UnADULTING December

Day 1 "Dropping the Labels"  #UNADULTING 
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Today is the first of my new series, "Un-Adulting December." This month I am working on being more present, having more fun, being more in alignment, and doing less existing and more living. 

Adulting by your definition might not be a bad thing, but adulting by my definition is doing all the things "everyone" has collectively agreed is what makes you an adult. Does this mean I'm going to stop feeding my child or begin feeding her sweets all day? No. Does this mean that I'm going to start driving with my feet? No. But what it might mean is that when I feel like rushing to the store to grab something in the middle of the night, I'll ignore that voice that says, "You can't wear your ducky slippers to Walgreens." lol I may let it be okay to skip through the parking lot if I get the urge, rather than walk like a sensible adult. I may buy myself a game system for Christmas instead of an upgrade of Turbo Tax. And I'm releasing the rules of how I need to do things because according to the label I placed on myself (i.e. "introverted), or that others placed on me (i.e. "shy"). I can have a tendency to be introverted and still choose to introduce myself first to someone. I can be a "good mom" and get my daughter McDonald's for dinner because I don't feel like cooking, today. I can be happily single and still choose to go out on a date because companionship is fun, too. 

I'm giving myself permission to be more me this month. And I'm sharing my journey. I'd love for you to join me. 

Check out my daily podcast Share & Let's Live! with Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist. And each day I'll tell you all about it. 

Blessings! 

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 1 "Dropping the Labels"  #UNADULTING w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 2 "The Progress Cha Cha" #UNADULTING 
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If you are a driven person who tends to succeed, you may find yourself frustrated/confused by people in your life who have ability and potential, but little success. You may wonder why they can't just get it together, or do what you've done to win. 

My podcast today addresses this concept. I think it will be eye-opening for you and for those like me who just can't seem to get it together. 

Check it out, or pass it along. It's a REALLY good one.

Day 2 "The Progress Cha Cha"  #UNADULTING w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 3 "Selfcare: Saying 'Yes' to Yourself"  #UNADULTING
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If you're a mom, this one's for you. As women, especially mothers, we are taught to sacrifice ourselves down to nothing for the sake of the family. The more we sacrifice the more we're praised. Well... eff that. lol Too many of us run ourselves down until illness is our only opportunity for rest. 

Today's podcast is all about #self-care, and accepting that we get to say, "Yes," to ourselves more, and releasing old beliefs that say we don't get to do so. 

Check it out.

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 3 "Selfcare: Saying 'Yes' to Yourself"  #UNADULTING w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 4 "About Taking Things Personally" #UNADULTING Series
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Today, I'm adressing one of biggest communication issues in relationships..... taking things personally. 

This topic can apply to any interpersonal (or intimate) relationship. AND in the podcast episode, I spend extra time addressing the dynamic I've noticed particularly in heterosexual relationships where there are kids involved. 

Whether you are in an intimate relationship or not, if you have a tendency toward:
✅ Overthinking
✅ People pleasing
✅ Self-blame
✅ Resentment
✅ Criticism.... 

OR if in your relationship you feel you are being unjustly:
✅ Blamed
✅ Criticized
✅ Questioned.... 

.... you've gotta check out today's #podcast episode of Share and Let's Live! with Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist! 

Blessings!



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Day 4 "About Taking Things Personally"  #UNADULTING w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 5 "B*tch, I'm Grown" #UNADULTING #Podcast Series
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If you're heading home for the holidays, this one may speak to you. If you have a tendency to not assert yourself, or back down from standing in your truth, when it comes to your parents or immediate family, you should check this one out.

Last night, I had a major shift in my awareness. Certain established family dynamics can cause us to feel uncomfortable being fully ourselves. And I share my stories on the podcast today about coming into my own acceptance that there's a point where relationships have to change... and often that change comes from within. 

Blessings! Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 5 "B*tch, I'm Grown" #UNADULTING w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 6 "Unlearning My Worth" #UNADULTING Podcast Series
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Today, I came to a conclusion about my worthiness. I realized that I have been evaluating my value and worth by someone else's criteria. I realized that I need to sit down and acknowledge my own beliefs regarding worth, value, deserving, etc. and truly look at myself through the MY perspective. I have a feeling that when I do that, I will see that I was worthy all along. 

