Is there a right way to fight in a relationship ?

It is safe to say that the Walk Of Shame Radio Podcast Tribe is no stranger to concept we touch on every single show that relationships are tough and take tons of work and communication.
 
This week Tony and I touch on the art of "fighting".
 
A lot of people think it is in fact, normal for couples to fight and if the fights aren't occurring on a regular basis something is wrong.
 
HELL NO!
 
This thought is EVERYTHING wrong with relationships and we are here to speak about the healthy balance when it comes to disagreements with you and your SO. 
 
First the term FIGHT rubs me the wrong way. As we are the engineers of our own mind I want to make clear my definition of a "fight" before we dive to deep into this conversation. 
 
Fight- Lack of communication that leads to one purposely saying harmful things leading to uncontrolled emotions. 
 
(While listening to this episode keep in mind when we say fight we mean)
 
Adult Disagreement- a disagreement between to individuals that are yet to be on the same page but have full potential to be aware of each others opinions. 
 
Before you dive into this episode here is a small piece of advice we speak about on tackling an issue right when it arises.
 
While doing this In an appropriate manner you are not letting the issue linger and evolve into a FIGHT.
 
The sooner you talk about your insecurities the sooner you get back to loving each other. Which is the point of sharing emotional space with this person that you chose to explore. 
 
Before you dive into this episode keep in mind...
 
  ...being passionate about your opinions is a beautiful thing, but what can become more beautiful is learning and growing together with someone who was once a complete stranger to you but by the grace of the universe, two individuals came together for a reason.
 
Enjoy! 

The Right Way to Fight in a Relationship

Treading Water Comes From Indecision

Treading water can come from a place where you’re up against a very difficult decision and instead of making your choice, you just tread water, waiting for a sign…waiting for your true self voice to come out and give you a sense of direction.

Lexi is back to talk about Millennial life transition and how to effectively tread water until you can get your bearings and decide which direction to swim.

Lexi brings up the term Millennial is being thrown around in a bad way instead of being proud of being a part of the most impactful generation in the last 100 years.

The show takes on Millennial thoughts on making difficult decisions and looking for mentors and advice from Gen X’ers and Boomers…ones that want to learn from you and you from them.

Lexi had a lot to share and wanted to tell her story about going through an identity search about what her life means and what’s important, all while trying to keep her head above water and deal with the everyday life stuff.

She then brings up the fact that being open to opportunities leads to being overwhelmed, and then how to choose the opportunity to act on and at the same time nourish her personal relationships.

Lexi is in a place where she comfortable following her intuition as well as gaining valuable feedback along the way by asking advice from her close friends.

The Importance of Feedback

Tony brings up the fact that advice is to be used as feedback and not as decision.  Someone else’s opinion needs to be taken into consideration with your own feelings where you confidently make your decision, whether you agree with your friend’s opinion or not.

Lexi and Tony then talk about progress and expansion and the fact that growth NEVER comes when you’re comfortable.  Growth is uncomfortable and it’s about taking that baby step out of your comfort zone in order to expand into the person you want to experience.

There’s a story Lexi shares about a friend of hers that is experiencing a crisis where she is feels as though she needs more “self” space, but doesn’t want to get out of her great relationship.  Tony brings up the point that it all comes down to choice in that matter.  It’s not about right or wrong, it’s about REALLY listening to your true self, ground yourself, and then being confident in your choice.  The knowing comes from the doing…plain and simple.

Stop Treading Water: Making the Right Decision

This show is designed to Entertain, Educate and Enlighten you to rise above the roadblocks and confusion and live life on your own terms. Along with special guests, Tony Dufresne, PhD (Philosopher, Author, Speaker, Personal Coach) is all about EMPOWERING YOU by sharpening your critical thinking skills and sharing tips and advice on topics you face every day like feeling lost, making a big life decision, relationship conflicts, creating a sense of purpose and direction in life, being true to who you really are, dating, break-ups, finding a job, changing careers and creating loving relationships. Welcome to the Surrounded by Idiots Radio Podcast.

Stop Treading Water: Making the Right Decision

Surrounded by Idiots Radio Podcast

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