Wow! thrilled to have made Tom Robinson's BBC 6 Music show and Fresh Faves 14.2.22!! This is from my 2nd album The Awakening. Made using loops/samples with love, by Helen Meissner.
How often do we ask ourselves ‘who do we want to be?’ It’s something that gets asked a lot of us when we’re younger isn’t it? But with a twist, everyone wants to know WHAT we want to be.
As an adult, after years of conditioning, we might need to go back to that question, and look behind the masks. It’s difficult because for many we have become the persona we felt society demanded of us. So in a way it’s clean slate time, time to ‘play’ in a way. To really fantasise. And it’s not easy. We’re conditioned to conform and fit into society, seamlessly and obediently.

New roles emerge and old roles change throughout our life. Masks are worn. Pretty much all the time. What’s appropriate in one setting most certainly is not in another. We often learn the hard way. And it’s sometimes toe curlingly embarrassing. And we struggle to forgive ourselves. It’s a real problem. It stops us getting out of the boxes we’ve allowed ourselves to be put in. And gradually saps our energy and joy til we might feel like a 2D version of ourselves.
Am I being too dramatic here? Sorry if this does not resonate. I know it will for a number of people reading. Our fear of doing something which is ‘wrong’ or which makes people think we are a loser, or which makes people talk about us in a way we feel to be disrespectful or unkind is palpable. Which is a million times worse if we find we actually agree with some of it at some level (or would if we’re being honest with ourselves). Being ‘found out’, being called a fraud, a fake... does that strike fear into the heart of you? Make you feel sick? If so we have to go there.  It’s also sometimes called Imposter Syndrome. What if someone realises that I am actually winging it and making it up as I go along? Join the club!
Perhaps we’ve striven to be the child our parents always wanted? The pupil the teachers were proud of? The friend that never let anyone down? The lover who always excited? The star at work? The parent who loved unconditionally and didn’t ‘fuck their children up’? (thanks for that ironic cross to bear, Philip Larkin). And perhaps we’ve not been 100% successful in those quests?
The reality is we cannot please all the people all of the time. And anyway, how people react really does say more about them than about us. We might have inadvertently touched upon one of their red flags, one of their insecurities about themselves and they then overreact to something that really, is NOT a big deal to other people. Ever noticed this?

Well we all have a choice about how we react to someone else’s behaviour towards us. And I have learnt to, in the most part, notice it, assess it and then move on. 
As we can’t guarantee to please others, we might as well please the most important person in your life. You. And as a bonus, if you are comfortable and accepting of yourself, kind and perhaps loving and tolerant(like you would be to a friend?), you will draw people into your life who recognise those qualities. And do yourself a favour. Others, manipulators or narcissists, will be attracted too as they will see that they can have a very nice life with you, thinking you are a pushover. Please always notice your interchanges and exchanges with them. And as soon as something happens which presents a red flag for you, investigate it, discuss it and act on your instinct if you realise this person is not as good for you as they might have appeared early on. People CAN change and you might be the first person to have pointed this unacceptable behaviour out to them. So give them a chance to redeem if that’s what you both want. But just keep an eye out for your own red flags and don’t ignore them. It’s better to be in a good relationship with yourself than a bad relationship with someone else.

So WHO do you wanna be – NOW?

Who Do You Wanna Be

Do Not Steal Our Speakers!

imbetterforit

LDR83juke4

LDchainmaymiray

When Kevin and I started dating he used to pick me up in his car that had a big dent in the side where he'd driven it into his parents garden wall 🙂 This song is called Green Toyota and it comes out October 7th.

Green Toyota

Erik

Angel At My Window

2022-12-28

Close Encounters

In the midst of harmony

'Helpless' from Honest Men's sophomore album 'Field of Vision', out now: https://distrokid.com/hyperfollow/honestmen/field-of-vision-2

Written and produced by Honest Men.

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Lyrics:
Oh can't you see it
The smoke of a cigarette
In your teenage mouth
At your parent's house
I wanna believe it
The lies that I thought I'd live
When I didn't care
What the pastor said

We were wrong
Wrong
Wrong
Wrong
We were wrong
Wrong
Wrong
Wrong

Sneak out the window
And into your sister's car
With the lights down low
We can see the ghosts of the
Past behind us and a
Timid future on its way
We're still okay

But we were wrong
Wrong
Wrong
Wrong

Helpless
We were
Helpless
We were
Gone beyond repair
We were
Helpless
We were
Helpless
We were
Young and unaware

But we were wrong
Wrong
Wrong
Wrong
We were wrong
Wrong
Wrong
Wrong

Helpless
We were
Helpless
We were
Gone beyond repair
We were
Helpless
We were
Helpless
We were
Young and unaware

Field of Vision

Helpless

'Pullstring Jacket' from Honest Men's sophomore album 'Field of Vision', out now: https://distrokid.com/hyperfollow/honestmen/field-of-vision-2

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Lyrics:
Tell me it straight
I'll pretend to compromise
Coughing up blood
Rub my tear-stained blurry eyes
Ooo you say you're never too fond
Of the way I hold it all inside
That's why
You've got your pullstring jacket on

I don't mind
I'm holding out for brighter skies
Where you and I
Our thoughts begin to harmonize
You gave me
One too many reasons why I came back
Two too many reason why I retract
I don't mind
I am waiting on the other side

Serve it on the rocks
When we feel some kind of peace
Cursing in the house
And it brings you to your knees
Ooo you say it's taking some time
To pretend you're doing fine today
That's why
I gotta take a holiday

I don't mind
I'm holding out for brighter skies
Where you and I
Our thoughts begin to harmonize
You gave me
One too many reasons why I came back
Two too many reason why I retract
I don't mind
I am waiting on the other side

Giving my time
In a month-long summer daze
You're on the top of my mind
And I hope that feeling stays
Ooo I'm scared I'll never be enough
And we're falling out of love today
That's why
I've got my pullstring jacket on

Oh I don't mind
I'm holding out for brighter skies
Where you and I
Our thoughts begin to harmonize
You gave me
One too many reasons why I came back
Two too many reason why I retract
I don't mind
I am waiting on the other side

Oh I'll be fine
We'll get better if we give it time

Pullstring Jacket

Honest Men

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