Some things require work. Some beliefs don't just move because someone else tells you what you should/shouldn't believe. That's how it got planted, but it's been growing a long time. It's a lot easier to remove a tree when it's a sapling, than when it's 40 years old. So I'm gonna do the work and get these roots out. 

On today's podcast, I share with you a new tool I'm using for uprooting deep beliefs that were planted by other people. Check it out. 

Blessings!

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 6 "Unlearning My Worth"  #UNADULTING w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 7 "There's a Purpose In It" #UNADULTING Podcast Series
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I won't call this "tough love," but I'll call it MY tough truth. You can disagree with it, but it helped (and helps) me process through life's tough stuff. I have seen it proven over and over again and I choose to make it true. 

If you've gone through some tough stuff that has left you so confused, or even asking if you're cursed (as I have), this may be empowering for you. I'm not gonna promise it will be, because a lot of people disagree with my stance on this. But I believe if you hear me out, you'll see where I'm coming from.

If life for you has been uphill, if you're fresh out of a storm, or possibly still one, I believe this can help you gain perspective. Check it out. 

Blessings! 

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 7 "There's a Purpose In It" #UNADULTING w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 8 "Eat the Meat Spit Out the Bones" #UNADULTING
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It's so common to look back on past relationships and only see the bad, but weren't there some good memories? Today, I talk about how I've decided that I no longer feel the need to trash all aspects of what was because something ending badly. I am choosing to allow myself to remember those moments and enjoy those memories without the cloud of ugh that tries to creep in. 

I'll share a few intimate stories and beautiful memories with you that I choose to cherish. Ready to listen? Press play.

Blessings! 

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 8 "Eat the Meat Spit Out the Bones"  #UNADULTING w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 9 "The Gift of Receiving"  #UNADULTING
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Today on the #podcast I talk about learning to receive. It's a journey for me and taking the fun risk to post a public Christmas List is definitely helping me notice what's hard and what needs to be healed. 

I'm sooo grateful for all of you who have sent me gifts! I can tell you how giddy I am as receive each one.... Just so you know, I have it set up to be a surprise so I don't know what's been purchased until I receive it at the door and there's no note inside to tell me where it came from... which makes it really fun and a full on surprise. At the end of this, I will go into Amazon and read the messages to know who sent what so I can thank you all. For now, though, I will just periodically post my excitement that I received another gift. Each one makes me feel happy like it's the first. 

Thank you so much!!!! If you're curious what I'm talking about, you can visit my website's support page to see my Christmas List post. I explain it all there. mdillondesigns.com/support (It will be up through the Christmas season.)

Blessings! 

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 9 "The Gift of Receiving"  #UNADULTING w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 10 "Mental Snapshots Are Keys" #UNADULTING
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We often don't realize it but the memories that flash in our minds are often hints at what we: need to heal, need to investigate, need to heal, and need to feel again. The moments from our past are keys to open doors to our possibilities, to understand why we are as we are, and even to process past pain that is affecting us in our current lives. 

I talk about this on the podcast today, and share some great stories about how I came to be Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist. Check it out.

Day 10 "Mental Snapshots Are Keys" #UNADULTING w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 11 "Angel Numbers & Positive Thinking" #UNADULTING
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Day 11 "Angel Numbers & Positive Thinking"  #UNADULTING w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 12 "This Time I'm Not Getting Involved"  #UNADULTING w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

For some of us, every time we get our ducks in a row, a loved one has an emergency. Every time we choose to focus on ourselves, we're pulled to focus on someone else. Well, today, I said, "Eff that." I'm over it. That cycle sucks. I'm tired of putting myself last. 

Whether it's an aging parent that refuses to follow their doctors orders, a spouse who behaves irresponsibly, or a child that keeps getting in trouble..... If you can relate, check out today's podcast episode, "This Time I'm Not Getting Involved." 

We keep putting our lives on hold every time they create a new fire. And it's unfair to us. 

We're not just here to be supporting characters in other people's stories. We have our own story to write. At some point we just have to let people deal with the problems they create so we can live our lives.

This is a raw episode. Listen with headphones or at least not around your kids or the elders. lol But do check it out.

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 12 "This Time I'm Not Getting Involved"  #UNADULTING w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 13 "My Teen Won't Clean!"|"Yes or No" #UNADULTING Podcast Series
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On today's episode, was a continuation of yesterday. Sometimes we need to exercise our, "No." And then there are times when the right answer is, "Yes." I talk about how we know the difference. And then I address something that so many parents complain about—the state of their teen's/tween's room. I offer a bit of an alternate perspective on what's possibly going on. 

