.uk/

Down to a sunless sea: Episode 14: André Gorz Tweet

General content note for the series: death, dementia, old age, mental health issues

Additional content note: euthanasia/suicide

But no matter what he forgets, it can’t take away the love we have shared, that existed, and will always have existed, even when he has forgotten it; even when he is no longer alive to remember it; even when I have forgotten it; even when I am no longer alive to remember it. It happened. And that has to be enough.

This episode is about movement, memory, change, time, distance, tears, connection, therapy, sadness, love, grief and everything else that can come in waves.

Artwork by my brother Tony Pickering: http://www.pick-art.co.uk/

Down to a sunless sea: Episode 16: Waves

General content note for the series: death, dementia, old age, mental health issues

Extra content note: grief, suicide, terminal illness, abuse, bereavement

In the final full episode of the podcast using content funded by the British Podcast Awards and the Wellcome Trust I talk to counselor and psychotherapist Karen Pollock MBACP about grief and death. This is an episode about ways of thinking (and feeling) about bereavement, therapeutic approaches to change and loss, how the systems and attitudes around and inside us effect the ways we deal with difficult things, and so much more. It is the only episode of the show that doesn't feature my dad's voice but he is very present in the conversation.

Karen on twitter: https://twitter.com/CounsellingKaz

Counselling in Northumberland: https://counsellinginnorthumberland.com/

Non-Binary Lives: An Anthology of Intersecting Identities: https://www.ubcpress.ca/non-binary-lives

The Messiness of Grief: https://counsellinginnorthumberland.com/2020/02/03/the-messiness-of-grief/

Opening the door to difficult conversations: https://counsellinginnorthumberland.com/2018/01/23/opening-the-door-to-difficult-conversations/

Death and second chances: https://counsellinginnorthumberland.com/2016/11/22/death-and-second-chances/

Artwork by my brother Tony Pickering: http://www.pick-art.co.uk/

Down to a sunless sea: Episode 17: The Box And The Jar

General content note for the series: death, dementia, old age, mental health issues

Additional content note: sex, assisted dying, war 

This episode is the last episode of the first (and possibly last) season of this show, and it's about legacy.

I’ve been planning this show for years. The earliest recording I’ve used was recorded by my dad on cassette tape in 1984. This show has covered 96 years of my dad’s life and 38 years of mine. I started recording interviews with my dad in 2011 and began writing essays about our relationship and his journey through old age towards death in 2017.

I’m glad I made this show. That it hasn’t just remained an imagined show. It’s been a tough journey at times, but it’s one I’m so glad I’ve made. Thanks for travelling on it with me.

Artwork by my brother Tony Pickering: http://www.pick-art.co.uk/

Down to a sunless sea: Episode 18: Legacy

A weekly podcast: Join Dave Pickering on his journey to get better acquainted with the people he knows. Part interview show, part oral history project and part autobiography through conversation.

British Podcast Award 2017 winner (bronze in Best Interview category)

GBA was nominated for a 2012 Radio Production Award, aired for 3 seasons on Resonance 104.4 FM and was featured on BBC Radio 4's In Pod We Trust, BBC Radio 5 Live’s Helen and Olly's Required Listening and has been recommended by The Guardian, Time Out and the Financial Times

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