In this episode, I’m joined by Professor Paul Gilbert and Professor Jeremy Holmes. Paul is the developer of Compassion Focused Therapy and one of the world’s leading clinical psychologists studying the scientific application of compassion in therapeutic practice. Jeremy is an award winning attachment expert, clinician, and author, whose books include: In Search of the Secure Base, Attachment & Psychotherapy, and most recently The Spirit of Psychotherapy. 

In this wide ranging discussion, we explore:

— The difference between “safety” and “safeness” and why this is vital to understand in therapeutic practice

— How early attachment dynamics shape our developmental trajectory and relationships throughout life

— How attachment theory helped to form the theoretical foundations of Compassion Focused Therapy.

And more.

You can find Jeremy’s books at http://bit.ly/jh-books and learn more about Paul’s work at http://compassionatemind.co.uk  

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Professor Paul Gilbert, FBPsS, PhD, OBE is a British clinical psychologist, the founder of compassion focused therapy (CFT), compassionate mind training (CMT) and author of books such as The Compassionate Mind: A New Approach to Life’s Challenges, Overcoming Depression.

He has researched evolutionary approaches to psychopathology for over 40 years with a special focus on the roles of mood, shame and self-criticism in various mental health difficulties for which Compassion Focused Therapy was developed. Professor Gilbert has written/edited 21 books and over 200 papers. In 2006 he established the Compassionate Mind Foundation as an international charity with the mission statement: “To promote wellbeing through the scientific understanding and application of compassion”.

Professor Jeremy Holmes is a clinician, author, leading Attachment expert, and three-time speaker at The Weekend University.

For 35 years, he was Consultant Psychiatrist/Medical Psychotherapist at University College London (UCL) and then in North Devon, UK, and Chair of the Psychotherapy Faculty of the Royal College of Psychiatrists 1998-2002. 

He is visiting Professor at the University of Exeter, and lectures nationally and internationally. In addition to 200+ peer-reviewed papers and chapters in the field of psychoanalysis and attachment theory, his books include John Bowlby and Attachment Theory, Exploring In Security, Attachment in Therapeutic Practice, and most recently: “The Brain has a Mind of Its Own”.

He was the recipient of the Bowlby-Ainsworth Founders Award 2009.

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Interview Links:

— Jeremy’s books - http://bit.ly/jh-books

— Paul’s work - http://compassionatemind.co.uk

Attachment and Compassion in Psychotherapy — Paul Gilbert and Jeremy Holmes

Welkom bij de Podcast 'Een Korreltje Zout I Blunderend door het Leven'. Dé plek waarin we met een korreltje zout kijken naar de chaos van het moderne bestaan. Waar we het leven doorgronden, blunders omarmen, en op zoek gaan naar geluk, liefde en een beetje balans in de chaos. 

Vandaag gaan we het hebben over het thema Liefde. In hoeverre is liefde timing? Samen met mijn vriendin Roos bespreken we hoe standaarden en voorwaarden een rol spelen in het vinden van de juiste partner op het juiste moment. We delen openhartige verhalen over ons date verleden, en hoe wij kijken naar de liefde en standaarden. 

Trek je steeds de verkeerde partner aan? Wellicht zegt het iets over jezelf. Maar hoe verander je dit? En in hoeverre werken standaarden voor of tegen je? 

Veel luister plezier!



#4 Een Korreltje Zout met Roos - In Hoeverre Is Liefde Timing & Werken Standaarden Voor Of Tegen Je?

The 58th episode from Doing Me Thing Podcast is available to listen to right now; nature has a beautiful way of teaching us and this is exactly what happened with me as i was driving the peninsulas of Cork when i was gazing at the beautiful vastness of the land of Ireland; i noticed that i didn't have any feelings of attachment, i was just connected to the beauty of it all; i then asked the question why i didn't have attachment to this, and what dawned on me was the fact that i don't own it and all i seen was the beauty; so in this episode i talk about how having ownership and the attachment to it can stop you from seen the beauty in that thing you "own and are attached too" 

Thanks for taking the time to listen to this podcast, please feel free to share it with anyone you may feel will benefit from the podcast, feedback is always welcome and if you have any questions or anything just give us a bell.

