Mable struggles with the fear of man, often described as people-pleasing or codependency. Her functional theology is performance-driven, centering on earning approval from others rather than resting in Christ’s finished work. This exhausting lifestyle has left her broken and ready for change. While she is a believer, her faith feels more burdensome than joyful.

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A New Look at Boundaries and Letting Go - Ep 687

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In deze aflevering bespreek ik de verschillende hechtingsstijlen op een eenvoudige en zeer begrijpelijk manier kennen, zodat je kunt ontdekken hoe ze in jou leven doorwerken. Ik laat je zien hoe ze bepaalde codependency patronen vormen. Hechting noem ik in deze aflevering de 'Hydra', de kernverwonding. Je kunt jarenlang bezig zijn met de talloze koppen, of de diepte in om te ontdekken hoe je leven op onzichtbare manier gestuurd wordt door de vorming uit je eerste levensjaren. Ik geef niet alleen de theorie, maar maak het vooral heel beeldend, zodat het echt gaat leven voor je. Je kunt deze aflevering als video bekijken op Youtube.

Hechting en Codependency begrijpelijk uitgelegd + gratis hechtingsstijlen test

Dr. Reedy discusses the difference between therapy and a podcast. He explains that ultimately, we must face what is presenting itself to us in our lives. We must go in and through the pain and difficulty to discover news resources that lie within all of us. He talks about how we avoid parts of ourselves and repress feelings, characteristics, or traits in order to fit in and how the problems that bring us to therapy are a call to the hero’s adventure.

Responsibility and Acceptance - Ep 690

Sometimes there is a path forward that we have not leveraged because we spin out in guilty ruminations and projections. You may want to get out of a relationship or change a condition in your life, but you defer to another person’s thoughts as you imagine them in your own mind. We often block ourselves from aligning with a truth with self-limiting beliefs and guilt because for codependents guilt is INTENSE. This is about ways that codependency can show up: allowing the feelings of others to block us from what we want.
This is aimed at reflection and a chance to look inward. I wanted to say if you’re in a place like this – you feel stuck and it feels like it’s all on this other person, that is an opportunity to step back, tune in, and practice letting go. Sending love…
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Ep 261: Guilty Blocks: Finding the way forward

Dr. Reedy discusses whether going home for the holidays is the best thing for us. He discusses the guilt, shame and obligation that’s “baked-in” to us when it comes to visiting family or maintaining relationships we have outgrown. He doesn’t offer advice but rather takes the audience through the questions and the thinking that goes into our relationships. He explains that a task in attachment is to let go of others when they need to be somewhere else and how many people feel compelled to spend time with family and others because of unconscious obligations. The nature of the parent-child dynamic is discussed and how it can be turned upside-down when children feel the need to take care of parents’ emotional well-being and egos.

Home for the Holidays? - Ep 693

A message about balancing relationships, dealing with codependency, and bittersweet melancholy attached to a deep longing for someone else

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In deze aflevering leer je…

…hoe je onverwerkt jeugdtrauma en hechtingstrauma kunt herkennen aan de hand van duidelijke signalen in je dagelijks leven. Je ontdekt hoe je traumadeel, overlevingsdeel en volwassen deel samenwerken, en hoe codependency-archetypes zoals pleasen, controlerend gedrag of liefdesverslaving ontstaan.

We verdiepen ons in patronen zoals toxische relaties, traumabonding, verlatingsangst en bindingsangst, en waarom het zo moeilijk is om je grenzen en behoeften uit te spreken. Ook leer je hoe passief-agressieve communicatie, conflictvermijding, hypervigilantie en dissociatie signalen kunnen zijn van oude pijn die aandacht vraagt.

Tot slot gaan we in op fysieke en emotionele gevolgen zoals slapeloosheid, en ontdek je hoe innerlijk kind-werk, psycho-educatie en het ontwikkelen van je volwassen deel je helpen om deze patronen te doorbreken en weer regie te krijgen over je leven.

11 signalen van onverwerkt jeugdtrauma (en codependency)

Rick launched the Life Over Coffee global training network in 2008 to bring hope and help for you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. His primary responsibilities are resource creation and leadership development, which he does through speaking, writing, podcasting, and educating.

In 1990 he earned a BA in Theology and, in 1991, a BS in Education. In 1993, he received his ordination into Christian ministry, and in 2000 he graduated with an MA in Counseling from The Master's University. In 2006 he was recognized as a Fellow of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC).

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