Is there a right way to fight in a relationship ?

It is safe to say that the Walk Of Shame Radio Podcast Tribe is no stranger to concept we touch on every single show that relationships are tough and take tons of work and communication.
 
This week Tony and I touch on the art of "fighting".
 
A lot of people think it is in fact, normal for couples to fight and if the fights aren't occurring on a regular basis something is wrong.
 
HELL NO!
 
This thought is EVERYTHING wrong with relationships and we are here to speak about the healthy balance when it comes to disagreements with you and your SO. 
 
First the term FIGHT rubs me the wrong way. As we are the engineers of our own mind I want to make clear my definition of a "fight" before we dive to deep into this conversation. 
 
Fight- Lack of communication that leads to one purposely saying harmful things leading to uncontrolled emotions. 
 
(While listening to this episode keep in mind when we say fight we mean)
 
Adult Disagreement- a disagreement between to individuals that are yet to be on the same page but have full potential to be aware of each others opinions. 
 
Before you dive into this episode here is a small piece of advice we speak about on tackling an issue right when it arises.
 
While doing this In an appropriate manner you are not letting the issue linger and evolve into a FIGHT.
 
The sooner you talk about your insecurities the sooner you get back to loving each other. Which is the point of sharing emotional space with this person that you chose to explore. 
 
Before you dive into this episode keep in mind...
 
  ...being passionate about your opinions is a beautiful thing, but what can become more beautiful is learning and growing together with someone who was once a complete stranger to you but by the grace of the universe, two individuals came together for a reason.
 
Enjoy! 

The Right Way to Fight in a Relationship

With special guest, Rachel (Tony's daughter), the Surrounded by Idiots Radio Podcast digs deep into Millennial life transitions and why feeling frustrated is actually a good thing.

Millennial Life Transitions, Growth and Frustration

Tony was finally able to convince Rachel to come on the show.  She is the perfect Voice of Millennial, being 25, with student loan debt, still questioning what she wants to do with her life, and a survivor of multiple Millennial life transitions (including getting pregnant in college, graduating, getting married, having her baby, going back to grad school, graduating, getting a job AND getting pregnant again...all within 2 1/2 years).

So, this week Tony really wanted Rachel to share how she dealt with so many big life transitions within a short period of time.  And, when Rachel started to talk about the many challenges she faced, she expressed her almost endless level of frustration through the whole process.

Feeling Frustrated is a Good Sign

Tony explains that the feeling of frustration is a really good sign that you are out of your comfort zone...this is the ONLY area where you will experience any growth.  So, basically,

Growth = Frustration

The show touches on other important parts of growth and life transition stuff with:

How to know if your major is the right major for you

How to stay focused when you find out half way through that your major choice doesn't really work for you

What is the REAL purpose of being in college (hint: it has very little to do with your major)

Why it's far more important to just finish what you've started instead of changing majors

How a big life transition actually helps you more when you are going through an identity crisis

How the Millennial concept of "Value" is/will drastically change how the generations to follow will learn and work

How a wise Millennial can manage in a system that has been created by past generations that see things so much differently than you do

How to sneakily change the system using the secret baby steps system

Why the ability to have "perspective" will make your life a HUGE success

How new Millennial parents are parenting and how to parent effectively in the new world of social media

Well, I think that's enough for one week.  Remember, if you have two cents you want to express, let me know in the comments, or go to Javabud.com and send me an email.  And, rate and review the podcast if you get a chance...it really helps...thanks!

Thank you for listening to "Why Feeling Frustrated is Actually a Good Thing" on the Surrounded by Idiots Radio Podcast.

Why Feeling Frustrated is Actually a Good Thing

This show is designed to Entertain, Educate and Enlighten you to rise above the roadblocks and confusion and live life on your own terms. Along with special guests, Tony Dufresne, PhD (Philosopher, Author, Speaker, Personal Coach) is all about EMPOWERING YOU by sharpening your critical thinking skills and sharing tips and advice on topics you face every day like feeling lost, making a big life decision, relationship conflicts, creating a sense of purpose and direction in life, being true to who you really are, dating, break-ups, finding a job, changing careers and creating loving relationships. Welcome to the Surrounded by Idiots Radio Podcast.

Why Feeling Frustrated is Actually a Good Thing

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