Valari Jackson is a speaker, life coach, business strategy advisor, and the founder of&nbsp;, a company that provides professional coaching to business owners as well as individuals who are looking to take control of their life and move forward from where they are. Valari is also a Myers-Briggs Certified Practitioner, and she works with large organizations in improving communication, collaboration, and understanding. She says she works best during one-on-one coaching sessions as she digs deep into her client’s persona and provides individualized ways to help them. Valari joins me today to share how she found her passion for helping others get the best version of themselves. She discusses what her career was like before she became a life coach and the moment that made her pursue this type of career. Valari also explains the difference between self-esteem and self-worth and why setbacks and procrastination are part of the growth process. “Procrastination is merely the pursuit of perfection. Once we let go of that, we can move forward.” - Valari Jackson Today on Mastering Midlife:  What she has to offer her customers and audience. Why it's important to know what you're pretending not to know. Defining the difference between self-esteem and self-value. My self-reflection regarding what society told me as a child. What the last four years of Valari's life looked like. How a bracelet helped change her mindset to what it is today. Helping clients switch from beating themselves up to knowing their value. Viewing setbacks as opportunities to correct your path.  Valari Jackson’s Words of Wisdom:  People show up in your life to support and confirm that you're on the right track. Don’t be afraid to make a mistake. Just move, and life will take care of the rest.  Resources Mentioned:  Book:&nbsp;  Connect with Valari Jackson:    Phone: (202) 920-7299  Get FREE Access to the Only 10’s Course Are you struggling with knowing what, when, and how to focus your efforts to get things done? As a long-time sufferer of severe ADD, I understand the struggle - and that’s why I created the Only 10’s system. This system has helped me and thousands of others clear the clutter and focus their energy on&nbsp;getting the right things done. The&nbsp;&nbsp;is based on my proven system to help you focus your attention and maintain momentum around your day-to-day life. Sign up for the&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;today! Mastering Midlife...Together! Thanks for tuning into today’s episode of the Mastering Midlife Podcast: How to Thrive When the World Asks the Most of You with Mark Silverman. If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe to the show on&nbsp;&nbsp;and leave us a review. Be sure to&nbsp;&nbsp;and connect with us on&nbsp;,&nbsp;,&nbsp;, and&nbsp;&nbsp;and don’t forget to share your favorite episodes on social media.

The Difference Between Self Esteem and Self Worth and Other Wisdom From Valari Jackson

This episode is worth listening to just to hear Mark’s beautiful answer to my final question, and his humility and wisdom offers gems for all coaches throughout. You’ll not hear a more open and honest interview with any coach.

The extended BIO we talk about in this episode can be found here: http://bernhardtwealth.com/Profiles/SilvermanMark.pdf

Here’s a little more about Mark:
I believe that every human being has the ability to be successful, happy and fulfilled. That becoming more of who you are (instead of what you think you need to be) will get you further in business, in your relationship and in life. It may or may not involve a change in career, but it definitely requires and deserves exploration.

Over a 17-year career at fast-moving, fast-growing companies like NetApp, VMware and EMC, I generated over $90 million in sales and received numerous awards. I’ve led executive teams, management and front-line stakeholders to complete many successful projects and to close multi-million dollar deals. My career in the high tech Industry as a Sales Executive brought challenges, adventures and an incredible lifestyle. I was fortunate enough to travel the world, eat in amazing restaurants, live in a big house and drive the coolest cars.

Raising two incredible boys as an involved father, a deepening spiritual center and dealing with devastating health challenges, I started to see things differently. I noticed that life in the 1% had a cost. For most, though we looked good on Facebook, and were distracted by toys and vacations, and would never admit it, that cost crept up on us until it was too late.

This observation brought me to the realization that the drives and motivations of our early career are often unsustainable over time. Our skill sets, strategies and even our energy sources need to mature if we’re going to continue to move up and still thrive. Our relationships, our health and the satisfaction of our success rely on our ability to evolve.

