UnADULTING December

Day 1 "Dropping the Labels"  #UNADULTING 
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Today is the first of my new series, "Un-Adulting December." This month I am working on being more present, having more fun, being more in alignment, and doing less existing and more living. 

Adulting by your definition might not be a bad thing, but adulting by my definition is doing all the things "everyone" has collectively agreed is what makes you an adult. Does this mean I'm going to stop feeding my child or begin feeding her sweets all day? No. Does this mean that I'm going to start driving with my feet? No. But what it might mean is that when I feel like rushing to the store to grab something in the middle of the night, I'll ignore that voice that says, "You can't wear your ducky slippers to Walgreens." lol I may let it be okay to skip through the parking lot if I get the urge, rather than walk like a sensible adult. I may buy myself a game system for Christmas instead of an upgrade of Turbo Tax. And I'm releasing the rules of how I need to do things because according to the label I placed on myself (i.e. "introverted), or that others placed on me (i.e. "shy"). I can have a tendency to be introverted and still choose to introduce myself first to someone. I can be a "good mom" and get my daughter McDonald's for dinner because I don't feel like cooking, today. I can be happily single and still choose to go out on a date because companionship is fun, too. 

I'm giving myself permission to be more me this month. And I'm sharing my journey. I'd love for you to join me. 

Check out my daily podcast Share & Let's Live! with Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist. And each day I'll tell you all about it. 

Blessings! 

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 1 "Dropping the Labels"  #UNADULTING w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 2 "The Progress Cha Cha" #UNADULTING 
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If you are a driven person who tends to succeed, you may find yourself frustrated/confused by people in your life who have ability and potential, but little success. You may wonder why they can't just get it together, or do what you've done to win. 

My podcast today addresses this concept. I think it will be eye-opening for you and for those like me who just can't seem to get it together. 

Check it out, or pass it along. It's a REALLY good one.

Day 2 "The Progress Cha Cha"  #UNADULTING w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 3 "Selfcare: Saying 'Yes' to Yourself"  #UNADULTING
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If you're a mom, this one's for you. As women, especially mothers, we are taught to sacrifice ourselves down to nothing for the sake of the family. The more we sacrifice the more we're praised. Well... eff that. lol Too many of us run ourselves down until illness is our only opportunity for rest. 

Today's podcast is all about #self-care, and accepting that we get to say, "Yes," to ourselves more, and releasing old beliefs that say we don't get to do so. 

Check it out.

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 3 "Selfcare: Saying 'Yes' to Yourself"  #UNADULTING w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 4 "About Taking Things Personally" #UNADULTING Series
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Today, I'm adressing one of biggest communication issues in relationships..... taking things personally. 

This topic can apply to any interpersonal (or intimate) relationship. AND in the podcast episode, I spend extra time addressing the dynamic I've noticed particularly in heterosexual relationships where there are kids involved. 

Whether you are in an intimate relationship or not, if you have a tendency toward:
✅ Overthinking
✅ People pleasing
✅ Self-blame
✅ Resentment
✅ Criticism.... 

OR if in your relationship you feel you are being unjustly:
✅ Blamed
✅ Criticized
✅ Questioned.... 

.... you've gotta check out today's #podcast episode of Share and Let's Live! with Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist! 

Blessings!



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Day 4 "About Taking Things Personally"  #UNADULTING w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 5 "B*tch, I'm Grown" #UNADULTING #Podcast Series
Share & Let's Live! w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

If you're heading home for the holidays, this one may speak to you. If you have a tendency to not assert yourself, or back down from standing in your truth, when it comes to your parents or immediate family, you should check this one out.

Last night, I had a major shift in my awareness. Certain established family dynamics can cause us to feel uncomfortable being fully ourselves. And I share my stories on the podcast today about coming into my own acceptance that there's a point where relationships have to change... and often that change comes from within. 

Blessings! Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 5 "B*tch, I'm Grown" #UNADULTING w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 12 "This Time I'm Not Getting Involved"  #UNADULTING w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

For some of us, every time we get our ducks in a row, a loved one has an emergency. Every time we choose to focus on ourselves, we're pulled to focus on someone else. Well, today, I said, "Eff that." I'm over it. That cycle sucks. I'm tired of putting myself last. 

Whether it's an aging parent that refuses to follow their doctors orders, a spouse who behaves irresponsibly, or a child that keeps getting in trouble..... If you can relate, check out today's podcast episode, "This Time I'm Not Getting Involved." 

We keep putting our lives on hold every time they create a new fire. And it's unfair to us. 

We're not just here to be supporting characters in other people's stories. We have our own story to write. At some point we just have to let people deal with the problems they create so we can live our lives.

This is a raw episode. Listen with headphones or at least not around your kids or the elders. lol But do check it out.

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 12 "This Time I'm Not Getting Involved"  #UNADULTING w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 22 "Blame Can Be Useful" #IMAYBE Share & Let's Live! #Podcast Series w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

In our society, it's often viewed as irresponsible, petty, and immature to place blame outside of ourselves. Today, I acknowledged that blame is an important step toward inner healing. 

