Belonging and Beyond: Caring with Pride; a Husband's Story (part 1)

Welcome to Belonging and Beyond: Exploring Belonging Through How We Live and Die, brought to you by Princess Alice Hospice with your hosts Rach Basak, Head of Community Involvement and Support and Sarah Dowd, Head of Inclusion.
In this series, we’ll have honest conversations about inclusion, belonging, and the barriers created in society for some. Together with guests from all walks of life, we’ll be unpacking big questions like: What does belonging look like? Who gets to belong? And how can we build communities where everyone feels seen and included? We are excited to be here and hope it sparks reflection, connection, and maybe even change.
Today, we're honoured to be joined by Mike Parish, a 2024 Attitude Magazine Pride Award winner. Mike's story is one of love, dedication, and advocacy. After meeting his Husband Tom in 1975 they shared 47 years together. When Tom was diagnosed with progressive supranuclear palsy — a rare and degenerative form of dementia — Mike became his primary carer, navigating both the practical and emotional complexities of caring for the person he loved. Out of this experience, Mike co-founded the LGBTQ+ Dementia Advisory Group in 2022, working to ensure that LGBTQ+ people facing dementia receive the support, dignity, and understanding they deserve.


In Part One, we hear Mike and Tom’s story: their life together as a couple, and their journey through dementia, love, and loss. In Part Two, Mike shares insights from his advocacy work and lived experience, including how we can better support LGBTQ+ people — and those closest to them — when they are unwell or approaching the end of their life. 


If you would like to share your thoughts, views or be part of Belonging and Beyond please do get in touch at sarahdowd@pah.org.uk  and rachaelbasak@pah.org.uk 
Hosted and produced by Rachael Basak and Sarah Dowd
Produced by Sarah Dowd
Edited by Sarah Dowd and Elizabeth Lattimore
Resources:
Ted and Noel Film ⁠https://www.dementiavoices.org.uk/ted-noel-film-fighting-homophobic-abuse-in-care-homes/⁠
Dementia Advisory Group ⁠http://lgbtqdementia.org/webinar-series/⁠
Compassion in Care ⁠https://blogs.kcl.ac.uk/socialcareworkforce/2023/02/20/going-into-the-care-closet/⁠ ⁠Support Services in the Sector | Stonewall⁠



Belonging and Beyond: Caring with Pride; a Husband's Story (Part 2)

Welcome to Belonging and Beyond: Exploring Belonging Through How We Live and Die, brought to you by Princess Alice Hospice with your hosts Rach Basak, Head of Community Involvement and Support and Sarah Dowd, Head of Inclusion.
In this series, we’ll have honest conversations about inclusion, belonging, and the barriers created in society for some. Together with guests from all walks of life, we’ll be unpacking big questions like: What does belonging look like? Who gets to belong? And how can we build communities where everyone feels seen and included?
We are excited to be here and hope it sparks reflection, connection, and maybe even change.
Today, we’re honoured to be joined by Shirley from One Voice 4 Travellers, a passionate advocate for Gypsy, Roma, and Traveller women, girls, and families. Shirley’s story is one of strength, community, and lived experience as a woman from the Romany community. 
In this episode, Shirley guides us through the unique customs and rituals surrounding dying, death, and bereavement within the Traveller community. We’ll hear how these traditions shape experiences of loss, and why understanding and respecting them is so important—especially in healthcare settings, where cultural understanding can make all the difference. 
If you would like to share your thoughts, views or be part of Belonging and Beyond please do get in touch at sarahdowd@pah.org.uk and rachaelbasak@pah.org.uk.
 
Hosted and produced by Rachael Basak and Sarah Dowd
Produced by Sarah Dowd 
Edited by Sarah Dowd and Elizabeth Lattimore


Resources:


One Voice 4 Travellers – One Voice 4 Travellers


Gypsy, Roma and Traveller (GRT) support - Surrey Community Action


Inclusion Health Team (supporting Gypsy, Roma and Traveller, Showmen and Boater, Homeless and Asylum-Seeking families)


Friends, Families and Travellers


National survey exposes racism and discrimination faced by Gypsy, Roma and Traveller people - Friends, Families and Travellers

Beyond Labels - Belonging and Dying in the Traveller Community

Welcome to Belonging and Beyond: Exploring Belonging Through How We Live and Die, brought to you by Princess Alice Hospice with your hosts Rach Basak, Head of Community Involvement and Support and Sarah Dowd, Head of Inclusion.

