Is there a right way to fight in a relationship ?

It is safe to say that the Walk Of Shame Radio Podcast Tribe is no stranger to concept we touch on every single show that relationships are tough and take tons of work and communication.
 
This week Tony and I touch on the art of "fighting".
 
A lot of people think it is in fact, normal for couples to fight and if the fights aren't occurring on a regular basis something is wrong.
 
HELL NO!
 
This thought is EVERYTHING wrong with relationships and we are here to speak about the healthy balance when it comes to disagreements with you and your SO. 
 
First the term FIGHT rubs me the wrong way. As we are the engineers of our own mind I want to make clear my definition of a "fight" before we dive to deep into this conversation. 
 
Fight- Lack of communication that leads to one purposely saying harmful things leading to uncontrolled emotions. 
 
(While listening to this episode keep in mind when we say fight we mean)
 
Adult Disagreement- a disagreement between to individuals that are yet to be on the same page but have full potential to be aware of each others opinions. 
 
Before you dive into this episode here is a small piece of advice we speak about on tackling an issue right when it arises.
 
While doing this In an appropriate manner you are not letting the issue linger and evolve into a FIGHT.
 
The sooner you talk about your insecurities the sooner you get back to loving each other. Which is the point of sharing emotional space with this person that you chose to explore. 
 
Before you dive into this episode keep in mind...
 
  ...being passionate about your opinions is a beautiful thing, but what can become more beautiful is learning and growing together with someone who was once a complete stranger to you but by the grace of the universe, two individuals came together for a reason.
 
Enjoy! 

The Right Way to Fight in a Relationship

This week's episode is a "Best of" broadcast from a very popular show I did last year about refocusing in the new year and thinking about your purpose.

A new study by a group of British psychologists confirm that having "A" purpose is the only way to live a long, healthy and fulfilling life.

The paper was part of an ongoing British study of older adults known as the English Longitudinal Study of Aging.

The Results of the Study were fascinating and I share them in the episode.

My thoughts about the study...

This shows that having a more fulfilling life works both directions. Having a gratitude mindset and a sense of your life having meaning to yourself and to other people actually creates positive momentum to be healthier and to have more social connections.

Also, going the other direction, your actions to be healthier and have more social connections positively influences your attitude toward you having a purpose and accepting there is meaning to your life, which creates a sense of gratitude…which then fuels you wanting to be healthier and having more or deeper social connections.

This also shows how dangerous isolation is…how powerful loneliness is and how important it is to find your tribe.

All of this confirms…it’s about finding a purpose in your life…not about finding “The” purpose…but “A” purpose. This is a huge sticking point with people and the reason so many are frustrated with all of the “purpose” and “meaning” talk…like the study says, “It does not matter what gives your purpose, it does matter that you find it somewhere

How to Find A Purpose (Your First Job Analogy)

Your first job isn’t your dream job, but it serves a purpose (money) and is your first step into being more independent and responsible (meaning).

Ask yourself this question: What is one thing you are doing in your life that gives you “the feels”?

- Something at work
- Volunteer
- A cherished relationship
- Your faith or spirituality
- Picking up trash when you go for a walk
- Asking someone if they need any help
- Keeping yourself healthy and strong

Select one and write it down as your current Purpose…with that in your mind it will allow you to look for or seek out a slightly bigger purpose…subconsciously you will start to see bigger opportunities to define purpose and have a sense of meaning.

Let me know what you think ... hit me up at tony@javabud.com
or head over to www.javabud.com and check out all the other podcasts and videos.

Peace...

New Year, Same You ... But ... New Purpose!

This show is designed to Entertain, Educate and Enlighten you to rise above the roadblocks and confusion and live life on your own terms. Along with special guests, Tony Dufresne, PhD (Philosopher, Author, Speaker, Personal Coach) is all about EMPOWERING YOU by sharpening your critical thinking skills and sharing tips and advice on topics you face every day like feeling lost, making a big life decision, relationship conflicts, creating a sense of purpose and direction in life, being true to who you really are, dating, break-ups, finding a job, changing careers and creating loving relationships. Welcome to the Surrounded by Idiots Radio Podcast.

New Year, Same You ... But ... New Purpose!

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