What will make you feel good even when life is delivering thorny roses? 

Crisis is everywhere these days. Many of you might be stuck in survival mode, clinging to external situations that must change before you feel okay. The real solution? Learning to create your own sense of feeling good—no matter what is going on!

These toxic cycles can keep you struggling to feel truly happy or free of anxiety. It’s time to stop outsourcing your well-being, especially to people who struggle with their own and start feeling less anxious, and trusting your choices—on your terms.

What You’ll Learn:
* Chasing relationships, success, or control is not the way to abundance
* Toxic cycles control you, let’s stop it!
* Misconceptions about happiness
* The mindset that changes everything

“You don’t ‘find’ happiness—you just need to know how to create it. Waiting for something to make you feel good,is giving away control of your emotional state. It makes you powerless.” 
how ~ Tracy Crossley


#798: Feeling Good When Life Sucks

We often get decision paralysis or feel intense anxiety around actions that need to be taken, especially when we perceive the stakes to be high. Even if you feel like the answer is obvious it can be really hard to trust yourself, which leads many to ask others to make the decisions for them. What we often feel is a dominant fear of hurting someone else or letting go of something familiar. This intense resistance is another shape of codependency or the group of traits associated with being parentified at a young age. 
This is an episode to help you move through difficult, anxiety provoking decisions even when you feel intensely ambivalent and fear mis stepping. The trick is to make decisions despite the feeling in your body – to make moves strategically based on what you conceptually KNOW is the next best thing to do.  Feeling afraid if often just our body saying “this is going to cost me a lot of energy and I don’t want to go through it.” It’s an energy-saving resistance and not reflective of the actual pain that this thing will cause. This is an episode to help you walk through something that your body is currently resisting. What we think will happen if we move through hard stuff is that it will take a long time or we will lose control and or stop functioning. While triggering moves can stir the muck of our pond, they also lighten us and free us up: they grow our muscles and strengths as we evolve in our lives. This has a lot of tools and ways to come back home to self: come from love, use your own best thinking, let the rest go. 
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248: Learning to Act While Anxious – Growing Trust in Self

A lot of us live in our head, disconnected from our feelings and intuition. This podcast touches on releasing insecure attachment, accepting your authentic self and getting “unstuck” by connecting to how you FEEL instead of how you THINK. I’ve been there, and discuss sensitive subjects using my own experiences with a lot of laughs and even more empathy… because we’re all flawed humans.

Help Me Be Me is an emotional toolkit for creating positive change in yourself. I like to think of it as self-help for people who hate self-help. I'm Sarah May, coach/mom/all-around happy person, and these are the tools that work for me in my life. For all of my offerings you can check out YayWithMe.com What I share is my personal opinion. It's not a diagnosis for treatment or a substitute for professional help. If you're suffering, please reach out to your local emergency services or call 9-1-1. Music theme created by www.BookerHillMusic.com

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