Very much worth listening to the entire episode. 

Blessings!

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 13 "My Teen Won't Clean!"|"Yes or No" #UNADULTING w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 14 "Caregiving & Self-Care"  #UNADULTING
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Today I found the intersection between doing for others and taking care of myself. That's the best description I can give you. You just gotta listen to this one. 

Blessings!

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist
#caregiver #caregiving #motherhood #selfcare #parenting

Day 14 "Caregiving & Self-Care"  #UNADULTING w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 15 "Can We Talk?" #UNADULTING
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Everybody says, "communication is key," but few actually communicate in healthy and supportive ways. On today's podcast episode, I share some insights on ways to have less conflict in our communication. 

Whether you're: a parent struggling to communicate with your child, in an intimate relationship where communication is challenging, or experiencing conflict with your employees, I am confident that you'll gain something from this. Press play. 

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 15 "Can We Talk?" #UNADULTING w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 16 "Celebrate Yourself Early & Often" #UNADULTING
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Many of us are miserable in our lives because we set the bar for success to far outside our reach. We compare ourselves to others, and rarely acknowledge our own progress. 

On today's episode of Share & Let's Live! I talk about the importance of deciding for ourselves what success means and setting checkpoints along our way to our bigger goals. 

If you've been feeling unsuccessful in your life, you'll gain a lot from this one. 

Blessings!

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 16 "Celebrate Yourself Early & Often"  #UNADULTING w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 17 "I Wish I Said, 'No'"  #UNADULTING 
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When you're a recovering people pleaser, sometimes you may slip up and not hold your boundaries. When we find ourselves in these situations, especially if the consequences are unpleasant, we have an opportunity to remind ourselves why we chose to protect our boundaries. Instead of beating ourselves up, we can use moments like these to help choose better in the future. 

Blessings!

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 17 "I Wish I Said, 'No'"  #UNADULTING w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 18 "I Do Everything Around Here" #UNADULTING
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If you're the "glue" that holds your family together, or if you tend to be working from the second you wake up until you allow yourself to go to bed.... this one's for you. 

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Check out this empowering episode where I share my own story of releasing self-sacrifice.

Blessings!

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 18 "I Do Everything Around Here"  #UNADULTING w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 19 "Treating Myself Better" #UNADULTING #Podcast Series
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Far too often we go out of our way to make everyone else comfortable and happy, but we don't do the same for ourselves. We'll pick the peas out the stir fry, or cut the edges off their sandwich, but when it comes to us the simplest things feel like too much trouble. 

Today, on Share & Let's Live! I talk about what I noticed for myself today regarding my own self-care. And I offer you the challenge to treat yourself better, as I am deciding to do the same. 

Check it out. 



Blessings!

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 19 "Treating Myself Better" #UNADULTING w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 20 "Why Slow Down?" #UNADULTING
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On today's #podcast episode, I shared a poem that wrote this morning. It came to me as intuitive guidance for this "leg" of my personal growth journey. 

If you are the "glue" that holds your family together... 
If you are always running running running...
If you make time for everyone else, but rarely have time for yourself...
.... THIS ONE IS FOR YOU. Check it out. 

Blessings!

Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Day 20 "Why Slow Down?" #UNADULTING w/ Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist

Marlene Dillon is a multi-talented single mom who's passionate about empowerment. Through her gifts of storytelling, songwriting, and her intuitive gifts, she shares insights on how to navigate life with more purpose. This podcast is called Share & Let's Live! because she believes that we all have gifts, passions, and interests that we came here to share. And as we release our reasons, beliefs, and hesitations, and begin to share them, we all get to expand. We are happier and we make our world a more beautiful place. So check out the podcast. Like, comment, and share. Oh, and a special thanks to Anno Domini Beats for the awesome track "Like That" which has become the signature sound for this podcast. Bless you for offering your music to creators like me. You're a blessing! 
BTW, I do cuss on this podcast, so you've been warned. These are my opinions and purely for entertainment and education. I speak freely. Share & Let's Live! with Marlene Dillon Empowerment Specialist's podcast and recordings are covered under the Privacy Policy, Terms, Etc. available on mdillondesigns.com. All rights reserved.