In this series, we’ll have honest conversations about inclusion, belonging, and the barriers created in society for some. Together with guests from all walks of life, we’ll be unpacking big questions like: What does belonging look like? Who gets to belong? And how can we build communities where everyone feels seen and included?

We are excited to be here and hope it sparks reflection, connection, and maybe even change.
Today, we’re highlighting the experiences of refugees and displaced people, emphasising the vital importance of belonging and the opportunity to contribute to society as part of their journey. 

We are joined by Nurettin, a trustee at Elmbridge CAN — a local charity doing incredible work to support refugees and asylum seekers here in our community. Nurettin has also generously offered to share his own lived experience, helping us understand the challenges and triumphs that come with building a sense of belonging in a new place. 

If you would like to share your thoughts, views or be part of Belonging and Beyond please do get in touch at sarahdowd@pah.org.uk  and rachaelbasak@pah.org.uk 

Hosted and produced by Rachael Basak and Sarah Dowd
Produced by Sarah Dowd 
Edited by Sarah Dowd and Elizabeth Lattimore

Resources:

Elmbridge CAN | positive action for refugees

Home - Refugee Council

Refugee Action Kingston

LTA Padel in Britain | Play, compete & learn What is Padel Tennis?


Belonging and Beyond: Finding Home.

'Together in Song'

Welcome to Belonging and Beyond: Exploring Belonging Through How We Live and Die, brought to you by Princess Alice Hospice with your hosts Rach Basak, Head of Community Involvement and Support and Sarah Dowd, Head of Inclusion.

In this series, we’ll have honest conversations about inclusion, belonging, and the barriers created in society for some. Together with guests from all walks of life, we’ll be unpacking big questions like: What does belonging look like? Who gets to belong? And how can we build communities where everyone feels seen and included?

We are excited to be here and hope it sparks reflection, connection, and maybe even change.
Today, we’re joined by Sarah, the Musical Director of our Hospice Community Choir, a unique group that brings together bereaved family members, carers, patients, staff, volunteers, and people from the local community. In this episode, we’ll talk about how singing in a group can support emotional well-being, build new connections, and help people feel part of something bigger: especially in times of grief or uncertainty. 

If you would like to share your thoughts, views or be part of Belonging and Beyond please do get in touch at sarahdowd@pah.org.uk  and rachaelbasak@pah.org.uk 

Hosted and produced by Rachael Basak and Sarah Dowd

Produced by Sarah Dowd 
Edited by Sarah Dowd and Elizabeth Lattimore

Belonging and Beyond - Together in Song

Welcome to Belonging and Beyond: Exploring Belonging Through How We Live and Die, brought to you by Princess Alice Hospice with your hosts Rach Basak, Head of Community Involvement and Support and Sarah Dowd, Head of Inclusion.

In this series, we’ll have honest conversations about inclusion, belonging, and the barriers created in society for some. Together with guests from all walks of life, we’ll be unpacking big questions like: What does belonging look like? Who gets to belong? And how can we build communities where everyone feels seen and included?

We are excited to be here and hope it sparks reflection, connection, and maybe even change.
Today, we're joined by Michelle Gibbs, a dedicated teacher at Tolworth Schools, who brings over a decade of hands-on experience to the conversation. 

In this episode, Mrs Gibbs shares how knowing each child’s story, creating space for mutual respect, and embedding pastoral care into daily school life can transform the learning environment—and help every child feel seen, heard, and valued. 

If you would like to share your thoughts, views or be part of Belonging and Beyond please do get in touch at sarahdowd@pah.org.uk  and rachaelbasak@pah.org.uk
 
Hosted and produced by Rachael Basak and Sarah Dowd
Produced by Sarah Dowd 
Edited by Sarah Dowd and Elizabeth Lattimore

Resources:

https://www.youngminds.org.uk/media/hvsd11j0/trauma-informed-schools.pdf - Young Minds- Trauma Informed Education

https://educationendowmentfoundation.org.uk/education-evidence/guidance-reports/metacognition


Belonging and Beyond: Belonging Matters

Welcome to Belonging and Beyond: Exploring Belonging Through How We Live and Die, brought to you by Princess Alice Hospice with your hosts Rach Basak, Head of Community Involvement and Support and Sarah Dowd, Head of Inclusion.

In this series, we’ll have honest conversations about inclusion, belonging, and the barriers created in society for some. Together with guests from all walks of life, we’ll be unpacking big questions like: What does belonging look like? Who gets to belong? And how can we build communities where everyone feels seen and included?