A lot of people feel it's necessary to have a conversation with a person who has wronged them and hear the individual admit to, and apology for, their wrongs. I personally don't feel this is necessary (although it can be helpful and affirming). 

When I say that blame can be an important step, I mean that acknowledging where the problem started is important. Telling the person who did it that they are wrong and blah blah blah is not as important. We don't have to ever tell them AND I believe it's necessary that we tell ourselves. 

Far too often those who have been hurt continue to hurt themselves by placing the blame on their own shoulders. "If I had been smarter...." "If I wasn't at that place at that time...." "If I had just listened more and followed directions, they wouldn't have...." We have an endless flow of what ifs that place the blame on us, when in many situations, those details do not change the fact that someone did something toward us that they shouldn't have. 

People who have been victimized, abused, or otherwise mistreated, tend to be self-critical. On today's episode of Share and Let's Live! I talk about how this practice hinders healing. 

If someone threw me in a pit and is now looking down on me telling me I'm a loser for being in a pit, I shouldn't be joining in with them thinking, "They're right. Look at me in this pit. I'm a loser." That doesn't even make sense. But an adult that struggles with insecurities due to what they don't have, or have yet to become, will wallow in that state feeling bad about themselves without ever thinking, "I wonder where my self-esteem issues started." 

If they took the time to ponder this, they may come to realize that the reason they aren't ahead of the game is because they had an extremely critical and verbally abusive adult in their home environment that tore down their confidence. That same critical adult still criticizes them to this day. So the same person who caused their issues, is looking down on them complaining about their issues. 

It's in acknowledging the absurdity of this—and in naming the real cause—that they are able to truly begin to move forward. It's really hard to pull yourself up when you're weighed down by self-criticism and #blame.

Check out today's podcast. Blessings! Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 22 "Blame Can Be Useful" #IMAYBE Share & Let's Live! #Podcast

"You can have the hard way. I'm choosing the easy route." — Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 24 "I Am Choosing the Easy Route" #IMAYBE Share & Let's Live! #Podcast Series w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Unpopular belief: hard work is overrated and tapping into guidance is not cheating. Some of us refuse to use the tools, practices, and spiritual "gifts" we have, because we feel like if we didn't work hard for it, we have an unfair advantage.... 

Well, I'm tired of struggling, when I know better. I know that I can sit down for 15 minutes and meditate and have the most beautifully aligned, showed up at 100% in all the roles in my life, not even tired when evening hits... type of day. I've done it so many times! But instead of doing that consistently, I spend every day worried about everything under the sun, rather than just go internal for a minute and get clear on my next steps.

Why do I do that? Because our society teaches us that if you didn't work hard for it, you're cheating the system. If you you get help, that's unfair to those who are on their grind. We're taught that "nothing good comes easy." "No pain, no gain." It's only of value if it comes through "blood, sweat, and tears." 

Dafuq? 

Yeah, no. I'm over that. I've struggled enough. I've fought enough. I've tried the hard way long enough.... 

Maybe sitting still to get clarity is annoying because I am trained to "get up and go." However, I know that sitting still for those 15 minutes, can give me everything I need to have THE MOST productive, successful, fun, amazing day! I can proudly grab my "cheat sheet" at the start of my day and get so much more accomplished than I would "hitting the ground running." 

I'm over being in angst, frustrated, and just getting an eighth of my tasks done.... only being great at one or two of my roles in any given day. 

I want to enjoy my life. I want to have more successes. I want to feel aligned throughout my day. I'm over trying to keep up with what society says, and what this business coach says, and what that influencer says. I'm going to make a commitment to getting MY personalized instructions for my day, and to check back in throughout the day. I'm done going it alone. It's too uphill and exhausting. I'm prioritizing connecting with my inner knowing and so I can move forward with ease. 

I'm done struggling for the good life. That finish line keeps gettin farther away. I'm gonna let it flow in with ease by following higher guidance. 

I'm going to meditate and seek higher guidance. I don't care, if that's "not the way it's done." That sh*t works! Every. Single. Time. 


Blessings!

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 24 "I Am Choosing the Easy Route" #IMAYBE Share & Let's Live! #Podcast

Day 25 "Hangriness & the Law of Attraction" #IMAYBE Share & Let's Live! #Podcast Series w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

As you can tell by the title, I had a little run in with being hangry today and got to experience how fun the Law of Attraction can be under those circumstances. 

This is a hilarious episode of Share & Let's Live! AND I managed to find a deeper meaning in this hilarious experience. I literally can find a message in anything. And I did. I think you'll gain from it. Check it out. 

Blessings!

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 25 "Hangriness & the Law of Attraction" #IMAYBE Share & Let's Live! #Podcast

Day 26 "Taking Care of Me" #IMAYBE Share & Let's Live! #Podcast Series w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

“One of the greatest acts of love is to prioritize our health over our work. Today, I’m taking care of my body. Work can wait.”
—  Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 26 "Taking Care of Me" #IMAYBE Share & Let's Live! #Podcast

Day 27 "Right Now I'm Good" #IMAYBE Share & Let's Live! #Podcast Series w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

When I stay in today, I can see how much I have to be grateful for. When I try to figure out how things will work down the road, I'm anxious, because I don't have the answers. 

