Is there a right way to fight in a relationship ?

It is safe to say that the Walk Of Shame Radio Podcast Tribe is no stranger to concept we touch on every single show that relationships are tough and take tons of work and communication.
 
This week Tony and I touch on the art of "fighting".
 
A lot of people think it is in fact, normal for couples to fight and if the fights aren't occurring on a regular basis something is wrong.
 
HELL NO!
 
This thought is EVERYTHING wrong with relationships and we are here to speak about the healthy balance when it comes to disagreements with you and your SO. 
 
First the term FIGHT rubs me the wrong way. As we are the engineers of our own mind I want to make clear my definition of a "fight" before we dive to deep into this conversation. 
 
Fight- Lack of communication that leads to one purposely saying harmful things leading to uncontrolled emotions. 
 
(While listening to this episode keep in mind when we say fight we mean)
 
Adult Disagreement- a disagreement between to individuals that are yet to be on the same page but have full potential to be aware of each others opinions. 
 
Before you dive into this episode here is a small piece of advice we speak about on tackling an issue right when it arises.
 
While doing this In an appropriate manner you are not letting the issue linger and evolve into a FIGHT.
 
The sooner you talk about your insecurities the sooner you get back to loving each other. Which is the point of sharing emotional space with this person that you chose to explore. 
 
Before you dive into this episode keep in mind...
 
  ...being passionate about your opinions is a beautiful thing, but what can become more beautiful is learning and growing together with someone who was once a complete stranger to you but by the grace of the universe, two individuals came together for a reason.
 
Enjoy! 

The Right Way to Fight in a Relationship

This week's episode is how a box of Legos taught me the art of starting over.

This episode wasn't supposed to be...I did another completely different show on being the adult in the room.

However, after finishing the whole show I realized it was terrible, but I was too disappointed in myself to just trash it and start over...until...

...I remembered when I was young and how I built this huge Lego fort, but as I was just about to finish, I realized I built it wrong...and without blinking...

...I demolished my fort...down to the foundation...and didn't care.

It was the realization that my 7 year old self didn't overthink things and was true to himself and listened to his true self and took action and started over.

I know as adults we have life issues that could be considered a lot more important than building a Lego fort, but in the long run that really doesn't matter, because...

...If you don't feel good or right or true about where you are in your life or about certain people or situations in your life, then the only way to get back on track is to start taking that Lego fort apart and begin to build it back with...

...A better representation of your life's vision
...A more solid foundation
...A confidence that YOU are steering your own life in the direction you choose.

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Peace

A Box of Legos and the Art of Starting Over

This show is designed to Entertain, Educate and Enlighten you to rise above the roadblocks and confusion and live life on your own terms. Along with special guests, Tony Dufresne, PhD (Philosopher, Author, Speaker, Personal Coach) is all about EMPOWERING YOU by sharpening your critical thinking skills and sharing tips and advice on topics you face every day like feeling lost, making a big life decision, relationship conflicts, creating a sense of purpose and direction in life, being true to who you really are, dating, break-ups, finding a job, changing careers and creating loving relationships. Welcome to the Surrounded by Idiots Radio Podcast.

A Box of Legos and the Art of Starting Over

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