Much-love;
Patrick-joseph.

Music
Deep Relaxation Preview by Kevin MacLeod
Link: filmmusic.io/song/5726-deep-relaxation-preview
License: filmmusic.io/standard-license

DMT Podcast Ep: 58 with Patrick-joseph (there's no beauty in ownership & attachment)

In this episode I am so pleased to welcome Ian Morgan Cron to the podcast. While he wears many hats, as he shares in this episode, the fundamental nature of his work is a spiritual one. Ian is Bestselling Author, Enneagram Expert, Priest, and the host of the Typology Podcast. After many years in recovery and in the wake of a relapse, he released his most recent book, The Fix. In it, he reveals how the twelve wteps can be key for anyone who wants to take their life back. 
Richard Rohr says about his newest book, “Ian Cron’s generous and hard-earned wisdom reveals that the Twelve Steps are not just for alcoholics and addicts, but a path to a profound transformation of Self for everyone.” In the this interview we cover a wide variety of topics including God and family, making an amends, how his various roles overlap and complement each other, his experience with shame (in real-time), and how he leans into his personal story to inform his work and hopefully make himself useful to the people he loves and serves.

An Interview with Ian Morgan Cron (Enneagram Expert) - Ep 657

Dr. Brad Reedy welcomes Noah Rasheta, host of the Secular Buddhism Podcast. Noah is a philosopher, author, and host of a podcast on Secular Buddhism, where he shares Buddhist teachings & concepts for everyday life. He shares practical, accessible skills and concepts to help people incorporate Buddhist teachings into their life in an attempt to reduce unnecessary suffering. In this episode, Noah discusses his favorite principles from Buddhism and how we can think about enlightenment. He shares his personal journey and provides listeners an overview of the goals and objectives of the practice of Buddhism.

An Interview with Noah Rasheta (Secular Buddhism Podcast Host) - Ep 659

In this episode, Dr. Reedy discusses religious trauma and what kinds of family systems are at the greatest risk. He distinguishes religion from moral development and spiritual development. He talks about how families with dogmatic, strict-father-styles use religion to control, intimidate, and mold their children. He discusses how religion can be used as a defense against the experience of God and how religion can prevent spiritual development. He discusses the function of religion within a spiritual life. He talks about how many clients come to therapy with a history of religious trauma.

Religious Trauma - Ep 658

In this episode, Dr. Reedy discusses how so many clients are coming to therapy with great worries and distress due to the tumultuous events in the world. He suggests that we need to become more discerning with the news we consume. He proposes that peace is found by focusing on what we can control. He talks about the Buddhist concepts of impermanence, radical acceptance, and mindfulness.

Finding Peace in Uncertain Times - Ep 660

In this Ask Me Anything episode, Dr. Reedy takes questions from the audience on topics ranging from how we communicate our energy to our children, making the unconscious – conscious, debunking the cause and effect thinking, and how small-t trauma is insidious. He answers a question on shadow work. And he talks about how to handle the mistakes we have made as parents when our children remain angry.

Why is “Small-t” Trauma So Insidious. (A.M.A.) - Ep 661

We all carry baggage - past mistakes, regrets, fears, and limiting beliefs that weigh us down. Like any traveller embarking on a journey, why carry extra weight? This talk is about recognising our baggage, understanding the cost of holding onto it, learning to let go of what no longer serves us and stepping into the best version of ourselves.
 
Speaker: Mark Fleming

Mark has been a student and teacher of meditation for over 30 years. He is currently based at the Brahma Kumaris Global Retreat Centre near Oxford but prior to that he was part of the team at the Lighthouse Retreat Centre in Worthing. Mark has a keen interest in understanding the effect our consciousness has on both our personal future as well as the future of the world. He shares these discoveries with lightness and depth.

Releasing Your Baggage and Becoming Your Best - Mark Fleming - Thursday 8th May 2025

A raw, confessional cinematic pop ballad unpacking the ache of attachment wounds. “Anxiously Attached” feels like reading a page from a private journal — with stripped-back lo-fi drums, haunting ambient pads, and breathy, vulnerable male vocals that crack open the truth about chasing love that pulls away.