Today, I realized that the best thing I can do for myself is to try my best to remain focused on what matters right now in this moment. I used to feel that "serving two masters" was about religious choices. However today, I got to see another way of viewing it. 

As I stressed myself out earlier trying to address tomorrow's problems with today's resources, I saw that I was attempting something impossible. Today, I got a new outlook... as I was serving two masters by attempting to be in two places at once. 

I was living in today, with the resources needed for today. And rather than be grateful that I had what I needed for today, I was stressed out trying to figure how to get today's resources to solve next month's problems. When I let that go, and accepted that next month will take care of itself, I realized I had so much to be grateful for. I had more than enough for today's needs. 

Today was an eye-opening episode. To hear the full story and the lessons I gained, check out today's podcast! 

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Day 27 "Right Now I'm Good" #IMAYBE Share & Let's Live! #Podcast

Day 28 "Our Thoughts and Moodiness" #IMAYBE Share & Let's Live! #Podcast Series w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

So a few days ago, I shared a post about an anti bucket list... to make a list of things we need to stop doing. Well, this morning, I woke up and listened to this Abraham-Hicks recording I felt guided to check out. From that I decided that in order for me to get better at being happy and remaining that way, it will be helpful to develop a list of things I do that make me stop being happy. 

Oddly, I got to see one right out the gate. It's a funny thing that happens when we decide to become aware of our tendencies that don't serve us. We get answers and sometimes quicker than we anticipate.  

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Blessings!

Day 28 "Our Thoughts and Moodiness" #IMAYBE Share & Let's Live! #Podcast

Day 29 "4 Components of a Healthy Relationship" #IMAYBE Share & Let's Live! #Podcast Series w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

So this podcast episode is so good and so deep and so informative that I'm not doing a long description. If this meme resonates with you, or leaves you with questions, check out today's podcast.

Blessings!

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 29 "4 Components of a Healthy Relationship" #IMAYBE Share & Let's Live! #Podcast

Day 30 "I Am the ONE" #IMAYBE Share & Let's Live! #Podcast Series w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

When you've spent most of your existence trying to fit in... and failing at it... Then you have a moment of awakening in therapy and in conversations with a friend and in your quiet time with yourself and Source... ALL IN THE SAME WEEK.... 

I just went from wanting to be one of y'all to recognizing I AM THE ONE. I don't need to fit. I don't need approval. I don't need to make myself small. I don't need to hide. I don't need to act less qualified. I don't need to worry about your opinion. I don't need to feel you know more than my inner knowing....

I've got a purpose. I've got things to share. I've got work to do. And I'm acknowledging that I'm the one to do it. 

Next month's podcast series is called..... (drumroll please)... #IAMTHE1 (I Am the One!). I'm super excited about. Today's podcast is all about it and the journey to here. 

Special thank you to my friend Flower for the words she spoke into me this week that helped me bridge a gap and find my place. Choosing who you associate with matters. 

Anyway, check out today's podcast. It's empowering and I think you may get something for yourself from my story of my journey. Love ya! Blessings! Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 30 "I Am the ONE" #IMAYBE Share & Let's Live! #Podcast

Day 31 "Is the Past in the Way" #IMAYBE Share & Let's Live! #Podcast Series w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

“Sometimes we struggle to move forward because  pain in our past is impeding progress in the present.” —  Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 31 "Is the Past in the Way" #IMAYBE Share & Let's Live! #Podcast

Day 2 "When They've Changed & You're Still Healing" #IAMtheONE Share & Let's Live! #Podcast Series w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

A painful thing that I don't hear people talk about is how hard it can be when we're still healing from the impact of someone's hurtful words and behavior and they suddenly put the past behind them and become a "good" person.

Even though their transformation is a great thing, and possibly something we've longed for. We, the ones who were harmed, are still in therapy, meeting with support groups, fighting off addictions, dealing with self-loathing, attracting unhealthy relationships and so on.... possibly decades later. And they get to just decide one day, "Hmmm... I think it's time for me to be a better person," and poof, their work is done.

Today, on the podcast, I talked about navigating the unfairness of this. I let it be okay that we feel as we feel. And I offered some alternate perspectives to consider. 

If you can relate to this, I hope it brings you comfort. If you are on the other side of this, I hope it will help you to empathize with those you've hurt. And I commend you for healing.

Blessings, 

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 2 "When They've Changed & You're Still Healing" #IAMtheONE Share & Let's Live! #Podcast

Marlene Dillon is a multi-talented single mom who's passionate about empowerment. Through her gifts of storytelling, songwriting, and her intuitive gifts, she shares insights on how to navigate life with more purpose. This podcast is called Share & Let's Live! because she believes that we all have gifts, passions, and interests that we came here to share. And as we release our reasons, beliefs, and hesitations, and begin to share them, we all get to expand. We are happier and we make our world a more beautiful place. So check out the podcast. Like, comment, and share. Oh, and a special thanks to Anno Domini Beats for the awesome track "Like That" which has become the signature sound for this podcast. Bless you for offering your music to creators like me. You're a blessing! 
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