We are excited to be here and hope it sparks reflection, connection, and maybe even change.
In this special Black History Month episode, Black Icons and Influence, we’re joined by Earl — a psychotherapist, colleague, and co-facilitator on our microaggressions training here at PAH. Today, we’ll be talking about the impact of Black icons in our world, the everyday reality of microaggressions, and how these stories connect us to wider conversations about identity, belonging and influence. 

If you would like to share your thoughts, views or be part of Belonging and Beyond please do get in touch at sarahdowd@pah.org.uk  and rachaelbasak@pah.org.uk 
Hosted and produced by Rachael Basak and Sarah Dowd
Produced by Sarah Dowd 
Edited by Sarah Dowd and Elizabeth Lattimore

Support
True Vision report-it.org.uk
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Victim Support 0808 168 9111
victimsupport.org.uk
Provides emotional and practical support for people affected by crime and traumatic events.

Belonging and Beyond; Black Icons and Influence

'Belonging in Every Sense'

Welcome to Belonging and Beyond: Exploring Belonging Through How We Live and Die, brought to you by Princess Alice Hospice with your hosts Rach Basak, Head of Community Involvement and Support and Sarah Dowd, Head of Inclusion.

In this series, we’ll have honest conversations about inclusion, belonging, and the barriers created in society for some. Together with guests from all walks of life, we’ll be unpacking big questions like: What does belonging look like? Who gets to belong? And how can we build communities where everyone feels seen and included?

We are excited to be here and hope it sparks reflection, connection, and maybe even change.
Today we are joined by a very special guest, Clare Burgess, Chief Executive of Sensory Services by Sight for Surrey. Clare brings both professional insight and personal lived experience of sensory loss. Clare has a particular interest in loneliness and social isolation, and the role of the community in tackling these issues. In our conversation, we talk about what meaningful support looks like and how we can all play a role in creating more inclusive communities. 

If you would like to share your thoughts, views or be part of Belonging and Beyond please do get in touch at sarahdowd@pah.org.uk  and rachaelbasak@pah.org.uk 

Hosted and produced by Rachael Basak and Sarah Dowd
Produced by Sarah Dowd 
Edited by Sarah Dowd and Elizabeth Lattimore

Resources

https://sightforsurrey.org.uk/
https://www.meta.com/gb/ai-glasses/
https://www.letsenvision.com/glasses/home
https://www.guidedogs.org.uk/how-you-can-help/sighted-guide-training/
https://rnid.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/Finger-spelling-card-2025.pdf
https://deafblind.org.uk/get_support/care-and-support/
https://www.rnib.org.uk/living-with-sight-loss/
https://royaldeaf.org.uk/deaf-support-services/

Belonging and Beyond - Belonging in Every Sense

Welcome to Belonging and Beyond: Exploring Belonging Through How We Live and Die, brought to you by Princess Alice Hospice with your hosts Rach Basak, Head of Community Involvement and Support and Sarah Dowd, Head of Inclusion.

In this series, we’ll have honest conversations about inclusion, belonging, and the barriers created in society for some. 
Together with guests from all walks of life, we’ll be unpacking big questions like: What does belonging look like? Who gets to belong? And how can we build communities where everyone feels seen and included?

We are excited to be here and hope it sparks reflection, connection, and maybe even change.
Today’s episode is a very special collaboration with our guest, Richard Keagan- Bull. Richard is a podcaster, an author and a researcher at Kingston University. He also has a learning disability, and he uses his work to help people understand inclusion, respect and what good support looks like. This collaborative episode is called A Cuppa and Beyond with Richard, Rach and Sarah in honour of Richard’s podcast A Cuppa Tea with Richard, where he has interviewed guests including Dr Katherine Mannix and Actor and Comedian Mel Giedroyc.

We talk about Richard’s work, how we can support people with a learning disability in palliative care, and we even share our dream dinner party guests, dead or alive!

If you would like to share your thoughts, views or be part of Belonging and Beyond please do get in touch at sarahdowd@pah.org.uk and rachaelbasak@pah.org.uk 

Hosted and produced by  Richard Keagan-Bull, Rachael Basak and Sarah Dowd

Produced by Sarah Dowd Edited by Sarah Dowd and Elizabeth Lattimore

Thanks to Jonny, Andrew and the Team at Kingston University

Resources:

https://www.waterstones.com/book/dont-put-us-away/richard-keagan-bull/9781915080417

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/cuppa-tea-with-richard/id1744528987

https://www.kingston.ac.uk/research/HSSCE/the-kind-research-group-intellectual-disability-research

https://www.tuffrey-wijne.com/?page_id=1440

https://www.victoriaandstuart.com/

A Cuppa and Beyond with Richard, Rach and Sarah

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