The good news is we can. We can have even greater success that is sustainable and integrated with our values. It isn’t easy; otherwise everyone would be making these choices. And, if we are deliberate and intentional, our time and energy will be focused on the things that really fulfill us.

Today I work with Executives and Entrepreneurs to do success differently though one on one coaching, workshops and incredible travel adventures.

I am dedicated to you having an extraordinary business, extraordinary relationships and an extraordinary life.
https://markjsilverman.com/

The Coaching Life Podcast

032 Mark J Silverman

Welcome to the Mastering Midlife Podcast

Welcome to the Mastering Midlife Podcast where we explore life at it’s most stressful and most productive.&nbsp; We will be featuring conversations with experts in the field of Mental Health, Executive Leadership, Business, Health, Exercise, Nutrition, Sex, and Relationship.&nbsp; Midlife is a powerful time, and together we will learn to “thrive when the world asks the most of us.” &nbsp; Contact Mark: MarkJSilverman.com

Helen brings her years of experience managing a billion-dollar business, raising a family and juggling the responsibility that comes with having it all.&nbsp; Our conversation explores the unique journey being a woman climbing the corporate ladder, the constant pull of being a working mother and how to win this marathon (hint, don’t sprint it). &nbsp;Helen Appleby is an Executive Coach and the author of “The Unwritten Rules of Women’s Leadership,” book and workshop series.&nbsp; Prior to being an executive coach, she was a VP and Global business leader for GlaxoSmithKline where she led the $1bn Respiratory Health business in Consumer Healthcare and the Rx to OTC switch of Flonase Allergy Relief. Her career has spanned 6 countries and I have lived and worked in Canada, UK, Cyprus, Dubai, Malaysia, and the USA.  Helen has been married for 25 years and I’m the mum to two gorgeous children who continue to be gorgeous&nbsp;even though they’re teenagers. I’m an excellent shopper, an average yogi, and a terrible cook. &nbsp; Helen can be found at Powerful Growth Group &nbsp;

Global Executive, Wife, Mother, Daughter. Managing the Landmines with Helen Appleby

We all get it confused.&nbsp; We are searching for our reason for being here.&nbsp; I believe it is easier if we understand the difference between understanding “purpose” for being here, and creating our “mission”, while we are here. &nbsp; Contact Mark: MarkJSilverman.com

Mission vs Purpose with Mark Silverman

You can have great sex in midlife (and beyond), but first, you need to know some things.&nbsp; Monica takes us on a journey to knowing ourselves, the changes in our bodies and in our needs so we can learn to enjoy “this most passionate and powerful time in our lives.”&nbsp; If you want to bring intimacy and sensuality into your life and your relationship, I promise this two-part conversation will deliver. &nbsp; Monica is the Author of “Play Wild Stay Save – The Guide To Giving And Receiving.”&nbsp; She has dedicated her life to inspiring people to “come alive,” as she calls it. Through her workshops, spoken word performances, speaking engagements, and personal coaching, she has affected and inspired thousands to break the chains of the mundane and live life to the fullest. Monica can be found at Monica Day

Sex, Intimacy, Relationship in your 40s and 50s with Monica Day Part 2

Going Back to the Empty Well with Mark Silverman

Lets Talk About Your Posse'  You Gotta Have One

A special, country-fried cover of Survivor’s classic “Eye Of The Tiger” I produced for FOX’s hit show 9-1-1 Lonestar. Special thanks to Adam Boomer for his sizzling guitars and to Greg Sirota for giving me the call! 

Watch 9-1-1 Lonestar Monday nights on FOX:
https://youtu.be/5BQkQtSR0tA

Check our Adam’s album here: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/adam-boomer/1496271115

9-1-1 Lonestar: Eye Of The Tiger

Expert in Leadership Resilience | Author | Speaker | Podcaster | Dad

The Difference Between Self Esteem and Self Worth and Other Wisdom From Valari Jackson

Mark J. Silverman