Relationships take work, right? Uhhhhh, not really. But if you grew up believing that phrase, you will create the issue you don’t want. Chasing perfection—saying the right thing, doing the right thing—only to end up feeling worse.

In this episode, Tracy takes a raw and honest look at how the perfectionism you may deny, sabotages your relationship. You’ll uncover why striving for perfection creates pain instead of connection. More importantly, you’ll get tips on changing that make a difference,

What You’ll Learn:
* Perfectionism is a mask for deeper fears.
* Blaming your partner for struggles keeps you stuck.
* Taking responsibility for your own triggers.
* Becoming more emotionally available and having it all.

"Perfectionism doesn’t come from love or confidence—it comes from pain, and if you’re bringing it into your relationship, it’s only creating more of the same." ~ Tracy Crossley

#789: The Perfect Marriage

Do you feel caught in a constant battle for control, striving to manage every outcome while an undercurrent of anxiety persists? This episode, "Surrendering to the Symphony," invites you to explore the profound peace found when we acknowledge the limits of our will and learn to trust the vast, unseen forces that orchestrate existence. Drawing wisdom from our own bodies' intricate, automatic functions and insights from thinkers like Alan Watts and Rumi, we delve into the illusion of absolute control and the liberating power of surrender. Discover how aligning with life's natural flow, rather than fighting against it, isn't about giving up, but about opening up to a deeper wisdom, reducing overwhelm, and finding true freedom in connection with the grand, unfolding symphony of the universe.

Ep 18 - Surrender to the Symphony

Are you exhausted from trying to make everything happen? From kicking down doors and forcing your way into opportunities that never quite pan out?

Stop. Just stop.

You think you're being proactive, but you're actually running from yourself. Every time you force something—a relationship, a job, a business opportunity—you're telling the universe you don't trust it to deliver. You're saying you're not enough as you are.

In this episode, Tracy explores:
* Why forcing comes from not believing in yourself
* How attachment keeps you stuck in patterns of scarcity and desperation
* The difference between taking action and forcing outcomes
* Why avoidants struggle to value what they already have
* How to break the cycle of work hard → fail → repeat

"When you force, you're never emotionally available. I was forcing because I thought that would open a door that would bring what was missing, but it never did." ~ Tracy Crossley


#819: Are You Still Forcing Sh** to Happen?

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A lot of us live in our head, disconnected from our feelings and intuition. This podcast touches on releasing insecure attachment, accepting your authentic self and getting “unstuck” by connecting to how you FEEL instead of how you THINK. I’ve been there, and discuss sensitive subjects using my own experiences with a lot of laughs and even more empathy… because we’re all flawed humans.

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