Cleo wrote this song as an honest mirror — to hold space for the parts of us that still beg for a reply, that chase the silence just to feel seen. It’s about naming the spiral, tracing it back to the first fear, and slowly learning how to stay soft when old stories scream run.

From late-night texts to childhood echoes, this song explores why we overlove, apologize too much, and keep calling it “match” when we’re really just trying not to be left alone.
It’s gentle but gritty — made for anyone learning to sit in the messy middle and feel a little less alone in it.


Anxiously Attached

Cleo Antaeus is an independent songwriter, singer, and producer based in Honolulu, Hawaiʻi, whose music drifts between cinematic pop, soulful indie, bossa nova flips, and raw, sync-ready confessions that feel like secrets whispered at 2 a.m.

In just seven months, Cleo has written over 160 original songs, each one shaped by their poetic storytelling and fearless experimentation. Since April alone, their self-released tracks have pulled in 25,000+ organic streams worldwide, with multiple songs crossing 1K–2K+ plays on SoundCloud — proof that Cleo’s garden is alive and echoing.

At the heart of this work are Cleo’s alter artists, Nova Rue and Sunni — soulful, cinematic branches of their voice that bring each story to life in new shades and textures.

Cleo’s songs are 100% original, self-owned, fully cleared, and crafted for TV, film, and brand syncs — perfect for supervisors, artists, and listeners seeking music with real depth and a timeless global soul.

Good songs rise — and so do I.

Genres: Cinematic Pop, Indie Folk, Neo-Soul, R&B, Bossa Nova, Alt-Pop
Based: Honolulu, Hawaiʻi
Sync/Publishing/Collabs: cleonytus@gmail.com

Finding You Therapy Programs is an experientially based therapeutic program serving individuals, parents, couples, and families. Email the host drbradreedy@gmail.com

Insights for Evolving Consciousness

In-depth interviews with leading thinkers at the intersection of psychology, neuroscience, culture, and spirituality.

This show is for you if you’re interested in:

– Reducing suffering — in yourself and others
– Continuously upgrading your perspective
– Realising more of your potential
– Experiencing a greater sense of awe, meaning, and connection in everyday life.

New episodes every Thursday.

A Dublin Born, Irish living free thinking mind, harping on about god knows what; all's i know is i speak my mind, get lost in deep thinking and i love a good oul conversation about life in all its glory and defeat;


And on that note i'd just like to say thank you for taking the time to listen to the DMT podcasts, i hope you enjoyed them, your support is really appreciated; 

Much-love
Patrick-joseph.

The Brahma Kumaris World Spiritual University (UK), a registered charity since 1975, opens its doors every day of the year to students from all walks of life, cultures and backgrounds to study Raja Yoga meditation. Students find that meditating in this way daily brings a lot of peace and positivity to their lives.

We also join together with many national and local organisations and diverse communities, helping to enhance the wellbeing of people in different spheres of society.

We work across the UK in more than 40 locations and are part of a network of organisations offering activities in over 110 countries. Our spiritual headquarters is in Mount Abu, in the Aravali mountain range, Rajasthan, India.

Brahma Kumaris, UK was established as a Registered Charity in 1975 and charges no fees for any of its activities, being funded by voluntary contributions.

Registered Charity No: England & Wales (269971) and Scotland (SC040512).

Welkom bij de podcast Een korreltje zout – 'Blunderend door het Leven'. Dé plek waarin we met een korreltje zout kijken naar de chaos van het moderne bestaan. Waar we het leven doorgronden, blunders omarmen, en op zoek gaan naar geluk, liefde en een beetje balans in de chaos. Ik ben Larissa, jouw host, en in elke aflevering duik ik in openhartige gesprekken met bekende - en onbekende mensen - over het leven maar ook hoe we dat met een wat meer korreltje zout kunnen nemen. Want laten we eerlijk zijn, wie gaat er nou niet blunderend door het leven?

New tracks tagged #Attachment